Annessa

Bait and Switch....although I'm not sure how it relates to what we're discussing

Ouh fun! Great idea! I hope I can make this one...its my birthday the night before so hopefully I will be in ok shape by the next night, lol ;)

'say something" as she said.....I can say (while not potentially reflecting her intentions) might have been due to an expression on your face.....or the worse and hopefully not the case someone who is just not that great at pillow-talk and is forwardly asking you to get the ball rolling... in my experience a true provider wont put the pressure on you to engage the ice-breakers of pillow-talk...but I can understand the potential *poke*...so to say... there have been many times where i have caught an expression in a client's eyes...a downwards gaze..maybe a look of guilt.....my phrase is generally "what is that mind of your's thinking?" or..."is everything ok?" I personally will say and i would think (out of online and personal experience) that many SPs dont say things like what you said *in hopes for any client to say they love them.* that is definitely reading too far between the lines.....and you REALLY need to know your provider better and for longer to even consider this as an interpretation. Being with a great SP who is honest and loves her job and is willing to be honest with you should not make you have to question "paid fantasy" and bring "in real life" into the picture. the fact that you have described your relationship and then given your head a shake and said 'I know that in 'real life' x happens...".....you have to decide...are you in a fantasy (2-meetings?) with this woman or are you appreciating her as someone that belongs in your 'real life"......or are they crossing over and that is your dilemma? I'm not saying your provider is fishing.....I definitely think shes not, but I think the only proper answer you can gain is not by asking us all (who know nothing of your relationship) but by asking her personally "what did you mean when you looked into my eyes and said...?" There is the only place you will find your honest answer...every provider is different...and this girl could be one in a million who looks deep into your eyes and wants to know your thoughts because she wants to know if you love her. all I'm saying is the only way to know is to ask her yourself. good luck. xoxo

oh no need to worry BL, I was just clarifying where the most accurate shots could be found...I deleted my old album due to it being linked off-site by someone in my personal and non-industry life... then i realized that many of those pics are from a shoot in 2006 (just before i entered the business and was living off of a student eating lifestyle and biked everwhere due to not having a car...lol).. *a light bulb went off* I thought, probably best to start anew with new pics! being lighter before was great...but in gaining 30 lbs (110 to 140 for a gal who was 5'8") my breasts went from a concave 34A to voluptuous 38B (or 34C depending on the bra). I am much happier with more meat on my bones (and chest, lol) and in all the right places...so saying that I have more cushioning than my older pics is OK!....its true. Taking yourself for surf n Turf ever week will do that! hehe That being said, I feel way more confident that my new pics reflect me honestly so that no-one is disappointed ;-) my post definitely wasn't in retort.....just directing ppl to the most recent pics....more to come BTW! yay! :-)

haha awesome! "look again...those tickets are now beers!"

I once received a $250 HBC gift card from a client...I thought it was extremely thought ful as i could use it at The Bay, Zellers, Home sense etc.... That pretty much covers all the bases....clothing, house-wares, music...and anything under the sun, lol the idea about putting the gift-card IN something is a fabulous one :-)

for the best and most recent photos see my latest album here in my profile, as all pictures were taken last month. I dont have any more cushioning then those ones ;-)

this one takes some build up time...but... a few days before the day you want to hobby fake a really bad tooth ache.... the day of say that a friend recommended his dentist as hes cheaper (she'll appreciate the cost-cutting and this takes away from her potentially asking your family dentist, if you share one, if you actually did come in) say you went to that dentist and he found a really small but deep cavity....bonus points if you fake your mouth being numb and request soup instead of your regular dinner...who knows, you might even get babied by your SO later ;-)

no, no actual parlor was mentioned, but the intention does seem to put it out there for others to inquire about it. Just seems over the top for an initial posting from a new SP (who doesnt seem to want to promote herself, just post about this parlor). either way I will continue the convo in the appropriate area. Just my two cents.

seriously...I wouldnt even entertain this question. Especially after all the threads you've posted within he last 24 hours that are more than disgustingly offensive. this one doesn't stray far...if you have so many friends who are SPs with their real names and MSNs...good for you....please go entertain them with your rudeness privately and keep the negativity off the board.

