SamanthaEvans

Size is definitely not the most important thing. And men who are equipped like famous porn stars actually have a lot of difficulty finding partners who can accommodate them. Girth is less a problem, provided that the woman is relaxed and there`s plenty of lubrication, but length can be a serious issue. Moderately deep thrusting can collide with an ovary which is like getting kicked in the balls. There`s less variety for positions, etc. Men who are under-sized do have problems, but these guys are rare. While they may have difficulty with intercourse sometimes and may also have trouble finding the right condom that will stay on, an undersized penis can still reach orgasm with the right stimulation. The things that matter most of all are to have patience, be creative, employ a kind and gentle sense of humour and to remember that pleasure takes many forms. What works for you is what works, period. Don`t make comparisons between what others say is true for them and what feels good for you. You are the one that matters.

Hi, Lee! Sorry to be late, but it took me longer to finish this than I expected it might, not only with the knitting itself, but also having to phutz around in Photoshop to make the photo look smaller than this Croatian penis warmer actually is. For discretion's sake, you know. After all, while many here may have heard rumours of your magnificence, I didn't think it would be appropriate to show the actual dimensions! Have an awesome birthday!

This is a wonderful site. Thanks, Emily! Bodies have so much character, express so much about the person, it's a privilege to be on close, intimate terms with another's body, their lumps, bulges, scars and marks are all part of the map of their life. There is so much beauty!

I don't use hotels for my incall location very often, though I did all the time when I lived in Toronto. Then as now, I only used four- and five-star hotels. Never a Travelodge, never a motel. Clients' comfort is important to me, but nothing is more important than my safety and security. I have every reason to believe that the best hotels will offer the best protection of my privacy, my personal information and my guests' discretion. Never forget: Innkeepers and prostitutes have been in cahoots ever since the first practitioners of the world's oldest profession needed a place to work. If there's a back entrance that will allow someone access to the floor or hallway where I would have a room, I won't be staying there. If it's too easy for someone to come in and go out of the building, sight unseen, it's not a safe place for me. Rest assured that every reputable, top-notch hotel has security cameras in all public areas, entrances and exits. This matters because, while you may be the finest gentleman in the city, others are not up to par. I am not taking the risk that someone may post a note on some board somewhere announcing that I'm staying at a particular place in a specific room and that it's possible to get in and out undetected should anyone care to show up for a late night surprise party or gang-bang. And yes, there are far too many men who would do exactly this kind of thing. Trust me: I'm a professional; I know these things. In good hotels, staff see most things and say nothing as long as the clientele aren't setting fire to the drapery or roto-tilling the carpets. If innkeepers ask a lot of questions about guests' visitors, they'll soon have fewer guests. While you're there to have an illicit meeting with one of my lovely colleagues, many other men are spending time with a mistress or girlfriend. My point is: people go to hotels to have sex with other people all the time, every day. Behave properly, don't cause a fuss or a disturbance, treat the lady well, enjoy yourself and relax.

No. I just checked and java is on.

I can see the box, but it's empty--no feed. I see the empty box on Gabriella's, Emma's and Kay's profiles, too. And I checked to be sure that I have Twitter unlocked. All of this is from my desktop machine, with Firefox.

A personal assistant could be charged with living on the avails, for sure. I considered this, it one point, but changed my mind when I heard other ladies' stories about problems they'd had. One had had an assistant who tried to blackmail her. In the end, I decided that the personal touch was the best way for me. My decisions about who to see are based on some subtle things, sometimes. Since I don't take same-day meetings, I don't have to be in a rush. That works for me. For those with a different business model, the right assistant might work. I'd want someone I already knew who really understood what I'm doing, how and why and who had already earned a solid track record of her own in our industry because I don't think that anyone who hasn't been a paid companion can ever truly understand what it's like to be one.

