SamanthaEvans

I've been doing more outcalls lately and since I'm always looking for new ideas I think it could be fun to itemize what we take along to an outcall, or what the men have particularly appreciated. I carry a soft leather bag that can pass as a briefcase or a small overnight bag. It's not big and suitcase-like. In it, I carry lots of condoms of different styles, lubricant, some massage cream and three or four toys. The toys are usually a dildo, a butt plug, a vibrator and a pair of leather handcuffs. Sometimes I tuck in a soft, deerskin suede flogger. If I'm wearing a corset when I go to the hotel, I also carry a bra and pantyhose to put on if the corset comes off during the session--much easier and simpler than putting the corset on again when it's time to get dressed. I have a very lightweight satin robe that folds into nothing. I've taken it with me sometimes and was glad I had it. Depending on the time of the meeting and chemistry with the client, I may bring a bottle of wine, a corkscrew and a box of chocolates. My makeup bag, a brush and comb, a small can of hairspray and some hand lotion are in my purse. Anyone else?

That's blatantly false advertising and no one should tolerate it. Some girls charge different rates based on specific services, but you have a right to know what the bill is going to be ahead of time, when you make the booking, IMHO. Once you're there, if you want to add something to the package, you should expect to pay for it at the rate she quoted on her website or wherever she gave the information. Personally, I would hate to have our pleasure interrupted by negotiating for extras if the client feels he wants something different. It seems to me that would wreck the chemistry between us. That's one reason why my rates are all-inclusive. The other reason is that, as far as I'm concerned, the client is paying for my time and companionship. Whatever we may do with that time together is up to us. And yes, it does mean that my fee for a covered BJ is the same as for full service plus Greek, or for tying me up, tormenting me with toys and spanking me along with the full service. It's also the same if I tie him up and get out the double-ended dildo! :grin:

I remember enjoying giving BBBJs, a long, long time ago. But I haven't given one since I was married, also quite awhile ago! I don't offer them. I do give a great CBJ. I have clients who see me just for that, so I must be doing something right. :lol: I have intercourse a LOT. In fact, I think I've not had it with only a couple of clients in the last three or four months. This is the clients' choice: I'm happy with whatever happens and don't pressure anyone for anything. I wonder, though, whether age might be a factor in this? It's rare for me to have a client under 40 and most are in their 50s and 60s. Most of them say that they're not getting any sex at all at home and they want a lot of cuddling, kissing and intercourse. One client, who's been with me four or five times--enjoys the CBJ but asked me to stop last time because he wanted to hold me--it was the closeness he wanted.

I love Greek. I have incredible orgasms from it. So, I do offer it. However, I usually tell new clients that it's an option but that I'd like to wait until we've been together at least once. That way, the expectation is lowered. Sometimes I offer it at the first meeting--it depends on the dynamic between us. Usually, I only do it once in a day. If I'm seeing three clients, I don't want Greek with all of them. But prostate massages and dildos are available all the time!

I find the acronyms frustrating. I generally say that I provide a rich, sensual GFE. But I enjoy Greek. A lot. I don't do BBBJ and I rarely allow releases on my body. I will if the chemistry between the client and myself is right. I'll encourage it, then, if I think he'd enjoy it. I just don't advertise it as an option available for new clients. Chemistry, connection, the "je ne sais pas" of it all is what makes the difference to me, every time. I can encourage it to happen, but I can't manufacture it. I do tackle one of my regular clients at the door and whether we'll ever make it to the bedroom is an open question. Does that make it a PSE? I don't know. It's just the way we connect with each other. Another has me visit him in his office sometimes, dressed in business attire and as circumspect as can be. He's introduced me to some of the people he works with, implying that I'm a client. But sometime after his office door closes, I'm going to be turned over his knee, skirt up, and spanked hard before a CBJ or being bent over the desk. The fantasy aspect of it is a kind of PSE for him. Maybe these terms really are related to the people involved more than they're descriptive of something easy to offer?

Thanks for posting this, Erin. She hits the issues perfectly.

