Annessa

I am happy that you are seeing the benefits of a non sexual date, agency or not however a worker will be there for your needs....be them sexual or just "hanging out". As per profession however, Think of it this way: I'm assuming you are a carpenter because you like what you do and are good at it. The same goes for escorts. many of the best are skilled conversationalists and can hold a conversation rather than chewing gum...yanno? they can get a giggle and a smile from sometimes the most socially akward person....they devote their time to you and only you...no matter who you are. we love what we do, some were born to be social for hire. its a skill....we dont see it as offering a mechanical service and THEN offering you a relationship experience......(to me anyway) it all falls hand in hand no matter what deed is exchanged. Someone once said that if you loved the outdoors and you decided to open a campsite as a business, you would still charge your camp tenants rental of the space....regardless of your love for your love for nature. Sure you would have to pitch tents and clean up garbage and do all the "work stuff" but it doesnt mean you'd let anyone set foot on your campsite without treating them differently than anyone else at your camp. It just wouldn't make sense if you did. ultimately, if you decided not to charge those with the same interests as you because it "just didn't feel right' your business because they shared your love for a common admiration, would eventually suffer. we all come together because of similar interests here on cerb. some have different interests or requests but in the end of the day everyone is here to respect the boundaries of each other and hopefully fulfill the requests of the respectful. social interaction yes, but I wouldnt say a strong force 'because of recos' being the main point leading to that. I have known many cerb gals who have received favourable recos yet have conducted themselves less than comparative in their postings. Cerb is *not* all about recos IMO.

.....yet the lingering memories of the "presents" well "wrapped" left a pain in the heart of the girl that was ...tapped ;-) she awoke the next morn with a strong inhalation "this Christmas will be the source this year of much masturbation!" :-)

hehe, thanks pete....as they say: 50% Asian, 50% European, but always 100% GFE ;-)

Kate and I have done duos previously and I must say that she is probably the only SP I have been able to do a successful duo seamlessly with. She is great fun and we hang out outside of working every now and then....it definitely helps when you know the girl you work with. Shes a peach! :-)

to answer your question, I'm a pretty straight split mix. Half Asian (Thai) and Half Caucasian (Irish) :-)

hehe, its on the previous page, OB ;-) thanks gentlemen for a wonderful year of recos!

I always ask for references only when doing incalls. Mostly because of the illegal nature in Canada of incalls so I like to make sure that the gentleman has seen another lady who can vouch for him. in cases where the gentleman is new to hobbying I suggest that he first book a hotel and I go see him on an outcall basis and that after that, a reference is not needed. This is simply my way of feeling safe. Other girls may operate differently.

I think the idea of hobbying affecting your personal or family relationship might have been misunderstood as us saying that having an affair is wrong. not the case. There are plenty of men who hobby and are attached, I dont see it as wrong if they are wise with their funds and aren't selfish putting their pocket or their playtime before their family's :-)

*waves and smiles* see you next year!! hehe

there were a lot of great words spoken at the gathering. I got a warm and fuzzy feeling when people walking by on Elgin stopped to listen and see what was going on... it made me think that perhaps the next time they flip through the newspaper and hear about a murdered prostitute on one page that instead of flipping to the sports section next, they'll pause and think "what if that girl was my daughter, or mother, or friend?" and think about it differently change happens in little steps

its funny....I used to joke that I was addicted to the Godiva dark chocolates. No lie! I used it loosely but I had a bar once a week...its good stuff! I never understood what the big deal of these overpriced chocolates were....then I had one taste and was hooked. YUM! however just because I like them doesnt mean that I would spend all my money on it and leave my family broke, decide to try and leave early from work because the shop closed early on weekends or try and break in to a shop or cause a robery if I needed my fix and didnt have the money I just like the stuff....mmmmm.....dammit now I want dark chocolate. grrrr. on a serious note I think the same metaphor can be said about hobbying. Eventually I do think that money and manipulation and a loss of moral values plays a big role in a serious addiction. everything else is just your weekly chocolate bar ...metaphorically speaking that is ;-)

