SamanthaEvans

I'm glad to know you're safe and well, Katherine. I hope you can find some peace of mind and heart very soon!

Well, Cristy, I have to say that I will not be happy if the day comes when men generally ignore me. Sure, there are idiots out there. I recently didn't hire an accountant because he displayed an appalling lack of professional boundaries and I could see no reason to trust someone like that with intimate details of my work life. When he asked what I would charge him, I gathered my documents together as I told him that, even if I was willing to see him, which I wasn't, he couldn't possibly afford me. I left. He fumed. Neither of us made any money that hour. I was content with that outcome; he probably wasn't. It's rare for me to flirt very much with men I run into in the ordinary course of the day. Finding ways to wither unwanted attention isn't too difficult most of the time.

The g-spot is the root of the clitoris and so many women can squirt from clitoral stimulation, g-spot stimulation or both. Including me!

My champion standard poodle was bred in January and went back to our fantastic breeder yesterday morning to settle in and get ready to whelp. She must really like it there because, early this morning, she gave birth to nine puppies! I feel like a proud grandmother! Photos soon.

Almost 18 months ago, I learned that my pancreas wasn't producing insulin and that I had suddenly become a Type 1 diabetic. This kind of diabetes is usually associated with children and adolescents, but it's often diagnosed in people under 55. Since then, I've had to become an expert about everything I eat so that I can take enough insulin to be healthy. All carbohydrates break down into sugar--into glucose. Glucose and fat are the fuels that our bodies use to keep us going. But we don't need glucose at all. We can live perfectly healthy, long lives without sugar, including fruit and fruit juices. The thing that causes the problems for North Americans is the combination of eating lots of carbohydrates with very little fat. The result is heart disease. But reducing the carbohydrate intake and increasing the amount of fat is very good for you and will reduce the plaque built-up in your arteries. When the amount of carbohydrate is low enough, the metabolism switches over and burns fat instead of glucose. Eating carbohydrates does create the craving for more, to be sure. It can be difficult to figure out how much carbohydrate is in things like sauces, salad dressings, marinades and the batter that may be used to cook fish and chicken. Labels aren't always as easy to read or understand as they should be, and some studies show that the information may not always be accurate, either. What I think is truly scandalous is that, while these things are long-established nutritional facts, the information doesn't get out to people because of the incredible influence of the big drug companies and organizations like the American and Canadian Diabetes Associations. People usually believe that the Diabetes' Associations are on the side of patients, but the fact is that they're funded by the drug companies and the manufacturers of processed foods. They have an enormous influence over the curriculum dieticians are taught and, by extension, over the menus in hospitals and public institutions. A high carbohydrate diet isn't good for anyone. For people who have either Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes, it's impossible to maintain normal blood sugar levels while eating high amounts of carbohydrate, yet that is exactly what they're told to do. They will inevitably develop nasty complications, as a result, and will be prescribed drugs to try to lower their blood sugar and manage the damage to their hearts, kidneys, eyes, central nervous system, etc. I enjoy sweets. I'm particularly fond of dark chocolate. Small amounts of chocolate, or small amounts of fruit won't hurt me if I can take the right amount of insulin at the right time to deal with the sugar. But if I eat much fruit or other carbohydrate, the amount of insulin I will need to take will cause me to gain weight. So, in the end, it's important to keep a close eye on things. I cook food instead of buying it packaged or already prepared. I do drink diet colas sometimes but there the issue is really the amount of sodium in them. I have to say that I feel terrific now. It took awhile to get comfortable with this new way of eating. But nowadays, no sugar? Not a big deal!

An ant farm kit, a jar of honey and a bag of large zip-ties.

Yes, they're here! AESHA is An Evaluation of Sex Workers' Health Access. It's a longitudinal study of sex worker's health and safety. They're interviewing street-based workers as well as women who work indoors and independent SPs, not just in the Downtown Eastside, but all across the city. They do follow-up interviews every six months for five years. One of the things I really like about this project is that they do things like make supplies available instead of just recording reports about condom use. That is, they're helping to break the poverty barrier to safer sex.

