SamanthaEvans

I agree! It's only a "service" when it's dull, by the book, nothing to remember for very long. An experience, on the other hand, is a completely different thing.

Hear, hear!

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Good thinking, Sputy. With me, dinner should always include dessert! :shock:

Oh, gods, yes! MUCH too bad! Charming as it is when the guy is a bit nervous, a little unsure of himself, as though he'd be breaking some unspoken law of etiquette by even touching me too familiarly, I do wish that they'd get over that! I'm a very nice woman. Classy, well-educated, warm, friendly. You could take me home to meet your Mom and she'd be happy with your choice. (For some reason, no client has ever done this, though. I wonder why? :twisted:) I did notice a change a couple of weeks ago, though, when, after a lovely dinner and a pleasant walk back to the client's hotel, he touched my back in the elevator hesitantly and said something about what a nice woman I am. I leaned up and grabbed his earlobe between my teeth for a couple of seconds before saying, "Yes. I am. Just don't forget that I'm also a whore." The next hour and a half was very hot! :lol:

Law enforcement isn't haunting CL in Canada since it's legal to advertise sexual services here, thank goodness! I agree about the multi-post spamming of the erotic services section--it's nightmarish some days. But there's a group of providers who have been flagging ads that don't conform to the TOS and they seem to have been successful with many of them. I don't know if that will last, though. I haven't run and ad there in quite a while, but I did get some good clients via CL who are still visiting me.

Well, we could suggest that Sputy might take us both out to dinner at the same time, but... can he handle both of us at the same time? It would be such a shame if he had a coronary in the restaurant. Other diners might not like it! :-D

I love it when the man is on top of me and I can get the timing just right... I'll tell him to stop. Right. There. Don't. Do Not. Move. Not a hair, not a breath. Still. Wait.... He can see from the look on my face that I'm more than fine, that there's no problem, nothing hurts, no alarms are going off. I tell him to wait. Not to cum. Not yet! When I see the look of sheer desperation in his eyes, I'll start to tell him about something he did earlier that was soooo sexy. Maybe it's the way he held his knife at dinner, or the way his eyes were gliding over me while I sipped my coffee. Something like that, that he might not expect to hear. I'll tell him exactly how I felt whatever it was, what it did to me, where I felt the shiver, the current running through me, how wet I was, how tight my nipples felt, how much I wanted him then and how much more I want him now. Right now. I try to pour all of this out quickly, but not too fast, ending with something like, "Now. Do it. Hard. Pound my cunt, nail me to the bed, make me cum with you...." Strangely, I don't always get to finish the series of commands... LOL :razz:

Sputy, dinner would be lovely. :wink:

Thanks, Anita. I'm not worried about the reviews. I've seen how they go up and down everywhere. It was interesting, though, to have this prospective client use this as a way to threaten. etasman, I understand your concern. I have all my contact with potential clients by e-mail rather than by phone. I don't enjoy telephone tag games--who does?--and it means that I can handle responses and make appointments very discretely, without being overheard by anyone who might be nearby when the phone rings. I make it a priority to give great e-mail service. When a new client contacts me, he'll receive a prompt reply that describes what I'm offering, poses a few suggestions for our time together, and states clearly what my fee is. I also include a photograph that shows my face. I'm happy to exchange several rounds of e-mail and I never rush anyone into making an appointment. I think that someone can get a very good sense of who I am, that I take them and my work seriously, and that I'm likely to be trustworthy. In fact, I'm told over and over again that clients are pleased to find that I am who and what I say I am in e-mail, on my website and in my photos. I'm often contacted by gentlemen who are planning to visit Vancouver and want to make arrangements ahead of time, sometimes several weeks or even a couple of months in advance. They tell me that my professional attitude is reassuring. One such person wrote to me this morning, saying that he was happy to pay the deposit for a meeting with me a month from now. He pointed out that if he cancels his hotel reservation abruptly, they'll likely charge a cancellation fee to his credit card and the upscale bed and breakfast places have much more stringent cancellation fees than I would charge. Implementing the deposit sytstem is a tough judgment call to make, in the end. However, using PayPal has advantages for the client. They can order their credit card company to withdraw the payment if they want to. I'm the one who pays a processing fee for the transaction, not the client. And I never know any of their credit card information--not the name on the card, or the number. In that way, it's very secure for them. I always leave the deposit in my PayPal account until the day of the meeting. That way, I can refund it immediately if the client gives adequate notice of a cancellation or if for some reason I have to cancel the meeting myself.