interesting thread topic. I will say that I have dealt with some clients who are serious sex addicts and this is no laughing matter...it can be very dangerous. Trusted clients (whom I would almost call lovers) would turn from good people to crooks overnight. i remember when i didnt even smoke yet used to be the in-between as a teenager for a friend who sold pot and other things.....the return clients who would prove honest at first would eventually come back and ask for weekly fronts......delay paying because their wallet got stolen/ they were waiting for a cheque to come in/ got ripped off by their boss/ whatever story they had to not pay.....an uncontrolled addiction ....which is an oxymoron in itself (of ANYthing) will cause any honest person to burn whatever bridge possible to get what they want eventually...as every addiction has a price. whether it leads to a client digging himself and his family into debt, or not paying his escort, or even worse, becoming a threat to an escort for his lack of respect due to his needs......sexual addiction is VERY serious and generally has very serious results Just because you like the hobby or can't imagine your life without it does NOT make you an addict. losing control over your hobbying and taking advantage of others involved to feed your needs......thats something to worry about...and THATS addiction. we have heard many stories of SPs who trust a regular and leave the money on the table on for the client to replace some $50 bills with canadian tire money when they're not looking addiction states that you dont have a control over your hobby......there are plenty of ppl on this board who are able to keep up with their hobbying.....just because its a sweet "high" and difficult not to repeat doesn't really nail someone as a sex addict.....just the same some of us SPs thrive on the thrill of the idea of being mysterious sex-objects out on a mission of pleasure to strangers each evening.......it doesnt mean we are slaves to our turn ons and we will never put ourselves in harm's way despite our love for sex and our job. funny, I just watched the movie "The girlfriend Experience" (the movie filmed from the client's perspective" and I irked when he talked about the constant need and "going on binges" looking for street-walkers which lead to him eventually stalking a GFE.........that didn't play the role of the more respected client at all! there are so many degrees of being a hobbyist and being a sex adict is a totally different ball-game.....and a recipe for disaster or a plead for help or a proper intervention if you ask me I completely cringe when I see an SP post that shes a horny sex addict or a member jest that they have needs and are sex addicts.......sexual addiction, as buggernot said so perfectly, is more than a need for intimacy. it may start off that way but a true addict will eventually put everything and anything that really SHOULD matter (be it family, or even the women they are supposed to be paying as SPs) as a secondary priority to their selfish addiction. True clients who have needs generally know that being selfish will not land you a repeat date.......I have cut off men who I see as being consumed by a sexual addiction as it is a red flag for problems in the future I've learned many lessons about when to notice the signs, read the excuses of a trusted client. I know better now after being ripped off an over 1k chunk last month by a retainer client who saw too many girls at a time to keep up to what his pocket could manage. Ironically i found out later from a friend that he bought coke behind my back when we were out at a club...then tried to get his money back after he had done most of it because the quality was apparently sub-par. generally when an addict is faced with the invoice for what they owe there will be every and any reason to try and barter or play down the service they have received as a final plea to not have to own up to what they walked into willingly from the start.....drugs, sex, (tempted to say "rock and roll" lol), a once trusted relationship will always be thrown out the window due to money (or lack thereof) addiction tends to present itself in many forms (as I mentiond above).......generally a client who is an addict has little respect in the end for his so-called favorite SP. And an addict usually will be the one to rip a girl off or cut his losses because its not like we're a collection agency that will follow them to the grave, right? just my two (or three) cents

sadly all the boys beat me to this punchline......which some would say would be unexpected for men to get to the button first, LOL...I jest! That being said, Peachy, i think there are more than a dozen men who would happily help you find your button on any given day, hehehe ;-)

bah no one is here to judge and as long as you can keep up with your hobby honorably, no one should say a thing, ....which is more I can say for some prime members I cut off recently who see more girls that their pocket can support, lol thank you for the honorable mention Roger! Some lovely ladies on that list! :-)

a modern socialist once said "shedding a new or even old email address or handle is kinda like trying to scrape gum off your shoe that you notice yet has been there for a while" lol that being said I added 2009 to my handle because there was a confusion over a previous SP in Toronto and myself.....so when I joined the boards under my new name, I was told to add something. I always wondered if I should have added a different ending to my handle....or stated a year that has nothing to do with the present ( ex: I've always been a fan of 1984, lol)

mod spells it out plain and simple here. And i do believe I know the case he speaks of with the lady in question who was brutally cuffed and interrogated in front of her children, from what she said, there will be a long battle to win back ANY jury....and as mod said, her kids weren't even present! I have a young child and while i mostly do outcalls I make sure that my son is taken care of...even if I have to call a friend and beg for a couple hours of babysitting due to a "last minute meeting due to a major problem my company is facing" in the end, asking for help (even if in desperation) will account for WAY less explanation from a police officer accompanied by a CAS worker. To the SP in question: Know when to ask for help. and there has already been an offer for child-minding here. what may seem like a big deal to ask someone about at first will eventually seem like a small request given the repercussions of not doing so

