Annessa

doggiedoggiedoggie ahem.... :-) and a nice missionary where the gent doesn't have to hold himself up and just huggs real close on top of me so I can wrap my arms and legs around him

what a great meeting! Mandalay is definitely an awesome woman and her man is just SO sweet and chilll....I felt very comfortable chatting and we had some great laughs while all sharing our insight. I'm so happy that I wore my best lingerie too! phewf! because the whipped-cream marathon that turned into a giggle-fest pillow-fight that ensued after was just toooooo funny! right ladies? (ok, ok, ok, so maybe the last paragraph was to tease the gents who all wished they were there....totally joking! although there were some girl-time moments where we had to send the man outta the room, lol)

hehe.....makes me wish I had stuck around longer at the documentary-meeting ;-) you *did* turn off the mic first tho right? (kidding!)

not harsh at all. thats just plain reality. funny....when I was in my early 20s and late teens I dated all sorts of guys, but the ones I would end up with usually would be guys my friends would say "really? HIM?' to. we'd be described as the awkward couple etc....my love interests were never good looking to most at first glance...but they made me laugh, or had a great charisma, were very intelligent etc etc etc.... people would tell me, you cant be serious? what do you see in him?? and in response I'd refuse to have to validate our relationship and say "and this is your business *because*...??" I get a similar feeling when I read the constant confusion or need for clarification or validation in this thread as to why certain clients just "do it for us". it doesnt have to make sense to anyone exept those involved in the relationship. true we could list hygene and ettiquette as obvious factors....but sometims things just "click"....physical attraction is only skin deep. but I also dont feel its anyone's business on "the rest" or that we need to validate why a relationship that isn't based on looks somehow works. (after much thought) just my two cents

whoa whoa now....why create a poll if you think the SPs participating are just going to lie to please their clients? polls after all are pretty anonymous as you said....so why would SPs fake their answers to sway clients into thinking something? as for the SP world having an emotional connection of only 3 minutes per session, perhaps you are seeing the wrong SPs, lol generally when you get to a certain point where you can be selective about who you see as an SP, you DO love all your clients. :-)

requested or not....more less was heading in the banned direction anyway....etc, the details dont really matter as mod said, just probably a better idea that the sensitivity that brought upon his detachment from the site is not recognized or fed ( like we're all giving too much credit for by talking about why it should still be up) should not still be encouraged while derailing the original info of the original post

oh no, I didnt mean you posts were negative. but I think the OP learned his lesson enough when he was banned. anyway, lets not de-rail the thread any more than it was before, lol

I think that the very negative posts were taken away due to the fact that they were taking away from the original info and the info that followed it that said that the link was old and pretty much useless. I'd rather not see fighting, just the facts, and I think we can all agree that the posts that got the OP banned are better gone than still up disrupting the original info :-)

aw, I feel your pain Peachy. There have been plenty of clients that never make another contact with me when they start asking questions on the phone and I have to either cut them off when they start talking too much eating up my phone minutes and I politely tell them to just email me. they sound shocked or put off. I get the same reaction when they ask me to describe how I look or my stats etc and I ask them where they saw my ad. (even tho I always put my stats up) I tell them (again politely) ah..well all my info is available on the ad. I never hear back from those clients. Is their pride so big that they are embarrassed about an SP not wanting to have a lengthly phone conversation with them? If you call a doctor to ask for an appointment do you think the secretary is going to stay on the line forever with you while you ask all kinds of questions and get into too much detail about everything? peobably not, but at least we offer you the option to email us and websites with LOTS of inormation to reference, yanno? I kinda sense thats why that client felt the need to PM you a nasty PM Peachy, which is wrong and definitely a sign of a client that is not worth your time...on the phone OR in person

Jerican, you are so modest on your good looks.....unless before us ladies saw you, you weighed way more (which wouldn't matter even if you did ) you have nothing to worry about....i on the other hand, need to get myself to the gym!! lol I appreciate what you say about the anticipation however. For some of us SPs, thats the most exciting part of the job...for new clients, we never know who is on the the other side of the door. sometimes I listen to voicemail messages over and over just before seeing that client. its exciting! I think I said it before once but its kinda like that secret agent type feeling...we have a mission, but our target is unknown until that last second. i love the butterflies feeling :-) Being able to open the door to a stranger however under those circumstances has definitely helped my confidence in other aspects of my life. I'm self employed in my "other" trade and there is no board meeting that I dont own the minute I walk into the room, no one-on-one meeting for a new project that I dont present myself properly at from minute one, no phone conversation where I dont lay out my rules and regulations while stuttering or thinking. Being an SP has truly turned me into a proper business-woman. Confidence in social settings has never been a problem for me, but exuding confidence when you're selling your skills (industry related or not) was always a trial and error for me until now.

