6dave9

Hi Emily, thanks for your insight, I totally get it now...!!, and I can understand everything you've said (other than the 'get if for free' reference - it came from the article) and you are making me realize something, I was coming at this from a slightly different angle.. You made it very clear to me that this is about a service that is being purchased, as opposed to a friends with benefits arrangement. That's where the fundamental difference lies. I realize now I foolishly blurred those 2 lines... I will certainly admit that FWB can be very complicated where privacy/agreements and boundary can be easily be crossed and subsequently, all hell breaks loose in the live of the parties concerned. Indeed there there are a lot less risks when partaking in the world of professional SPs, as you said 'There's also some of the same reasons why men seek escorts: discretion and privacy.' Which is not guaranteed with FWB/NSA relationships.

I was also one another young man wanting to a be a Fighter Pilot in the Air Force. As well, eyesight went south.. so went the career in the RCAF.. I studied in the geographic field, but never put it to use due to economics times, jobs were scarce.. So I gained a variety of experience, retails sale at first, then the travel industry, followed by 9 years as Mr. Mom.., then returned in Travel in the IT domain... I followed life path as best I could for the times I was faced with, and ya know what.. Life has been pretty good to me..!!

I certainly enjoy the moment, the oh-so wonderful glide back to earth after the climax with a special lady in my arms.. time to recoup with hugs and kisses, and possibly round 2, even if it is just for the lady.. :-) A refreshment along with open-hearted conversation to wind down the experience.. D.

Thank-you Meaghan, for a ladies perspective. Makes total sense... That's what I like about this community, for me, its refreshingly mind expanding..!

I am 6dave9, I've been a member for a little over 3 years. I have been a member that was in absenteeism for most of the time, until last July, then I clicked in... and there has been no looking back... :-) I appreciate all members here on CERB, this community has been an oasis for me as a medium to express thoughts, feelings and a sense of belonging to a group that can understand where I am coming from, and being accepted and not judged for the issues that I am facing. As an IT work-at-home professional, you will find me logged-in for most of the day, and will glance every so often looking for new posts or interesting new conversations, as my desk has room for 2 laptops..;-) I am a Cerb-acholic and I admit it. Thanks for listening. :smile:

Thanks for sharing your memories Spud271, I can say that I am somewhat envious of your life experiences, ... ;-).. I do surely do not dispute the role and need for male SP's out there to address women's needs. What puzzles me a touch, is that there are so many frustrated men out there, single or attached, that are actively searching for a NSA connections. You dont have to look very hard to find one.. Granted, not all of these men (I will include myself here ) are GQ cover magazine material, nor have pornstar attributes...(take that any way you wish... lol). Essentially, what i am trying to say is that women are in the driver's seat here, they have the burden of choice, but I can understand it may all about convenience as you stated.

Interesting article.. I still find it curious that women needs to seek the services of male SP. In the article, " But who hires a male sex worker? As an adult industry source pointed out to news.com.au there's often a perception that "women can usually get it for free". By-and-large, I think this still the case. Its a supply and demand scenario.. Women have the supply, men have the demand.. ( although I am not saying women don't have any desires..) If a women wishes a NSA relationship.. she can find it, easily... The caveat here is emotions and feelings can grow and one or both can suffer a heartbreak.. hence the male SP comes into play (no pun intended...) My 2c worth Thanks

Ah yes! Thank-you Jessica for pointing that out to me, indeed you are correct. The other thread carried quite the conversation for a first time post.. Just as a casual observation, our new colleague has not returned to share further thoughts. Then again, there is no obligation to do so.. I'll stop here.. D.

Well said Loopie, The dynamics of relationships can change, either by both or one stay straight and level while one can drift, and ideally yes, reevaluation and renegotiation,would be a proper course of action. It can very frustrating when a spouse will not even acknowledge there is a problem. I will add it up as "Life is about choices..' -Choice of prioritizing. -Choice of facing fears. -Choice to communicate or not or Choice to just plain ignore the issue.. e.g. oh we're not going to talk about that again are we.?!?! There are other examples, but I will stop here. Your 4th paragraphs is also just, however, i believe a spouse knows very well why they dont want sex any more.. Again, Ill stop here.. Thanks D.

HHmmmm I am getting a sense of Deja-vue...!! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=153946

Speaking for myself of course, ... as an avid photographer... some people are better suited behind the camera, rather than in front... :-) It would take a whole lot of magic tricks to make me look half decent in any kind of video, let alone in X rated one.. LOL My morning 2c worth.. D.

Dont know honestly... and not really concerned either ;-) just DDG... who ever she is.. :-)

Hmmmm .... we may be on to something here... !?! ;-)

Indeed, I handled my hobbying life completely in the manner you just described.. no one knew about it other than the ladies involved, until recently, maybe a year or so. Yes, the anonymity of this community has been wonderful avenue to express thoughts and ideas, I am very grateful. I guess i needed a way to empty the overflowing bucket, so to speak.. but I was finding my secret life to be a little heavy on my shoulders because I could not share/discuss/vent some of these life moments. I find comforting to have the diary as a reminder of details and feelings in all aspects of my life.

