SamanthaEvans

I don't think that these generalizations apply to most of us, Harrywatch. Speaking for myself, as one who has had more than "many" partners, I have no difficulty whatever enjoying the sex. I often enjoy it a great deal. Perhaps this is because I take time to get to know the men who visit me and to create an atmosphere where we can be comfortable together and our mutual pleasure increased. In fact, I think that time and experience has enhanced my ability to enjoy everything that goes on between us.

MC... we take these threads seriously. Boundaries are very important.

I like LeeRichards. His posts make me smile or laugh every day. Not only that, but he's an expert in the varieties and uses of Croatian Penis Warmers. Ask him about them!

If I had $100.00 for every man who has attempted to get me to accept inaccurate information about the real incidence of STIs and why the risks to my health and well-being are miniscule, I could probably retire happily even in Vancouver's real estate market. In general, most men know almost nothing about STIs and most have never been tested for any of them. While they have usually understood the message about using condoms for vaginal and anal sex in order to avoid HIV/AIDS, they believe that other STIs are easily treated with a course of antibiotics, which is not true. They frequently believe that if someone is free of symptoms, they're free of infection, which is also false. The changes in services don't start with paid companions. We see it in the late spring/early summer every year when the market is inundated with highly inexperienced women, whether tourists from other countries who are actually working for the summer, or whether they're university students who decide to try the sex trade as a way to make money over the summer. The tourists rarely speak English very well, if at all, but are managed by others here who undercut prices and offer services that are usually not available from women who charge higher fees. New companions always attract a lot of attention. The students who speak English are deluged with requests from men who are on the look-out for new ladies. They receive enormous pressure to charge as little as possible and also to provide services that more experienced ladies refuse to offer. The new ladies that refuse to do certain things, such as bareback BJs, will still do well for the first month or so, but once they stop being so new, they will also get fewer requests overall. Supposedly "helpful" prospective clients, pretending to be good guys who only want what's in the ladies' best interests, prey on these women, offering them advice while recommending that they do not make contact with established companions who might give them some support or insights. These fellows claim to know the escort scene very well--some will say they've owned or operated escort agencies in the past or have friends who have worked in the sex trade locally for years. They describe the industry as so cut-throat that women can't trust each other because we're destructively competitive, steal clients and deliberately give newbies dangerous advice so that we can get or keep the best clients for ourselves. Of course, along with all of this brain-washing is the advice that the new companion need only lower her rates and/or offer uncovered services to earn a living. Unfortunately, most new companions are unaware of the kinds of things they should know and where to get the most reliable advice and support when they're just starting out. Many of us believe that the fake concerned clients are not just focused on new companions but are trying to influence the market across the board in the hope that everyone will be forced to reduce their rates and increase the range of options available in order to stay in business. It's a nasty situation. However, there are things that men can do to improve things for everyone. I suggest that men who read this board should always encourage other men only to engage in safe contact for everything. If the men here were to talk about these matters often, at length and loudly with other men and in the posts they make on other boards, they would be doing a great deal for everyone's health and well-being. Challenge the men who insist on bareback contact. Educate them about the risks and why they shouldn't take chances for themselves or advise anyone else to do so. Encourage other men to use condoms every time they masturbate and to discover for themselves how to make using them pleasurable, whether from adding a bit of lube inside the condom or going to a high-end sex toy shop to learn about other ways to increase sensitivity while wearing a condom. It is possible!