aw thanks for the great reference Sabrina, however as etasman said, I'm Ottawa-bound for the next little while :-(

anyone know if Sierra is still around at Barb's? From what I knew this summer, the only nights she didn't work were sunday and monday. Shes a favorite of me and my best guy friend but he's gone in a couple times since and she was nowhere to be found. I want to take my friend out for a night at Barb's soon as he just broke up with his girlfriend (yes, I'm evil....but a best friend will foot the bill for their friend's dances) and we both really love the dances she does for us....anyone know if shes still there and, if so, what her new schedule may be? I forget if shes a student...which might make sense if her sched is different from the summer

*slaps forehead for forgetting about Ariane V.!! * I would also like to add....although Mandalay Bay is no longer an SP and is retired, she currently is making some great moves toward offering her (and others') life experiences towards positive documentation of the industry. would this qualify as an SP award however, or member award since she is no longer an SP? (sorry, I just forgot about the members poll being seemingly open to strictly gents)

amen amen AMEN! and a giggle towards the guys who think just because they get us drunk at the bar its guaranteed to get them a score, haha. myself it takes a LOT to get me drunk so unless the guy has more than what the average dude would bring out trying to get lightweights in the sac, hes usually hammered before I am...and to hammered to notice I went out for a smoke...aka...flagged a cab home ;-) That is the other thing that I appreciate so much about this industry, the honesty. clients can be themselves around me because they know that no matter what, there will be sexual satisfaction. not to keep going back to the average joe in the bar scene, but as a good example, so many men in everyday life think they need to be over the top, ooooooze sex appeal, pretend they work for NASA or the CIA or something exciting to gain a lady's interest sexually, or that they pull in 6 figures a year (sometimes it'd be funny if we could give them an inkling as to how much our hourly "salary" is, lol)...be a good dancer....etc...the list goes on. Hobbying allows a client to be THEMSELVES from the get-go, and that to me is most important in ANY sexual encounter! we dont want a man trying to exaggerate himself or feed us lines (even in the non-industry-world) we just want someone who can relax and be themselves, thats sexy! and I think its a big part of why us SPs appreciate our clients far more than the general idiots trying to pull the wool over our eyes everyday. (side note: sorry for the rant, but I'm going through exactly this right now with a boy-toy...started out as a chill and calm guy but now has started to try and win over friends of mine, brag about his 5-year plan and try to be as goofy and over the top as me (yes, I'm a goofball, the secrets out) but only to pals looking to me saying..."man, this guy is trying WAY too hard to impress you! and hes annoying the sh*t outta us!". I told him that I liked him more when he wasn't trying so hard. he said "I know"......why try to fit in when you know that the only people who are worth accepting you are the ones that you are your complete self around?? argh! end rant!....sorry about that personal tidbit!) I've said it many times, we're in a business thats not as appreciated as, but DEFINITELY more honest than some lawyers (note: no offense to any lawyers viewing the thread, lol...just a figure of speech!!) :-)

Just to keep things on track lets keep this about the *positive* experiences hobbying or becoming an SP or MA has brought about to people's lives. sound good? :-) now back to what everyone was sayin.... by the way some great responses in here everyone, makes me proud to be an SP bringing happiness to all you gents and proud for all the SPs doing great things for their lives, school and well beings :-)

damn straight, hehe :-)

I think another good thing that has come out of this for me is that I'm more selective of the men I surround myself with outside of work. As a lady who gets hit on a lot when I go out, I'm much more prone to evaluate someone who is being less than gentlemanly as not really someone I'd like to associate with. Us ladies are very lucky, we generally meet well mannered men willing to please and be pleased, follow the rules and treat us the way they would treat their girlfriends on their most romantic night...because in turn they want us to return the favour of being treated like our boyfriends in the same sense....whats even better is that theres the obvious fact that they're willing to pay for it. It definitely makes me raise my eyebrow to the girl in everyday life who sometimes feels obligated to get to some base with a guy because he paid to take her out to a fancy dinner I can take myself out to dinner, lol

