Isabella Gia (Banned)

Adam, I understand you may be upset/disappointed. I have not received ths kind of Pm from you but remember we all take things different and I'msure the ladies you contacted got back to you with an explanation on why they were not interested in this kind of help but dn't forget there's rules here and even though for what you say you were not asking for compensation this kind of messages can be considered unsolicited which is not allowed here. I woukd ask the mod to remove this thread if I were you. Again, I imagine you are disappointed but posting this may actually have bad consequences to you as posts like this are also not allowed here.

We have a new group started by r100rs yesterday who shared with us about his sobriety ... Yay r100rs :) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/group.php?groupid=73 To those who are going through the same or have a beloved person who is and want to share or learn more feel free to join the group. He is the only member now and I think it was very nice of him to start this space so take advantage of it ppl. The group is private for discretion but Pm r100rs and he'll send you an invitation to join.

Ok I have been a bad girl and have only posted one recipe in this great group so starting next week I'll try a new recipe every week and share with the group :)

I don't think lack of respect and formality have to do with being new or old lol. Is just the way a 'lady' carries herself and the importance she gives to other people's time that make her do things like this. Manitoba, you are so not asking for too much. In fact you shouldn't be asking for anything, is the service provider's obligation to treat their costumers with respect and efficiency and I'm talking about any service provider. Ignoring text messages, voicemails, emails, etc. is wrong. Doing it when supposed to give last directions is VERY wrong. As for the double booking part I want to think not many ladies do it as it would be very unfair. I hear ladies complaining about no -shows & cancellations, I believe respect must go both ways. All I can say is a woman that does this kind of things is not worth seeing her IMO. Sorry Manitoba that you have been through this :(

Nothing wrong with assuming but some of your comments here come across as you actually know those facts. I believe most people here are aware of that which is exactly the reason why specific details are left out. You said it yourself, each situation is different so we don't know if the parents of drlove's ex did mind or not. You are right some ppl don't understand that they should step away but is easier to see all that when we are not in those shoes. Don't forget is not easy to control our emotions and impulses.

Well that is your opinion and is fine but saying nobody would care for the thread if it was not for the mental illness part is a little extreme. I didn't even make BPD part of my first post. I don't understand why you keep assuring she broke up with him, we don't have that information as far as I know. Also, why would she be freaked out? Is not like he was stalking her, he happened to be there that's all. As for him talking to her parents, perhaps he was close to them? Are you saying any posts that do no provide full detalis and bring up speculation should not be made? In that case I believe the readers who do not like these kind of posts where the situations mentioned are unknown to them can refrain from posting? I'm confused on what's bothering you here. Is it the fact that he mentioned her ex girlfriend having BPD or the fact that he actually mentioned having a girlfriend? Either way I think he was just trying to get whatever feeling he had out and he trusted us here by sharing it. Don't see anything wrong with that.

Perhaps you can suggest/ask mod to include the anonymous option just for that group? Also it would probably be better if you made it a private group.

MightyPen mentioned a very good point and I agree with him, drlove did not mention her name or any detail that would compromise her identity. He also did not blame it all on her having BPD and admitted to have made mistakes too. As for him just mentioning that just because she is not interested, that's assuming, we don't have those details and probably not even drlove does. She may be interested but hurt, perhaps a part of her does not want him to deal with the situations that her disorder caused? We can speculate many reasons but again only they know what really went on. We don't even know who ended the relationship or if it was a mutual agreement separation, etc. I do consider offensive when someone generalizes (no matter the gender or profession) claiming mental illness to be an issue like we recently saw on a thread here but the OP on this thread was talking about one particular person and if I read him right he did not accuse her of anything nor did he blame the BPD issue on the fact that she is a woman. April just shared a similar situation and I don't think men here got offended or even thought she was suggesting men's flaws are based on mental illness. As for how BPD is an important fact on his situation? Well, for what I read on this site and drlove said it didn't help make the relationship and her emotions stabled as well as it may have a connection to her reaction when saw him in the store which is what I think OP was trying to explain.

r100rs ... Best decision you could make :) Don't forget the cerb community is here for you!! :bigclap:

I guess you have heard it from many ppl already but is true,only time and yourself can help you get over her. Now, don't confuse 'getting over her' and 'forgetting her' because you don't have to forget her in order to move on. I don't have any details of the kind/length of relationship you and her had but I was in very difficult relationship a while ago and healing or getting over it however you want to call it took sometime and the way I saw things changed with time. Today I know we both made mistakes (before I used to blame him for everything), at a point I wished bad things to him, was scared to run into him, etc. Now I know I can see him and do fine and also dont wish him any bad in fact last time I heard from him I told him I don't want/need him to be a part of my life but that I wish him all the best. Again, I don't know what the situation was in your case but step 1 is you really willing to move on in order to be able to do it. As for her well, give her time and things may change. Don't forget we can't control/expect our feelings and reactions at unexpected situations if at a point you two meet having planned it her behaviour will be different for sure :) Wow who is 'drlove' now? he he kidding ;) Cheer up! xx

Every day we see people so immersed in their computers & cell phones and ignoring everything/everyone else. The truth is I do that too (bad girl!) I constantly find myself doing something and at the same time being either texting or on the computer. If I go out and for some reason I leave my cell behind I feel kind of incomplete. Is amazing how some of us create a dependence on certain things. Anyway, I heard about a video that was uploaded last year of a Thai commercial that some may have already seen but I'm posting the link as a reminder to all of us who actually have become dependant or addicted to devices ... Let's disconnect to connect and take advantage of the moments we have with our beloved ones by giving them our full attention :) So people ... Get off your electronic devices and experience life. Ok not entirely or otherwise you'll be missed on cerb lol

