Annessa

I pet my big fluffy orange cat and played with him for a good half hour tonight. it made me happy and definitely took my brain off things. Theres something about being in the presence of another person or animal thats relaxed and feeling good....the feeling it contagious :-) (and no dirty jokes as to me petting my pussy and what that means lol)

welcome to Cerb! :-) enjoy your stay!

there are a couple times that I have thopught about putting an "out of office" automatic reply on my email, this might be a way to get people to call instead of email. however that still wont do anything for the PMs on cerb...which tend to be where I get most of my last minute requests...people see a response or an ad, go straight to the profile and send a message instead of looking at the girl's ad etc..

i love going up on a beautiful weekend to the cottage and bringing something with me crafty...like a canvas that I haven't touched in a while ..or a purse that needs some sewing....doing crafty things takes my mind off of things. lately I've been putting together IKEA stuff while watching a movie....or taking old wood furniture to the back-yard to spray a new coat of paint on it

not only that but just because we dont answer the ohone does not necesarily mean we're with a client. I had a client once call and mention once I had methim that he had tried to get in touch with me but never left a message because he wanted to be the first person he saw that day and because I wasn't able to answer the phone he assumed I was with a client. I do not answer the phone when I am driving/at my paren't house/picking up my kid from daycare etc. we all have outside lives that kep us from our computer/phone. LEAVE A MESSAGE! lol re: the origional post: I agree, it is so frustrating to return home getting messages in the inbox about last minute appointments. Sunday night I returned to two messages from a possible client. the first message was asking for a last minute appointment...the secont was from the same client saying "silly me I guess I could phone you....." and then went on to make the same request appologizing for the late notice" but did he call? even after acknowledging that he could? nope.... this is why on my ad I specifically say "for same-day requests please call". And usually the comment comes right before my phone number. I am always very quick to point this put when I respond to the person. generally I never hear from them again when I do. Their loss.

hahaa yes I remember that part in U2s "Bad" that went "oooouh OOOOOUH!...oooouh OOOOUUUH.....OOOOOooooooouuuuuuhhhhh!" Sarah and I were giggling uncontrollably going "Oeeeeuuh! Ouuuueeeh!" hehe

I made a couple snackies after being inspired by the Hilton's lounge-snacks this past Toronto tour... they were these little tuna salad crackers...the twist was curry powder or paste mixed into the mayo, tuna and onions...top it on a cracker and top with a roasted red-pepper slice. looks pretty and tastes yummy....puts a new twist opn tuna salad. In my recipe I added a little bit of turmeric (indian saffron) ....but then again, I add turmeric to everything these days, lol Additional Comments: I made a couple snackies after being inspired by the Hilton's lounge-snacks this past Toronto tour... they were these little tuna salad crackers...the twist was curry powder or paste mixed into the mayo, tuna and onions...top it on a cracker and top with a roasted red-pepper slice. looks pretty and tastes yummy....puts a new twist opn tuna salad. In my recipe I added a little bit of turmeric (indian saffron) ....but then again, I add turmeric to everything these days, lol

I find the wine works better than balsamic, I'm was having a fruit-fly invasion too and after I removed any fruit or dirty dishes they only gathered in clusters by my shelves.....this was when I read an article saying that using hairspray on the live ones pretty much killed grounded them instantly. it worked! I just sprayed it on the ones that were clouding by my sink and boom! the hairspray would stick to their wings making them unable to fly and they'd fall...then you just take a disposable wipe and wipe them up and put them in the garbage. I find its less yucky if you use a hairspray that smells really good like Herbal Essence ;-) I also find that the wine-bottle trick works well too coz they have a hard time getting out after even having *some* wine.........drunk flies, lol good luck!

haha...in that case I'll start the bidding on Criss Angel. I'm sure having a hawtie illusionist-slave would be super convenient ;-) hehe

This was really well put, I dont think I see any lady in this thread who has offered her opinion trying to make you look bad and if it has been misinterpreted as that then I would recommend taking a deep breath and a step back from your computer. I understand you may feel in a corner however Bethany is correct, this is a site where we are all here to learn from one another and we are all offering how we each as individuals conduct ourselves in the situation you showed. No one is saying "I'm right and you're wrong" yadda yadda......but an open discussion has lead to us asking u to see both sides of the coin. No one is judging you or trying to make you look bad....just asking you to put yourselves in our shoes. No one in here has said she refuses to see you but if you dont want to see people based on assuming that, then thats your choice.