. . . is one of Old Dog's bacon sandwiches. My laundry is done, folded and put away!

I'm completely happy with LE using BP to target the men who seek out underage girls. If the ad or initial correspondence with the ad poster says that the girl is 16 years old, the man must end the correspondence, period. Even better would be to report the ad to BP or the police. It's not illegal to read or reply to an escort ad, so there's nothing to fear for taking action. Until the Supreme Court of Canada makes its decisions on the prostitution laws, which probably won't happen until 2015 or so, there's no reason to worry about LE targetting men who are looking for an in-call engagement. The police and judiciary are not interested in entertaining charges about independent companions working quietly. If someone is operating an in-call and creating a public nuisance, that could be a problem, but it would be a civic by-law matter in most cases, not a criminal one. Going after the people who are promoting underage prostitutes and the men who are seeking them, however, is perfectly fine with me.

It's easy to launch trial balloons in the form of "What if..." questions, especially online where no one knows who anyone is or what their ulterior motive may be. But if I've taken a room at, say, the PanPacific Hotel here in Vancouver and someone goes to the front desk and says that the lady in room 1811 is a prostitute and is entertaining clients there today, I expect the hotel management will laugh long and hard. "Prove it," they will say. "Start by first telling us who you are (and showing some ID), then tell us the name of the person registered in that room and give us a concrete reason to believe that this person is working there." What will you do? Provide your identification? Somehow, I find this difficult to imagine. Can you furnish the name under which the room is registered? I guarantee that you won't be able to do that. Will you be able to provide evidence that someone called Samantha Evans has invited you to consort with her at the PanPacific Hotel this afternoon? Maybe you can. But you won't have a room number and in any case the PanPacific has never heard of Samantha Evans. You can get frustrated and pound the desk. You can roll your eyes and storm around a little bit. You can say that maybe you have the room number wrong, but you know that there's a prostitute in the hotel and you want them to take action, to call the police or at least go and check that room or other rooms. This might be an interesting way to entertain yourself for about five minutes on a rainy Vancouver afternoon in the dregs of winter. But from the hotel's standpoint you will look like a spiteful boyfriend or a malicious ex-partner or someone who's just got it in for a woman who turned him down when he tried to pick her up in the bar. If I do say so myself, no one has ever visited me anywhere and complained about it afterward. Oh, wait. That's not true. See, I had this stalker awhile back.... The police took care of that problem for me. But otherwise, the gentlemen who visit me and who see my colleagues in similar circumstances are no more interested in causing harm to me than I am in harming them or anyone else, anywhere, anytime. We meet. They pay me for my time. We engage in mutually agreeable things, whether we have a meal, play some chess, debate what passes for politics in B.C. or indulge in a wide range of delectable, erotic activities. Usually it's a combination of things. And at the end of our appointed time, we part company amicably. It's that simple. It may transpire that the gentleman and I discover that we're really not quite as compatible as we'd expected. The meeting may go very well, but one or the other of us may not want to repeat. Maybe he was looking for a one-time encounter, nothing more. Astonishingly, a man could discover that a verbal, opinionated woman isn't his preferred cup of tea regardless of her other skills and assets. Whatever the reason, it won't be because one of us has robbed the other, or because either of us was assaulted or has ventured to blackmail the other. Fear-mongering helps no one. But if you believe that most people are out to get you, if you imagine that everyone is hatching some dire plan to bring about your ruin... sweetheart, this is not the right profession for you. You will either take foolish risks that bring about exactly what you hoped to avoid or you will take no chances at all and earn nothing. At the least, you will end up feeling bitter, used and degraded because that's all you expected to feel, no matter how much cash you've got in your hand. More than 99% of the time, if screened effectively, the client is not an enemy.

I like emiafish because he writes thoughtful, good-hearted responses to posts and because his avatar is adorable!

