Reddog01

So we are all going to live to a ripe old age. Who is going to support us all? Long live the Hobbyist and the objects of our desires.

I just had to find out the end-state. What a great picture to wake up too. Have a great Friday.

Not so bad. I thought it would be much worse. 78.42 years....that's a good 30 to go.....

Yep I can identify with all those feelings. I am jealous as I am cleaning out the home office. Ok, Cato, you have to finish the chapter.

A lot of things are labeled as additions. Overuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling, overeating, yes even shopping or exercising (compulsive runners for example) and now recently sexual addition is in the forefront due to celebrity exposure. We heard little about sex addition before because, well, it is about sex.... I think what drives people to addition (sex or otherwise) is an inner craving to counter something that is missing (hardly original thought). I guess, and perhaps this is a generalization, but from a sex perspective, sexual addicts use porn, sex workers, multiple affairs, compulsive masturbation to seek momentary relief from feelings of disconnectedness, disappointment, depression, loneliness or to counter anxiety and stress from today?s lifestyle; or perhaps from not living up to expectations, real or percieved. It can be connected to work or to a relationship. Mostly it is men who seek the intimacy that sex brings to get relief from pain, rejection, feelings of inadequacy, failure, even abuse. It is the inability to deal with these feelings (by some accepted way)that may lead some to use obsessive sexual activity to bring relief. Sex (more than the normal need - hard to determine what is normal I know), is one way that gives us the momentary connection, or diversion needed to balance out negative feelings with the positive. Something that makes us feel good, if even for the moment. Of course this can be the same reason to engage in sex outside a relationship. It is the escapism and temporary euphoria we can get from this intimate encounter. (Of course you don?t need to be addicted to seek the same, but I guess it is the obsession and frequency that makes it an addiction - you just have to go back for more - all the time.) ?I just want to make up for lost time? or ?enjoy life to the fullest?, ?I just love women? are many of the excuses we use to validate this obsession or ?maybe the hobby itself?....? It also involves risk and the thrill of the experience...regardless of the consequences such as impact to your SO, family, career, risks to personal health (those that seek to engage in unsafe sex primarily). A final thought: calling yourself or identifying someone as an addict is sometimes used to validate ?bad? behavior (outside society?s norm). A subset of people will use ?addition? to excuse their actions or to feel less shame or guilt.

Thanks , for that. I am sending the link to family and friends.

Tell Apple to accept flash.....

First come up with your objective and build a strategy. What are you trying to accomplish...how are you going to get there? Pretty strait forward in this case: promote your service and make it more appealing and attractive to the customer so he chooses you over the competition. You have to understand the customers needs and wants. Asking this community is a smart way to validate the direction you are planning to take. So from my perspective: A professional website design (home page) that is pleasing to the eye creates the first impression with the potential client. Pictures and graphics must be of a high quality that will reflect PK as a distinctive service provider superior to other agencies. What is under this surface will keep the clients coming back. What is under the surface? The inherent design has to be user centric and the architecture has to be objective focused. You want the user to choose a beautiful lady that you are promoting through PK. So who is PK and why should I trust you ? ...for example. Part of the trust starts with the promotion of your service and the feelings that are generated through your site that will positively affect your client. Trust, what you see is desirable, what you have on the menu is credible and the messages that are presented are believable and not just “cut and pasted from another site or narrative”. Info required: Usual statistics on the ladies, professional photos (the more the merrier, in and out of clothes), services provided, donations (no charges for extras to a GFE - restrictions if required should be up front), personal message and a little background (likes/dislikes, hobbies, turn-ons, turn-offs, restrictions, etc...) Have the ladies write there own introductions from their own personal view. Of course there may be some editing but to many times it is the manager that makes up the site narratives with no input other than approval of the photos from the ladies. Another thing that is helpful is a way of portraying availability - schedule (in-call/out-call). Contacting the agency is another procedure that has to be well covered. I find email to be the easiest. After initial contact with PK, depending upon the situation and planning time before the meeting, it would be preferable to be able to contact the lady personally to confirm preferences or to get to know each other before the meeting. Very important is technical reliability of the site and effective maintenance to keep all information up to date. All your work and credibility will be for not if the site is not maintained. I am not a fan of a musical background as it become repetitive and I almost alway turn it off. Videos of your ladies with a soundtrack would be ground breaking if you can get them to do it. An interview could take place of their personal narratives. They have to be tastefully done..... Of course your reputation has to follow through with the message. IMHO an effective website that is current and well maintained will have me dropping in at least weekly to see what is going on or new. Good luck. Looking forward to seeing your end product.

