Annessa

I understand that the question was meant to be harmless post by the OP but I kinda have to side with mod here that we shouldn't encourage this stereotype that obviously portrayed by the mostpart by the media. generally I'd say more but I think I'd just be repeating what mod said. Lets keep the stereotypes where they belong....hollywood, not cerb :-)

bah, you can sleep when you're dead, lol all joking aside that seems like a really interesting show....I'd have a hard time watching it though. seriously tho this guy sounds like he was under an extremely large amount of pressure....and as if that wasn't bad enough already...was on national TV having to not only prove himself to his wife, but the audience. the wife in question probably is one of those women who loves the spotlight and has to showcase what an acceptional and perfect wife she is (bah!)....shes probably the one who sucks (and not in a good way) in bed lol after all....isnt sex supposed to be a *mutual* effort? ;-)

I'm reading your mind via the world wide web text as we speak actually.... OOOOOOoooooooOOOOOOOooooooooOOOOO! *insert twilight-zone music* :shock:

totally agree. I have had many gents use my email (not cerb PM) as a first contact correspondence and mention in passing in person their handles on Cerb ( "oh I'm *so-and-so* on cerb and saw your ad")....I have THE worst short-term memory! lol. That being said, generally if I'm given no "hey, its me from last night! this is my cerb handle, hope to chat soon!" I will swear it off as someone I haven't met and click "reject friendship" without a second thought. we are not mind-readers guys! (or cerb-handle-psychics rather!) introduce yourselves again as your online personas even if we have met before :-)

the thought definitely crossed my mind as I hit the "submit post" button....maybe we could double this or move this over to the newbies section mod? (reason for posting in general discussion tho was more for the hope that any gent who didn't think he needed the "ropes" of the newb section would notice....I love u men, but not all of u ask for directions.., j/k) ;-)

the thought definitely crossed my mind as I hit the "submit post" button....maybe we could double this or move this over to the newbies section mod? (reason for posting in general discussion tho was more for the hope that any gent who didn't think he needed the "ropes" of the newb section would notice....I love u men, but not all of u ask for directions.., j/k) ;-)

exactly......I'd rather not offend a potential client or SP in a friendship request but at the same time it just makes sense to only be *friends* with those who are...well....friends (in whatever shape or form) good point (and humorous one) on the knowing some people *too* well as well Emma, lol. I have had a few this year that I've removed for knowing "too well" ;-)

exactly......I'd rather not offend a potential client or SP in a friendship request but at the same time it just makes sense to only be *friends* with those who are...well....friends (in whatever shape or form) good point (and humorous one) on the knowing some people *too* well as well Emma, lol. I have had a few this year that I've removed for knowing "too well" ;-)

not to pick on one phrase, but your other points were great...however some of us (like myself) have our "job" as a full time thing....and make a living (and sometimes more) from it. that being said, its (to me anyway) more of an insult when someon tries to negotiate or barter set donations, this is my job ( regardless of how much I love it) and regardless of my love for it there still should be no bartering. not to distract initially what the thread was about formerly tho.....just felt the need to touch on that point by bago I definitely agree bago in that the ones who mis-treat their initail first contact are the ones who are making a bad name for all those who are short in sentence, but kind in acts :-)

oh I definitely agree that everyone has their own different way of approaching things like friend-requests just like anything else in the business, thats why I said in my first post that this is only my opinion. my main concern was the members that sent a follow up PM after not gaining access to certain ladies' friendship circles. I always feel a certain stress messaging them back and apologizing but that I only add ppl under certain circumstances. This is totally not a vent, but rather an opinion voiced so that these members dont take our decisions personally....like you said, everyone (member OR SP) has their own way of conducting their profile-page. I just wanted to put it out there that those who have tried and not been accepted to some should focus on the other things that will build their online reputation or online communications....and focus less on a name in their friendship box. a friendship approval, in most cases, will follow :-)

oh I definitely agree that everyone has their own different way of approaching things like friend-requests just like anything else in the business, thats why I said in my first post that this is only my opinion. my main concern was the members that sent a follow up PM after not gaining access to certain ladies' friendship circles. I always feel a certain stress messaging them back and apologizing but that I only add ppl under certain circumstances. This is totally not a vent, but rather an opinion voiced so that these members dont take our decisions personally....like you said, everyone (member OR SP) has their own way of conducting their profile-page. I just wanted to put it out there that those who have tried and not been accepted to some should focus on the other things that will build their online reputation or online communications....and focus less on a name in their friendship box. a friendship approval, in most cases, will follow :-)

