Chanel Reign

So do we now call you Gabby? :icon_wink: Congrats

I totally agree with the "get the edge off first" concept. You are not alone in this. I have done quite a bit of "edging" and most SP's know how to read the signs. Some of us even endeavour to "train" speedy orgasmers. The last thing I want is for a Gent to think that that was it, that was all. When a guest is upfront about this it makes my job easier, as distraction can slow things down quite substantially. I also fail to understand the "one off" way of doing business. I am certainly not dissing any SP who works that way, it's just not for me. If I get to orgasm multiple times, why shouldn't you? The best advice given here imo, is beforehand thinking about your pending visit and privately ripping one off just before your playdate. Then take it really slow when you do arrive. There are ways around this; you just have to find the one that's right for you.

Best of luck with your new found lady. I am glad you were honest and upfront with her. That's the best way to be in a good relationship. Honesty.

Everybody is correct here in that you won't find a freebie; but CERB is a good place to vent, cry and perhaps understand that at 22 this isn't going to be the last time this happens. Sorry hun. We can all say it's happened to us, but that certainly doesn't make your heart any less hurt. Maybe you can take what you say about showing it in the wrong ways and when you meet that next girl that makes your heart go pitter patter (and it will happen), you will know what not to do. At 22 none of us are experts in love. Hell lots of folks never learn. But I have faith that some day soon, when you least expect it some girl will turn your head and smile at you. Until then, perhaps browse the young ladies here and enjoy some "you" time.

Ummmm I am so sorry...but that description just had me rolling. It is good Tom that you can find a little humour in such a serious situation. It shows your fortitude and strength. Well done sir. Not get better and get back home!

Because I don't use latex condoms (I use Skyn as well), oil based lubes are not really a good idea. I use a high end water base warming lube rather than K-Y. Latex just isn't for me. I end up all itchy. I don't have an allergy but rather a sensitivity to it. Found THAT out wearing a latex body suit a few years ago at a fetish party and it was off me pdq!! Spent the party in jewelry and a smile. It was like I had put on a sheep's wool sweater! Can't wear wool either. Some wools I can (angora, alpaca) and chenile drives me into ecstasy. But thats not real anyway.

Yup do it all the time.

Finishing up making a kick ass fresh tomato sauce and looking at a sparkling kitchen. Oh and Emiafish, LMAO but TMI TMI TMI!!!! :butt:

Ok. I think Hands On has had his questioned answered and I'll hazard a guess that he wishes he never asked. But HO you did get your answer and perhaps learned what you were asking, and then some. I have found this thread rather interesting to hear the opinions of others and how they view this. Education from experience at its best. Give and take is something you develop over time but money isn't the issue. There are many other perks than just the almighty dollar for some of us as seen here. So my question to you is, have you changed your opinion?

I do find stating a "Walmart for everyone" rather undiplomatic. In my opinion that describes a rather cheap way of doing business. I doubt this is not so in many SP's eyes. Some are high volume and some are not. This does not make the SP a big box store rather than a boutique. This is not a flame to your post Hands On by any means, but rather a clarification on my feeling of using such a term. Everybody does business differently. And yes, I have grandfathered in some of my Regulars. Does this make me Walmart? It does not. It is my choice to do so. Not because I want them back, I already have them. My choice is to be low volume and establish a regular clientele. I prefer to spend time repeatedly with the same Gent. For me this is satisfying for both and we can explore further what each likes and wants. Yes I enjoy seeing new Gents, simply because of the thrill. It does in no way diminish the quality time of my regular clients as they are my sweeties. However I do not grandfather lightly. By seeing me weekly/monthly/whatever does not guarantee this will happen. There has to be communication, trust and chemistry. Time is really not important with me. Although if I feel you are taking advantage of that I will note the time. I know when an hour is up. I don't need to check the time, and if I am over by some minutes, so what. I will admit to losing time if I am with 2 or more others though and usually have to be reminded. lol Bottom line, my fee is for my time, and not negotiable.

This seems to be an never ending hobby of mine!

Yup. You're in my thoughts today.

B is for Balls, be they big or small, they are so fun to bounce, bind or bobble

I know the feeling about having to take some time off for health reasons...heal well.

Glowing after a very fun playdate with 2 others.

Well Mr Rogers was here and I was the 12th house he rewired and replaced phone modems for. Then he did something with his wire in my backyard for 40 minutes. :icon_eek:

J is for juicy, which is oh so good!

Thanks for the info you 2, and the OJ all over myself Kathryn. Effin (excuse me) Rogers is going to be in my neighbourhood for the next 2 days AND in and out of my house!! How very inconvenient to me...and I had the embarrassment of having to cancel a playdate. Mother Nature is none too pleased the the moment. There will be no labia flapping in my house today or tomorrow. :icon_cry: Looking around for that confounded Hitachi! Additional Comments: And of course, I couldn't resist changing my Avatar! :icon_wink:

Does anyone know what the term link flapping means? Rogers was at my door a few minutes ago and said the have a flap problem and will be in the neighbourhood and Rogers clients homes for the next 2 days? It has something to do with landlines. For a few days now mine keeps disconnecting. C

Wondering what link flapping is in relation to Rogers.

So if this is the case, just what term would one use to indicate what it's original intent is? Have I sold myself short? Misrepresented myself? This is deffo a head scratcher now. lol

Yes rescue's are the best. I finally got over Jake's passing and have a new little furbaby. She is, however, a stubborn little thing. And yes she is a rescue. Unfurtunately (hehe) she is also a doggie-in-training. She still doesn't get the fact that she can't be involved in playdates. Jake would just sit quietly in the other room and not make a sound. Marley needs to learn this. :icon_rolleyes:

Interesting thread. I have been "open minded" my whole life. So it came with me when I became an SP. But after reading the responses, it almost seems like its a bad word. For me it is not. I have frequently used this term to describe myself but it certainly never meant BBFS. Of course not. Nor have I ever had a Client think that I meant BBFS (that'll get you kicked to the curb pdq). So I guess it's a relative term for folks. Princeton defines this as a person ready to entertain new ideas, "an open-minded curiosity"; "open-minded impartiality". How did this get mangled into something else? I use this to indicate myself as a person who plays a little more on the alternative/kinky side besides the GFE. These are pigeon holed terms and while ymmv they still have a general meaning regardless of what spin one puts on them. They are what they are.

Thats a lot of Touching! Congrats!

Sending all positive energy your way. I will be thinking about you this weekend.