Winnipegcub

My 1960s Strombecker Road Race set. It was the best ever. Until my older brother put oil all over everything to try and make the tires smoke. Wrecked the entire set. I cried for days. Was never the same. But for a couple of weeks it was/is my best gift ever.

I'm with all the other gents and certainly doesn't look like we're in the minority. It is truly the connection. And yes I often know within the first 15 mins of the date. The best experiences are when I quickly feel consumed that I'm with my girlfriend. Some ladies are relaxed and love what they do and this comes out quickly in particular if a little chemistry is there. Unfortunately, I've had a couple times when overall things went fine, but it was just a little too mechanical. To take it outside the actual date, I think some ladies of CERB do an amazing job at the pre-date. This can be PMs, notes on profile page, or time in chat. But when you've already begun the connection well before the date - I think it makes the experience that much more. And I also value when that connection can continue between dates. This is what would make me keep wanting to see the same special lady. Cub

I am almost exclusively a Mon-Fri Evening guy. Well not every night. Haha. Cub

Agree with the others. We too often hear about guy 'no-shows' in both a public way and I believe in the ladies private area. And I have no objections to these communications. I have never missed a date but have had a couple of times where 'our meeting' was forgotten. In both cases the cirsumstances made me question the sincerity of the lady. But if you've been genuine a client has no recourse but to just move on and not consider that lady again. The good news is that the majority of ladies are of the highest calibre in their business and as professionals. You would hope in your case you'll receive some kind of explanation. But don't count on that happening and move on. Odds are you next experience will be much better. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

Meg, this is one aspect that isn't in my pre-date ritual. I honestly don't build in masterbation time into the date. If I do that day - I do because something came up. Haha. If not, then I don't. But honestly don't think about it or plan in any way.

I don't believe I've seen a post on this but thought the Men of CERB could provide their planning and preparation rituals for their dates. After a couple of meetings I think I have my routine generally established however, depending on circumstances, adjustments do need to be made. First off, I am generally a long term planner and rarely would book a meeting at the last minute. This usually provides me with ample time to find a lady I think I might connect with and hopefully begin some kind of initial dialogue to get to know each other. Planning and research is a big part of my preparation. I love reading a woman's posts on CERB. It helps me really get to know them. And even better if we've had the chance to chat. My activities usually take place when I'm travelling. I generally stick with women I know and could be classified as a regular when I've connected with a particular woman in a specific city. However, some cities to me haven't resulted in finding a 'local' lady, so in these cases I have to us CERB and other sites to find travelling ladies. Then schedules really get tricky and often things don't align but I'll rarely sacrifice what my interests are. I would rather meet few ladies but have great times than book appointments cause I want one. Of course depending on whether a touring lady or I'm travelling often then also determines if Incall or Outcall. I'm OK with either but would be nervous of some incall locations if I don't know where I am. As date night gets closer I try and learn more about the lady. In particular if I am hosting. For example, does she like a particular beverage for our meeting. I treat it like being a host so try to have 'extras'. This may also include room service for snacks - should we need them. I also make sure my hotel room is tidy. If I'm travelling to an incall I probably do the 'm*pqu*st' thing and may even walk the route so I know where I'm going. This is planning not stalking. I'll also often consider a gift or something unique about me or her that I think is appropriate. This then requires added shopping time but I find it fun to do. I make sure I have the correct donation. I probably seperate and count the money multiple times just so I make sure its right. Just before the date is obviously time for showering, trimming below, shaving, and teeth brushing. Ok, I have at times brushed my teeth 3 times before a date and gargled twice. Figure out what to wear, iron clothes and get dressed. Sometimes, if I'm hosting I will see if I can find good music on my laptop or on the radio to set the mood correct. I probably adjust the lighting a few time to get it just right. At this point my heart is beginning to race. If I'm travelling to an incall I try to not walk so fast that I'm there early and out of breath. Although it has happened. If the lady is coming to me maybe time to brush my teeth again, check my hair, etc. Then that knock on the door. And the fun begins! Deep breaths! Cub

Erin, I am sure my scenario isn't what you a referring to but it does sound close. Those who know me know I can be chatty. At times I have spent long sessions in chat with a lady and sometimes in private. But I think I can take a hint, am honest about my interests, and respect the lady's time. You hope in time men and women learn the standard of conduct on CERB and new members are shown the respect we afford each other. But not all will quickly learn this and we'll have to cope thru the frustration and not lower our own personal standard of conduct in the meantime. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

I hope its all Alberta beef! Hahaha. Posted via Mobile Device

Megan, I hadn't really thought about it much but I think I prefer to be acknowledged the way you describe - privately and with discretion. I've been fortunate that the ladies I've seen have all been extremely classy and discrete. The chat room certainly wouldn't be the case to publicly discuss past meetings. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

I would not necessarily over think it. If I was interested in her and available later I probably would have called her. I think in a SC or any place we need to respect each others privacy. But if the surrounding was private enough that would allow the 2 parties to enter the conversation about a possible encounter I would be OK with that. A similar situation happened to me in a SC and a discrete conversation led to a great meeting later on in the night. I think discretion, respect, and common sense go a long way. However, I would never be the one to place another person in a difficult situation. Cub

Completely agree with Malika that it really only matters what you think for such a personal decision. My own preference is a woman who is little more on the natural girl next door type. For me this means min piercing, min tatoos, min/no augmentations. But in seeing SPs I've made exceptions in all of the above and been more than pleased. Do as you wish but be confident in whatever your decision. That 'air' of self pride is the biggest turn on. Just my point of view. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

Agree with the sentiment of this post and the gents above that providing a little feedback after viewing a profile is nice. I am a frequent visiter of many of the ladies' profiles and for the most part try and provide a comment. Inparticular if a new member for me, or new pics. Also if I've been impressed by a conversation in chat or a post she's made. I don't use the 'silent' approach and don't think I would. I don't mind someone knowing I was admiring their profile even if I didn't leave a message. Now because I'm not in Ott I must say that I've visited many ladies' profiles and chatted with them but chances are I won't ever see. Likely be back many more times in the future Loralee and hope you and other ladies don't mind. WC Posted via Mobile Device

Agree with Newton on this I like a women to show her unique style. Having said that Summer, the little black cocktail dress is my FAV!

