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Hi Dorinda, I will not be hoasting another party for a little while. I have another project that requireds my attention now. That was the 3rd chicas party in 54 weeks. I think we are doing quite well., however if someone or a couple of someones want to arrange another party , I think we are ready for that. Just call it by some other name. All that said I have at least on new idea for the next 'Chicas Party' ( can't help it)

This apology is directed to people that sent messages to me about the chicas party. I was able to respond to quite a few but not all that wrote. I would have preferred to respond to each person individually before the party but with the arrangements that needed to be made time did not permit. I am sorry , and I will try to respond even after this party was over. I'd want to attempt another one of these in the future, but I don't know when. I like to change up some of the guests each time and grow the party each time ,if possible. This time space was the limiting factor. I think that all attending had an enjoyable time. As I promised I will post a little bit on the party here. I hope that others will submit something about their experience as well. Not all that attended are cerb members so we will not hear from all participants.

That is the problem with us guys Julias. We and only work the equipment so long then we need a 20 minute break. Give the guy a few more minutes , give him a little oral orifice to organ resuscitation then get at it again! If he doesn't you need to treat him like a lame hourse and threaten to send him to the glue factorty. But it is only fair to warn himw first. lol

Recently did this for a first time. I know the lady well. Neither of us knew the guy well but I set it up. All I can say is the lady must trust me. She was up for DP and we tried but never quite managed. ( practice practice I guess) No crossed swords , all agreed. No freaking out if if you saw the other guys equipment. ( just like in a locker room). Very intimate experience. I loved it! Lady is ready to do it again if I find the right guy.( she wants to get that DP done well). I don't know about the other guy. Hardly heard from him again. Honest it wasn't that freaky, just good sex. Now what about me doing it with a lady that keeps a guy on the side especially for this type of thing. I wouldn't personally do it. Why? I don't know, it just isn't "natural". It isn't like I am shareing, which is how I viewed this experience. Would I do it as part of a party scene? Maybe. And maybe we will soon see. If I never get the chance again , I can live and die with that. All of that said: I say this. Figure out what you want in this experience and do it. Even if it takes months to set up. Friend, I don't want to be sitting in some old folks home with another 70 year old and all he can think about it what it would have been like if he took my advise, and me sitting there thinking ' Jeez I wish I had someone to compare stories with' .. lol take care, get at it! best wishes.... Chicas

Hi livenudecats, I'm not upset with you , I just can't move a weekend, and that was the last time I try. Your "child care never came through" lol. You better explain that to everyone . It sounds like you were waiting for a child care support cheque to come through so you could go pooning. I know better but it still sounds bad.... take care

Hi Soleil, Perfect response. Lets every one know you are into this; lets everone know I am not. ( they can always make an appointment for later or another day) and still get a chance to meet you at the party if they come. Meeting other people is definitely an important part of this party, maybe the most important part. We have refined the parties a little to include more games. I think you will like that. I may have the last lady lined up. She seems positive but I wanted to email her some information before she commits. I'll let you know later. I still have some work to do. ttyl chicas

Sorry no mistresses or dominatrix attending' or atleast not preform those specialties Additional Comments: " what is a chicas party" Two answers I guess. A westcoast chicas party is a party for girls. All sorts of fun things can and do happen. I don't think they are real common , and I have never been. Named for those participateing , young females = chicas ( in Spanish) A central Canadain chicas party ( happens only 2 or 3 times a year). A fairly small gathering of equal number of ladies and gentlemen. Object of the party is to have fun while meeting a few people in our community. There are games, prizes , wine and refreshments. There is no admission but you are expected to share. Unfortunately Manitoba is not the place to throw this party open to all so it is by invitation after surveying your record on this and other boards. Each party has taken on its own identity so far and likely will in the future. Named, after I guess, the hoast. So far there is no legal dispute over the ownership of the name " chicas party" lol

Wildstallion , what do you mean " better yet" You know there is nothing better than meeting Soleil at a chicas party; if it is your first time or your 50th time. You were a delight to have at the last party. Too bad we have to schedule these things around my timing. Soleil it will be fantastiv to see you once again ! Thanks for all the help.

