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I am not suggesting that this business is about anything other than business... what I am saying is that if I understand what the expectations of my partner are and I let her believe I accept those expectation then when I do something that I know goes against those expectations then I am cheating. It's not a value judgment on whether monogamy is right or wrong I believe everyone can make their own choice it is just my saying that for me...if I have let my significant other believe that I will not have sex with anyone else and I do... i have cheated and I cannot blame her for being upset only myself for not being honest enough to truly tell her how I feel about monogamy. Just my opinion....

I am anticipating meeting an amazing lady on Tuesday.... its been 4 weeks which is way way to long without seeing her.

Damn... i thought this thread was going to be about a whole different topic... so happy I don't have to explain publicly why I am so Soft. Sorry... could not help myself.

I kinda think that the Question of cheating Vs not cheating really does not have an answer that is relevant to anyone but the two people who are in a relationship. In my particular situation...i know that my wife's expectation is 100% monogamy.... it would be Stupid and dishonest of me to try to justify my actions by saying...its just a massage... or just a hand job...or its just sex... not emotional. I know what I agreed to with my wife....this is cheating. What is cheating for others would depend on what their significant others expectation was. Just my opinion.

I am still happily married to my high school sweetheart for 30+ years so I don't have a lot of relationship breakups to add to this thread.... So I guess my worst Divorce will be my first one when my wife finds out about my Hobby. While I honestly believe that this hobby has in fact saved my marriage over the last few years...i am pretty sure that will be hard to convince her if she finds out.

I kinda think there is elements of good and bad in all of us... we can be Nice one moment and then seen as not so nice by someone else. In my employment I have a fairly large number of people who work for me.... depending on the day and the decision I make I am either Nice or a Prick...perspective plays a large part. All that said... i have in my 50 plus years met a relatively small number of people who I can only say are truly NICE they are caring... compassionate people who seem to always put the needs of others ahead of their own needs. They are great parents...amazing friends and truly spiritual people..... these are the people who you meet and realize just how lucky you are to have them in your life. Just my opinion.

Watching TV (Dragons Den), surfing CERB, Chatting with an amazing Lady and looking forward to Tuesday afternoon....

London Dragons Den or Shark Tank?

Congratulations Emiafish.... 1000 posts is pretty impressive.

Happy Birthday Claire.... have a great birthday and a wonderful year.

I want someone back I need to learn how to live without them.

I thank a post when I agree with the thought or sentiment or if I disagree but the post has challenged me to look at an issue differently or consider another insight... and I thank a post when it raises an issue that I think needs to be explored or discussed. I have also thank posts I see someone being helpful..... i have only been active here for the last year but I have been pleasantly surprised about how supportive and caring this community can be. I nominate posts for all the same reasons I thank them just when they push the boundary a little further that what I think a thank will cover. Am I biased in my thanks and nominations...lololol... of course... those people in the community who I have connected with and have relationships with tend to attract my attention and I seek out their posts....i wonder how many great posts I miss..... Hey.. just my opinion.

Let's just leave it at.... "this week sucks".

Hotdog and/or Pizza at the Hockey game lolol

This morning I am sitting here trolling CERB in a warm home with electricity and heat... for most of yesterday that was not the case for me and many other Newfoundlanders... in fact a lot of people here still do not have heat. While I had access to a generator many did not and as a result had very difficult times trying to keep their loved ones warm and safe and happy. Here's to hoping the worst is behind us... but they are still saying there will be rolling blackouts today. Hmmmm so much for that HAVE PROVINCE status...lololol

What can I say.... 7000 posts is amazing... congratulations

Cristy.... Thank You for your contribution here on CERB... i have to say that I very much enjoy reading your posts... you always bring an interesting perspective and a piece of yourself in what you write. I am looking forward to the next 2000. Congratulations Additional Comments:

Congratulations on 4000 posts... keep them coming.

Well I am not willing to give up head or intercourse....that would be a revolution not a resolution. That said... my goal for this year is to happier... i know that is a very general thing but for the people here who know me well they will understand and for at least one of them I owe them thanks for helping me see that I can look forward to happier times again.

When it comes to this hobby... it appears the only "restraint" I have is the limits of my bank account.

Congratulations on 2000 posts....

Now I am all confused ..... am I a low or high volume client??? I don't see a lot of individual service providers so I guess I am low volume client.... but then again certain Ladies I see very frequently.... so does repeat volume with the same SP mean you are high volume with her but low volume to the total SP pool..... this is so confusing :) Of course this also raises the question.... if advertising as a low volume SP is a way to justify a higher hourly rate then is the converse true....high volume clients with low volume SP'S should they get a volume discount...... lolololol All in jest of course... My opinion is that volume means nothing to me... i see ladies who I have a connection with... if the relationship with the lady is good I will repeat.... if the relationship is amazing I repeat as often as I can. Just my opinion :)

Happy New Year Cato and all the rest of the wonderful people here on Cerb.. it was a pleasure to interact with all of you in 2013... and I am looking forward to much more in 2014.

As it is New Years Eve...i am watching Canada play the US in the World Jr Hockey and awaiting the arrival of my New Years Eve Party Guests..... it will be a Very Busy Evening.... only person missing will be Beautiful Savannah.

Don't think I have ever really Thought about the volume of a ladies business.... it would only matter to me if I was not able to get to see her because she us always busy. Personally I don't see a high volume of ladies but the one I do see and connect with I like go see often and the issue of not being able to see her us not usually a problem... that might be because I am a regular and she knows I want to see her. The most important issue a out volume for me for the ladies I like to see is that this is a business for them so I want their volume to be enough to meet their needs... of course this is selfish for me as I want them to continue to be here for me. I agree 100% that the main thing that impacts my wanting to see a lady is the personal connect I have with her.... like all human interaction...it is always about the Relationship.