I am so completely in the same mind set.. and I will go a little further , and also add topics or events that we can experience vis-a-vis all our aspects of our day, whether it be work, home/family - and good or bad -,and of course our hobbying or what ever the case may be... ;-) I do have a close friend that I have known for 30+ years, and we can openly talk about anything without the fear of being judged, as he has opened-up to me, about a year ago, that he is a Dom (long story..) and has his Sub and both a very happy when they are together.. etc... He lives 6 hours away and telephone/email conversations are possible, but not very convenient, as we both have busy lives. So.. my solution... A diary...(on my android tablet, very secure and easily accessible) yes .. seems a little old fashion, but it works... no, the diary wont give you objective thoughts or opinions, but it sure helps with taking a load off your mind. Also, what makes it is work, is that you can add special memory from long ago or new ones (again good or bad) and relieve a little stress that the feeling you are trying to hold on to will not fade away over time. I wish I would have had started years ago.. I'll stop here D.

Alas the porn industry, by-and-large, is constantly driven to portray a 'young as possible' venue of movies.. IMO.. unless it is a mature style of film.. ;-) I think we may be stuck with this for quite some time.. My 2c worth.. D.

Same scenario for me as described by NLwood about 3 weeks ago. It was at a McDonalds, place was practically empty.. I surely recognized the Lady, but we had never met.. So it was all on me to remain calm. ;-) I PM'd her afterwards.. we had a chuckle.. A quick 2c worth.. D.

Ah .. right hair extensions... I hadn't considered those... This scenario is probably more in line when in the doggy position and reaching for her long flowing hair. Personally I prefer when the lady in is on lying top me and I can grab right close so that my fingers can be felt near her head/scalp.. so I can whisper in her ear.... ;-) D.

Good question.... Spanking for me, I can certainly partake if the lady desire it. Now... Substitute 'spanking' with -hair pulling-... or tugging. I can recall many years ago when there was a show on cable called 'Sex and Chocolate', that was composed of 3 ladies and 3 gents panels as separate panels first, then grouped near the end of the show to finish the discussions. The consensus of the ladies suggested that having a handful of hair heighten the pleasure.. Have times changed..? [side note; I will decided to start a new instead..no hijacking intended..]

Good to hear you are on the up-swing.. !! Still, do something for you, something that you really enjoy.. ummm, perhaps a tea, go for a walk or maybe an overflowing poutine.!!. ;-) For me it usually involves a glass of full bodied Chardonnay.. :-) D.

Take a deep breath..and sit back.. take a break have some -me- time. Crying Feeling the blues.. is not a sign of weakness, sometimes it is a sign that you have been trying to be strong for too long.

There are a few things/activities thats can be perceives as hobbies rather than passions. But what can make the difference is how much time and/or cash you have *invested*, then it becomes a passion. Some can be regarded as mundane or even geeky.. lol so: -Wine making: my first crush was in 1993 made 6 cases of red wine, at the height of my production (circa .2000) I crushed and filled 225lts barrels of red and white. -coin collecting -motor oil - If you are a member of BITOG.. then you understand.. LOL -photography -I've had a camera around my neck since grade 7 -woodworking -small projects, furniture/cabinetry or even decks. oh and the kitchen belongs to me... ;-)

A little dirty talking is something that I am truly wanting to experience. It would a real turn on for me to hear some real steamy talk from the lady. As it has been mentioned above the, I am not referring to the awful porn trash talk found in most porn. I am convinced that the lady doesn't need to be reminded "to suck it" as she is performing oral.. Ughhh..!! Now, I have tried to gently entice a lady to talk to me by asking 'tell me what you want...' or 'tell me what you are what you want me to do...' just to get the ball rolling .. so to speak.. and .. umm well... it would seem I haven't found the right partner.. :-(. or I am not pushing the right buttons.. Ladies.. any thoughts? (PS i dont mean to hijack the thread..)

I can certainly understand where you got the question. and honestly I have asked myself the same question..!! Now you can still have a fantastic connection (i.e. chemistry, you 'clicked' very well.. etc...) with a MA/SP and then leave the session feeling just awesome..! and I honestly believe that MA/SP can genuinely be very happy to see some particular clients. It what makes a session very special and fulfilling. But please realize that you may need to tuck-in your heart string a bit. These wonderful ladies need to earn a living... just like you and I.. they CANT do that with only 1 regular client... So enjoy the hobby and I wish that you build new friendships like I have, because personally I can look upon the ladies I have met, smile and call them my friends. After-all, we have shared something very intimate... ;-) D.

Fantasies.. many... ;-) but its the viagra/cialis cocktail required and the pucker factor on my wallet.. it would self-implode... LOL Being part of huge intertwined poly party, or being pampered ( and pampered in return - of course..) by a series of lovely ladies.. not all at once.. oh no... 1 at a time, all afternoon and evening long... (Sigh... back to work...ughh)