The SP I frequent provides the perfect environment very similar to the top of the tread. She is perfection except the wine that I feel is my role, I always bring an excellent vintage wine. It works for us and I know she appreciates it.
I have had frequently been contacted by an SP that we agreed to for conversation and mutual subjects of interest which I think we both enjoy but it is never for looking for business. The intent of the contact and the trust that has been built up are the important issues.