thats it. :-) did a search for "friend/friendship requests" and it didnt turn up, but Emma raises some great points along with many of the other ladies

thats it. :-) did a search for "friend/friendship requests" and it didnt turn up, but Emma raises some great points along with many of the other ladies

the hard part of our jobs when it comes to email is deciphering which emails are brought about by lack of social experience and which are brought about by lack of social etiquette or just a general lack or respect. (side note: this is why speaking to your SP over the phone can work wonders in your favor) This is why I feel every email should be given a grain of salt but if an SP feels that a first contact was unsatisfactory, she should also give her client polite feedback (provided that his email wasn't rude or crass or vulgar) that this is not the type of email that she offers business too, but encourage him to try again. At that point it is a learning experience for the potential client hopefully, not a loss. (well...maybe a *bit* of a short-term loss, but at least he has been given the chance to try again, right?) Not everyone has the time to write out a novel, I'll agree....but as a lady in an SPs position we have to be given a *bit* of a reason to feel comfortable having sex with a total stranger (think about it gents, its like going on a blind date with no picture on a dating site....just incomplete sentences that dont paint you ANY picture of who you're seeing or where their best interests lie. when you thik about it that way, woudnt you want your potential SP to have a reason beyond business details to see you?) generally, sparks don't happen with a one-liner email, and I do feel that if a social awkwardness is present at first contact (despite experience or education) how on earth are things to go smoothly in person? all the more reason to spill your guts guys! *wink*

I know there is a thread on this already somewhere but through all my searches I couldn't find it. I have noticed lately a lot of new members joining and requesting my and many ladies' friendship on our profiles. I think there should be a certain etiquette lesson about this again, as some ladies have found lately that there seems to be a certain misunderstanding when a gal clicks "reject friendship" (perhaps we could put a lighter term on the site rather than "reject"? lol).....and this may very well be only my opinion but I have received a few emails lately from members I have not corresponded with who are upset I rejected their requests. (please dont think I'm playing prima-dona here tho) as an SP I (and most ladies) dont add a member without reason....kinda like facebook. its a networking site and we usually like to know who we are befriending before accepting those requests. I generally dont add a member unless I have met them. That way, if another SP has a question about a gent on my friends list I am comfortable saying that this is a trusted friend that I have seen and can vouch for. Quality over quantity.....this is definitely not a site that judges anyone on how many online friends they have That being said, guys, dont feel bad if a member or an SP doesnt let you in to their friendship circle right off the batt (especially if you are very new or have made no contact with that SP)....rather focus not on what may seem like "rejection" and focus on building your own personality here on cerb and PM communication with those you want to befriend. most of all...dont take it personally. it causes us a lot of unnecessary stress to you and us for feeling like we've hurt your feelings.. and really, its not something we're not accepting because we dont think you're worthy (most of the time anyway)....we just may not know you. simple as that. xoxo Annessa

I know there is a thread on this already somewhere but through all my searches I couldn't find it. I have noticed lately a lot of new members joining and requesting my and many ladies' friendship on our profiles. I think there should be a certain etiquette lesson about this again, as some ladies have found lately that there seems to be a certain misunderstanding when a gal clicks "reject friendship" (perhaps we could put a lighter term on the site rather than "reject"? lol).....and this may very well be only my opinion but I have received a few emails lately from members I have not corresponded with who are upset I rejected their requests. (please dont think I'm playing prima-dona here tho) as an SP I (and most ladies) dont add a member without reason....kinda like facebook. its a networking site and we usually like to know who we are befriending before accepting those requests. I generally dont add a member unless I have met them. That way, if another SP has a question about a gent on my friends list I am comfortable saying that this is a trusted friend that I have seen and can vouch for. Quality over quantity.....this is definitely not a site that judges anyone on how many online friends they have That being said, guys, dont feel bad if a member or an SP doesnt let you in to their friendship circle right off the batt (especially if you are very new or have made no contact with that SP)....rather focus not on what may seem like "rejection" and focus on building your own personality here on cerb and PM communication with those you want to befriend. most of all...dont take it personally. it causes us a lot of unnecessary stress to you and us for feeling like we've hurt your feelings.. and really, its not something we're not accepting because we dont think you're worthy (most of the time anyway)....we just may not know you. simple as that. xoxo Annessa