The CERB community is great. I feel I have been chatting with many of you, although most very indirectly, for some time. I think one can start to see personalities coming out from responses to threads and posts. Personal emails back and forth take it to the next level. I also think, a well designed web space is important as well as impressions are gauged from the content and approach to service and life in general. I must admit I value email conversation and banter before meeting. As mentioned by others, it starts to form a relationship before you get to open the door for the first time. If things go well I would hope to keep the line of communication open, perhaps keeping the relationship alive in anticipation of another visit or just saying ?Hello how is it going?? I find I look forward to opening my account everyday with the hope that a pm or an email might be waiting for me. However, I did have one bad experience with an Agency. I had been dealing with a very beautiful SP, or so I thought, for about three weeks before a trip. We engaged in playful wordplay and I really looked forward to our meeting. When it finally happened she reveled that she had only been forwarded two or three emails sometimes "paraphrased? from me. Her manager had been responding to me the majority of the time posing as the SP. I was a bit upset at the time and I felt somewhat betrayed. She wasn?t happy about it either and now plans to go Independent. I guess maybe more Independents are more likely to engage in playful repartee, which I for one applaud.

Dumb and Dumber made me laugh ....saw it on TV (mindless slapstick). American Beauty on another scale - a dark comedy about mid-life crisis...Yes - Pulp Ficton - "Royal with Cheese". John Travolta uses this line again in "From Paris with Love" 16 years later.

Leave him. You don't need this crap, nor should you accept it....

"The God's Must Be Crazy". I loved the slapstick and awkwardness of the relationship between the Teacher and the Scientist.

This is a personal question that only you can really answer. There were probably good reasons to retire when you did; a need for a break, a new direction or perhaps a relationship that needed your full attention..... You have to look at why you made that decision then and why you are now having second thoughts. Likely conditions have changed. Personally, if I knew you before and appreciated you for who you were before retirement, I would welcome you back with open arms. No questions asked.

Best wishes on your Birthday, Big Al. I guess the next two weeks can't go by fast enough..eh...Kudos to Soleil as well, from reading your past posts and you experiences with her, you have found a real gem. My 25th was not as good:lol:

I guess I need more sex to get to that stress-free state......it might come from retirement as well....and more visits to SPs.

I would phone and ask again for a hard copy and explain why ? starting a new monogamous relationship. I got a hard copy once to record proof of my results of an HIV test and got it - no problem. In this case it was a request from an employer in the US. Only condition was that I had to pick it up personally. I never had to answer a questionnaire before to get tested. I just requested full STD testing from my doctor as part of my physical. He never asked any questions.

Bull: I sent you a PM with some details where to find info on her. One review at the ref gave her an A+.

Loralee: Glad to hear you are reconsidering. Let Mod sort this out. Stay with us.

See SP recommendations at the Toronto website. She has a couple of recommendations posted.

Great idea. May I suggest sometime during the week of 14 Dec. Purely selfish reasons, as I am in Ottawa at that time. If a date is an issue maybe a poll could be conducted to determine the best week.

An engaging seductive narrative intertwined with a personal touch. We all can identify with the quest and yearning to find the ?one? that we are totally comfortable with to the point that we can reach the heights of arousal and excitement we all crave. A great segue to the fantasy I am about to have as I turn in for the night. I will continue the story in my dreams. Thanks.

Happy B-day. Enjoy your posts and outlooks. All the best.

What a great chronicle. Love these stories. It took me half a lifetime to realize "life is short" so sieze the opportunities now - as long as it does not hurt anyone else in the process.

Life is fraught with danger. There are all kinds of freak accidents that could happen. However, I would not have thought of this one. Its worth the risk though.....:grin: