SamanthaEvans

Yikes, Nicolette! That's my worst nightmare! What did you do? Was he okay? (Sorry, I know that's not the purpose of this thread, but I just have to ask!)

These are fairly common but it's true that they look like HPV. As I'm not a doctor, I wouldn't be willing to decide, on my own, whether they're papules or HPV. I never give any bareback services, though, so with or without this, a condom is not optional.

I think that most companions understood, when we went into this business, that we would be entertaining men of all shapes, sizes and racial backgrounds and that we probably wouldn't know very much at all about new clients' physical characteristics before we saw them for the first time. I've never seen anyone advertise that she won't entertain a man whose race is different from hers or who is either much larger, or smaller, than she is. Some of us prefer men in certain age groups and we say so in our ads. Personally, while I prefer to see men over 50, that doesn't mean I won't see someone younger. I will, and I do. I can have a great time with them, and they often re-book. Men with significant physical disabilities always say so when they contact us. Not all companions may have experience working with particular limitations, but I venture to say that most of us are willing to try. I used to have a client who was quadriplegic. He couldn't move, but he was very sensitive to touch, he could get hard, stay that way and he could climax. Knowing about his needs and limitations in advance helped me plan to be with him in ways that could be a genuine expression of who I am and who he and I were together. I honestly enjoyed seeing him and he was one of the most appreciative clients I've ever had. Those who are unusually well-endowed--guys who are equipped like porn stars--usually will say so when they ask for an appointment. Porn is about fantasy; one fantasy is that every woman can accommodate men who are a good 10" long, in any position, with deep, vigorous thrusting. The reality is very different. Men who have erectile difficulties can still enjoy a huge range of activities and they can have very satisfying orgasms. In fact, it can be a lot of fun to find different ways to give pleasure without needing them to have hard or lasting erections. These are some of the most personal and intimate meetings I have and that's very appealing to me. I understand that it can be a challenge to tell a companion about your physical needs and limitations, but remember that we're in the pleasure business. No one who is bigoted or judgmental will last long in this profession. And most of us appreciate that most clients visit us in large part because they want to experience something they don't find easily, or at all, in the rest of their lives.

Thank you, friends. I should say that I wouldn't have turned away the 400 pound man. He was very kind, respectful, clean and engaging. I would have liked to have had time to consider some options instead of doing it on the fly, so to speak, after he'd felt embarrassed to be asking too much of me, and I'd felt awkward about not being able to give him what he wanted. From that point, everything risked seeming second best, which could have been avoided. Mention health problems when you book. I recognize that this can be humbling, but it will help us to prepare to create a wonderful, pleasurable engagement for you!

We've had many conversations about the terms for women's body types and how subjective the standard terms are. It seems odd to me that, while we companions must go to great lengths to describe ourselves so that a potential new client will be happy with the person he meets at the door, the assumption is that we will easily entertain anyone who pays the fee, regardless of his size, age or personal habits. Frankly, I do think that most women are much more open to engaging with a wide variety of male shapes and sizes, but it's also true that we may have difficulty accommodating certain types. For example, I'm a curvy woman, yet meeting the needs of a new client who visited me before Christmas was a challenge. He must have weighed close to 400 pounds, and what he really wanted was to have missionary sex. I did try, but I just couldn't breathe with him on top of me. In my experience, men are generally less accurate in their descriptions of themselves than most women are. Have a look at dating sites and personal ads. Nearly every man over 40 believes he looks 10 years younger than his chronological age. It also seems that an average weight for a six-foot tall man ranges from 175 to 240 pounds. A man has to weigh close to 300 pounds before he's likely to state that he's overweight. I don't expect the double standard to go away anytime soon. I also live in the real world and I greatly prefer the company of middle-aged and older men. I don't expect any of them to be an Adonis. Most of the men who visit me are senior executives, lawyers, doctors, and other sedentary professionals. Almost every one of them is overweight to some degree. I don't mind, most of the time, but it does make a difference to our encounter. It's not about aesthetics, gentlemen. The sad fact is that your body type probably affects your performance and I want you to have a good time. If I know that you're a big guy or that you smoke, I will also know that you're likely to have some erectile difficulties and that your stamina may not be what it once was, with or without Viagra. You're more likely to have high blood pressure and/or diabetes, too, and any medications you may take for these conditions will probably affect you. On the other hand, if you're six feet tall, weigh no more than about 200 pounds and you don't smoke, I will know that you're far less likely to have erectile trouble and are far more likely to be able to go for more than one round in a couple of hours. Your size and physical fitness do make a difference to the kind of encounter we may have no matter how beautiful you may consider me to be. To have a good time, you may care about looks. I care about your health.

I see most of my clients during the day. I always tell new clients that I need us to be ready to part by a certain time. My son comes home from school at the same time every day. If I go out to meet a client at a hotel, I insist on being at home by the time my son goes to bed. I've only had one client who had trouble respecting time limits. He tried to drag a two hour meeting to almost three hours. When he wanted to re-book, he suggested seeing me at 11:30, for two hours. That would have been okay had he not had the nerve to point out that we'd surely be finished by half an hour before my son would return from school. In effect, he was expecting to pay for two hours but actually stay for three and a half. I declined and haven't seen him again. I'm always ready on time and I've only arrived late for a meeting twice in the last three years. I don't mind going overtime by 10-15 minutes--sometimes that's just the best thing for everyone. But I don't think I should tolerate being taken advantage of. If someone wants more time with me, that's great. Book another meeting!

Why do the laws of physics apply to us?

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What a great trip! Enjoy it and watch out for the spiders and other noxious critters!

Over the past 10 years, I think I've won two cups of coffee and a couple of cookies, at most. However, one of my son's teachers won a bicycle last year, so I guess that really does happen!

Well, I'm in Vancouver and so rain means life as usual. Now, if it snows, I might bake something and/or make a big pot of soup, then curl up with a good book for awhile.

Absolutely, renegade! :icon_biggrin: chavez, I didn't get a chance to try the Monkey Rocker, but I think I may, soon. I'll happily report back about that, too!

I just wanted to report that I did have an encounter with a Sybian on Monday night, as anticipated, and it was breath-taking. I want one! I never barter for things or services, but I might make an exception in this case!

placing a soothing ice pack on your fevered brow, I offer you a pair of ear muffs as I shake my head slowly, looking into your eyes and smiling my most winsome, charming smile.... No. No one said anything of the kind. Honest. This is a salon for sophisticated, genteel folk, people of high-brow tastes and sensibilities. Trust me. I know about such things. They're my stock-in-trade, so to speak. "Sonnets," was the word, or maybe "Psalms." Yes. That's it. Psalms.... I rest my hand on your knee, almost tenderly. Almost. Surely we can find some way to take your mind off wretched, low-brow, doggerel, er, tortured poetry? There must be something I could do. At the very least, perhaps I could help to keep you warm for a little while? [samantha is a veteran of far too many text-based games, MUDDs and MUXes from the olden days]

LOL! WiT, that's absolutely... terrible. In a good sort of way, that is! Limericks... oh, let's not get started on those....

It sounds like you've done what you can. You might send her a message here, too, just in case she can't get into her e-mail. Things do happen. We all make mistakes, like recording a meeting on the wrong day or at the wrong time. Don't worry about your privacy or whether your personal information is safe with her. If she's so well-reviewed and respected, that's the last thing you need to be concerned about.

I love lists like these, RG, thanks! I'll add this: The elephant is the only animal with four knees.

That would be some kind of sled-ride, Old Dog! :bigclap:

Secret Admirer, I'm content with things as they are, now. A woman can have an abortion in Canada up to 20 weeks' gestation. After that, there must be compelling medical reasons for a doctor to perform an abortion, such as the mother's life being at risk if the pregnancy continues. I such cases, morality and medicine should not be placed in conflict. Let's not raise the specter of women and/or doctors blithely terminating pregnancies within days of the expected birth of the baby. It's not helpful, it's not legal now, no one is proposing it and, in the end, it only serves to vilify women by portraying us as capricious, irresponsible and unable to consider the meaning and consequences of the choices we make.