I was going to leave this be but guy, your insecurity is waaaay too high right now. Look at what this pretty girl with all her good looking friends have done to you! yes you could hire a model or an SP for 10 hours (which BTW at some gals social fees may cost you a 1k minimum) but what if it doesnt even phase her or she goes "okay yah whatever, he probably just paid her. you cant assume everyone is stupid. (no offense) also...you cant assume that just because you dont tagg your SP or add her to your facebook that ppl aren't going to recognize her because you think you have no friends in common.....networking is a dangerous situation on facebook. This woman obviously broke your self esteem...but the solution isn't paying a woman to pose as your fake newfound love! at the end of the day, you will have paid for a visual stab at your ex...and have nothing to gain from it other than being a phoney )and having flies buzz out of your wallet)......how is THAT going to help your self esteem??? it wont. my advice, no matter how odd of a nuclear couple you were or how hot her new guy and friends are....focus on YOU! look inside yourself and see the things that make you an individual. what is the one thing you're good at? DO IT! or join the gym and practice your people skills and stop letting this woman drag you down and start being that awesome person that attracted her to you in the first place....but not to win her back....to gain your individuality that you have lost in the process instead of posting fake pictures....post FB statuses that reek of positivity...but DO it, dont lie about it! example...post: "went for a 2k jogg today..and am now treating myself to dinner with a great buddy (but do it!) DON'T post: "went for a 2k jogg today and am now feeling the burn! seeing a hottie later! (coz even if its true, and your buddy is hot it will only be percieved by all that you are throwing it in her and her friend's face) I see friends like this do vindictive crap all the time on facebook, and I'll admit, I've done so a few years ago.....only after i saw others do the same did I wish i didnt do the same and see how it made me and all our friends cringe by doing positive things for yourself and focusing on yourself you will only attract the positive...which (eventually) might be an attractive girl who sees what an awesome person you are (EVEN IF ONLY ON A FRIENDLY BASIS!).....and with who you can post as many facebook photos, knowing that the new friendship there is REAL and not paid for also as a side note when I used to date I never had a "type" and many of the guys I dated longterm were guys that shallow girls would scoff at. I would tell them to eff-off...mainly because i would love a guy who was sincere and would make me laugh and had charisma......if your ex is so welled up in the fact that you're not GQa version of the sexiest man alive and isn't defending your relationship despite the fact you have a child......FORGET HER!!!! shes obviously way too wrapped up in what her friends think or her own insecurity (or newfound ego) that she is willing to ditch everything you have. I'm going to assume she is young as well and looking for validation....but lady, if you choose to have a child with someone, you dont leave them having to try to "show you up"....relationships (even friendships) should never be a competition. ^^This is a phrase i say for BOTH of you. Having a new friendship evenatually (even if its just a good hearted girl who listens to your problems....which is something you seem to be in dire need of now!!! its ok, not making fun here) that is REAL is something that will make you feel ten times better about yourself that having to fake it just to hurt the woman you have such a history and child with. I am going to guess that you are very young....please dont take this the wrong way, but if you really did miss your connection, you would not be going out of your way to vindictively hurt the mother of your child.....as someone said previously "silence sometimes speaks words"...no one suggested you remove her from your facebook, but if she really hurt you so badly, then why are YOU becoming the bad guy? You are trying to fight fire with the DVD "logg" (ie. the fake fire as seen on TV) on a widescreen TV. Sometimes relationships dont work out, it not because the person was "out to get you" or hurt you....this is just life, and sometimes people are discovering themselves and choose different paths.....sometimes that path doesn't involve you right at the beginning.....take a mature step back and let her do her thing and dont arise drama that isn't even there to begin with. what if she sees you with your "new girl" and thinks you're a total player and imagines that because you are so quick to move on that you dont care about her OR your child and decides to axe you out of the picture completely....forever. Think very long and hard about this. I have a child with someone who never wanted to be there....I didn't spend my life trying to cause him grief.........when you do that, that makes YOU the person who is not thinking with logic, but with crazed emotion Listen, She made her choice and shes going to keep making her choice no matter what pics you post on facebook. The key is seeking gratification from ANY one else on the planet other than her now (or paid SPs for facebook pics) if you aren't being appreciated by her and her friends, time to move on and find people that do. life is too short man! I feel for your situation but striking back in revenge is NOT the answer! ps. as a cautious note: I really hate the word "FAG" when used to describe a loser, please use more mature vocabulary is you want proper sympathy

