Annessa

I want to be clear that I said "usually *leads* to a termination in the client relationship" meaning not terminated right away but once that heart to heart is had and you realize that nothing will get better and things are uncomfortable...then yes.

je suis tres pas Francais , lol i often thought "Riker" would have been a cool name ;-)

definitely not to toot my own horn but I have had 4 clients to this day tell me they have fallen in love with me the result is usually tears on both ends and an end to a client relationship. My job is to better the life of married men with their families (or non married men too)....not to become their new focus or obsession. As a teenager my father had multiple girlfriends aside from my mother and really should have hired escorts to get his release.....instead he had women he told he was "in love" with all over the world.....and who in turn fell in love with him and expected him to leave my mother etc. being on the receiving end of the pain my mother went through I will say that any man who falls in love with a worker in the business needs to respect that we are good at our jobs for many reasons, That we appreciate some clients more than others but to not get lost in the "illusion" that we are here to provide. Those of us who accelerate at our jobs deem clients as trusted friends, it is up to the hobbiest to make sure that friendship is never misinterpreted or overstepped..... a true worker who sees the friendship getting out of hand or too emotional on your part will often end the relationship altogether for both your sakes (and sometimes for your family's)....just something to think about. Its a painful and uncomfortable situation no one should have to go through. On the same note, even if someone is a single man and you have fallen, realize what you're laying on your favorite SP when you throw out the L word

here here! i believe I posted some time ago a conversation I had with a new potential client where he heard my prices and then asked "hmm......do you have anything cheaper?" i remember thinking to my self jokingly "well you could suck my toe for 15 mind for what you're willing to pay" when I started I used to waste my phone time and text and emails on people who would try and barter, I would abide and then they would decline....probably simply for the thrill of seeing what they could get or wanting to hear some "little girl" sound desperate. Heck my last prospect tried to barter with me trying to get sympathy that he was roughing it in the dough department coz he just got married...so he couldn't cough up the entire donation. Needless to say he did not acquire my sympathy

speaking as an SP and Courtesan on occasion, most ladies offer a "social fee" for outings that don't require heading to the bedroom after. just be sure that you both can come to terms with a restaurant where the lady isn't broadly known, as ottawa is less than 6 degrees of separation in it's social scene in the downtown core. be respectful...admire and honour a lady for her time spent etc...and you will have no qualms.

I took today off to go to dinner and then to a sex-workers' pride event at a local club thrown by the group POWER that I'm a member of, the event was a huge success and we generated a lot of support, I was beaming with pride at the cheers generated by the hosts to the plight of realizing what it means to have safety and independance and honour brought to our proffession.....and that it should be deemed as such: a noble proffession. supporters were cheered on too....everyone was appreciated. However the night was not without its batch of naysayers and judgmental ignorants at the end of the evening....i actually lost some "friends" tonight (notice I use the term "friends" loosely) getting caught in debate as to what our world really was about and truly deserved. it leaves me a bit saddened...actually VERY heavy hearted.. but gives me hope in that this was a huge step for Ottawa. A difficult upwards battle is definitely in our future tho. I was basically outed to everyone that I happened to know outside of work tonight who happened to be there (perhaps the shirt that said "I LOVE my job" played a part in this, lol)...but I dont care anymore. This is my life, I've chosen it and those who dont care to see past their own stereotypes yet still attend a night like POWER threw tonight wishing to scoff and cast stones....well I wonder why they showed up in the first place. (??) I for one know a few blokes who showed up seeing if they could meet some "hookers" and "peelers" first hand and were surprised and turned off that there was a homosexual market in ottawa and were disgusted that "queers" were even mentioned tonight. One (no longer) "friend" came up to me at one point and asked me to point out all the "hot whores" that were present. I said (in less polite words) that I regreted ever handing him a flyer. Many people worked long and hard and planned this event thoroughly and delivered an amazing show...full of shout-outs and respectful cheers and amazing music and live performances. I personally would like to applaud POWER (prostitutes of Ottawa Gatineau, Work Educate Resist) for bringing the community together tonight. I for one am not going to let tonight's naysayers affect my pride for my work...if anything I feel sorry for some who judge before they even try to understand. I hope that everyone in support of tonight or in organization of tonight sees the contribution over the judgement and recognizes what a big step they have made for our industry in Ottawa. I for one (no matter what I may have lost tonight...that didn't matter in the first place now that I think of it) have gained more strength from coming to terms with who I am tonight.... ....and I have POWER to thank for it. all my love, xoxo Annessa

hopefully this gets nominated as a sticky in the newbies section....very important points here and very strong emphasis on safety as well as hygiene. Not everyone takes these things into consideration. Thank you ATH for bringing these pointers to light.