For some men, it takes an hour or more. For others, it can work in 20-30 minutes. The difference may be partly the "placebo effect" where we believe so strongly that we're receiving a benefit from the medication that we actually get the hoped-for result even if the medication isn't working or was just a sugar pill. The difference may also be attributed to the differences between individuals. Similarly, the effect of the medication may vary. Two of my clients have lasting, positive results from Viagra for about 12 hours. Most men find that the drug is best for a couple of hours and ineffective beyond that. Cialis seems to be helpful for a day or two, depending on one's vascular health in general, but isn't so helpful if diabetic neuropathy is the cause of his erectile difficulties. Levitra is helpful for many men when diabetes is involved. Sometimes none of these medications works or works reliably, however. There are operations that can help--installing implants, pumps, etc. These are invasive procedures, to say the least, and while they have good outcomes, they're more commonly performed on--and sought by--young men in their 20s and 30s who have lost erectile function because of injury or illness. What I would like men to recognize, though, is that the inability to have or maintain a firm and lasting erection doesn't have to mean the end of one's sex life. Yes, intercourse may no longer be on the menu. However, satisfying orgasms are still possible from manual and oral stimulation and the emotional satisfaction that's part of sexual engagement can be achieved in many, many, many ways that are not limited to intercourse. If men are honest with themselves and with one another, they could recognize that penises are notoriously unreliable appendages. Cultivating a full-body sensuality is often much more satisfying emotionally, physically and spiritually than focusing excessively on one organ or sensation.

Allyson, I have had men ask me to provide Viagra and I have always refused. There are very important reasons for this to be a prescription medication obtainable only through a qualified doctor or nurse practitioner. Viagra influences the performance of the cardio-vascular system which is not something to fool around with under any circumstances. One of my clients had bypass surgery about 18 months ago and was only approved to resume using Viagra a year later, after he'd lost 75 pounds and achieved a particular level of cardiac health and performance. There are several drugs available for treating Erectile Dysfunction (ED). They have different side effects and are of greater or lesser benefit for different people. Levitra, for example, is the one most commonly prescribed for men who have diabetes. Most of my clients are men in their 50s, 60s and 70s and a lot of them take Viagra or one of the other medications. The drugs work very well. If I know that a prospective client will be using one of them I usually ask them not to take it until we're together in person. It takes awhile for the drug to work, but everyone is different. I've found it's best if the man takes it and then we relax together and let things move along naturally. If the man takes the drug before he arrives at my place, we may miss the most optimal time to connect; the results can be disappointing after that. Men who seek an alternate supply of medication for ED need to know that the drug may not be appropriate for them and that what they might receive may not be the drug they need. Off-shore, mail-order pharmacies have been shown to be unreliable about the truth and quality of many of the medications they sell. Some men are reluctant to ask their doctors about medication for ED. Most of them have never told their doctors that they're experiencing erectile difficulties. This is troubling because problems with erectile function may be symptoms of vascular disease, diabetes and other serious, chronic and/or potentially life-threatening conditions. While I understand that men often have difficulty admitting to other men that they have erectile problems, what they need to know is that all men have difficulties sometimes and that their doctors have seen many men who are younger and better-looking than they are who have ED and seek treatment. Asking for this kind of thing is one of the main reasons most men see their general practitioners in the first place. And if a man is worried that his doctor may discuss his ED and his request for treatment with his wife, he needs to find another doctor who he can trust.

Yes! They can be very helpful for this. For men who have problems with premature ejaculation--which is often aggravated by masturbation--using the Fleshlight can help learn to build endurance. I have a client and a friend who both swear by this. Integrating the Fleshlight into play with a partner can help with the transition, too.

Fetishes are the product of our prudish, Calvinist society where anything that gives us pleasure is considered to be sinful and where relinquishing basic human pleasure is the highway to eternal salvation. Someone I know says that "heresy is the revenge of forgotten truth." That is, what we anathematize, deny or reject has a way of coming back to bite us in the hindquarters. What we like, we like. What we want, we want. Desire is not the problem. The problem may be in finding others who share an interest in the things we want to experience. Fortunately, the Internet helps with this. If you like Greek, you will have no difficulty finding others who enjoy it. If you like spanking, there's lots of that, too. If you're interested in feet, in bondage, in hot dripping wax, in being denied orgasm, in being watched, in innovative uses for vegetables, in bathtubs full of jello... you can find it. Just make sure that the other party or parties involved are adults capable of making a conscious, informed choice and offering enthusiastic consent.