I had a really great new client last week. He told me ahead of time he was unusually large and long and asked me if I would object to using a regular condom for oral, then a female condom for intercourse. Of course I don't mind doing that. Our time together was great and I think his willingness to be up-front and forthright about what he prefers really set the stage for some very nice interplay. I really like the female condoms and wish more people knew about them, by the way.

Once upon a time, when I was about 20, I used a diaphragm for contraception. Being oh-so-cool and casual, I was demonstrating how it worked for a newish partner. I lay back on his bed and put the gel into the diaphragm. When I squeezed the sides of the thing together and got ready to insert it, it went flying out of my hand, across the room, splattered against the wall and fell down behind a heavy dresser. It was an amazing flight--I've never seen one do that since then. The guy was beside himself, laughing so hard. Of course, I just got mad... No happy ending that night!

Come and visit when you're in Vancouver sometime, Brandi!

Come and visit when you're in Vancouver sometime, Brandi!

A few more "thou shalt nots" from me today. Don't demand to have my phone number. I prefer to work via e-mail until we have a firm booking. I will send you my cell number the night before we meet and I will tell you when to call me. Many escorts publish their numbers: that works very well for them. And many do things the way I do. It's a matter of personal preference. If you say that you really want to talk to me on the phone before booking a meeting, I will remind you that I don't discuss my fee, what I look like, what I am or will be wearing, or anything erotic on the phone. When I call you, don't ignore those restrictions. Yes, I have a lovely voice and a very warm manner over the telephone. Yes, I'm bright, cheerful and reassuring. I'm glad you feel better. But if you break the rules, this is as much of me as you'll ever get! Don't barrage me with e-mail or phone calls after I've turned you down. My statement, "I don't think we're suited for each other. Thanks for contacting me. I wish you all the best," is the end of our interaction. Recently, I've had prospective clients inquire about meeting me for a three or four hour session the first time we get together. My preference is for much shorter, initial meetings which is one reason for asking for substantial deposits in advance of long sessions. I accept credit cards via Paypal and my cancellation policy is clearly explained on my website. Don't say, "You're really asking a lot of a guy you haven't even met. How do I know you won't just run off with my money? This could be a scam." And never, ever say anything like, "You over-priced girls sure expect a lot." Of course we do. We expect reasonable things like that our safety, time and self-respect are as important as yours. Don't ask for the address of my incall location so that you can "be prepared" or "efficient" ahead of time. I tell new clients that I'm near a major intersection. I ask them to call me from an unblocked number when they're near it. Then I give them simple directions to my location. I do not want someone "scoping out" the place ahead of time. I'm in one of Vancouver's finest neighbourhoods. From the intersection alone they should know that there's nothing to worry about in terms of the local traffic and that ample parking is available (and free!). I won't accept calls from a private or blocked number because I don't accept those calls! Period, No text messagesm either. So, don't call me over and over again from your blocked number expecting me to put two and two together, know that it's you AND be delighted to hear from you. It don't work that way! Two plus two equals I can take a nice, relaxing bubble bath in the now-free hour and a half that I'm not spending with you. Oh, and one more? If you've never met me and we've only exchanged a couple of e-mails, don't write to me and say something like, "Aww, Sam... you know I'm a nice guy. I'm sure you can tell that already! Maybe you need all these rules for the psychos, but not for me. So relax, hon. I'm the one guy you should just know you don't need to be concerned about. Chill, babe!" If you think I'm spending my days with psychotically disturbed men as a matter of course.... find another girl. And no, I don't think I can refer you to anyone else,