if you're going to Niagara and TO, my best advice is to plan ahead of time and check out some of the great recommendations in the Niagara and Toronto, Ontario section here on Cerb. you cant go wrong that way.....walking up to a lady in the casino and asking "how much" may land you a slap in the face, lol Escorting in Canada is perfectly legal if you arrange your situation with the lady in a non-public place (like a phone conversation or in email). Seek this out ahead of time before discussing in public an arrangement with someone you think "may" be an SP. (!!) I'm not sure why you'd think that any SP would be "spotted" and turned away from a hotel if she was a quiet guest and there were no problems. Hotels can't turn away your visitors (including your SP) if you two are two consulting adults out for the night. If your SP has her own room and is taking clients in an incall fashion, then that is something they have the legal right to flag. So stop being paranoid, know the laws, your rights and know that if a problem does present itself because of some nosy hotel-staff that you have nothing legally to worry about. Arrange your dates ahead of time without the worry that they're going to grill you or her.....its none of their business and it is way more legal for her to spend her time with *you* in your room at the casino or hotel then for you to go to a hotel room that she may have acquired for the night there. happy hunting :-)

There is definitely a lot of experience (life and work) that eventually brings us to retirement. congrats Spike! This is definitely a life-point to embrace! xo

There are as many types of clients on the boards as there are SPs....that being said, we should never generalize a certain behavior as the nature of the biz or feel that a devils advocate needs to be played. true we all may come across those less familiar in "how things work" on here but I do feel that the same goes for any lady dealing with a man...whether it be in or outside of the industry. saying that we're bound to run into new guys on here who don't know how to conduct themselves is like stating the obvious that any gal in "real life" may encounter different (and some less polite) guys. it doesnt mean we have to deal with them......but if we do chose to gently sugest that we will not be seeing them based on their approach and if they wish to try again another time....well hopefully they learn from this. I have been honest in my decision and highlighted their approach as the cause....some have been defensive and hurtful (not worth my time) and some have genuinely apologized and tried again in a different manner I'll admit, abrupt first contacts REALLY tick me off. However, I squirm at the fact that I hate leaving any email unanswered. so in that aspect I have felt torn. I'd reply to, "looking for some fun *insert date*...rates? services? send pics." with: available yes. *$$insert rate*, sorry, I dont discuss services or send pics", then I add my number if they are ballsy enough to call they usually dont. Waste of time? probably.....generally someone who sends an email like that isn't looking for YOU(SP-wise) they;re looking for ANYone that fits their check-list. This is not the client that I'm interested in seeing....I think most gals will agree. Then we get the guy who opens up with a great intro about how they've heard a lot of good things about us and has been trying to have an op to meet us....then gets into his questions (usually minus the services question).....those are emails that get a detailed response equal to the time he put into his intro.....this is a gentleman in my opinion

my mommy tells me every day that i'm cool (as she hands me my mouthguard and plastic lunchbox, while I board the short-bus) :-) mommies never lie...

I wasnt awake to see the posts that got removed that brought both ladies away from the site. i hope both will be back with all my heart tho. the female insight is a great thing on this site....helpful for both the gents and us ladies alike. :-(

I am taking appointments NYE however i have only planned to do incalls the 30th, I haven't decided whether to keep a room for the following night due to availability of rooms/requests. I am however most certainly taking outcall appointment NYE.

for a second i red that and I thought you were talking about ME having shown up with that lacking attitude...whewf! I re-read it and all is good again as well, haha cant wait for your next visit Kubrickfan! Thanks for the honorable mentions :-) xo

*applause* and theres nothing wrong with that my dear...as long as you're not neglecting the ones you love and yourself via morals, you're good :-)

there are actually many hotels that dont accept cash these days. (trust me, being a gal who has no CC and who books hoteols on the rare occasion I have had many problems with Ottawa hotels) the Delta used to accept cash but has changed their policy among with many hotels in Ottawa. they also dont even let you stay in the hotel if you are an ottawa or Gatineau resident!...credit card or no credit card. I have been redirected by them to the crowne plaza...generally they put you on a key-card floor tho if you dont specify. so if you do land a room there make sure you specify a non key card entry room if you plan on having a visitor after 9pm