Megan'sTouch

I can't speak to all MP's but I think a shower prior to beginning the session is pretty standard in Ottawa.

This is just ridiculous. There are hierarchies of all kinds of services including food services, hairdressing, music lessons, etc. It's not devaluing to us as individuals to place our services in a hierarchy. Remember, we are not selling OURSELVES, we are selling a SERVICE. There is nothing wrong with comparing our services to other fine things in life like wine or a fine restaurant. I'm sure I feel the same way about the service I provide as a 5-star cook feels about his service.

I don't want to sound judgmental, but this sounds like it could be a very risky activity. Perhaps it would be better to ask an SP with whom you are already acquainted? This kind of activity requires trust.

One thing I've learned in this business is that you do not have a monopoly on any particular service, but you do have a monopoly on yourself. There are many gentlemen who aren't just 'looking to get laid' but who have particular standards and they are willing to pay for the right lady.

If you want a massage and bj, check out which escorts do massage.

I believe honesty and open communication are very important in a relationship. That being said, I am not in the business of judging people. Each relationship/marriage is unique. I also believe that marriage/relationships are contract that needs to be respected. That being said, I did not sign onto that contract so I believe that absolves me of any responsibility. The obligations of the contract extend only to those who signed up for it. I have to admit, I do look down upon men who lead their girlfriends/wives to believe they are sexually monogamous and then engage in unsafe activities that put them at risk for STDs/STIs. I don't believe we are naturally monogamous and I'm happy to be in an open relationship where we can engage in activities with others without fear of the other partner finding out and the ultimate fear of the relationship ending.

As long as you have good hygiene, I can't imagine an SP turning you away for being overweight. I guess anything's possible, but I've never heard of it happening.

Yes, we are selling a sexual service, but I think the word "giving" reflects the fact that this service is unlike no other. You're not paying to have us clean your house, you're paying to experience a part of us, something that is invaluable and has no dollar amount. To compare, a doctor may charge an American $10,000 for a lifesaving surgery, but I still would have no problem saying that the doctor "gave me life." Again, the service is invaluable. Yes, I charge $220 for a 90 minutes lapdance/massage session, but my sexuality and beauty is something that has no dollar amount, and I'm sharing that with you.

I think it's unacceptable to use power over another person to gain sexual access. "Power" can include age, race, gender, social class, position of authority, etc. It's very complicated and multidimensional. For example, even though an 18-year-old woman is legal age, I would probably look down upon a 50-year-old white upper-class male professor having sex with an 18-year-old black working class student. I think that given the power difference between the two, there would be a good chance he would be using his power to gain sexual access to her and she wouldn't feel she is in a position where she can say no. Of course, I would listen to her and what she would say. People are the experts of their own lives. I realize this may get me flamed, but I hope people understand what I mean. I'm not going to say that men can never have sex with women, or upper class people can never have sex with working class people. I'm just saying that we need to be aware of the power aspects in a sexual relationship to make sure both parties are providing a genuine consent. That is why I believe men more so than women on this forum are concerned about age. I believe most clients on this forum (at least the ones who see me) are middle-aged white well-off men who are socially conscious enough to realize they possess certain "power" that could be used to gain sexual access to women. The difference is that I personally feel (as I think most women on CERB do) that I have 100% control over my agency and that I am fully in control and able to consent. I know I have the right to say no and I believe I am fully capable on exercising this right. Whereas there are some examples I can think of where I might be slightly afraid to say no such as a professor who is responsible for marking my papers and getting me into grad school (obviously not just any professor but one who has control over me), or a police officer in uniform, etc. I'm not sure I would feel fully able to consent in these situations. But to get back on topic, I highly doubt that just an age difference is going to mean that the man is using the power associated with his age to gain sexual access to a woman and put her in a situation where her ability to say no is limited. As I said at the beginning, as long as she's a mature fully consenting adult, go for it.

Because at strip bars you don't get slapped for staring.

Everyone has personal comfort levels and preferences and these can neither be right nor wrong. They just are. I personally think that women 18-20 are hot as hell, but many of them seem to be lacking the sensuality and passion that comes with experiences.