see i find this not so much a sign of a learning experience on your part now. You are picking who you want to see now (or dont) by judging how people conduct themselves in opinion..based on what they have conveyed in type.....yet you dont think that someone else should get annoyed at you when they judge you by past conversations? seems a little double standard-ish dont u think? just sayin. sidenote: for the person who had the observations about meg advertising herself.......um..this is a recommendation board where the gals are allowed to advertise themselves however they choose, how ever often they choose etc. saying that anyone advertises themselves a lot on here is kind of like saying the sky is blue. :-)

for me personally, the first would be answered before the 2nd would. however in both cases you have said more than one sentence and expressed the desire to see the lady. not just said "hi how are you?" after speaking with the lady that this thread is about I will say that there is definitely more to the story than the OP has admitted and previous conversations had been already allowed when in turn he didnt end up booking after all. I dont know if this is saying too much, but I respect now knowing more to the story that this was not a random act of rudeness nor the way that this SP responds to initial messages. we dont like to have our time wasted..end of story. if the OP had expressed that he was interested and finally had the funds to see her in his original message rather than trying to start off by chatting again I'm sure the outcome would have been much different. I would hope this a lesson learned on his behalf.

for the ladies, carrie moon for her ""what you see is what you get contributions" and Kyrato for her eloquent posts and tasteful way of representing herself. for the gents, Old Dog for always bringing a bright and humorous note to any thread :-)

very well put Speedstick, I have to say though that being blunt and being rude sometimes are confused and I think that all the lady in question was doing was trying to explain *why* she does things this way....probably could have dealt without the "thats baloney.." part, but personally I think if she really wanted her reputation slaughtered she could have done a lot worse, lol. a good point about chat being a convenient time to say "hi whats up?". sometimes I have received a couple one line messages....i didnt end up replying and if I did I would say, I'm sorry but if you have a request, fine...but I am not by my computer to answer 24/7...this is what chat is for" i get one message: "Hi are you around" I reply saying "yes" thinking maybe hes looking for my availability he replies saying: "oh hello, how are you this evening?" I reply simply "good" didnt hear back at all so decided to go about my evening (away from the computer) I came back later to another message that was sent 2 hours later saying "well I'm looking for an outcall and I love your pics, could we meet tonight at my place around 10pm? please let me know" umm.....if you needed to make a booking why not mention it right off the bat? One liner emails IMO deserve one-liner replies. I'm not wiling to put any more effort into my messages than the client messaging me is willing to do in the first place. to the OP, if you were interested in booking the lady there is no harm in telling her that you are interested...you have to realize that there are MANY guys that we deal with that only want to email back and forth and not actually book, I'm not saying you're one of those guys but I dont blame the SP for being blunt. Also its not like she did it out of the blue...you had messaged her before the same thing. she could be annoyed/having a bad day etc....but sometimes cutting to the chase is ok...... Think about it this way....if you handed your resume to someone you met and they called you and left you messages saying "hey, thanks for the resume, how are ya? hows your day going?" you're obviously not going to call them back right away and pour your life story out to that stranger....now if the potential boss called you back and said that they were considering hiring you but wanted to come in for a secondary interview and that was why he called....well then that would be a different story. not to say its about money, but in the end our time is money and if you have a request or interest, tell us...we are quicker to reply to someone who we know is interested in us than someone who might not be interested in us at all...just the conversation

I'm confused....if you've been supposedly quoted $100/hr by a lady for this, why are you seeking others and willing to pay $25 more? I'm with Carrie on this one, if you've already been quoted that price, I dont really think you need to look any further unless you actually haven't been quoted that price in the first place. There was a previous thread where a lady pointed out that you had made the request before and it wasn't the issue of diapers being involved being the issue with the ladies you approached but that the prices they had quoted you were out of your range. with fetishes you can sometimes expect to pay a regular fee plus a tip. Perhaps if you say there is no FS involved the tip may not be necessary, but I think for any ladies' time you should expect to pay her for her time...not based on the services provided. There are already numerous threads about this...they just dont involve diaper fetishes. just my two cents.

I have been back and forth with this all day and i cant seem to find anyway to block who can see your friends in common link...it offers a way to hide your relationships, family etc......but for anyone that I have got a friend request sent to me from there is ALWAYS a list of mutual friends.....something that facebook uses to always spam us with "friend" requests.....I dont know if theres a way around hiding mutual friends on FB and I have considered having me and many others approach FB about this issue. unfortunately however, facebook breeds on social networking and will probably have a million and one reasons as to why this lack of privacy on our accounts "helps" others find their friends....ugh

lol, nope Erin, you're still good in my books :-)