Advertising is NOT soliciting! Soliciting involves disturbing someone, interrupting their time, taking their attention to offer them an opportunity for an encounter. It is illegal for me to approach someone else in a public place and invite them to pay me for sex. Soliciting on the streets ostensibly prevents the normal flow of traffic when sex workers approach cars at stop signs and traffic lights or when they accost people walking on the sidewalk. Soliciting in other places, such as a hotel bar or lobby, is when the sex worker approaches a patron of the establishment to offer sexual services for money. Soliciting in print is an entirely different matter. This was settled in the 1980s when police laid a series of charges against a Vancouver newspaper that accepted ads from escorts. The court ruled that advertising was not soliciting because no one forced anyone to read the ads. Reading is voluntary in the way that having to deal with someone who comes up to you on the street is not. Anyone who reads escort ads knows or should know what they're reading and they make their choices accordingly. The internet is publicly accessible but is not a public place. No one is forced to go to my website, read the content or make an active decision about whether they want to meet me. I'm easy to find if someone is looking for me or a woman like me who makes available the things that I offer. In the US, some states and cities have tried to re-define or regulate what happens on the Internet in relation to prostitution but, so far, have failed. It is impossible to prevent users from accessing content outside of a city's or state's boundaries. While an ISP can decide not to carry content from other places, they must also face the dilemma of finding or keeping users who are content to have the access restricted in addition to having their actions called into question in relation to free speech rights. Not everything that's available on the Internet is legal. It is illegal in most jurisdictions to look at pornography involving children, for example. It is legal to look at porn involving adults. The courts have so far ruled that cell phone conversations are private. One cannot ordinarily overhear both sides of a call. In many jurisdictions, it is illegal to use electronic devices to listen to cell conversations just as only the police can tap a land-based telephone line and usually have to get a court order allowing them to invade someone's privacy when they do it. If I meet someone at a hotel, at his invitation or mine, we will not discuss what is going to happen before we enter the private room because such a conversation is illegal. On that principle, it would be extremely foolish for me to make a call on or answer my cell phone if I'm in a public place and then engage in a detailed conversation about what I might offer. Many escorts use polite or indirect language when it comes to describing explicitly what we offer. Many of us may say that we are only offering companionship, not sex, and some of us may imagine that this covers us in the event that someone imagines we are soliciting. Many of us also require visitors to our websites to agree that they may be reading or viewing sexually explicit content before they access it. This is polite, but not necessary. It helps prevent people from clicking through the site by accident or when they're in a place, such as at work or in Starbucks, where viewing that content may be a bad idea. Personally, I'm not worried about soliciting. Making statements about offering my time at a certain rate is simply a way of telling prospective clients what I guarantee to provide, period. I will not guarantee to engage in intimate contact or sexual acts with someone I don't know. I may not feel comfortable with the individual for many reasons. I may not feel up to engaging in certain activities every time I see someone. I may be willing to do something with a trusted client that I will not do with a stranger. All I guarantee is to spend the amount of time promised. Of course, one difference between me and many women a prospective client may date is that the likelihood that I will engage in intimate activity with him in a private place is significantly higher. If he and I have had the opportunity to become fairly well-acquainted, it's virtually certain to happen.

zxc456, pay careful heed to what Cat says. I would never work from a room in a motel because their security systems are negligible at best. My visitors and I deserve the far greater privacy and safety which are guaranteed in the finest hotels. As for blackmail, the men I entertain are not fools. I always know and have verified my guests' identities and they always know that their privacy is sacrosanct as long as I'm safe. In our shadowy world, we look out for each other and will go to great lengths to help one another be safe. No one keeps secrets as well as we do, provided that those who need secrecy are honest. But the questions you ask and the ways that you frame them are so unlike anything I've been asked by dozens of young women who were considering joining our profession that I'm finding it difficult to believe that you're one of them.