^^ well said mod. many members will back-talk a lady if she takes risks towards her sexual health...the fact that you are turned off because an SP is being safe god-damn floors me. Every woman has her own health-safety measures...be it holding a condom etc etc.....if it turns you off then not only do you not respect her health, but dont care about your own if condom safety is a deal-breaker for you. also if you are trying to call out a lady on here for what you stated, you are only doing her a favor as calling her out as being one who practices safe sessions...and making yourself look like an risk-taker and flat out idiot for not appreciating that. jeezus.....

interesting indeed WIT, lol. sounds like a disgruntled massage-customer creating an account as a massage provider after seeing that. ;-)

I think in general everyone is under review until they have 5 posts or have juuuust joined the site and not been moderated yet. according to her guestbook page she has sent numerous pics to members...but why not post them on here if they're legit. I dunno.......I'm really sensing a bogus review here and private photos to pull strings. Lets wait for the first recommendation......still no ad-posts as of yet. not sure what the OPs intentions were for joining the site but I have an ill feeling that its not what the gents are hoping for ;-)

nope, I checked when I was seeing how many posts she had....it was under review at the time of her initial post.

all very good points. Especially the one about "if you wouldnt put it in your mouth, dont rub it on your body". My best friend is registered in neuropathology and swears by this, so I agree, if I'm allergic to crisco, I probably would have been exposed to it if I'm in my 20's and know not to rub it all over myself and a client MY main point however in this thread is when I joined as an SP on this board, my first notion was to post an ad........not call out a faulty agency. just sayin..... this posts reminds me of when I used to work for a restaurant review website...and numerous new account were created to give faulty "reviews" as "members" that were really other competing restaurants. No doubt this post beggs for other members to PM them with dirt on who exactly this Bank street locale was. it rubbs me the wrong way. if it were a client posting a bad experience it might have made more sense.....but an SPs first post to the boards? Call me crazy but I think we should wait for a couple reviews on their experiences with said imaginary lady from solid members before this one gets taken seriously. *taps foot...* This should be interesting.... Like I said before, if you have extreme allergies...probably best to think twice before lathering yourself up with an unknown substance and blaming it on the establishment. I always ask before using oils/lubricants on my clients if they have any allergies that they're aware of. I hope (even though I sense this thread was posted in haste) that it is a great eye opener to people that have cosmetic allergies.

while I'm not doubting anyone to have an unfortunate allergic reaction to vegetable oil... Does anyone else find it strange that someone joined recently and their only post was about this bad experience as if to call out a local massage parlour's business practices? gents and working ladies, if you have allergies, its best to probably bring your own lubes instead of being sent to the hospital for a severe reaction to something that could be found in your common harmless vegetable oil. ....if you had a severe allergy that sent you to the hospital why would you not be cautious and use your own products OP? If you found out that this is a common practice in parlours in Ottawa then why the need to call out on particular Bank street location? Why not just wise up and use you own lube if you have a life-threatening allergy instead of asking everyone if they've had the same experience....just seems a little odd. Yes it is shocking, but if its common practice as you said in places in Ottawa then the lesson you should be trying to give to everyone is to bring their own $5 lube bottle.....and lose the risk of their allergies sending them to to hospital...Not calling out a particular parlour for their classless business practices. (and yes i realize I'm going to get flack for this but I dont see the original post as being helpful or informative...but rather spiteful. The ideal post should probably mention the dangers of not taking your allergies into consideration in the industry.....minus blaming others)

After reading many replied in here to this thread, I think we all could try and educate many on the reasons we dont want to give our exact heritages out to strangers (as has been done many times already in this thread) BUT in the end all we have to do is decide that if our culture is the main reason a member books us or doesnt book us, then he is not worth our time if we dont want to be perceived as a stereotypical race. that is, if we want to be appreciated for more than just the stereotype of the physical attributes that may accompany our heritage, then dont let the others bother you. In the end, it will be their loss for choosing not to see you via trying to base you on your cultural image and not what it has to offer. Like a few members mentioned, those that want to book based on all our other great attributes might be more what we are searching for....the rest may find their ideal "___insert certain race___" and realize they may have to be less racially picky in the future if they are unsatisfied with their experience. In the end its their money, let them waste it if they decide your racial discretion is a deal-breaker.