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who recently started hobbying (not a client, just a good friend) who knows I'm an SP. its funny, when we usually wrap up our convos he has a big sigh and a smile and a couple nights ago he said "yanno? hobbying to me is like the best thing since sliced bread" Not confused, I asked him "whys that?" and he went on to say how things were before for him and how hes just happier now, less focused on the little things that would drive him mad before. He didnt go out to bars frustrated because he couldnt pick up, and that made it easier to focus on work and the things that were more important. In many ways I thought to myself...yanno, becoming an SPs has taken the same effect on my life. I now dont slave away being yelled at by superiors younger than me at work, I have more quality time with my grade-school son to help him excell in his homework and not be constanly babysat durring the day by my folks, My parents are happier that I'm not asking to orrow money anymore and appear responsible (I say "appear" because they obviously dont know what i do, lol)....in general, everyone is happier sometimes it makes me sad that there has been a lot of political garbage about this industry being a threat to society and everything it stands for. so my question on today's section of Annessa's attempts at building things up positive again (lol) thread is: whats the one thing that this industry has done to improve your life, your relations with people, and just your well-being. I'm sure that if anyone were to look at a thread like this from the outside, they'd quickly see there is quite another side to all this than sex for the gents and money for the ladies

thanks VM! although having received my first infraction for a NSP (Non Sober Post) I've discovered the joys of not posting upon returning from the bar and saving the opinion for morning, haha.....having said that I'll try my best from now on to maintain more quality posts like before :-D

this is definitely something that I wanna check out too

Thanks to those who nominated me...pretty much every lady I'd like to have nominated has been mentioned :-) Pretty much every gent as well! however I'd like to add my nomination for OutForFun for his tasteful recommendations of the ladies and insight on proper incall etiquette threads :-)

seriously, I would have to agree...talk about basically some girl outing you as an escort's client. not very tactful at ALL. as per being the manager of a Tim hortons, the pay isn't that much higher than being a server there unfortunately, lol

does nobody else find it slightly sad that she was working in a Timmy's yet was making escort-pay before-hand? sorry, this may come off as rude but a Tim Hortons uniform isn't exactly something that would make me not recognize someone. Are you sure that she didn't mistaken you for someone else and perhaps was not escort-related at all? details of your place or not...perhaps she was there under un-paid circumstances. regardless, like many say, its a small world....and we dont only pop up at night and never buy groceries/do laundry/run errands etc etc....sometimes a wake-up call that SPs exist in daily life is refreshing....however... call me crazy, but after working for the donations of the industry, very few ladies can go back to under $10-an hour jobs. I for one know that if I had to do so, I definitely wouldn't be drawing attention to a former client (or myself for that matter) suggesting I was 'that girl' while serving coffee for min wage...yikes! if I'm seen in public in my sweat-pants by a client I often break into a mild sweat, lol but saying "I'm that girl you were with....and here I am working at Timmy's, do you remember me" kinda hits an odd note. Perhaps I have an egotistical sense of pride, but I'd personally never admit to being a formal SP while working at fast-food (and coffe) chain once again, this is not a digg on the lady in question, but just playing devils advocate that she may not have been who u thought she was.....just sayin

I see your points and would never dismiss your opinion. I have both the budget and even the skills to do my own site however my decision to not do so has just been a personal choice. I never consider answering my numerous emails as time lost or wasted...yes there are some clients who tire-kick, question after question but that can be settled in an email right off the bat that answers most of the general inquiries. Personally, I do not see a text and image site as a proper window to my actual personality. I am, however, flattered when new clients message me that they have read my posts on the boards and appreciate my contributions and admire my opinions and character. That, to me is the only way to get your full self across properly....that and may who go to websites go to "gallery" then "rates" and generally dont read the fine print that we work so hard to spell out for them (Q &As, etiquette, etc) I do see the benefits of having a site...for now, however I'm just acknowledging the fact that its not entirely necessary to survive as a successful Provider.....just a personal choice, not knocking anyone who has a site. a professional site would probably be a better route than escortsite.com. I recommend Unleash2Create...very reasonable service/hosting/consulting/rates :-)

I have used the site as myold working name....and then again for "annessa"..that is, until my ex agent decided she would shut it down due to "copy-written photos" of myself that were on the site (that I had rights to due to a lack of contract....another story tho). As a Graphic designer by trade (more in the print and pre-press angle as opposed to the multimedia/web side etc) I did find the templates tacky. HOWEVER.....it was a definite simple answer for those clients who only wanted a simple one-stop area for basic info. As SPs we get a lot of emails asking whether or not we have websites when doing proper research on the boards, reading recos and browsing our albums may answer many of their questions......and if the need to know anything else, why not ask it in an email? I do find that the bulk of potential clients asking for a website tend to never msg back even after I've pointed them in the appropriate direction or asked "if theres is anything in particular you would like to know, please dont be shy in asking" This particular behaviour has definitely made me second-guess going through the effort of conjuring up a site...in the end, those who dont fear asking and those who go through the trouble of doing their homework are the type o clients you want escortsite.com is a good way to put your basic info out there in black and white and definitely saves you from having to answer the same questions over and over. However having my site wrongfully shut down never heeded my business....if anything, it introduced me to the clients that were brave enough to ask anything they wanted to know.....as opposed to referencing a tacky template effortlessly in a lurker-ish sort of way.