I wanted to try the next chicas party in Brandon, but inspite of my efforts I wasn't getting much input. I looked and asked, and there are no local providers. I looked at bringing in 5 or 6 SP and could find nothing in the way of location that I felt comfortable offering to the ladies that was big enough and secure enough for everyone. That is the bad news..... The good news is that we are going to have another chicas party in Winnipeg on August 27. I know it is a weekend and it doesn't work for a lot of guys. I can't help it. It works for me. Last time I nearly screwed myself trying to move the date from a friday or Saturday to a Sunday to accomodate 1 guy, and in the end he couldn't attend, so this is it Saturday August 27 in the evening. It will be a small party 5-6 guys, 5 -6 ladies, but the party is a little bigger each time. All of these parties take on their own character. Each exciting and fun. I only provide the oppertunity and guide it a little bit. What makes them special is the people that attend. This party will be at least as fun and at least as exciteing as the last two ; maybe more so. Even as we start, the party is half booked. I can accept 3 more guys and 3 more ladies. If you are interrested contact me. Saftey is primary! I need ladies with well established history and men that I know, or who have a history of posts on the boards. I am not prejustice against the shy or careful guy (yes I am a little shy myself), but I have to be careful for everyone's sake. If you are early and if you are safe I will get back to you with more details. If the party fills-up before I get your reply, please don't hold it against me. I will put you on a list for later parties. If I upset you because you think I am boastful, or you are envious, please stop that. I am doing what I can for this community. If you want to live without this experience I respect your wishes, but I ask you not to piss on it for everyone else fun. In conclusion I invoc my dictum, " not everything that is given to us is ment for us" Take care chicas/chavez

Unlike quertyacct I am not very good about boundrys ( well other than the nessicary condom on penitration) Like bewlayb I am totally about respect and go gentle. Although I have been ridiculed here for keeping and bringing " a pooners kit" , In the bottom of my kit you will always find a nail file. My nails are such that they can be perfectly smooth when enter the hotel and 10 minutes latter have a small nick that could be quite uncomfortable. A quick brush over my upper lip with my finger tips will tell me if my nails are smooth. ( cleanliness is a must). Also I am not at all put off if a lady were to tell me that my nails have a sharp edge. By the time I would be playing at her pussy she would have plenty of time to assess this. Also I have never met a lady that enjoyed a jackhammer from my hand. A few that would like it from my penis, but never my hand. All of that said; the first professional(?) lady I ever met had these restrictions. No digets, no daty, no lip to lip kissing. I asked her what I could do. IT AMOUNTED TO DICK ALL. I brought a nice wine but incase she didn't drink alcohol I also brought fruit juice and a very good ginger ale. When she said that she didn't drink alcohol, I poured us each a fruitjuice and to give sparkle I added 1/3 portion of ginger ale. This was a potent gingerale that I am fond of and is lableled as " ginger beer" When she saw the word "beer" she refused to partake even though I assured her that there was absolutely NO alcohol content, and I showed her the bottle with full label. To sum this up it was the least satisfying experience I have ever had. You can well imagine that there was no tip, no repeat, and totally no recommndation. I can't help it. If I give a lady total respect, lots of time and good remuneration , I expect few unreasonable boundrys. Since that day I am very happy to say that I am not often disappointed; and never again to that level.

Thank you , thank you.... thankyou Soleil for bringing up this subject so near and dear to my heart. Like most everyone here I am in love with the Monty Python contributions to our lives. We owe a debt to Rowan Atkinson for his "physical ( expression) humor but I need to mention my personal fondness for 1 comedy duo so far unmentioned. The Two Ronnies. Watching their program was an experience. Sometimes they appeared together in a skit, sometimes by themselves. Always outstanding. Speedstick alluded to ' the one Ronnie' He is a delight, but no more enjoyable than his former partner , ( the other Ronnie) now passed on. Thanks Speedstick for includeing the link to that clip. Absolutely the same writers on that program, although now Ronnie is a good 15 years older. Does anyone remember the line " mind my packlunch" from a skit preformer by the other Ronnie. The skit took us through a very " hot and bothered scene" on a train as daily a commuter rides to work in the morning with the background of a steady click-clac of a rail train as background music. I maybe a little dated but I'll bet at least half of us would start to get a woody as we listened to it. ( the other half would start moistening their panties). All of this without 1 sexual word! Truly a work of art. Gracias por la prolabras. chavez/chicas

I leave that shit right where it is. That would be like picking up evidence from the crime scene and dragging it ito the public defenders office. NO THANK YOU! The ladies are free to take all the soaps, hand lotion, shampoos, conditiones, toothpastes. toothbrushes shoe shine cloths etc. (please leave the towels)

Hmmmm Soleil, I don't know that 'real men do this' I've been told that I have "incredibly long and beautiful eye lashes" on a few occassions and " perfect buns of steel" but I have a hard time believing the complement and it give me no sence of pride. I have to go with what Castle says. I don't like the sound of my voice when I hear it recorder but it must appeal to some ladys because I can get as much with talk as most guy can with power or money. I believe it is a little to do with the easy and honest attitude that comes with the voice. And do I use it. Heck yes. Every week. My voice is a shameless hussy. It cuts through more red tape and bullshit every week than you would believe. Would I trade it for $100,000.00; no..... Maybe for a million.