This isn't a debate that I want to wade into very far, but I do want to say a couple of things. I don't want anyone ever to need to have an abortion. To me, the need for one is a decisive indication that many things have gone terribly, sadly wrong. Rape; incest; sexual abuse; the lack of safe, reliable and readily-available birth control methods; the lack of education about sex and reproduction; the lack of genuine resources for pregnant women to ensure that they can raise children safely, appropriately and without stigma; the reluctance of courts to ensure that parents must pay appropriate, ongoing child support; the absence of a guaranteed annual income to keep single parents above the poverty line--these things all contribute to women's need for abortion. All are controversial in one way or another. When women want to have children and are able to welcome pregnancy and motherhood, they have the best outcomes, not only for themselves, but for their children. Mothers who have not been traumatized and victimized--who are able to make real choices about having children--are usually able to fight like hell to ensure that their kids have the best chance of living a full, healthy, productive life. Wanted children who are not forced to grow up in poverty or under abuse make the world a better place. This insight is what led Dr. Henry Morgentaler to provide abortions to women in Canada. Dr. Morgentaler survived Auschwitz. From his experience there he reasoned that children who were wanted and have been loved by their mothers do not grow up to build places like Auschwitz. I think he was right. Economists have observed for some time, now, that when safe abortions are available to women, crime rates drop significantly, sometimes dramatically. In the US, states with the highest abortion rates in the 1970s experienced the greatest reduction in crime in the 1990s. States with low abortion rates had smaller crime reduction rates. This change in crime rates exists even when a state's number of police, level of incarceration and economic situation are taken into account. In New York City, where the state had been an early adopter of legalized abortion, and which had high abortion rates, crime has dropped about 30% since 1985. I don't advocate for women's right to choose based on the reduction of crime--that's an unintended consequence, as far as I'm concerned. At the same time, the link between allowing women to make the heart-breaking choice to terminate pregnancies and general societal well-being isn't something we can dismiss out of hand. I go back to Dr. Morgentaler: when mothers want to have children and can provide for them, everyone benefits.

Oooh... I remember that, now, antlerman! I remember when she got it. Okay, now we just need to get Emma to come to Vancouver... heh!

No surprises from me, either: pro-choice, emphatically. Every woman I have known who has faced this question has agonized over it and made her choice with enormous integrity. I'm willing to trust women to do what's best for them and for their current, or future, children.

I've never been willing to do stag parties, graduations, team celebrations and the like. Frankly, I've been surprised to be asked at all at my age. But I do have a regular situation with three men who have been good friends for years. I see one of them each month and then all three of them, together, the fourth month. They're all in their 50s, mostly voyeuristic, I'd say, and all very nice guys. We long ago agreed that when the four of us get together, I start things whenever I'm ready. No pressure from anyone. They've agreed not to be offended by my first choice. It works. There's nothing very kinky or exotic about it. I'd say it's tamer than the individual meetings I have with each of them, on the whole. They were very respectful when setting this up. One guy contacted me, told me what he was looking for, and said he'd like to book a solo appointment with me. I agreed to see him and said that I needed to have an opportunity to correspond with each of the others. I reserved the right to turn any of them down without having to explain. Beyond that, my usual restrictions applied to everyone. The whole thing has been remarkably easy. It's been going on for about a year and a half. Repeat business tends to mean happy clients! :icon_cool:

That's very useful information, Chavez--thank you! There's a big difference between thrusting and oscillating, for sure. Apparently, many women who use the Monkey Rocker also use a vibrator, presumably for just this purpose. It's good to read your experience of the sound levels, too. I'm going to a party in a week or so and there will be both a Sybian and a Monkey Rocker there. I'm looking forward to checking them out, though I'm not able to afford either one at the moment, more's the pity!

I've never tried the Sybian, but I'd really like to. The one I want, though, is the Monkey Rocker because it's silent! I read somewhere that the Sybian sounds like a cross between a lawn mower and a motorcycle!