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I just wanted to write a quick note to my CERB friends for having been the best of the best to me on this the eve of my resignation from the escort game. Not all of you, of course, but many of you, and mostly to the Maestros that make CERB happen. It's (generally) a really respectable, inclusive, and diverse community and I've been treated well. I've worked in a fair few shitty places, and I'm pleased to leave the industry on a personal high note: Decent wages, independence, and conditions I determine. I'm just bored of smelling cock, and I want to go smell some flowers instead. I'll check my messages on here for a while if any of my most beloved hobbyists feel like saying goodbye, and you're welcome to read my website which will remain up as "Eva's" closing message to the world. Thanks again. I'll see you around. L.

Eve Ensler put it best: "To love the vagina, you have to love hair... It's the leaf around the flower, the lawn around the house." It's there for a reason. Namely, to indicate that I've passed puberty. I never understood the equation of a hairless pussy with sexual availability. To me things are the exact opposite. I never used to discuss the state of my pubic hair with clients I'd never met because I figured that hair was a personal matter. Now I almost feel like it's political. Working with a bush (or even a landing strip) makes me stand out and often not in ways that I like. Fortunately there is a small but dedicated following of people who love pussy the way nature intended it to be loved - untamed and unforgiving. Thank you so much, Secret Admirer! I don't want to belittle anyone or to deny real tastes, I just honestly don't know what's so frightening about my lovely ginger curls.

This puts me in mind of a cute quote from an SP I respect and admire, Lust Day: <<I know you want me to be safe because you care about me. But when you say "be safe", who do you think we sex workers need to protect ourselves from? ... What is demonstrably more dangerous than sex work is intimate partnership. Domestic violence is the number one cause of death and permanent disability to Australian women. So when your sister tells you she's moving in with her boyfriend, do you tell her to "be safe"? Would you refuse to have your friend's wedding at your home given how you know domestic partnership to be a "high-risk lifestyle"?>>

I'm glad you bring this up. I find it really hard to negotiate "safer" services in the context of a GFE which is my specialty. The way I see it, a girlfriend would be very concerned about the sexual health of her lover, and so should I. People get confused at the suggestion of protection for DATY and BJs. I've discovered that making safer sex sexy is really a skill, and I'm proud to be on my way to mastering it. There are all kinds of considerations in a safer encounter that are often left unconsidered. I try always for example to make sure that one hand is devoted to my own body and one to my client's so that my hands don't transmit any fluids. I wish more people spent more time considering their own safety especially considering the emergence of such niceties as drug-resistant gonorrhea. I would sleep a lot better at night if I knew that people all took their sexual health as seriously as I do. It calms my mind to know that I'm not the only one. Thanks, Hornet, for caring so much about your health. It contributes to all of us who participate in this industry. I wish you a great deal of happy, healthy, consensual sex. xooo, Eva

Golly gee, I'm so pleased to be invited to RHAG, even though I'm only a redhead in the sun. I am in such good company. If only I had freckles too... Is there a group for appreciators of freckles?

It feels great to read such kind words, from such a beautiful fellow. It makes my day to know that I made yours! Kisses and such, -Eva

I just couldn't pass this thread without playing devil's advocate here... While I've never met a fetishist in this area per se, my ex boyfriend used to LOVE me on my rag because, well, girls have fluctuating hormone levels. This means, you see, that we howl a whole lot louder under the full moon so to speak... And sure it's gross and messy, but so are most fun things in life! You're all just jealous that we can bleed for so long without dying ;-)

While I believe that it is a heinous crime to knowingly spread HIV, and I don't believe in blaming victims, I think it's important to point out that this IS 2010. We DO know how HIV is spread, and how it can be prevented. I am shocked by the number of people who will accept the words, "I'm clean" from a partner as enough evidence that it is safe to engage in unprotected sex acts. I love casual sex, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I also love the feeling of skin on skin, and condoms, dental dams etc are not the most comfortable things in the world, but they are necessary. I would never combine causal sex and unprotected sex. That's just irresponsible and self-destructive. My heart goes out to the victims of this agressor, and to their partners who may have believed they were in trusting, monogamous relationships. However, I cannot be convinced that they became victims without some degree of consent. It is each person's own responsibility to educate themselves, protect themselves from sexually transmitted infections, and to maintain communication with their partners about the methods they are using and the other partners they see. If this man had secretly removed his condoms right before coming, then I would be a lot angrier. The fact is, that I know a few gay guys who routinely have unprotected sex with other men and pity me because I have to be worried about getting pregnant! There is still no cure or vaccine for HIV, and we all know that. It is each individual's responsibility to keep themself safe. True, condoms are not 100% effective, but they work a lot better than conversations like, "Have you been tested?" "Sure baby, now take your pants off..." The best way to reduce your risk of transmitting HIV is assuming that all of your partners have it (unless you're both tested and monogamous/fluid-bonded). Many people are frightened to disclose their HIV+ status because of the stigma which is so rampant and destructive. If you can't handle the idea that a casual sex partner may be HIV+, then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with them.