The simple answer is, Yes, it's worth it, or it can be worth it. I'm glad that you appreciate Cat's wisdom. She knows what she's talking about. One of the things she says is that "little girls don't say they want to be prostitutes when they grow up." Most women who enter the sex trade do so because something has gone wrong in their lives and they have a sudden, very urgent need to make a considerable amount of money very quickly. It could be that a relationship has ended and they need to pay a lawyer to help them continue to have custody of their children. It could be that someone has tricked them, stolen from them or harmed them in some way. It could be that someone else in their life has become ill suddenly or needs help, support, shelter.... And yes, sometimes the woman has acquired a considerable debt whether through her own mistakes or because she trusted someone else too much. There are many, many reasons. Most of these same women leave the business within about six months. Few stay for more than a year. In my own, rarely-humble opinion, a lot of those who work longer would be better off doing something else because most women are just not equipped, emotionally or psychologically, to be on close, intimate terms with many men in a month, a year or a lifetime. That they need to make this choice always costs them something that may be hard to identify at first, but it's there. Anyone who has to spend a lot of time being suspicious of other people, questioning every motive and accepting that the majority of the people she meets are engaging with her solely out of self-interest while doing their best not to be honest with her, is also going to learn not to be very trusting of anyone. Anyone who has to have a secret life carries an enormous vulnerability, too, and no matter how well-disguised that vulnerability may be, it is never divorced from realistic fear. But the women who get what they need out of our line of work and then either quit working because they can afford to do something else, or continue working because they've found a way to position themselves and build the kind of business they can honestly enjoy--for them, this is a worthwhile profession. There's a lot to be said for having the opportunity to meet a wide variety of people and to know them at a deep level. To be present to another's weaknesses, sensitivities and vulnerabilities is an honour. To have others' confidence and trust is a fine, fine thing. Most of us are kind, empathetic women who enjoy taking care of others and who find satisfaction in feeling that we've made a positive contribution to someone else, even for an hour or two. These intangible things are hard to find in any line of work. So, there's the satisfaction that comes from having survived, from having achieved something very important and from having contact with other human beings who are as messed-up and flawed as we are and who are also worthwhile, funny and engaging creatures.

I get this question, too, but, like Phantom, I assume it's the influence of US TV. I usually give the guy a link to a description of the laws in Canada, and let it go. Sometimes, I've said, "No, I'm not a cop. But some of my clients are." :icon_lol:

Recommendations and reviews can only give so much information. They can tell you that Mr. X enjoyed his time with the paid companion and would gladly return. But there's no guarantee that Mr. Y or Mr. Z will feel the same way. Sometimes the two parties "click" very well, and sometimes they don't, through no fault of the client or the companion. Mr. Y may be able to describe what he wants when he sends e-mail, but have a hard time discussing sexual things when he's face-to-face with the companion and her comfort and encouragement may not help him feel more confident. It's possible that Mr. Z may have had unrealistic expectations about the encounter, about the companion or even about his own performance. This is likely to be the case if his interaction with the lady has been limited to finding out if she's available at a particular time on a certain date but has s said nothing about what has led him to contact her, specifically. I hope that all gentlemen understand that telling us we're beautiful is meaningless! If the thing that prompted him to contact her was that he loved an outfit she was wearing in a photograph, because sailor suits or sheer lace or body paint bring up cherished memories or private fantasies he's never shared with anyone, believe me, the lady would very, very much appreciate knowing it! If he likes some things she's written here, or something she's described on her website because it made him think or made him laugh or he learned something new, she'd like to know that, too. I always urge people to take negative reviews with a pound of salt. Far too many of the negative reviews are written by men who have a hostile agenda. Check the other posts they've made and notice how often they say the same kinds of things about many ladies. Notice, too, how often they may write bad reviews about particular kinds of companions who don't meet their dream ideal. You might wonder why, if he has a strong preference for ladies in their early 20s, he went to see Ms. Q knowing that she's is in her 40s or why, if he prefers busty ladies he chose someone with small breasts. Boards go through mood cycles, too. Saying unkind things about curvy women and BBWs has had an up-surge in popularity recently. While there are plenty of men who prefer these women over the others, a wave of negativity discourages anyone from posting positive reviews about those ladies. After a couple of months have gone by, the hostility may be focused on women who are well-groomed but don't shave or wax, or on women with tattoos, or women whose English isn't perfect, or women over 35. If a companion has been well-reviewed many times but the reviews seem to have been negative recently, accept that negativity with great caution! There have been a number of successful campaigns launched against highly esteemed companions simply because they have such good reputations on those boards and someone has decided it's time to bring them down a few pegs. Some women have been driven out of business by concerted attacks of this kind launched by a small group of men or by one or two people who use multiple accounts to post multiple negative reviews. These men's real complaints are usually that the lady in question declined to meet with them for reasons of her own or that they think her fees are too high and couldn't get her to reduce them. And, as was pointed out, above, since those other boards don't monitor multiple accounts, sometimes other ladies also form shill accounts in order to disparage the women they consider to be their competition. The best way to find the paid companion whose company you will enjoy most is to take some time, do some homework, and exchange some thoughtful messages with the ones who interest you. Be clear and specific about your interests and preferences. If you have particular boundaries, please say so at the beginning! For example, my home is an inappropriate place for someone to visit if they have a severe allergy to cats. I mention pets on my website, but I'm not upset if a prospective client has overlooked the information. By all means, tell me that you have an allergy and I will either decline the meeting or suggest another venue.

