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Bella, You were so happy before and now seem sad and disillusioned. I know there are unwritten rules for stripclubs, but there's something ridiculous about a dancer causing trouble because she likes to kiss - on the lips - once in a while. Whatever happened to YMMV? Isn't discretion the answer?

Bethany, I think you're taking this all very well. Who knows where it will go, but I don't think it's going to be good. With this kind of stuff going on it's easy to see why women become cautious/guarded. You're a real sweetheart and I hope nothing changes that. :bowdown:

Cindy - love your avatar. :bowdown: Here are three more movies for you that involve escorts and personal/professional aspects of the business. I recommend them all. Klute with Jane Fonda and Donald Sutherland. She plays a New York escort who's being stalked; he plays a detective using her to try to figure out what happened to a friend who disappeared and seemed to have a secret life. She's brittle yet powerful; he's low-key, drawn to her, falls in love/tries to protect her (and she's a little stressed/messed up). Unusual combination and great chemistry. Mona Lisa: revolves around a driver (Bob Hoskins) for an escort. He's not too bright, she's beautiful, complicated, and disappears - he tries to find her, discovers unexpected feelings. Two things stand out: Hoskins is fantastic and makes the movie, and the title song ("Mona Lisa" sung by Nat King Cole) just blows you away because it perfectly captures the movie's mix of beauty and sadness. Hustle and Flow: about a small-time pimp (Terrence Howard) who's terrible at his job and tries to find a new path. Howard is funny, and simultaneously pathetic and sympathetic. Great opening scene as Howard lamely tries to convince a john to book something with one of his girls, who's sitting right there in his car, bored and totally unimpressed with how bad he is at his job. Maybe we should have a movie night???

My vote goes for Leaving Las Vegas: very powerful ... two broken people trying to connect. Great contrast between Nicholas Cage (looked like a mess inside and out) and Elizabeth Shue (so pure and wholesome on the outside but maybe even more messed up inside). I remember being overwhelmed when Shue catches Cage in bed with another woman when he'd resisted sleeping with her. Shue was amazing.

I've also seen Lisa. She is very attractive/fit, friendly and gives a nice massage - totally legit. I've never had someone massage the front/side of my neck before - sounds weird but felt amazing. I find therapeutic massages can be a nice complement/contrast to the more erotic ones offered by many of the ladies here, and would recommend Lisa on that basis.

I must admit I love the scent of perfume on a beautiful woman, especially as I lean in close to kiss the inside curve of her neck. The fragrance it leaves on my clothes is both a blessing and a curse!

Peachy, Add me to your list of admirers. We came close to meeting but you were under the weather and I haven't been able to reschedule - something soon to be corrected! I love your warmth and genuine friendliness ... ... jim

This. Engaging, warm, seductive, suggestive, ...

First off, I must confess to making a few rookie mistakes along the way, largely a result of thinking too much or not thinking enough. I now see that hobbying is not all that complicated but knowing a few key things is critical. I?ve had wonderful sessions and surprisingly found the greatest pleasures have been small, unexpected moments. For example, I had the most amazing foot massage where my feet have never been so loved or sensually caressed ? Frankly, a lot of this feels surreal. Here?s a scene: I?m showering with a lovely lady at the conclusion of our time and we?re talking about the nature of long-term relationships; I mention some of the issues with my S.O.; we discuss this as she rubs body wash onto my chest; she then asks thoughtfully ?Have the two of you ever thought about swinging?? ... Without answering that last question quite yet, that made me think of an old Playboy cartoon: an elderly gentleman is naked in bed with a young, buxom blonde, his hands fondling her huge breasts as he says ?My wife doesn?t understand me.? I can relate! This raises the question: do men ever talk about their S.O. while hobbying, or was that just another rookie mistake?? Life can be so interesting ?

I sympathize and it's sad that there are so many relationships in similar shape. I also love my S.O. but there's a basic emotional chunk missing out of our partnership and my (lame) attempts to fix things have not gone well. I started hobbying recently out of curiosity/loneliness and feel happier as a result, not just for the obvious reasons. I'm a little more free about life (she's noticing ...) and also a little more resigned that my relationship will either get better or worse (she's noticing ...). No direct confrontations yet, but I won't be surprised when they come. For me, the status quo just isn't an option, so I guess the bottom line is know what you want.

I had a chance to spend time with Bethany this week. She more than lives up to her handle as the ?Sweetest Massage? and I loved every minute we had together. Bethany?s process starts via e-mail with a few simple screening questions to make sure there are no surprises for either party. The questions are honest and made me take time to express what I was (and wasn?t) expecting and why I was attracted to her. I liked this step because it developed some initial rapport and built my anticipation for our session. In person, Bethany is striking. She is a full-figured woman with lovely breasts, a soft mane of dark brown hair, a beautiful face and the most delicious eyes you could imagine. Even better, she was warm, friendly and easy to be with. We took time at the beginning to chat and break the ice before she seductively undressed me and led the way to the shower. Ninety minutes later I was drying off from a second shower, dizzy from another dose of her tender affections, soon to be heading out the door distracted for the rest of the day. Bethany is surprising. She is extremely sensual and used her body in creative ways that pleasured me to no end. But there was also a delightfully shy and gentle quality about her that made me want to hold her close in my arms. Before a final shower to clean up, I lay on my side looking at Bethany?s reflection in the large wall mirror beside the table as she lightly ran her hands down my arm and along my leg. I loved just watching her, talking with her, each of us sharing a few secrets. It was a special moment from a special time with a very special woman ?

Thanks to everyone for the wise and welcoming comments. Two things I?ve noticed in my brief time on CERB are honesty (many would find that ironic) and a healthy dose of irreverence. Snooping around a few weeks ago in the ?bi-weekly awards? thread, I came across a post where hobbiests and SPs alike shared how they got started in this area. I was disarmed by the openness people showed about their own roots and motivations. At the same time, though, the board is littered with jokes and light humor - good to see people don?t take things too seriously ...

I am a new user who joined last month. After poking around and learning from others, I?ve decided to start contributing to share my perspectives and experiences. This is my first post. I?m in my early 50?s, my S.O. relationship is under reconstruction, and I?m really questioning things I?d always taken for granted. That?s a lot of crap floating around in my head, but fortunately it motivates me to live a little more in the moment. I mean, fuck, if I can?t enjoy each day NOW, when will I? I stumbled across CERB in August and my first impressions bordered on voyeuristic ? all these juicy details, the women, stuff happening right here in Ottawa! That was fun for a bit, but then I wrestled with actually joining and becoming a ?hobbiest?. Was this wrong? What about my S.O.? How would this change me? It?s all still a work in progress, but I look at ?hobbying? very differently than just a month ago. The women I?ve met through CERB have been friendly, caring, and talented (Michelle, thank you for the warm welcome!) while the people who write reviews have been unbelievably helpful. It truly is a community where all members ? hobbiests and MAs/SPs - gain from the sharing of information and building of trust. Also, it feels ?normal?, even sensible, to spend time with these lovely ladies so they can work their own brand of magic to make us feel very, very good. I never thought I?d be interested to see an SP, but their liveliness and uniqueness jumps out at you from reviews and their own posts. Instead of saying ?Why would a stranger want to have sex with me??, I now think ?Whoa, she?s funny, smart, sexy AND she wants to make me feel good.?). This could get expensive! More to come ?