I'm sure YS, that there is no doubt in anyone's mind that there are plenty other Classy SPs on this Canadian board besides me, lol

Thanks scott, however as I said before...its not so much an alter-ego for many of us who use different names. Many people who get to know Annessa really well know that shes the same goofy, friendly person as *My Real Name* hehe.....one just has sex a lot more! LOL

I'm still confused about the neighbors saying that there were a lot of cars there all the time so it looked like there were parties going on all the time.,,,and somehow that head to her being charged of operating a common bawdy house....?? err....does she make them all wait in the lobby together? I'm really wondering how they came to the conclusion that she was selling sex...since there was a man arrested but released because it didnt seem like he was there to use services. they left out a big chunk as to how they came to that conclusion that ;lead to her arrest....but of course, every paper will always jump to one of the conclusions without telling the whole story right? ugh

"whats in a name?" said a great poet.... It came to mind reading a new thread about our handle origins that a year ago on December 6th 2008 I turned over a new leaf and took on a different name. Before i went as Chantilly...it was assigned by a wannabe-pimp when I was just starting out trying to go with an "agency" after answering a Kijiji add looking for new girls. I remember it was a week or so before the infamous OC transpo bus strike. I had quit my retail job to further pursue escorting full time when I met with a Toronto agency and was "assigned" more or less the name "Annessa"...I kinda hated it at first,...actually no, I REALLY hated it! I wanted a fun name...something that ended in a "ee" sound....Little did I know that I would have stuck with this name that had grown on me like a new best friend even after leaving that agency and going indi again....and I'm so happy that I did (keep the name AND leave that agency, haha) I cant comment on any other SPs but the ideas that we use what are perceived as "fake" names always makes me cringe slightly.....as Annessa has become every bit a part of me as my birth-name has....just under different circumstances, lol....i even turn around when I hear someone call out "Vannessa!" to another stranger on the street! That being said I think its prety common knowledge that all us SPs use aliases ....any interesting stories, ladies, about how you feel about the differnt name-tags we;ve had? past names and why you decided to junk them. Like I said, I was "Chantilly Wilde" before (the wannabe-agent guy said I looked like a "chantilly"...yah...ok...and apparently I was someday going to be in a Texas porn so I needed a last name..*rolls eyes*) I definitely found that certain clients who saw me under that name treat Chantilly a lot differently than they do Annessa....but then again, maybe thats just the fact that Annessa doesnt deal with the same BS as Chantilly did, lol

all I have to say is "you're hot" :-) ps. I just farted *satisfied smile*

took the word right out of my mouth. tell your friend that a threat is a threat and should be reported...dont question whether someone is just "talking the talk". An obvious threat to her from this other SP gives her reason to take the matter to the police.

only the pillows? hehe...ok someone HAD to say it! ;-)

I just checked out the hotel website and I must say, Bobbi, you've landed yourself the perfect melange between artistic boutique feel and space and REAL features (espresso machine, 4-person shower, etc etc) as well as REAL space. It reminds me of Hotel Nellegan (sp?) in old montreal that I was just at a couple weeks ago.......how is the staff and service? are they as beautifully earthy as the vibe their decor gives? This hotel is gorgeous.....makes me almost want to take a trip down to WPG just to check it out! good-on-ya! SO jealous! I could have a million no-shows in a hotel like that and (almost) not even care, hehe