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Hi Daniel17, I love that you are finding yourself! Once you are comfortable in yourself and confident about the person you are, you will be able to give. Give from your heart and with your feeling; and in the giving you will receive. Yes receive more that you can believe. Way to often we are afraid to give because we think we will be looked on as suckers, or if we give our thoughts, openly, we might be looked at as not normal. There are only a few ' Normal People' in this world and a lot of pretender. We should feel sorry for both. Unlike you I don't like to ' not shave' very often( only on the occassion when I want to be lazy) because I like to give. Make sense ? Yeah. If it happens on any given day that I am giving oral sex to a lady I want her to enjoy it as much as I do. It is something that is hard to enjoy if the person giving has a day and a half growth on his beard. Save yourself and your partner some pain. Get a good razor. Now-a-day with something like a Gillette fusion razor you can shave blindfolded with you left hand, useing a vag. lub for shaveing cream and still not nick yourself. Yes the damn blades cost a half million dollars but you get a million shaves from of one. It is a poor man's equilalent on a Lamboughini. Do it, Daniel, do it. Explore yourself, release those comparisons, learn to get by giving.....o.k...... chicas you are doing good ( this ad brought to you by the makers of Gillette razors, who are not responsible for your sexual satisfation and gratification. George Clooney smiles are not included but she can't see your smile when you tongue is doing it's job, but she will feel your stubble) God is that a new tag line for Gillette ? ps. sorry if I offended anyone. This is part of me expessing me.

Thanks Emma; I would never have guessed.

Yes Charlotte, treat the penis like it is football equipment, the balls like they are a basket of quail eggs ( because they are).

Notch Johnson; so you never experiences bad oral; let me introduce you to my wife. She loved (yes past tense) receiving, but her heart and mind wasn't there when giving. I always hoped it would change, but it only got worse. I believe I have more than a passing grade in the giving department. It is all about listening. Listening to what the lady is telling you and what her body is saying. ( some ladies don't like to give directions) but more it is about doing what you love. Roaming guy, maybe I owe you an appology. I like the heavy duty sucking. (in a more gentle tone I call this 'negative G's) . while discussing this with a few ladies I have been known to say " you can't suck a man too hard" . Your experience may have been with a lady that I trained. lol. I do agree. Grabbing tightly on to the end of your equipment and pulling down hard with no lube ,... painful ( this lady needs sensativity training) Squeezeing hard and pullings down with lube.. good thing! Finally Ottanon I have little to add to your advise especially the part about includeing the balls. I find that this is the part that I have to mention most often, and this is the part where you need to be gentle. Ottanon, yes you should give instructions...... I should give the final exam. All this said, I love giveing oral but getting oral isn't a deal breaker for me. All I really ask is that you enjoy it. If you can't , sign up for one of Ottanon's classes... chicas /chavez

This is great Meg ! I've never joined a group and I don't have time to search out all the groups looking for some compatable interrest ; but I am interrested in discussing with people of the same interrest and in the same area. By useing this and the advanced search function I can fine people in my area with similar interrests. Nothing against people with similar interrests in other areas but our chances of interacting are slim. I will use this new function, I will now join a few groups and I may even create 1 or 2. Wonderful addition!!!!.. thanks ... chicas/chavez

Hi Gentleman11, My experience would be somewhat similar to those of winkle and my advise along the lines of winnipeg cub. Each one of these scenerios is good. Know the ladies- dont know the ladies. Ladies know each others- ladies never met , but you know each of them. You know one lady - neither one of you know the other. This is not like going to the dentist, you are going to enjoy the experience believe me, and the more open you are to this the better you will enjoy it. For me there are 2 things that are of upmost importance: 1st: don't think that the ladies are there for your enjoyment (sure they are) but don't think that. Better that you think you are all there for each others enjoyment. Take part of your enjoyment from their enjoyment. 2nd: Allow lots of time. If you have to cut out one of your next appointments to afford this one , do it. My first duo was an 1.5 hours because I didn't think I could afford more time. That was my only regret for my duo appointments. I never made that mistake again. My top 3 memories from a duo ( 3 differend duos and in order of occurance: a.) " Can I do that" " do what" " what she just did, sit on your face" " sure, can she blow me while we are doing that " "sure" b.) I cover one of the ladies in whipped cream, fresh fruit and chololate. The other lady starts at her toes and I start at her neck. I eat down, she eats up , we stop at the bellie button for a really smushy , messy kiss ; then continue on . c.) As I am feeding my member into one of the ladies mouth, the other one, with a strap-on, in a comic voice , is expressing regret that she is built so small; just before the insertion. I enjoy comedy as much as anyone. Ohh I forgot my absolute favorite and one that I would try to incorperate every time: I love the kiss, and this is the ultimate kiss! All 3 off you get together while standing for a group hug, which turns into a group kiss. Somewhere in this kiss ( after 30 seconds and before a minute,-I think) one of the ladies goes down and starts to blow you while useing her finger on the other lady. The other ladys and you continue the kiss. If I could trademake this kiss as a "chicas-kiss" I would do it. Not for the money but so they could write on my tombstone " Innovator of the Chicas Kiss" Gentlemen 11, relax and have a good time... o.k. chicas/chavez