They're not official brothels, and they're usually temporary. In the Lower Mainland, here, they're usually houses which have been rented for a few months and are part of a network. The Asian SPs work in them for a few days, a few weeks or a few months and then go on to another in another part of the Lower Mainland, the province or elsewhere in Canada. The proprietors have learned that there's only so much high-traffic that any neighbourhood can tolerate, so they move around.

Th'immortal bard dearly loved the lasses, 'tis true! But while many will gladly give the man a toast tonight, and some may be fortunate enough to hear the pipes accompanying the noble haggis into a banquet hall, I must report, sadly, that so far my offer to give a significant discount to any kilt-wearing man has received . . . no takers. Nada! My additional enticement directed to pipers and drummers? No better luck, either. What is this world coming to? Had we never lov'd sae kindly, Had we never lov'd sae blindly! Never met--or never parted, We had ne'er been broken-hearted . . . . --R. Burns, "Ae Fond Kiss"

Dear friend, FedEx says that they are unable to deliver the package of exquisite, delicately-peeled grapes I sent because your address has exceeded its maximum number of deliveries allowed, not just for today, but for the week. Furthermore, mine is apparently not the only parcel being held. It appears that you may have maxxed out the number of deliveries you're permitted for all of January. :icon_sad:

Have a lot of fun!

I enjoy having a brief conversation with a prospective client. Voice-to-voice contact provides a lot of subtle information and usually helps make the connection personal. My preference is to have a couple of options for a safe time to call him because if I'm the one making the call, I don't take the risk of having him call me over and over again or late at night, which sometimes happens with people with whom I've never spoken. The conversations are rarely more than 5 minutes long.

I'm so glad that you're able to make this trip. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, RG. Safe travels!