Took the test and apparently I am sexually addicted. But the whole concept is bogus to me. Below the graph it says something like " you have taken the test and it confirms your fears" problem is I never had any fears. I took the test to see how perverted ( self denieing) these people that designed the test are. I looked at the graph, didn't understand it BUT it did remind me of the tent in my pants that I used to get when I was 15 years old and looking at young lady that I found attractive. Fear was thinking that she noticed it too. I suspect these subliminal messages are more telling of my sexuality than this test.

I often check profiles. I check profiles of people that check mine. I check profiles of SP and pooners. It lets me know what they want known about themselves. Sometimes I check a profile to see if they are in a suitable location for an invite to a chicas party or another 'special event'. I often check for how long they have been a member, and how many posts they make and the type of posts they make, how many friends (for me too many friends is as big a red flag and too few). Their profile isn't the be all and end all but it is a start. When this post appeared I thought it was time to update my profile to make sure it still reflected my interrests. Some what to my surprize it was still pretty accurate. I wanted to make one small change; change "helping to sharing", and one small addition; in interrests I wanted to add "parties". I attempted to add these features and find that I now need to include my birthdate. That was not a requirement when I joined almost 2 years ago. Apparently it is now. I don't want to share that. It is part of my private life. Just like my maiden name ( what the hell am I saying, I don't have a maiden name). Anyway it is part of what identifies me in the real world. I prefer not to share that. Ask me my age but don't ask me my birthdate. I don't care for birthday greetings, why else does anyone need to know. If someone wants to know , let them ask me. Ofcourse I could lie, but I have a personal problem with that. I can lie if nessicary( usually to protect someone) but I prefer not to lie. So I keep lieing to a minimum. Can we agree that including your birthdate should be optional. If we can't my profile has to stay the same as when I joined almost 2 years ago. There is no allowance for growth or change.

You know your old when, jeez old dog what wouldn't you give to have that '56 cornet now? ; sorry I mean, you know you are old when to text a buddy saying that you would love to see this lady but you think she is too young for you. He replys that you should lie about your age and you think about cutting your age in half, then think your still too old.

There is truth in what jdstar says. Sex in a marrage is the glue that holds the marrage together. Violence against women because of poor sex or lack of sex in just wrong as wrong as if it happened the other way. That said good sex is what keeps many of us sane or atleast better people. I know how it upsets a lady to think that she has to provide sex for her husband, even if she doesn't feel like it. We need to reverse the situation. All husbands need to provide sex if their wives want it. Reasonable exceptions like I'm at work right now are allowed but things like I have a golf game planned with the guys in an hour, is no excuse. Get those pants off buddy and to your job. For those times when he is unable or unwillng to provide sex, she should be free to persue that satisfaction elsewhere. Then she can decide how much she needed that sex. Can we live with that? Now can we live with this? It works both ways. If we can , we have 2 sexually satisfied people in a marrage. I believe that will be a stronger marrage. The traditional marrage vows of faithfulness have more to do with who is responsible for the resultant children. Now that we have control of our reproductive lives it is time to update the marrage vows. The vows should be: I will be responsible for her sexual satisfaction and I will he responsible for his sexual satisfaction. Responsibility does not mean that I have to do it, it simply means if I can't or won't, then I won't stand in the way of their satisfaction. The premarital courtship time should be used for among otherthings, judgeing if you are capable of satisfying your prospective partners sexual needs or if you are not willing then you need to be willing to share the responsibility. Never in the history of womankind and mankind have we been so equal in our ability to earn a living and so in controle of our reproductivity. We need to be celebrateing this equality and let go of some of the sexist attitudes we hold on to protect our possition as a man or a woman. Chavez just a side note; Masterbation is just a stop gap.It is like flour and water paste as compared to the glue that hold a marrage together.

I wanna play, Iwanna play ( but I can't jump in at the guitar thing so I'll step back a couple. I have been to S.A many times; but never have I ever shared the pleasures of 1 lady with another man. (a group sex experience doesn't count as real shareing) ( I hope to change that "never" this week! yes... I'm very excited!)

Interresting you should mention this. I wasn't sure hiw to get rubber damms, so at the end of an dental appointment a few months back I asked my dentist if I could buy a few from him. He asked why I wanted them. I looked him in the eye, paused for a moment and then said " do you really want to know". He pause , thought , then turned around and open a drawer. Weh he turn back he handed me a dozen dental damms, (2 flavors) wrapped in a facial tissue. I guess this proves 2 things. You never know if you don't ask and sometimes it is better not to ask. End of store, he is still my dentist. I saw him last week. He never asked how it went or if I needed more. I like that guy....