Hi Charlotte, You may have the expertise that I can benefit from. I am stongly considering the purchase of a We vibe for next weekend. You tell us, it is a toy that 'your experience may vary'. Please tell me /us; is there any position that gives greater effect than other positions. thanks ... chavez

Hi Malika, Immediatly after I read your question I knew what I wanted to say but as I read the responses Ricko is sooo on. A present that is exceedingly valuable is a gift of your time. What makes this so great is that it works for both of you. He will have those memories long long after a shirt is worn out or a tool has broken. What is equally important is you will have those memories of those moments even after he has left you. (damm I'm tearing up!) For the last 20 years I have said that some day I want to go skydiveing, but I just wasn't getting around to it. Last year as a gift one of my sons booked a skydive for he and I. The skydive was good, but it didn't rate in the top 10 things I have done. What was special was the 6 hour drive with he and I to and from the airport and the hour and a half meal at some steakhouse. I can't even remember the steakhouse so you know it was the hour and a half that was important. This spring another son got himself into some stupid shit. The rescue involved spending 13 hours together, most of it one on one in a vehicle. Thats a lot of talking and most of it wasn't important stuff, just stuff. In the end it is what we needed. He needed to know just how far I would go for him, I needed to know that he still needs me. I have 1 more son. We spend quite a bit of time together now, which I love , but I am still looking forward to that time in our lives when it is just he and I for hours and hours, and it won't matter if it is fun stuff or hard stuff. Ok you might ask,' does this work for girl too'. Oh yeah, you bet ! I have 1 grand daughter. No grandaughter could be closed to her grandpa, and still I look forward to the time when it is just she and I together for hours and hours. Malika, do this for your dad. Book off a day, tell him you and he have to go somewhere (it will involve hours of you and he alone). Then do 1 thing. Could be golf, could be a meal, could be a dinner theatre, could be fishing, what ever. That will be the best gift your father ever gets, and you will share the gift. You may only do it once in your life. You don't have to do it on father's day but you might want to make plans and tell him this Sunday. All of this said, I have to tell you; Father's day is the biggest bogus holiday ever. Mother's day YES; most definitely. I think father's day was conceved by Hallmark or something and if they hadn't done it Canadian Tire would have. There is no one that deserves a father's day more than I do, and yet I feel guilty about there being a 'special' day for me. Malika don't ever feel bad about not having a gift for your father. Just give him a kiss, tell him that you love him for the guy he is and if you can , make him that promise of your time.... chicas/chavez

HI 987, An overnight is the sweetest encounter and very special. I agree with Sweetest Massage about the candles. Your planning is excellent. I will pass on a couple of ' secrets'. Choose a pleasently scented but not overly common soap. When you shower or bath together use that soap, then slip a new unopened one into her overnight bag. When she uses it sometime in the next week or two she will think of you and remember those times. ( that is what we want right, to be remembered and to stand out) Scent is a powerful stimulas for memory. When you shower or bath use one of those bath puffs on her entire body with your chosen soap. Yeah it sounds girly but the girls have it right. The give a wonderful stimulatory effect to the skin. Now in this bath you have covered 2 pleasent sensation , touch and smell. Before you go to sleep (about the time you really couldn't get it up one more time, even if she was paying you) tell her that you would really like to apply powder to her body. I use unscented talc because I don't want to confuse scents, but you could use a baby powder or other body powder. As she is lieing totally nude on you bed sprinkle the powder over her body,avoiding the face but including the neck. Slowly smooth this over her, both sides, under the arms , especially in the fold of her body. I would say break this down into 4 or 5 zones, applying powder to 1 zone, smoothing it in, apply to the next zone , smothing that in etc. etc , etc. Don't over emphasize the sexual zones. You want her entire body to feel erogenous. It is a wonderful sensation for you and even better for her. It will help her sleep pleasently and with any luck she will awake with memories of the last thing that happened the night before, and want to jump your bones. O.K. thats it; no more secrets. I hope you both have a wonderful night.... and when I ask for your help I expect you to come through, O.K. (lol) .... chavez

Why would a guy ask for a "blow job" when he really wants it sucked ?

