Ice4fun

The reality is no matter how much we care or want to help we can't fix someone else and until they reach a point where they want to change or want help to change we are virtually powerless. What can we do... make sure we stay connected... offer help with the change process not with daily life issues that result from the problematic behaviour. Tell the person we care and are there for them. What should we expect... well to be pushed away... to be hurt... to have unpleasant things said about us... to feel like we are being mean and letting our friend down... but remember it is not your friend that is talking it is the problem they are fighing.... you don't own the problem and are not responsible for the solution. I know some of this because I went through it for almost 30 years with a member of my family... many many attempts and many many relapses..... unbelievable pain and guilt by my parents and family... things are better now but it takes a toll.... be sure to understand what success looks like... it is not that you keep your friendship or things return to normal... it is that someone you care about wins the battle.... it's not about you its about them.

My first instinct would not be to email a lady I had an interest in seeing it would be to Text her. I think for many if us the text message or BBM has replaced the email as our primary means if shirt conversations with people. That said I can tell you that some if the nicest ladies I have met have been through initial contact by email as that is their preferred method of contact. In some ways I think it payed off because there was a more detailed initial sharing of information because either the lady asked for more information or I felt that the email communications was mire formal so I shared more. Now given all if that let's talk about what really matters.... if you are interested in meeting a lady or finding out more about her... read her ad... read her website... read her CERB information... find out how she likes to be contacted and do that.

Poster Child for stupidity

I have a feeling I would appreciate storms mire if I was stuck inside with you... power or no power. :)

More horny..... lol... if spring causes that then I know a number of women who must think it's spring all year :)

Today was a good day.... can't really say why.... but it was.

Shit... this is an open forum... people can have any opinion they want... right or wrong. I come here for lots of reasons... when I come here some posts make me roll my eyes and some challenge me to think... some people's posts make me laugh and some make me wonder if they are ok....but that's the reality of an open community.. if it works for you stay and enjoy if it doesn't leave. When I see a topic I like I post a reply if you like it great.... if not great too. Frankly I don't need you or anyone else analyzing me and placing their sense of judgment on me or my participation.

Is this a less caring world.... i guess in a lot of ways it is and I think it is easy to find examples to support the fact that it appears that the world is gone to hell in a hand basket. But you know I have been lucky enough over the last few years to have spent considerable time working with Youth and young adults and quite honestly they have just amazed me and have allowed me to also see all the good things we have to be thankful for.... i used to wonder what would happen in the future but now kinda feel it just might be a better place. Just my opinion.

I scored 16.... much better than I expected...lol

On a day in day out basis I eat to live... very often that is bad choices in large helping.... for those who gave met me they have seen my gut so that will come as no surprise. No that said.... i also love great meals in good restaurants especially when the company is good and the conversation engaging.

With the exception of losing some weight I am not sure I would look to change too much about my appearance I am generally OK with me. I too have a medical issues that while it does not impact my appearance it has had and will continue to have significant impact on my life... so rather than alter my appearance if I had the power I would change my health.

The road of life is seldom an uneventful journey and at times in our life we will all struggle.... no matter how independent we may think we are... no matter how strong we may imagine ourselves... life has a way to humble us all. When this happens to us we are seldom prepared... we are often in denial that we even have a problem... and we often take it out on the very ones who care most about. It is at these times that the way you have lead your life, the character and integrity that you have shown others....the friendships and the connections that you have made that will come to support you and comfort you and stuck with you regardless of how difficult you have made it. Just so I am clear I am not suggesting that regardless of what you do your friends should just do as you ask... i am saying that in these cases when a friend is in trouble and in need and does not know it or accept it the best you can often do is to let them know you are there.... provide them with options that they can choose should they wish to seek help... they may not appreciate the offer in the moment but maybe soon they will. Just my opinion

I think both types of pictures serve a purpose certainly the professionally shot pictures tell me that the lady is serious about her business and they do an excellent job of portraying the image the lady us trying to convey. Selfies... well they are just cute and sexy and spontaneous... there us nothing better than having an lady you see pop you a spontaneous selfie either before or after the session. Just my opinion.

I'm not a member.... would happily join if I ever met a willing lady on a flight. lol but to be honest for someone I am already seeing I can think of lots of other places I would prefer.

Boring Blue..... however they look amazing on the floor next to the bed... i just need to find some sexy lady who want to help me fake them off lol

We may all be excluded from blood donation but the post for me was an excellent reminder that as part of our community we all should be looking to Give Back in some way. While I know that some of us struggle financially my overall impression is that to be a regular hobbyist you need to have access to a reasonable amount of disposable income. If that is the case then a reminder to give back like the OP is kinda right in my mind so thanks. For myself I try to remain very active in my community serving on a number of Boards for local charities or Committees... I have been extremely lucky in my life and except for the last 5 years I did not really know what it was like to struggle... as I have struggled over the last few years I have been amazed at the number of caring wonderful people who I met while in involved in community work who have come forward to support me and give me strength. I started supporting charities and community groups long ago because I felt that I should help Other poor people in my community" what I have learned is that we are all part of the community and at times we will all need help so when you support a charity you are building Your Community which also improves your life. I have gotten far more out of my involvement with charity than I have ever given. Just my opinion

Just heading out to work.... we had Snow Yesterday and looks like a lot more tomorrow..... been a fun week so far lol

Your right Isabella...lol... i should have started with my own list... for the most part yesterday was not a great day for me and to be honest when I read it was international Happiness Day Just kinda thought it might be nice to hear some happy thoughts. Better Days ahead I am sure... Thanks for your reply.

I guess we are just not that Happy a Group.... Oh Well. :)

As today March 20th has been named international Happiness Day I thought it would be a great time for all of us to state what makes us Happy.... So what is making you all Happy Today?

Thanks for the info.... i kinda expected that was the case.

Hey Folks... is it possible to delete a post you have made in the past? I know you can go back and edit a post within the first 5 days... just wondering if you can actually remove a post after that time. Thanks in advance for your help.

What has the country come too when the Prime Minister is so bad we start to think Rob Ford is ok.lolollol

I am really living the dream.... just finished my Whopper and Fries... l

Whopper.... and fries lololololol