A few more "thou shalt nots" from me today. Don't demand to have my phone number. I prefer to work via e-mail until we have a firm booking. I will send you my cell number the night before we meet and I will tell you when to call me. Many escorts publish their numbers: that works very well for them. And many do things the way I do. It's a matter of personal preference. If you say that you really want to talk to me on the phone before booking a meeting, I will remind you that I don't discuss my fee, what I look like, what I am or will be wearing, or anything erotic on the phone. When I call you, don't ignore those restrictions. Yes, I have a lovely voice and a very warm manner over the telephone. Yes, I'm bright, cheerful and reassuring. I'm glad you feel better. But if you break the rules, this is as much of me as you'll ever get! Don't barrage me with e-mail or phone calls after I've turned you down. My statement, "I don't think we're suited for each other. Thanks for contacting me. I wish you all the best," is the end of our interaction. Recently, I've had prospective clients inquire about meeting me for a three or four hour session the first time we get together. My preference is for much shorter, initial meetings which is one reason for asking for substantial deposits in advance of long sessions. I accept credit cards via Paypal and my cancellation policy is clearly explained on my website. Don't say, "You're really asking a lot of a guy you haven't even met. How do I know you won't just run off with my money? This could be a scam." And never, ever say anything like, "You over-priced girls sure expect a lot." Of course we do. We expect reasonable things like that our safety, time and self-respect are as important as yours. Don't ask for the address of my incall location so that you can "be prepared" or "efficient" ahead of time. I tell new clients that I'm near a major intersection. I ask them to call me from an unblocked number when they're near it. Then I give them simple directions to my location. I do not want someone "scoping out" the place ahead of time. I'm in one of Vancouver's finest neighbourhoods. From the intersection alone they should know that there's nothing to worry about in terms of the local traffic and that ample parking is available (and free!). I won't accept calls from a private or blocked number because I don't accept those calls! Period, No text messagesm either. So, don't call me over and over again from your blocked number expecting me to put two and two together, know that it's you AND be delighted to hear from you. It don't work that way! Two plus two equals I can take a nice, relaxing bubble bath in the now-free hour and a half that I'm not spending with you. Oh, and one more? If you've never met me and we've only exchanged a couple of e-mails, don't write to me and say something like, "Aww, Sam... you know I'm a nice guy. I'm sure you can tell that already! Maybe you need all these rules for the psychos, but not for me. So relax, hon. I'm the one guy you should just know you don't need to be concerned about. Chill, babe!" If you think I'm spending my days with psychotically disturbed men as a matter of course.... find another girl. And no, I don't think I can refer you to anyone else,

Not necessarily, Apex. Those men screen the SP as much, or more, than we screen them. Phone conversations, e-mail conversations that are more than just three or four notes back and forth. They know she'll probably recognize them when they meet. They want to be sure that the SP is likely to be socially compatible before the meeting, that is, that she has a genuine understanding of confidentiality and privacy. For many of these men, using a well-known agency or an agent is one good way for them to be sure that the SP is sane, sober, not on drugs, and generally stable. They also refer each other to escorts whom they trust. Older escorts are often more appealing to these men for many of these reasons, particularly if the men are looking for an ongoing engagement. They're also very likely to ask for "social" meetings the first time or two that they meet the SP. Whether they can have sex with the escort isn't a question: that's a sure thing. Whether they can trust her is what counts. As for questions not to ask, I don't appreciate being asked how much I earn or whether I know Mr. X. I'll tell another SP that I know Mr. X and that he's okay. I never tell a client or a prospective client whether I know anyone, anywhere, at all.

Not necessarily, Apex. Those men screen the SP as much, or more, than we screen them. Phone conversations, e-mail conversations that are more than just three or four notes back and forth. They know she'll probably recognize them when they meet. They want to be sure that the SP is likely to be socially compatible before the meeting, that is, that she has a genuine understanding of confidentiality and privacy. For many of these men, using a well-known agency or an agent is one good way for them to be sure that the SP is sane, sober, not on drugs, and generally stable. They also refer each other to escorts whom they trust. Older escorts are often more appealing to these men for many of these reasons, particularly if the men are looking for an ongoing engagement. They're also very likely to ask for "social" meetings the first time or two that they meet the SP. Whether they can have sex with the escort isn't a question: that's a sure thing. Whether they can trust her is what counts. As for questions not to ask, I don't appreciate being asked how much I earn or whether I know Mr. X. I'll tell another SP that I know Mr. X and that he's okay. I never tell a client or a prospective client whether I know anyone, anywhere, at all.