I guess I never had enough toys when I was a kid. They have become a major part of my playtime now; to the point that I think the nipple pump needs to be replaced.(the before and after pic. aren't as dramatic as they used to be. I have to say that I enjoy the response from a Sybian. For the ladies it sort of get the reaction that a ferriri might get. ( don't get me wrong, I would never spend ferrari money on me). I will bring it and a few other toys to my O.N. appointment next weekend but also will ask the lady if there is something that she would like to try. If she has no suggestions that she and I don't already have, the We- Vibe has an certain appeal. Thanks johnkanuk .......chicas

Hi Dr. love, I have only 1 question: Are you drop dead gorgeous?Most of us arn't , infact consider yourself lucky if you are only average looking (and have all the sexual equipment working). This is why we have these other attributes, warm, caring, sharing, and decent. ( i added the sharing because that is important). If she has developed this to a high level and has a high sex drive , I say give this relationship a go. The high sex drive isn't a thing that you learn, you have it or you don't. If the sex drive isn't there, it is better that she pursue another guy. ( you wouldn't be here is you didn't have a reasonably high sex drive.) Oh, and by the way, what is your drop dead gorgeous trophy girl (bad girl) up to these days? lol chavez

When I really think that I am sick, I sit down here and write a few lines. I get a few responses and then I find that I am not really sick at all, just a little abberrant. It also works as a cure. Serriously does anyone ever go down to their local pharmacy, spill their guts to a pharmacist and ask for advise, at least until you and see Dr. ?

How do I feel about banning pesticides in the city ? "Ladies home journal". At best "The urban gardener" Will someone please remind everyone to get their minds ' back in the gutter' or at least what your grandma might say is ' in the gutter'. ( half in jest, .. half serious)...

Real / Fake .. there is just too much variation in this world for me to figure out. I've seek fake one that look and feel great! The work of a breast artist on the level of a Renoir. I've seen breast reduction , the obvious the work = of a breast artist , on the level of a Picasso. A lady should feel happy with the breasts she has and if she doesn't , then get the breasts she feels happy with, but give it more thought that the average tatoo. Like Gentleman 11, I am more of a nipple man. I love long and responsive nipples. The ones that give me the most pleasurse are the ones that give the ladies the most pleasure so even if they aren't long and hard and dark , the ones that give ladies the most pleasure are the best ones! Truly I feel sorry for a lady who has nipples so sensative that playing with them is painful. Now, as for the pain of augmentation or reduction, if the procedure was simple and safe , how many guys wouldn't go for a simple snip, snip, pump, pump.. a few cm. more in length girth. Hell in 50 years I predict this will be a right of passage at age 14. Way better that the rights of passage than what we have now. Anyway; half in jest, half sincere. chicas/chaves

Wow Nicki! You really know how to make an impression on the in laws Thanks for adding to the post D. Kisses. How long do you think the catcher watched before he/she made their presents know ? (lol)... chicas/chavez

I am going to post this question on the general board inspite on a comment that I should keep my communitions to the Manitoba forum. I can't help but feel that everyone can benifit from the opinions and thoughts of a centralist region. ( heck any region). This is a subject that has intrigued me for years; as much for my response as for others response and how normal am I ? We all have had the occasion of having an in-law staying at our home or have stayed at a home of an in-law and been "sleeping" with our partner. The question that I have is; how does this effect your lovemaking practice? This is how it effects me. Mother in the same house, we are quieter, sister in the same house (next room) no holds barred, brother in the same house ( next room) ( especially if I know he has been without) I feel guilty and want to share but don't know how to tell my partner. Brother and sister-in - law in the same house , no holds bared( we might be a little quieter. Brother-in law ( no partner) in same house , sex only after 2:00 am. Sister-in law no partner, same house, (don't have one) but I think it would be like my sister. (p.s she would be my favorite in-law if she gave me a hi 5 in the morning). Mother-in-law & fatheir-in law , same house ; they would have to be a few rooms away and it would have to be after midnight (they go to sleep early). Only problem is, so does my spouse. This question has all sort of permutations. I would love to listen to every one's response and each or any situation. Oh and for a starter let's assume that my responses are the norm, but feel free to tell me how fucked up I am... o.k..... chicas/chavez

Charlotte you are exactly correct. Prices do go up for exclusivity. Actually they need to go up for anything close to exclusivity. The easiest way to do this is to purchase multiple hours and pay for it , possibly with the understanding that the lady not try to fit in 2 appointments before you and 1 after you. Not everyone (both side) understands this. Often hobbiers expect this in the cheapest manner possible and SP consider this a bonus and work in whatever they can either side. For me it comes down to greed, which I have a low tolerance for. You seem to get it. Thanks.