I dont think we should pick on the word phobia....dont worry Isabella, I'm still sticking up for you, I just think Jabba meant "morals against" when he was referring to east indian girls etc... however I dont think paranoia was an appropriate choice of words for that type of situation...in some cultures, being a prostitute is not only frowned upon in some cultures a lady can be stoned to death for having sex (or even having a boyfriend against the parent's arrangement) before marriage.....imagine if she was found out to be a prostitute! These cultures do exist in cities in Canada and are featured in the news occasionally. mercy killings, murder/suicides. Sometimes we like to think that because we live in North America these ladies are safe. Some are not. just because we belong to this community does not mean that some are shielded from their family's cultural morals. I heard a couple years ago a story about a son guilty of killing his own sister with the family's permission because he heard that she wanted to elope with her boyfriend. He was sure he had done no wrong....this happened in Canada...not across the globe somewhere. its not about being torn between cultures....its about keeping a part of ourselves sacred. Maybe not the ladies in this thread but Some ladies have too much to lose. I really hope this changes someday. Thats all I have to say about cultural "paranoia"...back to the rest of the topic, sorry if that was derailment of any type

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Thanks Charlotte, thought I was going crazy for a moment. definitely a private area would be beneficial to all.....but if a bunch of gents could organize and arrange/pay for a discreet venue I'm sure many members and ladies would be more at ease....neutral is fine but if public, expect smaller numbers. Charlotte raises a great viewpoint as to why using another establishment for another company might be an intrusion on their site politics. :-)

I had an arrangement once where the lady of the couple wanted to meet first for coffee first to give the final go-ahead. once all went well she arranged for a 2-hour session and i brought some wine with me and we all chatted over a couple drinks before things began....all I can say however was that it was much less pressure on my behalf and much less pressure on her's that we met prior to her introducing me to her man and eventually having a wonderful session :-) I will also add that in that case it felt less like meeting two strangers or two strangers meeting me...but more like the wife was introducing a friend to her husband for playtime....probably something that was a fantasy of his as well Additional Comments: I will also note that for my coffee-date with the wife I was honored my social-fee for the hour.

what a wonderful treat to spend your birthday with not only a lovely lady..but the lovely Soleil! as the french say : you will wake by the sunshine (soleil!) :-) Happy Birthday to you!

Thank you for posting this ED, it is a true step towards positivity. Having heard of many rumors about myself brought on by Gents and SPs no longer on this site I can attest that rumors are indeed poisonous. And in many cases slander towards a business some of us have worked hard on keeping drama-free. I am also very straight-up in defending any gent improperly convicted that one bad word against him due to something minor or gossip-worthy is something that shouldnt define them for future reference. I encourage anyone who has a backbone to ASK before ASSUMING. you dont have to say where you heard the gossip from...but inevitably its the people who ask before making up their own minds due to rumors who are the real adults in any scene....and will be rewarded as such. I am tempted to say more of my involvements with people spreading rumors about myself, as many have come to light recently....but all one can do is "suck it up" and feel sad for anyone believing rumors.... in the end it doesn't matter who believes what (as those are the people you dont need to worry about if they decide based on following the clan)....all anyone can do is keep being themselves. The rest are missing out. I had a couple clients I used to see and stopped seeing because half the session was spent gossiping about cerb drama or another SP who was my friend...very uncomfortable. On the same note i know several SPs who have bashed me to clients that have bashed them to me in private.....why do people do this? All I can do is question people's motives when I hear about their "inside scoop"...Why cant we all exist in this amazing community without putting ourselves above others? for those who hear something and believe it despite knowing someone....Lets all take a moment to second-guess whether the "juicy gossip" is worth passing on and ruining a person's business as an escort or a gents life as a hobbiest.

agreed. for many nationalities, there is an equally small community in their region that they may be a part of. I got into a dispute with a gent in chat once where he was grilling me as to how half-asian I was...what sort of asian was I?...the whole convo got very intrusive and I ended up telling him that i wasn't comfortable being demanded info upfront......he ended up admitting that he wanted a fully korean girl...ok well I'm not that, so why didnt you ask for that eh? I ended up being tagged as a snob for not giving up that info. dont worry...no tears were shed on my part. the asian community that I am a part of is very small and very tight in Ottawa....I attend many of their functions and we are all a family to a certain extent. however just because I am not Chinese or japonese mix etc....I find many need to question exactly what IS my mix.......thats a part of my family history that I will share with you when we meet if I am comfortable. however having gone to our yearly summer picnic and having a random guy stare me and Carrie moon down and then confronting me about knowing who she was I can only say that we keep our nationalities and our whereabouts secret for a good reason Dont expect a lady to divulge her heritage to you right off the batt...especially without meeting you or being comfortable with you.....ottawa is small....and "its a small world after all" sometimes is an understatement.

is it just me or is my mouth watering at the sight of those truffles?? HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHANEL! Have a beautiful weekend! :-)