SMYLEE52

We usually pass judgement based on our personal experiences and thankfully there are forums like this where people can share their personal experiences and hopefully enlighten us on the broader truths of daily living . My personal experiences is now taking me through the second divorce of close friends of mine, in 2009 , due to infidelity . My sense is that monogamy is the preferred state for most couples because it is much easier to deal with then the threat and rise of insecurities when your SO doesn't find you adequate in satisfying their sexual needs . People I know don't forgive the betrayal of sleeping with someone else . No grey area . What you so casually refer to as exploring open situations is the ultimate betrayal in my world . Not saying it's right or wrong but if you get involved with someone in this mindset there are very serious consequences and devastating repercussions to betrayal . To some people it isn't "just sex" . It's seems like it is almost a large part of their worth as a human being . Bars are filled with people who feel worthless because a different dick was sucked or pussy fucked . Just to put things in perspective there are guys on this sight who do believe in monogamy and can pursue the hobby without being hypocrites . If they are not in a committed relationship then there is no double standard . Some of us are not comfortable with the idea of being in a committed relationship and sneaking around so we date casually and enjoy the charms of the young ladies :wink: . Some guys have had long lasting monogamous relationships end for many different reasons and discovered the freedom , versatility , fun and affordability of the sex trade . We are all different but we are certainly not all living a double standard . Can't judge a hobbyist by his hard on :shock:

. The age old monogamy question . Of course the attractive woman , who have no shortage of attractive suitors feel that monogamy is unnatural . However I am pretty sure that the less than attractive ladies don't share that opinion because they have a lot more to lose . I think when people speak on this subject they should confine themselves to what is right for them and not generalize that it is right for all or even most people . It would be surprising and hypocritical to hear a sex worker come out in favor of monogamy .

. It's the SP's job to manage the time without the client being aware the clock is being watched . Professional SP's can move along the activities and get a client out in time . Should the client be slow at leaving then you need to develop tactful "bye now see you again skills " .