If you use hotel rooms as incall locations, your best bet is to use only four- and five-star hotels. They will safeguard your privacy and, by extension, that of your visitors. Frivolous complaints are not looked upon favourably by the management. So, if someone were to go to, say, the Fairmont Hotel Vancouver and say that Samantha Evans is a prostitute and is using a room on the 8th floor to entertain clients, the hotel would look at the register and discover that Samantha Evans is not registered there. Has never been registered there, in fact. No one could produce an ad where she's purported to say that she's entertaining this evening at that establishment because she would never publish such a thing in an ad of her own. If someone were to produce a post from one of the other -erb boards where some helpful person noted that she's working at that particular hotel, it's still meaningless and the hotel isn't going to investigate unless there's a bigger problem. If Samantha or her guests are causing a disturbance, making a lot of noise late at night or something like that, the hotel will be concerned. They will call the room or go to the door and say that there's a complaint about noise, or whatever. People stay in hotels all the time. People take hotel rooms in the cities where they live, too. They use them to meet illicit lovers, which is perfectly legal. It's also legal to entertain a guest in a hotel room. The difficulty is when a lady entertains a sequence of male guests and that information becomes known to the hotel management. The hotel is entitled to ask anyone to leave, for any reason. Innkeeper's Acts are provincial legislation. They basically outline the terms under which an Innkeeper can ask someone to leave the premises, and those terms generally cover as wide a range as possible. It would never be a smart thing to argue with a hotel manager who asks you to leave. Seriously, though, a client is not going to report a prostitute to the hotel management because they would be implicated in anything that happens after that: anonymous complaints don't get very far. A trouble-maker may report someone to the police, but they will also have to give their personal information to the police when they do that. Then the police will have to decide whether they want to take action. If they do, they basically take a room across the hall or next door to the working lady and keep track of the traffic going in and coming out of her room. They may attempt to interview some of her guests, most of whom will not be willing to cooperate because of their own fears of exposure. It's a long, drawn-out and expensive thing for the police to be involved in and it's likely to upset other hotel guests on the same floor, so the large, 4- and 5-star hotels don't encourage it. But if you go to a No-Tell Motel... all bets are off! Your privacy and your visitors' privacy are not as secure.

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If you're interested in an ongoing, contractual or retainer-type relationship, I think you've come to the right place. What you can expect from the arrangement will, frankly, depend on what you can afford to pay. Most of us are doing what we do in order to make a living. Some work part-time because their other line of work doesn't bring in enough income. It's rare to find someone who is really only working to pay for occasional luxuries. Please recognize that sexual monogamy is likely to be very expensive. Asking the woman to give up having an intimate, emotionally-engaged relationship with someone else is a big demand to make on a woman in her 20s. Since you're only wanting something that might last a year or two, presumably because you either don't want a permanent relationship or because you already have one and just want to supplement your needs and interests, the woman you find would still be giving up a disproportionate amount of time and opportunity in her own life. However, this might be acceptable to someone who's in grad school, for example, and determined to focus mostly on her studies or writing her dissertation. If you're imagining that someone who isn't already a paid companion is more likely to be infection-free, please do your homework. The notion that prostitutes who don't work on the streets are a source of disease is not only a blatant stereotype, it's simply false. You are far more likely to contract an infection from a sweet college girl who's only had a couple of boyfriends or from a lovely lady you've met in a bar or on a dating site than you would from one of us. That's because we know that every man, regardless of age, ethnicity or financial profile, whether he's a client or a genuine boyfriend, is a potential source of infection. We take steps to safeguard our health accordingly. In the end, the only person's health care anyone is responsible for is their own. Consider carefully exactly what kind of financial investment you're able to make. Can you, for example, pay for someone's rent? Or are you thinking more along the lines of her university tuition, per term (which would usually be somewhat less than rent)? Are you able to cover all of her living expenses, which would be about two to two and a half times her monthly rent? Or are you simply wanting to be sure that you have first-call on her time for a couple of hours every Tuesday but want to get a discount on her hourly rate? Any of these arrangements could work out well. Just make sure each of you is very clear about what to expect. How do you plan to pay your sugar baby? Cash is king, but you may prefer to arrange for regular electronic bank transfers. Some people provide reloadable credit cards. Arranging for an auto lease is not uncommon. Whatever plan you come up with, how do you expect to safeguard things on your side? Do you have a completely private bank account, for example, with no risk of anyone else knowing about your deposits and withdrawals? What I'm trying to say is: if you have a wife or partner, how will you ensure that she doesn't find out what you're doing? I ask because I'm dedicated to ensuring that women in this industry are safe; I can't encourage you to put someone's security at risk because you overlooked the possibility of being discovered by your intimate partner, employer or secretary. Think about the kind of woman you want to be with. I understand that you're interested in someone who's young and beautiful. That's not a problem. But surely you want someone you can actually enjoy, as a person. Someone with whom you may have interests in common. Someone for whom you can actually care, and who will also develop real affection and regard for you would be ideal because you both need a significant level of trust if this arrangement is going to work out well. However, if you want a situation in which there will be little to no emotional involvement, you may be better off with a roster of companions, seeing one on the first Wednesday of the month, another on the second Wednesday, and so on. Do know that we can become quite fond of monthly regulars, though. I have a couple of those whom I've seen for several years and for whom I care a great deal. Please also consider how long you want the arrangement to last and how either of you will end it. You might enter into something that's intended to last for six months, an academic year or a full calendar year, for example. Or you might want to keep things more open and simply guarantee that you will give at least one or two months' notice before ending your financial commitment so that your companion has a reasonable opportunity to make other arrangements. I hope you will be more relaxed about what you would require of her if or when she decides that the arrangement needs to change or come to an end. I think I can safely say that the great majority of women on this board are interested in quality engagements with kind, respectful and caring men who value us as individuals. The number of paid companions who genuinely want to see 10-15 or more clients per week is miniscule. We all value returning clients and those of us who have a number of ongoing, regular clients consider ourselves to be blessed. Sugar daddy arrangements and Mistress-type relationships can work very well if they're undertaken thoughtfully. I hope you find what you're looking for.