I don't normally like make comments like this..... but I did read one ad where the SP said "I do DATY but please let me know in advance of the appointment so I can freshen up." You mean if you don't request DATY then she won't be fresh?

I think the important thing is that you are both mature, consenting adults. I've consented to sexual activity with men over twice my age, and I find it insulting to my agency to suggest this is somehow wrong. (I know no one in this thread did, but many people will.)

In the past 10 months, I've had 3 different situations: -A client informed me at the beginning of our session that he would have to leave 15 minutes early due to a work meeting. He paid me in full, and this was no problem. -A client got a call on his blackberry and had to go back to work. Again, it was dissapointing, but not problem. I understand shit happens. He, of course, paid me in full. -I normally leave several minutes at the end our session to relax, cuddle, talk, have a drink of water, etc. I'm very uncomfortable with the whole "you just came so get the fuck out" approach. Two clients I've seen got up immediately after cumming (I'm talking 10 seconds), completely lost interest in me, went to shower and weren't interested in the clean-up shower with me and then bolted. This made me feel very uncomfortable. I don't think they necessarily did anything wrong, but it's just not my style. I call these the "I just came so you no longer exist" guys.

Here I am, in my first class of the year and a beautiful young blonde walks up to me: Blonde: Megan, it's so great to see you! It's been awhile. Would you like to sign up for the group presentation with me? Megan: Ummm, sure! *Totally blanking on who she is and where I know her from* So we go and sign up for the group presentation together and I memorize her name. I quickly go to my computer and facebook her name. We went to the same high school. This saves me the embarrassment of having to ask her where I know her from. THANK YOU FACEBOOK!!! Fast forward to the end of class....... Another young woman signs up to present with us. Our presentation is only two classes away and in a class of 100, I have no idea who this young woman is. I copy down her name and look her up on facebook. I browse her pictures until I get a good idea of what she looks like. I then scout the class, find her and introduce myself. We set up a date to work on our presentation. THANK YOU FACEBOOK!!! Facebook, I don't know what I'd do without you.

So which MP exactly is it trying to make buying sex illegal? Bethany? imkrissy? CMJ? Michelle_MA?

I sometimes enjoy giving and receiving spanks, but it's important to ASK FIRST! I've had a few clients both dancing and doing massage who will randomly spank me out of the blue. Spanking is hitting and it's not okay to hit a person without asking if they're comfortable with it! We position pain and pleasure as polar opposites, but really the sensations are pretty close. Spanking doesn't particularly turn me on, but during a passionate affair, a little pain seems to make things even more intense and passionate. By the way, why in your poll are the men the spankers and the women the spankies? I enjoy spanking as much as I enjoy being spanked.

I just say "Shall we go take a shower?" Very easy. I prefer watching the time myself. I don't expect the client to watch the time. What is harder is occasionally I will get someone (usually an older man) who can't cum. I can't go over time because I have a "security" friend who I have to call 5 minutes after the appointment is over or else she will bust into my apartment. I normally just ask them if there is anything I can do to help, if they would like to take over, and how important it is for them to cum, for men who have ED. I know that ED and difficulty reaching orgasm is a hard thing to talk about with a stranger, but I really do appreciate the communication. If I know you can take awhile, I'll start it sooner :)

If I have an appointment for 1pm and my phone hasn't gone off by 1:00pm sharp, I go to check it. I also make a point of apologizing for any stumbles along the way, even if it's not technically my fault. You're not being overly sensitive; she is lacking in basic customer service.

It's not your feeble brain, it's me writing faster than I can think!

I think criminalization around sex work in general causes clients and workers alike to be more fearful and concerned, even if they do not understand the specifics. No need to argue, but I love a good debate.

I honestly don't think that would make much difference to the women who come into this country knowing very little English. It's not like these women have the privilege of being well-versed in the laws.

Actually, making it illegal would probably make sex trafficking easier because victims would not want to come forward for fear of being criminalized.

This is a perfect example of how patriarchy hurts men. Yes, violence against men is very real.

I've worked in a low-mileage club and you'd get kicked out if put your hand on the dancer's hip. Seriously.