I've never been asked this question and I can't imagine why someone would. Samantha is not the name I was given when I was born, that's true. However, I've used this name for years. I answer to it as automatically as I do to my birth name. If someone decided that he preferred to call me "Elizabeth," instead, it wouldn't work for me. I'd also wonder what the real issue was. I'd be willing to hear his reasons, but if it's that my name is the same as his wife, his mother, his sister or his daughter, well, he knew that when he contacted me the first time. If my name is such a big deal, perhaps he should be seeing someone else. And so I think I would feel that he was trying to establish some kind of special claim on me or see if he could coerce me into responding to him in a special way. I have to remember that he's going to call me "Elizabeth" if I see him again. I should be careful to respond to that name if he says, "Would you care for a drink, Elizabeth?" "Are you ready to order dinner, Elizabeth?" and so on. Sometimes clients call me things like dear, sweetheart, darling, honey or love. I usually ignore it, but I don't actually like it, particularly the first couple of times we meet. We don't know each other well enough for these endearments or pet names. I do appreciate it when a client asks if it's okay, though, and when they do, I usually say yes but only because the ones who ask have always been established, long-term regular clients.

I don't see mine or anyone else's, either. I see CK's screenshots nicely, though, and the Twitter feed address shows at the bottom of everyone's "About Me" tab. Not getting naked, though. It's a cold, rainy day here in Vancouver and courting hypothermia is one of my limits....

I posted this in the "Unhijackable Thread of Randomness," but it belongs here, too. Shane Koyczan's stunning spoken poem, "The Best Thing Ever," in an animated video. http://vancouverisawesome.com/2013/02/19/the-best-thing-ever-shane-koyczan-for-pinkshirtday/

If this wondrously beautiful and inspiring video animation of Shane Koyczan's spoken poem, "The Best Thing Ever," made for Pink Shirt Day, doesn't have you in tears . . . . http://vancouverisawesome.com/2013/02/19/the-best-thing-ever-shane-koyczan-for-pinkshirtday/

This is important! Sorry that I forgot to mention the effect of some kinds of medication. Antidepressants are notorious for causing difficulty with ejaculation or delaying ejaculation. That said, when a man has trouble with premature ejaculation (PE), he may find that he gains extra stamina if he's on one of these medications, not that this is an ideal solution! PE can be managed without medication. It often occurs when a man has relied on masturbation most of the time and has been in a hurry to climax. He gets used to having orgasms quickly and needs to discover ways to delay them. A companion who won't provide the condom you prefer needs to think carefully about what she's doing, in my opinion. If I know a day or two ahead of time, I would be happy to ensure that I have what someone wants available. Not only is this good business sense, but I really do want clients to be happy with all aspects of our time together, including this one. As Berlin noted, one of our principal concerns is how a condom has been stored. Expiry dates are important, too, but if the condom has been stored in a too-hot or freezing car or carried around in someone's wallet or pocket, even if it hasn't reached its expiry date, it may be liable to break while in use. Sadly, there are some people who try to sabotage condoms deliberately, and we need to protect ourselves from them, too. I'm glad to read this, Porthos! You might be astonished to know how often many of us are asked to provide condom-free services, though. A couple of weeks ago, a prospective client told me that one reason he likes mature companions is that, once we're no longer having periods, we don't need to use condoms because there's no risk of pregnancy. That's not true, of course, but he claims that not only has this been his experience for years, he hasn't had to pay anything extra for it. I didn't believe him and declined to meet him. I think that it's possible to make a CBJ very erotic and deeply satisfying. I do understand why men prefer to have oral sex without condoms, but I often wonder why too many men pay little attention to the risk of STIs from oral sex. There are a lot of very nasty germs that can live very happily in a human throat, undetected for a very long time. There's no way to know whether someone has an STI or not and, sadly, the risk is somewhat greater for the one whose mouth and throat are being employed than for the one who seeks access. Of particular concern to me is that an incurable form of gonorrhea surfaced in Toronto last fall. Gonorrhea is already the second most common STI. It's very important to find ways to make safe sex sexy!

Everyone has a first time! Having references makes screening faster and easier for us, but there are usually other ways. Tell the companion you've chosen that it's your first time and that you don't have references but that you're willing to provide other information. She may ask for your real name, to verify your employment, to have a telephone conversation, or for you to provide a non-refundable deposit, or some combination of these or other options. If you've chosen an established companion, you can be sure that your privacy and confidentiality will be guaranteed. She's just wanting to be sure that you're a real person, that you're not wasting her time and that you'll actually show up for the meeting once it's been scheduled. Have fun!