Wesley ;-)

hehe we will sip romulan ale again soon and I will definitely recount my teenage days having gone to several trekkie conventions, and naming my son after a TNG Character ....alas that is all in my past.....but I sill love my Romulan ale......i prefer to call it Pinot Grigio now tho, lol

oy that must be tough to work with someone who believes its their right to have to make others deal with their addiction as well. I smoke on my balcony at my incall location. as i too hate the aftermath smell of stale cigarette smoke. heck I used to work in a bar back in the days when smoking was still allowed indoors and even after only having a few my laundry basket would make my house reek off ashtray at the end of the night...mmmm...sweat and cigarettes, not the best combo...even tho I didnt smoke in my house, no matter what kind of air freshener or purifier you use it doesn't cut that smell out and someone who is a non smoker is much more likely to notice it

lol...buit seriously....next step...everyone grab a partner and hug them.........real tight, hehe

ok false alarm...finally managed to download RealPlayer to hear the interview. I'm beaming at you (erin) and Nico! GREAT on-the-fly answers! no nervousness detected WHATSOEVER! an interview like that makes me so proud to be a part of what POWER stands for. I only hope that enough early listeners had their eyes opened to the points mentioned. such as the plight of the workers of today and that we should be regarded as any worker in any industry. The victimization definitely has to grind to a halt and the public and police system needs to get a true grasp that we should be regarded as any hard working civilian. hats off to you Erin! we will high five on sunday! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

"well behaved women never made history" ;-)

hello...my name is Annessa "hello Annessa" I'm here because I have a problem.....I'm a Cerb Addict. knowing is the first step.... *insert dry community center audience applause*

I dont think its so much the art of flirting thats dead...so much as the art of courtship. any bloke at a bar can toss out a line or too or send a wink in a general direction (whether or not it works is another story) but maybe I'm old fashioned in thinking that flirtation today consists of far too many egos flirting with the idea that they need to impress a woman (or sometimes even bigger egos thinking that they dont need to at all and the very fact that they're talking to that lady should make her feel special)...instead of making her feel swept off her feet. obviously not to toot my own horn but I get hit on a lot when I go out from random strangers, some flirtation I appreciate and some bring out the mean in me. But I think that some of the men today...no wait...boys today have lost the concept of what true flirtation actually demands of the individual flirting. a humble flirtation to me is far more productive than a peacock feather contest if you know what I mean. and on the subject of bar flirtation, if all else fails guys: hehe

I have to sadly admit that having gone to bed at about 5am the other night my alarm sadly did not wake me in the morning and I missed the show. I'm having lots of trouble opening anita's link of the archived episode...anyone have any pointers? I feel like a fruitcake for missing it :-(

I think I remember joking with you that that was a pretty expensive cigarette delivery system, hehe

sweeeeeet! can't wait! :-)

hahahaha......aw man, thats what I get for typing at 5am!!! of course I mean SHIRT! *giggle*

This is an interesting thread. I myself am a smoker but very few of my clients can tell. I use mouthwash and listerine pocket-sprays religiously...use hand sanitizer on my fingers right before a call etc... I've rarely smoked on calls where I was hosting and NEVER smoked on a call where I was the guest...unless the client was a smoker himself and partook in one. Even tho I'm a smoker however I still hate it when a client reeks of smoke or his breath smells like an ashtray when he arrives after I have put in the effort to mask my smoker-image/scent.

good for you erin! I just found out that my 11am appointment just cancelled so being almost 4am right now I will most def set my alarm, wake up and check out your interview.....then crash again, lol also, super excited for the party on Sunday!! i got a T-shit made for the event that says "I LOVE my job" on it! hehe. Babylons not gonna know what hit them when we take em on! ;-)

I have to admit, on top of meeting the gentlemen for alone time involved, it would be lots of fun to meet the other lovely ladies in a social setting as well!

this is definitely a more than fair figure. as for excuses for what kind of event this is, I was thinking a business strategy seminar or a vague workshop seminar of some kind. obviously not everyone can use something like photography as an excuse, but I'm sure many gents have their own businesses or belong to one so signing up for a seminar or retreat that would be 'strengthening their business roles/confidence' would not be far off :-)

ack! I wont even ask, but almost have to...stained with??? *winces* :-S

My thoughts are with and you family Emma, warm feelings and positive vibes are most definitely coming in your direction. Thank you for sharing this poem with us all *BIG huggs*