I like using the Thanks button to say I appreciate a post, or to thank someone for contributing to a thread I started or for referring to something I've said. I also like that we now have three options: thanking people for their thoughts, giving rep points with a comment and nominating a post because it's timely, important or well-written, etc. It will be interesting to see how the Thanks button affects the Nominations. Will nominations be fewer but seem more significant? As for being thanked, I like that, too. It lets me know that I'm in tune with others' perspectives.

Mourning is a difficult thing to go through. Everyone is different and there's no one "right" way to do it. But if it's been more than a year since your wife died, you might consider joining a group for people who have lost a partner. These are often fantastic! You can find out about them by contacting a funeral home, and I'd suggest you do that rather than go through the standard therapist route, at least at first. In many places, they try to bring together people who are close in age, or people who have children so that there's common ground for participants. it really can help a lot to hear how other people are dealing with situations similar to your own. Finding a companion or two can also be a good thing because you don't have to get into a full-blown relationship before you're ready for one (and you're not ready right now). You can have contact, intimacy and a private, one-on-one encounter without repercussions. If you want to see a companion more than once, go for it. If not, no worries. Attending to your physical needs can sometimes make it easier to work through emotional ones. Go easy on yourself!

Please don't mess around! If you, or your friend, are experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED), you really do need to see a doctor. ED is often a symptom of a significant medical problem such as diabetes or cardio-vascular disease. It can also be a side effect of some kinds of medication, such as drugs for high blood pressure or depression. If you have a health problem, you need to address it before you start taking a drug that is intended to have a significant, albeit temporary, effect on your vascular system. Most people imagine that ED is a natural part of aging, but this isn't exactly correct. While all men experience occasional problems with erections at some point in their lives, and while many men report that the frequency with which they have erections gradually diminishes as they age, if we were not so sedentary, got much more exercise and had far healthier diets, there would be a much lower incidence of ED generally. If you're worried about what your doctor may think if you ask for a prescription for Viagra or another drug, maybe you need to see a doctor with whom you can feel more at ease. If your concern is that the doctor may mention this to your partner, you definitely need to find a doctor who respects your confidentiality. Most do! Trust me, your doctor has seen many men who are younger, better looking and in better physical condition than you are who ask about this medication. In fact, seeking a prescription of this kind is one of the most common reasons for a man to see his doctor. One of my long-time clients is in his early 60s. About 18 months ago, after experiencing an irregular heart rate, he had quadruple bypass surgery. His doctor wouldn't prescribe Viagra for him for a year because of the potential strain the drug could pose for his cardio-vascular system. During that year, he changed his diet, got into a great exercise routine and lost 75 pounds. Viagra is now working magnificently for him. :icon_wink: Don't take chances. Get a check-up!

I want a house elf. Like in the Harry Potter books. If anyone knows one, or is one, applications are welcome!