Happy birthday, Emily! Many blessings on your next trip 'round the sun!

In my "other" life, I'm a figure and portrait artist. On that basis, I can say that, when it comes to images, the copyright often belongs to the photographer or artist who created the image. Public figures such as politicians and movie stars are not automatically accorded the same degree of privacy as private citizens. I'm allowed, for example, to take a photograph of the Prime Minister or the Queen and publish it or create artwork using it without their permission. This is why the papparazzi can cause so much trouble for popular figures, politicians, actors and the Royal family. They own the rights to the photographs and can often sell the pictures for considerable amounts of money. If I take a photograph of roamingguy (whom I've not met in person) and want to use it for commercial purposes, I should get him to sign a model release that gives me permission. But if I sell or give the photos to him, he will need to have my permission before he copies, alters, distributes or uses the photographs because I'm their creator. The creator of a photograph or other image has some leeway as long as the people in the image are not obviously identifiable. Getting model releases is extremely important when minors are the subjects of photos and other artwork. If there's an issue about using Steve McQueen's photograph, it's likely to be with the photographer who created it. Copyright on companions' photographs will vary, depending on the photographer. Because many of them are so personal and intimate, most respectable photographers will retain the right to use the photos as part of their own promotion material, such as their websites, but give the right to copy, alter and distribute the images to the lady herself. Things start to get murky when the photographs are taken by friends and relatives for one purpose but are later used for very different purposes, or when someone acquires private photographs and releases them by publishing them on the Internet, for example.

I wouldn't worry about it. As RG says, it's an anonymous board handle. You're not representing yourself as that Steve McQueen. I think that paid companions need to be more careful because we do use our names on our websites, in correspondence and in public. I am Samantha Evans, even though I was given a very different name when I was born. I researched my name to be sure that it wasn't the name of a famous person (famous but unknown to me) and also to be sure that it wasn't such an uncommon name that it might embarrass someone else to find that their real name was associated with my work name. The Internet being what it is, our names are going to follow us around for a long time. I would hate for some teenager to be bullied or afflicted because her unusual name was the same as a prostitute's! Checking a site like howmanyofme.com, which gives US Census name information, helps. I think that as long as there are at least 20 people with the name, it's okay to use it. There are 27 Steve McQueens there, so you're probably okay!

This is an important topic. In Vancouver, there are a lot of what we call Asian micro-brothels. Some permanent residents or citizens who have immigrated, usually from China or Korea, provide opportunities for women from their home countries to come to Canada to work for up to six months. They rent houses and condos around the Lower Mainland and the ladies work from them. Sometimes the women stay in the same place for several weeks or months; more often, they work in one place and then move on to another, usually in another suburb. Some of these micro-brothels are affiliated with others in other cities, so it's possible for a worker to travel around the province, through the prairies or even across the country. The women who work in these brothels have come to Canada to be sex workers. They enter the country as tourists and leave within six months (the length of a tourist visa). They send most of their earnings back home. Most speak little English. The brothel owners always significantly undercut the going rates charged by independent companions. Their advertisements on the free and low-cost advertising sites are usually represented as ads from one or two girls, though there may be six or eight of them working in a house. The great majority of them are classic bait-and-switch ads. The photographs come from all kinds of places, but are almost never of the woman you will see if you make an appointment. The actual workers are generally older and don't look like svelte models. My Asian clients tell me that there are significant cultural differences when it comes to expectations about advertising. North Americans expect that the photograph will match the product they purchase and feel very annoyed when it doesn't. My clients say that the micro-brothel ads really are offering a fantasy, that the brothel owners have no compunction about whether the women look like the images they use for the ads. The woman in the photo isn't available, but the sexual services are, and that's what matters. I'm told that Caucasian clients generally don't repeat their visit. The brothels really are intended for Asian men who speak the same language and have the same cultural expectations. Since people read the ads and assume that what's being offered really does exist even though they don't check to be sure, one effect of these micro-brothels is that they put enormous pressure on independent providers, particularly those new to our industry, to charge significantly lower fees even though they're offering a dramatically different experience. As for whether the workers are being exploited, a lot may depend on definitions. The women do know what they're going to be doing when they come to work. However, since it's not legal to work when on a tourist visa, none of them is here legally. It's difficult to say how much the workers in the brothels know about safer sex practices, about STIs or their risk of infection. We also don't know how much these workers know about their legal rights in relation to sexual assault except that they're unlikely to call the police if there's a problem. Since they're visitors and have little English language skills, they're not likely to be tested or treated for STIs while they're here. About 20-40% of the fee the client pays actually goes to the girl he sees. Compared to what she might earn at home, this is still a significant income. Compared to what independent companions and those who work for reputable agencies earn, it's highway robbery.