OMG Nicolette, the part about your car being parked in the driveway made me howl! how exactly did he plan on hiding you then??! lol! I used to co-own a 2nd apartment for an incall...ok building but accross the hallway there was this very elderly guy who used to leave his door open a crack so that his precious little miniature poodle could run up and down the halls....not cool. I rarely saw the dog so I figured that i really didnt want to draw attention to myself or make aquaintances with the neighbor by asking him to change his routine. generally the dog stayed in the room but on one occasion came barking running out and barking at the top of its lungs when a client rapped on the door a little too loud.....all i saw when I opened the door was a blur of white fur run into my apartment after my client who was quite a bit older and very nervous to begin with. then the elderly man across the hall came out in the hall to try and beckon the dog back.....ack! it was a mess! I was so embarrassed coz I have no idea what this older man across the hall was thinking....me in my sexy dress, this older guy with a bottle of wine......i told the neighbor to keep his door closed from then on and appologized profusely to my client so happy I wasn't in that apartment for long! lol I'm sure there are other instances, thats just the first that comes to mind tonight

you always have to out yourself as someone I'm talking about when I try to be discreet and respect that dont ya? oy.....like I said everyone, drama only ensues.....Thanks for proving my point CH. I also think this proves how some members can take it far too personally that some girls dont like it when a client snoops or admits she doesnt like them admiting to knowng person details about her or having seen them etc. stumbling upon and then searching for more are two different things....and no i do not take it as a compliment. sorry.

so if I'm an SP I shouldnt have a facebook page at all unless its in my SP name? I'm hoping I'm misunderstanding what you're saying here. and to all those who think that this is because of the other gals FB posting, that is all purely coincindential...those who know me know I'm going through enough grief with a couple SPs as of very recently who decided they should be adding clients to their personal pages. I keep my escorting life off of my personal page so I dont think I should not be allowed to have a personal FB page and that I'm just waiting for someone to find me out if I do. thats being a little too overcompensating

agreed, thats why I have started axeing SPs from my FB...you cant control the world, only protect yourselves. This was really more or less a wake-up call to other SPs however who may be adding clients...that they are not the only ones making the connection, lol I have my facebook set as private as I can...but all it took was for someone to get a name and google and find my model pages on another site and my art pages....I'l be working on tweeking as much as I can in the meantime privacy wise but sometimes all it takes is a name, a nosy client and an SP who isn't thinking straight to make everyone's lives more complicated...regardless of "above average" privacy features that facebook "claims" to have

well said Lindsay another trend I'm noticing is girls creating facebook pages for their escorting personalities......I know that Carrie Moon has one for her Porn fans...I'm not sure if i would want to create one solely as an escort because your clients (or potential future clients) would be getting a peek of all the other dudes checking you out on your friends list.....eeek. whereas if you had a background in porn its not so bad as the guys who are friends with you could be friends/fans and not necessarily clients

I'm assuming you mean putting a name on facebook and a name on Cerb together is crossing the line? lol Additional Comments: In a case like that I always give the person asking my cerb info and ask that they contact me that way and that I do not mix my work and facebook life...then I block whoever messaged me. I would suggest doing that...I mean, its not like you're not giving them a way to contact you even though you've blocked them. A truly interested client will understand

so this month alone I have delt with Three different cases of SPs who choose to add their clients to their facebook....thats all fine if they decide to do so. my problem however? when I'm at a social and a male member makes a comment about MY facebook page because he has put 2 and 2 together with whoever was dumb enough to add him to her FB page. or a client blurts out that we have a similar last name and he did a google search after finding out my name to check out my artwork....ummmm...??????! Ladies...I know they you may feel comfortable with a client and on a friend basis with them but realize that when you add your clients to your page you are not only jeopardizing YOUR privacy...but the privacy of other SPs that you have on your facebook. I have NO wish to have clients rummage through my art pages or see what friends they have in common with me etc etc...and I certainly have a MASSIVE problem with people learning my full real name! whats annoying is that clients dont seem to realize that it is a HUGE blurring of boundaries when they "figure" out who we are and say so. to me, its like someone just drove up to my house, honked and said "hey you! [insert real name] i know where you live and hang out and I think I know your dad!" Ladies, you dont have to add EVERYONE to your facebook. I realize that clients can be friends...but blurring those lines makes drama for everyone involved...I have never encountered anyone adding a client to facebook that didnt end in some kind of messy drama...especially if she realizes she doesnt want them on her facebook anymore GUYS, just because someone doesn't add you to your facebook doesn't mean that they're not your friend...take whatever connection you have here on Cerb and in physical contact and treasure that....it doesnt need to go further than that. Today I have deleted 2 girls off my facebook who have chosen to add clients as friends. I admit that I have ONE client on my facebook but only because he was my friend on facebook through mutual friends before becoming a client....and I dont even see him anymore so I dont think that counts. To me adding anyone to facebook is like seeing someone off the clock 24/7...its extremely unprofessional and comparable to adding your boss to your FB...business and personal life should be separate. am I the only one who thinks like this? Privacy is important to everyone....blur the lines and things will only get more complicated.