My clients are nearly all married and not looking for a committed relationship with another woman, so being with me is ideal for them. But I have one client who I think would like me to be his real-life girlfriend. I tend to steer the conversation in other directions whenever it moves into that subject area because I'm not interested in him as a genuine romantic partner. He says that he's known a lot of escorts in his life and at one time lived among some of them in another city. He's also been an active swinger. He says that he likes sexually uninhibited women--women who are confident about what they have to offer. I also think it's titillating for him to think that a woman he's close to has sex with a lot of different men, and has been doing it for awhile. He sometimes asks me about the men I'm with, or have been with; my refusal to talk about them in any but the most general terms possible seems to intrigue him. I think he enjoys knowing that I have a "secret life" that no one knows about. He seems to feel privileged in some way because he does know something about what I'm doing. I think that, if I were interested in being more deeply involved with him, he'd be very encouraging and supportive of me continuing to be a paid companion because he finds it arousing. I wonder whether the very small percentage of men who might actively seek out SPs to date like the fact that they can be on intimate terms with us more easily than they think they can with women who are not escorts. After all, they don't need to invest much time or energy in us as people in the hope that they can get us into bed with them. Our companionship and the sex that goes along with it doesn't require a deep level of compatibility, shared values, or mutual interests, yet they can have an automatic girlfriend just by making an appointment, paying the fee and showing up. Maybe it's a way to cut to the chase, so to speak, if a guy's highest priority in a relationship with a woman is sexual compatibility?

You could be right, gentlemen! Having children does tend to make many of us more cautious about a lot of things. I do think I had a pretty good sense of self-respect and preservation before I had kids, though. Just very committed to living my life, I'd say. Nonetheless, I came out of retirement because I have children to support, so it doesn't make sense to compromise on my health which could make supporting them impossible.

I see new clients in my home and only occasionally meet elsewhere. Even when I feel that I have a good rapport with someone new (in e-mail and on the telephone), I meet them in a restaurant or some other venue before going to their hotel room. I'm a bit nervous about what I might find on the other side of the hotel room door if I've never met the client in person before. I wouldn't be comfortable going to a client's home the first time we meet for much the same reason.

I have always had clients who made a significant financial contribution monthly and then had priority for seeing me. Right now, I have one client who sees me once a week, usually on the same day and time. Two others see me every other week. Another two see me monthly, but want to be sure that they can book the day securely. At the end of each visit, we figure out when the next meeting will be and they pay me for it. I don't charge them what I would charge a new client. The client who's been seeing me the longest is actually paying less than I would charge someone else for two hours although we usually spend three hours together. He likes to have lunch before we have time in private. Sometimes we go to a restaurant. Sometimes I cook. Sometimes I have the food delivered. He's been very generous with me in many ways. Each of these fellows would all say that I'm his mistress and he's just helping out with some of my expenses so that I can take time away from other things and spend it with him. My weekly and bi-weekly clients were the ones who suggested paying me monthly at our second or third meeting. I guess they weren't worried that I'd disappear with the money because the subject never came up. Twice in the last three years, I've had to postpone or re-schedule a meeting, once because my son was ill and another time because I was. I scheduled a longer meeting as soon as possible.