This winter has seemed particularly dull, grey and rainy. But the weather is starting to break up. No rain today and there was more blue sky than yesterday. It's still brisk, though not exactly cold. I took the dog for a long walk at English Bay. We had a lovely time. She stopped twice to dig in the sand, but didn't find anything. She will, sometime--we're both sure of that.

I've only had this happen twice and in both cases, I sent the fellow away, ready to book another meeting when he was well. One re-booked, the other was irked that I wouldn't continue the meeting and didn't re-book. I've had quite a few gentlemen cancel meetings because they'd come down with something and I've appreciated their consideration. I don't ask them to pay for the missed session, but about half of them do anyway, especially when they've cancelled on short notice. Quite often, one is contagious before one has symptoms. I accept that as one of the risks involved in being human and relating with others. But to be actively feeling unwell and to expect close, intimate contact with another person just seems inconsiderate and foolish to me.

I've been fascinated by what some would call "ultimate questions" all my life. Things like, What is good and how do we know it? What is bad or wrong and why? Is there a purpose to life, and if there is, what is mine? Who are you and how might I best engage with you? Who and what am I responsible for, and how do I express my responsibility? What does it mean to be a human being? What do all human beings need most in order to live well? These kinds of questions have led me to study a lot of things: literature, art history, anthropology, philosophy, ethics, psychology, modern and ancient religions. (I thought university was an incredible sandbox and I played in it a lot, for a long time.) Being a white, middle class person of northern European descent living in North America and wanting to understand the underpinnings of my own culture, I've studied an enormous amount of Christian theology and history. I'm not religious in any conventional sense. Like many people, I have practices that I follow almost by rote, whether in terms of things I do during the day or at different times of the year. I have ethical and moral principles, too. But I'm very suspicious of organized religion. Religion is about fear. It's about control, often including domination and manipulation. Religions play on human needs for community, for acceptance and security, making these things available to some and rejecting others who don't follow particular practices or state particular beliefs. They empower elites to determine others' worthiness and to manipulate their behaviour, often by employing strategies against or requiring actions of others that are not expected of the elites, or not to the same degree. Even so, many people often find comfort, meaning and purpose from their religion. As far as they are able to engage in things that are life-giving, I don't criticize them. I think that most people are aware of many of the excesses that are possible with some religions, though it's often harder to see the problems associated with our own. I believe in God, though it's not easy to explain or characterize what I believe except to say that, for me, God is ultimate reality, or the ground of being. The thing that connects us to each other and to the cosmos. I like Jesus. He wasn't religious, either. He was more concerned with how people lived and understood their lives than he was with religion per se. I think that he was murdered because he did or said something that upset the religious authorities enough that they turned him over to the Romans who, in turn, executed him. I think we often respond to radically good people the same way. I don't worry about my eternal salvation. I don't give anyone the power to convince me that I'm a bad person. I don't need to be saved from God because I don't believe that God is an angry judge who wants to squash me or anyone else into the ground unless we somehow jolly him into thinking we're good. As for working in the sex trade, well, I notice that most human beings need human contact to be their best human selves. For some people, it's enough to have good social relationships or to engage with others in specific ways. But for most people, without physical contact, including sexual contact, something withers inside them. I don't think that we are intended to be alone. Isolation can occur in the midst of families and between people who have been together for a long time. I'm interested in other people and I'm willing to help address some of these intimate, personal needs. While it's true that most of the men I see are married, and while I recognize that many people consider what my clients and I are doing to be immoral, I see things differently. I have transactional engagements with my clients. They pay me for the time I invest in focusing on them and their needs. I have no interest in upsetting anyone else, especially their partners and families. I'm also not a therapist. What I provide is care and attention that I'm often told is energizing, optimistic and helpful. More men than many people realize say that the time they spend with paid companions actually helps them go home to be better husbands and fathers than they might be otherwise. Of course this isn't true for everyone. Sex can be about a lot of things. Not all of them are noble and some of them can be outright dangerous, destructive and deadly. But we can say the same about other industries, too. Consider, for example, banking....