I just wanted to add a note which the article doesn't. Gonorrhea is transmissible through unprotected oral sex as well as unprotected vaginal and anal contact. I think this should be publicized everywhere possible. The ladies have noted that pressure to offer unprotected oral contact has been increasing dramatically. Men who are intent on receiving this kind of service believe the risks to us are negligible but that hasn't been true for a long time, given the increase of syphilis across the country. The addition of this antibiotic-resistant strain of gonorrhea makes unprotected oral sex high-risk for everyone.

We have an absolutely fantastic standard poodle on a foster agreement with a fantastic breeder. She's been with us since she was a puppy. We've agreed that she may have two litters of puppies and then the breeder will have her spayed and she'll spend the rest of her life as a pet with us. She went into heat on Dec. 30 and went to the breeder the next day. She and the male dog have become great friends, apparently, and mated for the first time last night. They'll have another encounter or two and then she'll come home on Monday. She goes back to the breeder to have the pups and stays there until they're about 6 weeks old, and then she comes home until next time, in another year or so. The breeder is very impressed with our dog, how well-socialized and easy-going she is. She asked me if we'd be interested in having one of the puppies if she decides to keep one for her breeding program later on. Well, gosh.... who doesn't love puppies? So, it looks like our girl will have her pups in the 2nd week of March and that we'll have a new puppy in our house in early-to-mid May. I need to learn how to do the grooming myself... two shaggy poodles!

Thinking of you and your family, RG, and wishing for peace and trust for everyone. We haven't been able to meet in person, yet, but I'm confident that your warmth, generosity and compassion are even greater in person than they are online. I'm sure your father is proud that you're his son.

Tonyb, it's only appropriate to speak about our individual, personal experiences, so it's unlikely that you'll get meaningful replies to your queries. Moreover, this is personal information that many people would not want to disclose to strangers on a public forum. If you're interested in convictions related to prostitution, keeping a bawdy house and so on, you might search the Canadian Legal Information Institute database which provides links to judgments that have been made in the provincial courts and the Supreme Court of Canada.

I had a problem with a former client who was stalking me. About 18 months ago, I reported him to the police. They were terrific, all the way. What this means is that the police know who I am. They have my real name and my address. They know what I do and that I've been working privately for years. They were explicit: they're not concerned about anything other than my personal safety. I have as much right as anyone else to be protected from someone who is behaving maliciously, and since I was able to demonstrate that I had been clear and emphatic that I didn't want to hear from the guy again, they believed me 100%. My profession was immaterial. There's very little political will in Vancouver to do anything about independent escorts who work much as I do. If no one complains, there's no problem. It's not worth the time and the cost that it would take for the police to investigate women like me. The big problems are happening with one or two agencies and the Asian micro-brothels.