I've heard from many women who were considering entering the sex trade but none of them has ever started the conversation by focusing on the kind of blowjob she thinks she might be expected to offer. Many men, however, do start with sexual activities when they ask about our profession. Even women who have had many boyfriends or casual sex partners generally find the notion of entering the sex trade to be daunting. They usually have many questions about what it means to be a prostitute; how they will feel engaging with many clients in a day or week; how other people in their lives would react to knowing what they're doing and how they plan to deal with that. Physical health and safety are important and the relief that comes from being able to address a serious financial problem is enormous, but there are emotional and psychological considerations involved, as well. For example, most of us find this to be a very lonely, isolating profession. How good are your relationships with friends and family right now? When have clear and constructive boundaries been a challenge for you? What did you learn? Where are your points of greatest vulnerability when it comes to engaging with other people? What are your coping mechanisms when you're under stress? How might your stress-management techniques be compromised or enhanced by working as a paid companion? What have your relationships with men, including boyfriends, lovers, teachers, employers, siblings, your father and grandfather been like? How have you managed pressure you've felt from men about important things like school work, employment, or their expectations of you because of your gender? You say that you're a small, slender woman. How have you handled men who are much larger and stronger than you are and who are, or have the potential to be, physically threatening? When a man is angry because he wants something from you, how do you respond--that is, how do you feel, deep inside, what do you do and how do you work through things later? When in your life have you found it difficult to say no to someone? What happened and why? When have you found it difficult to say yes, when you really wanted to? What happened then? Generally speaking, in your life do you tend to be obedient when someone tells you to do something? How important is it to you to please other people? If someone tells you to do something that you don't want to do, how do you feel? How likely are you to give in rather than take control of the situation constructively? Whether a covered bj is conservative or enlightened is a matter of debate. In our industry, every woman needs to decide for herself what she is and is not willing to offer when she entertains. There are plenty of women at every price point who are making a living, providing safe GFE including condoms for oral. There are also a lot of women who offer uncovered oral, but use condoms for everything else. You need to decide what your own risk tolerance is, how you will attend to your health care needs and how you will respond to pressure from clients who want to engage in activities that you may not have tried before, or may not want to participate in. What kind of oral you offer--if any--is only one consideration. So is anal sex. Digits is another. What about fetishes? Which ones might you be comfortable with and which ones will you not consider? What about duos? Who would you approach to be a duo partner? What level of involvement are you comfortable with when another woman is involved? What about couples? Or two men? Or more than two men? Stag parties? Poker nights? Toy shows? What about male duo partners? Suppose a prospective client invites you to travel with him--would you consider it? How will you maintain your safety and limits when you're not in a situation that you control, potentially far away from home and dependent on a virtual stranger? How do you imagine working? Will you do half hour meetings? What about quarter-hour quickies? Do you prefer to accept only two-hour engagements or longer? What is your preferred age range? If you think that the majority of your clients are likely to be guys in their early 20s, think again! Are you comfortable with older men? How old? Consider, for example, men in their 50s, 60s and 70s. How comfortable are you with men who may remind you, in some ways, of your father or grandfather? This is actually a very important consideration, particularly if, as I suspect, you plan to be setting your rates near the upper end of the range in your part of the country. Who do you think can afford to pay your fees? Are there enough of them where you're living and working to provide enough of the sort of work you imagine doing? How do you know? This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to things a new SP needs to think about. Very little of it is about blowjobs.

I think that a lot of women feel very insecure about their genitals because they imagine that whatever they have--large labia, long inner labia, heavy clitoral hoods, etc.--is somehow wrong. Most women never see another woman's genitals, ever, unless they're health care professionals. There are a couple of books with photographs, showing the incredible variety, but they're not standard coffee table fare. I always feel a bit sad when a client tells me he wants to perform oral because his regular partner won't let him do it, usually because she seems to feel ashamed, awkward or ugly. That's so sad!

mistert, I have a craving for macaroni and cheese, made with sharp, aged cheddar. But.... I'm a Type-1 diabetic and the carbs in the pasta are more than I can manage without barrels of insulin. And the low-carb pasta is.... <ahem> just wrong! Do you have any magical recipes or ideas?