Yeah , a little bit it bothers me. On the other hand I don't naturally assume that if a lady isn't available it is because she is craming in appointments. The exception is seeing a lady on tour. I understand she is on tour and there is a certain amount of expence associated with that tour. Probably she is heavily booked. I mean, if you are away from home how many regular hobbies and family obligations can you do. Although I am often tempted by some of the ladies on tour I rarely participate. It is maybe a fault in my personality. When I choose a to see a lady it is because she has something special that appeals to me. I need her experience with me to be, even a littlebit, something special. You can only do that a few times a day and then it is a blurr. The end result is my hobbying can be a little expensive as I often choose ladies that I believe are not working on volume. ( I guess that was a little pun, not intended, but kinda cute.lol)

Yes winnipegcub, an interresting question; and one with no right answer. I'll tell you what recently happened to me. I made e mail contact with one of the ladies here.We have met more that once and I felt that we had a solid relationship. After a couple of text messages I proposed an appointment for one of her tour dates, and waited 3 days for her reply. In the meantime I was contacted by another lady that I've seen a few times, saying that we should get together again some time. It just so happens that the ladies are quite similar. Close to the same body build , offer the same services etc, etc. I texted the second lady back saying that I enjoyed her company and indeed we should get back together again but that I didn't have an oppertunity coming up soon. After 3 days the first lady responded and we vertually set up an appointment. I just had a couple of things to do. The next day I texted her a message asking a couple of points about her service, and I waited. In the mean time the second lady and I continued communication by text. So after 2 days I asked her the same question. She responded positively and almost immediately. Three days later lady #1 replyed. Her reply was more or less negative, 'not now, but maybe sometime' That was 5 days after I asked the question. By then I thought she wasn't interrested so booked an appointment with lady #2. I was honest, I told lady # 1 that when she didn't respond after 3 days I booked with another lady. So much for honesty. She is now totally pissed with me. So much so that she decided to " unfriend me on this board" So here is your answer; however long you wait , it will not be long enough for some women..... it is such a shame that that build-up of testosterone makes us such impatient people.lol...... chicas/chavez

Hi Dinomite, I will pm you some info

First I have to say that I never find a picture of any lady " with her tits hanging out " offensive. The use of that term is a little offensive to me, I would choose ' with her breasts on display' but to each his own. That is not to say I find that image sexually appealing. Possibly because I wasn't raised Catholic the simbolism of a nun leaves me non plused. It is just a lady that choose not to participate in one of Gods greatest gifts , and she is wearing black clothing. You can be a good person, a damned good person, and still participate. ( take damned however you want). My personal believe, and hope is that; maybe in her next life she will be able to be as good a person, less tied to a doctrine, and able to interact with the full human experience. Often I am asked if I have a costume preference or fantasy that I would like her to dress for. I am stumped. I want honesty, I want shareing, and I want to experience you as a person. We may not be a hand-in-glove fit but my experience of you is atleast half of what I am looking for. Up til now (is that 3 words or two , or 1 hyphenated ) I have never met a lady that couldn't teach me something. (even if it is only how to spell) I appreciate the points of levity in this serious post and I appreciate the open honesty at a site that is sometimes restrictive of the same. ..the damned chicas/chavez (who doesn't give a damn)

Each case is defferent. For me a separate cell phone is a must. All of my call to the ladies and to make reservations at hotels are long distant. Long distant calls show up on a phone bill and would arrouse too much suspicion. I use a 'pay as you go phone' with texting capabilities and a camera. ( I like a picture for memory sake sometimes but always ask permission first, and get the ladies approval of the image before saving it) and I like to have a phone where a lady can leave a reply text when it is convienient for her. It isn't real cheap but I live by the dictum: 'the easiest way is rarely the best way and the cheapest way never is.'

I don't know Lee; unless Cleo travels to Wpg or Dirtyone says that he is willing to travel , Milfhunters comments made sense to me.

Hi Nicholette, I havn't exactly had that type of deam. Not long ago I did have a dream in which I was shareing a bed and a couple of young ladies with my 30 year old son. The ladies were fine with it; he seemed a little surprised when he found me there but but was coming around to the idea (because the ladies were o.k. with it.) I never did feel that uncomfortable, like ' you do your thing, I'll do mine we don't have to watch each other'. Things were getting real nice when my real life wife, in real life woke me up and said it was time to get ready for work. I had to leave the ladies , but I knew that I was leaving them in good hands! What do you think Freud would say? The only other thing that came close was a couple of overnight or all night session that were over the top ! So much so that the next day I was so punch drunk from lack of sleep I kept thinking was that real or was it a dream? I guess it doesn't matter it had that unreal feel. Here is to dreamy sex!!!! chicas/chavez