Verrry Interrrrestin Scot tc. ! I would have loved this. " honey, I didn't realize you wanted to experience other people. Lets work together on this. I think that together we can find someone that will help us. Do you want to start with a guy or a girl?" It doesn't have to be a marrage breaker- could be a marrage saver. But thanks for the warning..... chavez

Ilovethegirls , is correct. Appearing at a hotel with a gym bag is pretty normal. It looks like you are there for more that just a quicky. You blend in. I should address a couple of mispreceptions about an earlier response that I made. Cleo say that we can bring our own condoms if we like but not be disappointed or upset if the ladies perfers to use her's. Of course I wouldn't be. I have only a slight preference to the 2 types that I bring and I always encourage the lady to put them on me who's ever we use. Ofter I have seen ladies have purchased the cheaped brand available; but what ever. Who bought the comdomes that we use would be a silly thing to concern myself with. My biggest concern is that she isn't useing something so big that it is going to slip off. Second nothing with desensetiving cream in it. Condomes are desensitising enough as they are. Save the desensitizing ones for the 18 to 20 year olds. Cleo says " You gentlemen get to view our web site, rate us , review us....but we don't get to do the same for you. Well that is not my fault. I have been publically reviewed four times on a site that allowed such things. I loved each and every review. It may not be common but it happens and I can't help but feel it happened to me because of the preparations that I make. So although Cleo would not let me past her peep hole, at least 4 ladies were very glad they did. This world take all types. For me this whole act is not about getting off, it is about each of us have a memorable experience. Chicas/chavez

I will add my 2 cents here because this may be helpful. What the ladies say is correct, we are not all built the same. The lady needs to be able to accomodate you. In my experience that ability is 60% physical and 40 % mental. I suggest that you choose a lady that is open to the idea even if she has never done this ( read here fully open minded). Then book a long appointment. Your partner should be fully relaxed before you attempt this. I wish you a wonderful mind blowing experience. Oh one final note; don't leave this item from your wish list until you are so old that it takes a leathal dose of Viagra to get you stiff enough. You are not going to get any sloppy sausage past those gates , even with the most willing partner..... chicas/chavez

Well , you were lucky! That was luxury. We used to get up in the morning at 10 at night- which was half an hour before we went to bed- eat a hunk of dry poison-work 29 hours a day at the mill and when we got home our parents would kill us and dance around our grave singing "Glory, Glory, Hallelujah" part of the skit "the Liars" The whole thing has me rolling on the floor.I never saw the skit, only heard it once one th radio; never talked to anyone that ever heard of it ; but I don't think I imagined it.

Wow I must be super anal retentive! Almost all of my appointments are at a hotel that I have arranged so in addition to most of the afore mentioned items I always bring, small bottle of bubble bath, one of those bath sponge thingies, a bottle of sparkleing wine, crystal champagne glasses, fruit, crackers , cheese, a serveing tray, lotion for a foot rub, some good chocolate,often (but not always) some toys, some talc for after the bath and candles. I hardly ever have a lady concerned about my bringing in the bag. Some have commented that they looked out the peap hole in the door and wondered what the bag was all about. I never had one say just leave that at home next time. Which is what I did one time fairly recently.I made an appointment with my favorite lady. She picked me up at my hotel and we were went off to see a play, then out for supper and then off to a very nice hotel downtown for an overnight. I couldn't very well drag my bag to the theater and then off to the restaurant , so I threw just the basics in my jacket pocket and met her in the lobby. We had a great evening, then went to the hotel. After we were in the room and had our first real kiss in months she said. " Did you bring the condoms." I replyed " No didn't you?" " You always bring some comdoms even when I have my own, so I didn't bother." she answered. This wasn't the kind of place you phone down to the desk and ask room service to send up a dozen condoms, but I tried anyway. Despiration will make a man do things you would never expect. Anyway we did have a very pleasent evening, just didn't do all the things that we usually do. Here is my point. If you are used to bringing your own condoms, even if you don't use them often, don't stop because a few ladies tell you it isn't nessicary.

Yes Nicolette that is what it is like. Mostly and by a large margin most our experiences are much better. But imagine this; you just had this sort of experience and want to worn other, but your best form of communication restricts you to ' only saying good things'. What the heck is that? You are rewarding absolute abnorrent service by not saying anything. You are doing an injustice to good service by only being able to say good thing about all service. As a person in the service buisness, I want people to be able to express their experience with me. If is is good, I probably deserve it, if it is not good, I can learn where I am failing and decide if I want to adjust that particular point of failure, or if I am failing I can not live in anonymity , continueing to pull down the profession with my uncareing, poor service. This world should be all about how you treat other people , not about what you can get away with.