I think this is very helpful! Thanks for posting it. Personally, I find that it's often better to approach something with curiosity rather than the certainty that I know what's going on. As you pointed out, we don't know each other. Many things contribute to our individual experiences. Not everyone communicates effectively and, sadly, we're sometimes more ready to read things into what someone says than to take the time to understand what they mean. That said, there are many trolls on the 'nets who just enjoy starting things, creating controversy, derailing conversations and breaking communities wherever possible. Sometimes, trolls are easy to identify. But sometimes what seems at first to be troll-like behaviour is simply poor communication based on some false assumptions about the group involved.

I've read the trilogy and, while I don't think it's particularly well-written, what I admire is that these books have brought erotica written by women into the mainstream. It's unfortunate that Christian Grey's proclivities are represented as resulting from a horribly abusive childhood and that he needs somehow to get over what he feels and wants. That hasn't been my experience with people who are involved with BDSM. Ordinary, healthy people can have a lot of fun playing with edges and boundaries.

Happy Birthday, Emma! Wishing you peace, joy and love!

I think that this subject has been addressed very well but I would like to raise one thing that's not exactly germane, but related. Paid companions' ethics and confidentiality are called into question almost as a matter of course. Can a man trust us not to cause problems in his private life? How can he be sure we'll keep his identity a secret? I'm asked these questions all the time. The simple truth is that the one most likely to create a problem is the client. He uses the wrong computer to check his private e-mail account. He leaves a phone number on his cell phone. He records names, telephone numbers and addresses in a paper appointment journal and leaves it lying around. He keeps receipts for meals, hotel rooms, flowers or gifts. He sets up a private credit card or bank account but receives paper statements that are subsequently discovered by his wife, girlfriend or adult child. He saves e-mail and forum posts in word processing files on his computer. I could go on and on about the things that a man can do that may result in being discovered. In short: it's his own actions that reveal what he's up to. When wives, girlfriends and adult children find out that the fellow is seeing one of us, they find out from him, not from us. Every companion I know who has ever been asked by a potential client has readily agreed to sign a non-disclosure agreement but those requests are very few and far between. I've signed exactly one in the last 10 years. One. The confidentiality I extend to that particular man is no more and no less than what I provide to all others who visit me. Unfortunately, paid companions can't expect the same level of security with our clients. Every man who sees us is absolutely certain that he's covered his tracks. Almost none of them has. The ladies here offer a lot of support for one another every time a spouse contacts us. We're in the secrecy business. Confidentiality is non-negotiable as long as we're safe. We never admit that we've seen Mr. Wonderful. There's been a mistake. The caller has a wrong number. Yes, that's my line of work, but I don't know him. I never see men of that age, ethnicity, nationality, political affiliation. I have no idea why he recorded have my name, my website or e-mail address: hundreds of people see that information every day. I wasn't at the restaurant, theatre, yacht. I'm sorry for your distress. I've never met him. I didn't even vote for him/read his book/see that movie. Please don't cry. I can't help you. I hope things work out for you. I understand your anger, but I've never met you before and I've never met him. Please leave. You are not welcome here. I'm sorry you're so upset, but if you don't leave, now, I will call the police. I hope you can get things resolved, but I don't know him.

Absolutely! Gourmet chefs cook at home, too. Librarians read books outside of work. Doctors treat patients all day and attend to their own children's sore throats and sniffles. Bankers and brokers manage their own money. Travel agents take vacations. Construction workers, carpenters, plumbers, landscapers and gardeners usually take care of things at home. My dog trainer's own dogs are wonderful, beautifully trained critters. I dated a chef for a couple of years. While his reputation was for creating amazing dishes based on whatever was fresh in the market that morning, nobody anywhere, anytime, made better meatloaf, mac & cheese, chicken soup or basic breakfast from ordinary ingredients. He knew what he was doing and did it with loving care. I try to do the same.