I actually started out as a companion more than 20 years ago, here in Vancouver. I never worked with an agency or a massage parlor. I'd say that I was more of a "kept woman" or "mistress" than anything else. I had a few steady, regular clients, some for a few months, a couple for almost three years. When two of them brought things to an end, they also referred someone else to me to take their place. I would say that I've always been a "girlfriend" type. I never followed anyone else's rules. I kept as up to date as possible about STDs and birth control, and each of the men knew that they weren't the only one I saw. Everyone was terrified of AIDS and so getting the men to agree to use condoms was not difficult. I always did a lot of hugging, kissing, caressing, cuddling and the like. I also gave bareback blowjobs, but not to CIM. I retired, got married, and so on. When my marriage ended, I started to date (non-commercially) and so got as up to date as I could about STDs. I haven't had unprotected sex with anyone, nor have I given a BBBJ to anyone, since I was married. I again entered mistress-type arrangements and those have largely kept me going for the last few years. Recently, however, with changes in some of my clients' lives, I've begun to seek new clients. My safe sex practices haven't changed, nor will they. I still do lots of hugging, kissing, caressing and cuddling. I wouldn't be who I am if I didn't. If a client doesn't want that, that's his choice. Mostly, though, such men don't tend to return to me for more. Maybe, without the "girlfriend" type interaction there's not enough "spark" to keep things lively and interesting? I'm not sure, but I'm also not worried about it. It seems that many of these discussions about what a "real" GFE is focus on whether the escort offers covered oral sex or not. When asked about it, I just point out that chlamydia, warts, herpes, Hepatitis B, gonnorhea and syphilis can all live quite happily in the human throat, undetected for months or more. Some say the risk of transmitting any of these is negligible. For me, even if it's only 1/200, well... if I were in a room with 200 other people, one of whom was trying to fire a gun with only one bullet, I wouldn't risk staying there! I'll be the best girlfriend a client has ever had, and I'll do it safely. People who compromise on safety are engaging in "husband and wife" sex. :wink:

Oh... my... gods......!

The same for me! I'm completely happy being the client's girlfriend when we're together. He gets my undivided attention and complete dedication. I always tell a client that there are really only two rules: whatever we do has to be safe, and it has to be fun. If it's not fun, we should change it until we find something that is. That, along with lots of kissing, cuddling and whispered endearments seems to work!

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience, Rachelle. That you and Sydnee were probably turned in by other escorts is especially troubling to me. I would make the same decision you have, though. My son and his security come first, always.

I realize I've been reluctant to say much about the Asian escorts here in Vancouver. Liberal, middle-class fear of being racist, I suppose! But have a look at in Vancouver. Most of the erotic services ads there are from Asian women or their employers. Some of these girls work for lower-end massage parlors, but most of them, while seeming to be independents, are working in houses scattered all over the lower mainland. The owners run the risk of being charged with operating a bawdy house, though there are reports that they rotate the girls around between houses so that the neighbours won't know what's going on. One of my clients tells me that they often have five or six girls working in a house for a few weeks, and then they all move on while the house stands empty for a month or two, or is sublet to an ordinary family for a few months before the cycle starts over. Men complain that nearly all of the Asians' ads are bait and switch. At the same time, many seem to think that the rates these girls quote are the going rate in the city, or should be. It's hard to compete with $50 blowjobs and two girls for $180/hour. On the other hand, men who've felt misled by this advertising seem to make a concerted effort to find older escorts (the Asian girls are rarely more than 25, and usually much younger) and Caucasians. Some Vancouver feminists make a lot of noise about trafficked women, arguing that because of the prevalence of trafficking none of us should be in the sex trade. The escorts I've known are all concerned about trafficking; we don't want anyone to be forced into sex work. In fact, while there probably are trafficked women in the city--it's a port and a major entry point for airlines and autos--when the police tried to crack down on massage parlors a couple of years ago, they found no trafficked women working in them. I think it's likely we'll see a major increase in the number of new escorts and the number of Asian brothels as we get closer to the Olympics. While the Olympics ought to be good for business, whether those of us who charge $250-300 per hour will see much of that increase is debatable. Some of the very high-end ladies may, but I'm skeptical about the rest of us.

Sinfulsydnee, thank you for sharing your story. My hat goes off to you--hell, I'll take everything off! I'm truly heartened to hear about the way things worked out for you. You're a great mom, that's clear. Reading your story also heightens my awareness that, even after a long time, I'm still afraid of what my ex-husband would do, or try to do, if he learned how I'm making my living. He'd rather pay his lawyer to litigate than pay child support. That's really a crime!

I like this a lot, and I would post it on my website, too, with the same caveats as Anita has already mentioned. And Rubjunky, it's important to know in which jurisdiction things have occurred. In the States, it's illegal to be a prostitute in most places. That's largely what contributes to sex workers disclosing their client lists. Things in Canada are different. As an independent in Canada, I would never divulge the names of my clients. But what they and I agree to do together is been a private, and entirely legal, matter.