I understand that you're feeling impatient and want answers to your questions, as well as some tips and strategies about how to do things. Every question you've asked about the law is answered, several times, in the Legal discussion and most are referred to extensively in other areas, as well. For the most part, the best information comes from established, long-time members of the board so pay particular attention to their posts. When it comes to things like strategies for working outcalls, transportation, etc., those are important considerations and most are also discussed on the boards, here. Frankly, the best way for you to learn how to deal with these things would be to start with a good agency. Since you've not said where you are, it will be difficult for anyone here to make a recommendation in your area. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but this part of your post is likely to be considered deeply insulting, not only to many of the ladies here, but also to many of the gentlemen as well. One critical thing that you need to understand is that the best so-called "high end" paid companions defend and are protective of women who work outdoors and those who have health problems and addictions. You won't find much tolerance on this board for denigrating any SP, anywhere, because of her looks or personal habits. We do discuss safer sex all the time and while we generally advise prospective clients to seek companionship from a reputable independent or a good agency, we don't put down women who, for many serious and difficult reasons, face so many challenges that they must work in compromising conditions. Your assumption that many companions offer poor quality and/or unsafe encounters is troubling. I don't know which sex workers' blogs you have been reading, or where you get your information, but as someone who has worked as an independent for many years, both in Toronto and in Vancouver, what you describe is not my experience, anywhere. No one should have to engage in activities she deems to be unsafe. Ever. I have to say, though, that I think your problems will have to do with not knowing how to screen potential clients and not knowing how to manage the volume of requests you would receive as a "new girl." These are also reasons to begin to work with a good agency. Starting out as an independent is tempting, but it's frequently a very bad idea. Yes, you'll make less per call with an agency. But you'll also have lower expenses and you'll be working with people who do know what they're doing and how the industry works. You need that knowledge and expertise behind you and, frankly, you don't have it yet. Without it, you will inevitably get into trouble. Are you aware that this statement verges on hostility? If you truly believe these things, I have to say that you don't really understand what the misconceptions and myths about the sex trade are. Speaking for myself, I have been a paid companion for over a decade. I have never engaged in any activity that I felt was unsafe--assuming, that is, that you're referring to things that increase one's potential for exposure to STIs. I'm also old enough to be your mother. I have never considered myself to be in competition with anyone. I work hard and I make a good living. I attribute my success to accepting the realities of this profession, to identifying my particular market niche and serving it very well, and to gaining the respect of my colleagues. That last thing--the respect of colleagues--is essential. If you do decide to work as a paid companion, no one, no matter how well-meaning or close to you, will understand what your life is really like. You will need the support and care of other companions so that you can stay safe, make good decisions and get support when things go wrong. No one ever avoids having things go wrong, regardless of what they may say. But there are ways to avoid some problems that you may not even imagine exist and there are ways to manage the things that you can't avoid. In general, we don't discuss these things in public forums. You will need to gain others' support in order to have access to this information. If you're just investigating this as an option, I would recommend that you find something else or some other way to take care of your problems. The sex trade is not the right thing for most women. If you're seriously considering becoming a paid companion, my advice is to step back, take some calming breaths and clear your mind. Only a minute percentage of women enter the sex trade because it's their ideal, intended career path. Nearly everyone has had some significant problem in her life and suddenly needs to earn a lot of money fairly quickly. In other words, most don't start out in the best frame of heart and mind. You can still do it, but you need to be careful, you need to be thoughtful and you need to learn to listen. An arrogant attitude will be a liability. Over-confidence is a mask for fear that prevents addressing the things that cause fear to begin with.

If you're coming to Vancouver, expect a lot of rain until at least the third week of March, and often into mid-April. May and June are the most beautiful months, here, with everything in bloom; rain showers tend to be shorter and lighter. There's usually very little rain for most of July, August tends to be bone-dry and we often have beautiful autumn weather from September through the third week of October. The rainy season gets underway in earnest about the beginning of November. We have more rainy days than clear ones for about five to five and a half months after that. Actually, a good rule of thumb for Vancouver is to plan for rain, all the time. If it doesn't happen--celebrate! While it rarely gets cold, temperature-wise, in Vancouver, the winter rains and damp provide a kind of cold that seeps into your bones. Cold can be easier to manage in Ontario and Quebec when there's lots of snow and -20°C or more. If you want to ski in Whistler, there's usually lots of snow from November through early April. Parts of Blackcomb had snow into June last year, I think.

All I want right now is for the rain to stop and yesterday's sunshine to return.

Thank you for the advice! The Twitter feed was working nicely on my laptop, so I uninstalled Java and reinstalled it on the desktop and now it's working beautifully. I appreciate the help.

There are things like this pussy pump: I've never used one of these. I've never felt any need for enhancement. Maybe I'm missing something? I'm really happy with what what I have.