I just happened to see this video of a cat playing with a dophin and it turns out the cat's name is Cleo. Coincidence? Who knows but I think we know someone who will enjoy this, I did :)

I appreciate every gift I receive just because is a nice & thoughtful gesture towards me. The gifts I appreciate the most though are those that I can really tell were meant for me or had the essence of the person who gave it to me. Some of the recent gifts I received were very thoughtful ... homemade brownies that I actually mentioned loving before, a painting that was painted by him (I'm not saying it was worth $10 lol.) A card that was in the envelope with the donation so I thought it was just a way to make the money part less noticeable but when I opened it, it actually had a beautiful note on it :)

Aww thanks Steve but I was not there yet. I am now, you made me not have to think what to type for my 500th post he he. I owe you one ;) Thank you RG & Meg (looking good in that martini glass)

Us women are constantly reminded of the awareness of breast cancer and what we have to do to detect it at early stage but I don't hear very often information for men and is very important that they are also aware of this. Testicular cancer is considered a rare disease but at the same time is one of the most comon cancers among men so I'll invite you to visit the following websites and learn a bit or a bit more about it and how to do a self examination. http://www.cancer.ca/Canada-wide/About%20cancer/Types%20of%20cancer/What%20is%20testicular%20cancer.aspx http://www.cancer.ca/Canada-wide/About%20cancer/Types%20of%20cancer/Early%20detection%20of%20testicular%20cancer.aspx?sc_lang=en http://tcrc.acor.org/tcexam.html I know these topics are not the ones we like discussing but early detection makes a difference and can even save your life.

Thanks for the many smiles your posts have put on my face :) xoxo

Ugh can't give you reputation points again yet so here's the reputation smiley :) lol Soooo cute & romantic!! Me jealous here he he

We all have a name well actually in our case we have two, the real name and the one we use on cerb. I've found in both how someone chooses to call me makes a difference and this topic was brought up to me by someone else recently so I decided to hear from everyone here if they have a preference when it comes to their name. For example, my dad has this peculiar variation of my name which is how they used to call me when I was a kid and I honestly hate it and get annoyed when someone calls me that but when my dad does he even puts a smile on my face. Now as for Isabella Gia, I rarely get called both names by anyone. Some call me Isa, Issy or Gia and I personally feel good that a particular person calls me a particular way and feel strange when he/she calls me different. How you people like to be called? Of course I'm asking about the name you use for cerb. Do you have any preferences and if you do, does it vary depending on who is calling you that? Oh, one more thing. It would be interesting to read how those whose handle does not include a person's name like to be called.

Ok people I was just having a conversation with a friend about this and it made me curious on the topic. Besides the typical coffee, dinner and movies what other activities you consider ideal for a first date? Any experience you'd like to share of a great first date?

Not trying to be offensive but this looks childish to me and if arrangements between an SP/MP and a hobbyist were based on 'I do it if you do it' there would be no encounter unless he'd be willing to give his personal or work address. What some don't understand is each part provides the information needed in order for the encounter to take place and yes, requests vary on both parts and we have to learn to respect that whether we agree/will provide it or not that is the person's preference. Mia took the words out of my mouth. How does the lady a gentleman is interested in meeting knows he's not mentally ill? The risk is there for both parts. And yes, the points she mentioned are of course things that would not be any pretty but my major concern about being with an as you called 'insane' person would be my safety, some mentally ill people have no control over their actions and can actually be out of reality and that can have serious consequences. Is too bad you had a bad situation/misunderstanding with an SP but again, us ladies have had bad dates too and that does not make us think all guys will be the same, it just makes us be more careful and pay more attention on certain aspects we probably didn't consider before just like you guys do. We learn from experiences good or bad and move on, if one is not able to do so then this is not for him/her.

Agree. I have been asking myself the same question. Perhaps there is another part of their screening process that confirms the guy's identity. I know some ladies ask for a phone number (landline) they can actually verify but other than that I don't see how a name that may not be real protects anyone. Even if he shows a piece of ID (which I doubt someone would ask for his) and if this was the case in order to 'really' be safe they would have to inform someone else of this guy's identity then? I know is not very likely that a gentleman that have agreed to provide and have his name verified will actually do something but as it has been said there's crazy people out there and/or act impulsively.

Thank you mrrnice for bringing this up and for making people aware he importance of notifying family is. I a while ago had this talk with my parents and siblings and they know it is my decision to donate my organs. It is a tough topic to bring up as is always sad to think on the possibility of a beloved death but is reality. To you and Boomer, all my admiration as not anyone would have helping others in mind when going through such a painful loss :)

Ha ha when will you boys stop thinking that the fact that a woman/man considers someone from the same gender attractive does not mean he/she is attracted to that person. I know is not what you meant, just teasing you ;). I will watch it if happen to be free. Is true that there are more important matters that we should worry about and is exactly because I and many others do that events like this keep people distracted from their worries for a little while :)

You are right Old Dog. I only wrote the 8 things the card mentions but I actually agree with you. I guess what 'say good-bye to the past' means is as you actually added 'live today' as some people stay stuck in an event that happened (good or bad) and don't move on. I too cherish many memories and keep collecting more. As for the bad things I probably will always remember them too and they may even still hurt but I don't let those memories make me unhappy, once more you are right they only made me stronger :)

Just like Berlin, Shortcake and Angela I offer an experience (in my case GFE) which includes the activities I feel comfortable with (ymmv) and I do have some restrictions that are non-negotiable. They are both listed in my website to avoid misleading expectations.