Classy dressed is always nice. However, don't hesitate to mix it up. If thats how the date starts and then I proceed to the shower - always nice to come out to a little suprise. Lingerie or Naked and waiting is inviting. Having said that watching a woman undress or helping a little along the way and slowly removing piece by piece can be pretty hot and sexy. Bottom line, I luv it all and my preference is for the lady to choose what she feels the most comfortable and confident in. WC

Eeks, think of 2 Cerb gents who are related and don't even know it. And they're seeing the same SP! Posted via Mobile Device

Great insight Kyra. Couldn't agree more. I'll likely never meet any of the other gents but interesting to consider that a lady may know two strangers. Posted via Mobile Device

I agree that the anonymity is kinda neat. The ladies are a little more 'out there' with their pics or video in chat than I am or some other hobbiests but really - Who are you? That mystery adds to the world of hobbying. Posted via Mobile Device

My menu; - start with a single malt scotch, light ice before dinner. - Appetizers (seafood) Nice dry white wine Mussels Jumbo Prawns Lobster - Soup Supported by a nice red Cabernet French Onion Soup - Main Course Filet Mignon with Roasted Small Potatoes and Asparagus And more Cabernet - Feta Cheese Salad with orangle slices - Desert anything chocolate and a strong black coffee - Finishing A nice glass of port, good cigar, and my fav Cerb friend. Posted via Mobile Device

Fresh Fruit from South Asia, Dark Chocolate from Belgium, and a dry White Wine from South Africa. Mmmm! Oh yeh and Salt & Vinegar Chips. Diversity eh. Posted via Mobile Device

Wow a bold move by a bold woman. We never got the chance to meet but I loved getting to know you just a little in chat and from your valued posts. I have no doubt you are a lady that can and will succeed at whatever she pursues. I value you even more for the conviction you have in your decision and send my best of wishes and support. XOXO Cub Posted via Mobile Device

Just to throw a wrench in the whole process. I only hobby when I travel. Not sure how many are like me. But in this approach I could be an Ottawa, Toronto, Winnipeg, etc 'client' but not from those cities. We have touring ladies but also touring clients. Hmmm never really thought of myself that way. Posted via Mobile Device

So I've seen a few threads about duos and in particular one in which the ladies identify who they have/may work with. The idea of a duo intrigues me and this coming year may look into a 2F 1M session. My experiences have all been with just 1 female SP and I must say I've had some great times. My question to hobbiests who have had experience with this is; How did you go about selecting the 2 ladies? 1. Do you build on a positive relationship you might already have with an SP and see if she has a friend that might interest you or you suggest someone that she may be compatible with? or, 2. Do you look for 2 new ladies that you haven't seen who might advertise this as a specialty of theirs? With this you leave the 1 on 1 relationships you have with current SPs as is. Interested to hear the gents views on how they developed their duo partners. Ladies feel free to also comment with your perspectives - they are always opportunities for many of us to learn. Cub

Ok, CK you can buy shares in Kraft. Me I'm buying a case of Cheese Whiz and inviting Meg and Cindy to a party. Hehe. Actually my favs are like others and more Candy than snacks. - Tasty Brand Sunflower Seeds (hard to find these days) - Popeye Cigarettes (careful of the red lit end) - Sponge Toffee - Cracker Jacks but with more peanuts in the box - Cotton Candy always WC

In the days of history people of course only had baths. Now many of us have turned to the quick convenience of jumping in the shower. It is almost too bad as I think a nice hot bath can be quite relaxing and gives us time to rejuvinate our bodies and minds. Of course a bath or shower can serve the practical purpose of getting cleaned up but, both can serve as great venues when with a partner. Me I'm mainly a shower guy simply for practical purposes but must admit to love the feeling and peaceful time of a good soak. A partner can of course change the experience of either a bath or shower. Some of my best experiences have been when all wet. I like both the soothing and relaxing feeling of bathing with someone but the force of a shower seems to invoke a different and equally exciting experience. Feel free to share your preferences and/or experiences. Winnipegcub

Meg, 3 things that I love about Canadian winters but could pick many. - just walking outside thru woods, parks, and rural areas. It is so peaceful and the air so fresh. - my outdoor hot tub or the outdoor hot springs in the mountains. Absolutely nothing like it in winter especially when its snowing. - my snow forts. Young and old when we get enough snow its always been time for snow fort construction. Of course I only build the ones with multiple rooms and tunnels connecting them. As I've gotten older it has become a little more challenging as I believe I should be able to sit full upright in them. And then when built I always feel like I can just escape in there. It was more fun when I was little as I never made them big enough to allow adults to enter. But must admit the odd year I still do manage to construct one. Could be our little 'ice palace'. Till the dog pees on the entrance way. Luv Winter and Meg I'll let you pick which you think might be more fun for a lady to join me in. WC