I require a deposit from first-time clients at the time of booking the engagement. I was a bit nervous about what might happen when I implemented this, but I was also very tired of having my time wasted. I book 1.5 hours for first visits, and I leave a minimum of 1.5 hours between appointments. When someone doesn't show up for a meeting, I can lose half a day or more. What I've found is that not only has this eliminated the ones who book and don't bother to call to cancel the appointment, but since my schedule is more stable, it's easier to book my returning clients. The net result is that because I'm actually working the hours I set, I'm earning more money more consistently than before I began this policy I've been fascinated to notice that, when someone complains about paying the deposit, they also tend to complain that my fees are too high, that my service may not be worth what I charge, and that they can get equivalent service from someone else at a third of the price. A couple of them have stated that I should be deeply relieved that they asked for an appointment in this difficult economy and (of course) I should be offering much more with fewer restrictions at a lower fee. I had an exchange with one man last week who wrote a very snippy e-mail to me, warning that, since there was no guarantee that I wouldn't run off with his $100 deposit, I should be aware that he was ready to spend a couple of hours writing nasty reviews on the boards about my thievery if there was any problem. Curiously, he didn't seem to understand why I declined the opportunity to entertain him. He said I was being ungrateful. Imagine that. :-o

This is all very disconcerting to me. If someone were to try to pressure me to see him, or to threaten not to see me, because of their presumptions about someone I may have entertained and what we may have done if or when that purported meeting occurred... well, that's not a client I would care to accept! I turn away more potential clients than I see. I meet with those whom I choose for many reasons including having interests in common and compatible styles. I turn down prospective clients when I feel we're not likely to be comfortable together, or when we have very different needs or expectations. Hearsay has no influence with me unless it comes from another woman whose personal safety has been violated. In other words, what one man may say about another carries little weight with me. That men engage in pissing contests and try to claim territory or proprietary rights just seems to be how they entertain each other. :smile: I am deeply ambivalent about reviews and recommendations. Most of my clients wouldn't dream of writing about the time they spend with me, nor do they want to read the salacious details others might write about encounters they've had, or claim to have had, with me. Their privacy is critically important to them, and to me. As a result, there are very few reviews about me anywhere. A couple of those that can be found were written by people who have never met me. But, in response to your original query, Dummpy, I think that you should let your original recommendation stand. You felt you got good service from the provider. That doesn't obligate her to see you again, though. If someone asks you privately about the SP, say what you think. Time passes, we all change, what works today may not go so well in a few months, and what's not so great right now can improve beyond measure in time, too.

Sputy, music is a good idea. I only hesitate because I hate to spend a lot of time setting things up in the client's hotel room, but it would be okay for some of them, for sure. Grass_Hopper, I've usually got a pair of pantyhose tucked into my bag, too for the same reason. Angela_Aurora, I've seen those hose with the built-on garter belt, but I haven't tried them. They might be a quick substitute for stockings, but I think I'd prefer real ones, with the garters. One of my regulars likes to remove them and he does it soooo slowly and sexily I'd hate to deprive him of the pleasure... LOL Erin_xo, I pack gloves, too, and use them alot to avoid scratching the client if I do a prostate massage--my nails are a bit long! I have a pair of those bodyshaper-things, but I've never worn them when I'm with a client. Maybe I will, though--could be fun! igotaboner, anal beads are a great idea! I should go shopping... :wink: monk, if a client brings a bottle of wine or something that he'd like to share, that's always fine with me. If he has sensitivity to particular soaps, I'd be happy for him to bring what he prefers. I'd make sure to have that on hand next time I see him, too. For my own health and safety, though, I insist on providing condoms, lube and gloves, and on covering anything he might bring that he also wants to put inside me.

Yes. I divorced one of 'em. Women I know outside the profession often complain that they spend a lot of time performing and not much time receiving oral. I tend to advise that they stop doing it until things change.

Which dildo was your favourite, ED? Maybe someone should start a new thread about 'em! Annessa, those Listerine sprays are awesome, aren't they? I don't smoke, but fresh breath is so important. I've usually got some chewing gum in my purse, but the breath spray is better. A couple more things that I should tuck into the bag: I keep meaning to buy some toy cleaner wipes. Condoms go onto the toys, but removing the used condom isn't enough to clean the toy especially if the condom was lubricated. A client recently gave me a remote-controlled vibrator and took me out for a fabulous dinner at Vij's, Vancouver's best Indian restaurant. That toy's a keeper for sure! I think I should pack extra batteries.... ;-)

Aww, Dummpy, thanks for that! :smile:

I love doing prostate massages! There are so many different ways to do them from playfully menacing to gentle and loving.