bcguy42

Well spoken, timely, clear and concise. Thank you for this very good review.

Ah, but drinking what? Creamy happy endings anyone? :)

A complete response would require a whole lot more information that has been provided. But hey - when has not having all the facts ever stopped anyone from rendering an opinion? Based on the given information, manipulative sounds like a good description. Desperate and perhaps listening just a bit too much to the voices in her head are a couple of other options, too. Were I in his position, assuming I intended to make the breakup permanent, I would take a pass on the offered goodies. The implied price tag is too high. Wandering back into that pasture would require restarting the whole relationship termination process. On the other hand, maybe your friend enjoys wild and crazy in which case sure, dive right back in. But if he decides to end it again, he should avoid food and drink prepared by her. my two bits ...

"But every silver lining always seems to have a cloud That comes my way." - Alison Krauss, Paper Airplane

Your point is well taken. Though it has been more years than I wish to count since I was single, I see what you are talking about happening with my single and partnered offspring. I am also in total agreement with your thought that there should be, if I may paraphrase, a valued place in society for the voluntarily single. CBC's "The Current" just rebroadcast a piece from last fall about Minnie McCurdy and Steve Bickerstaffe. Minnie was married at an early age but was widowed after 10 years. She never remarried and resisted societal pressures against being single. At the time of the original broadcast, last October, she was 104. She and Steve began a simple friendship when Steve was in his early 20s and she was three times his age. This friendship became the defining relationship for the two of them over the years and, from what I could tell, was always just that. A friendship. My point being that these two people were successful in bucking the pressure to "mate up" is the traditional sense. Minnie was asked if she ever missed having a family and she said no, why should she? Postscript: Minnie died six months after the original broadcast. Happy. At 104. Go for it. If you want to listen to the show "The Perfect Martini", you can find it here: http://www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/documentaries/

lmao... I forgot the Posting Tally on previous posts increments as you post new ones. Thanks, datyaddict. This thread would have made absolutely no sense 10 minutes later. What can I say. Some days I'm technologically ept. Some days I'm just inept.

I read this thread early on, found it interesting, thought Berlin raised some very valid issues. I saw it pop up again and wondered what had brought it back so went to pick up where I left off. IslandIndependent's post really shook me. My first thought was along the lines of what the hell is her issue that she views the Provider - Provided relationship this way. Then I decided perhaps she's arrived at this view based on her experiences with clients and or partners. Reality is, of course, what we perceive it to be. So yes, since I know there are men who would see nothing wrong with rolling over a passed-out drunk woman for a quick poke, I can deduce there are men who treat their SPs the way she describes. Knowing what I know about people, I would not be surprised to discover some nice guys I know are actually that way in private. Bringing this full circle back to "How To Have Sex With Escorts: A Primer", I would advise anyone new to this community that if this describes your desire, please, be very clear with your prospective SP. If she chooses to see you and handles this variety of style, go for it. Be aware that none of the SPs I've had contact with seem likely to be comfortable with this. Personally, I'm looking for more than just self-gratification in my encounters. Poetically, because I care about the other person in the room and want her to enjoy herself, too. Prosaically, there need to be more than just getting me off or we're going to have a lot of spare time to kill. Cards, anyone?

Noting my number of posts, let me say this about that. I love 69. Dance me to heaven that way any day indeed. With that out of the way, I will now move on into the boring 70s. Carry on with what you were doing...

I believe the dearth of Recommendations for Fat Bastard BBMs can be attributed to the line at the top of the page: ".. if you do not have anything nice to say... Please don't say anything at all" However, I'm sure the line on the label of Thierry & Guy Fat Bastard Shiraz would apply: "Remarkably full bodies" (It is a good wine, by the way!)

I was looking at a sign in a local store that said they did not accept $50 and $100 bills and it got me to wondering about something. Do SPs have a preference for large or small bills? i.e. three $100 bills or 15 $20s. Just a passing thought....

Major agreement on this point. Thru an unusual set of circumstances, when I first got to Canada, I would spend my Wednesday evenings in conversation with SWs. I was fortunate enough to learn a lot about the hows, whys, and what-abouts of the women who took the time to talk with me even though I made it clear I was not a customer.

(Preface: I hold you, Phaedrus, in the highest regard. No criticism is intended in the following.) Phaedrus: "Ugh. Nothing remotely humane or useful there. No pity, no understanding, no empathy, no useful information on how to avoid it. Just a huge pile of FEAR." At the time these commercials first ran, they intentionally were "a huge pile of fear". The idea being that if it got your attention, you'd try to find out more about how to NOT be that person in that bed. Well, I think that ad is a product of its time. We've moved on since then, fortunately. HIV/AIDs has not moved on. Awareness and prevention are just as important today and tomorrow. But I don't agree that it shouldn't be discussed here. I know there are quite a few folks who disagree with me on whether stuff like this is appropriate for CERB, but I've always found it preferable - in the long run - to deal with the world as it is, rather than as I'd like it to be. I'm sure everyone here takes appropriate precautions, but HIV and other nasty things are an unfortunate reality of life (for everyone, not just people here) and I see no benefit in sweeping them under the carpet and pretending they don't exist. With you 100% on that one.

Can not see this coming up at dinner between Pass the potatoes and Salt please. but the system that evolved in our family is that I stay away from their sex lives and their money situation and they return the favour. If asked point blank about it I would answer the question because I have also taught them honesty. But I would answer the question asked but not volunteer additional information.

Well, lets see.. I've done the 3-some, 4-some, 5-some. Had sex in a moving car while driving (both oral and her sitting on my lap), sex in school, in a church, in public, in the shower, in a stream, in a tent. That covers most of the big ones. Strap-on? Check. I guess the remaining fantasies are just strange enough that I will save them for discussion with my SP and I. :)

My wife lost interest in things sexual quite some time ago. We've had relations exactly once in the last ten years. She made it very clear that I could do what I wanted so long as I did not come home with "the gift that keeps on giving" (STDs) or did not run off into the sunset with someone. We still love and cherish each other. We just don't have sex. So my involvement with SPs is perfect. We both have a vested interest in "safe" encounters. Neither of us is looking for a long term one-on-one relationship. Be that as it may, I have developed friendships with SPs but we both know "it is what it is". And I check in with my Dr on a regular basis to get tested. Am I cheating? Within the framework of the boundaries established between my wife and I, no. To someone outside the relationship who does not know the arrangement who brings their own value judgements to the table, maybe yes. Do I care, so long as they are not in the same room as me and the SP screaming their head off? No. And that's my two bits worth.

I get a kick out of people who meet me an say "Holy Crap! Your avatar is really you!" Yup. That's me. :)

My opinion on body art has undergone a serious transformation thanks to a couple of CERBs finest (you know who you are!) and I now find it very erotic.Body art can also be informative. I intend to get marked this fall to advise EMTs and ER personnel NOT to give me an MRI. I have metal clips in my brain and an MRI would, at best, blind me, at worst, kill me. In the event that I am not able to speak for myself, I plan to get a NO MRI tat. I just need to talk to my doc about the best place to get it.

No, the woman did not say you were sexist or a woman basher. She simply bemoaned your mother's inability to help you learn to respect women. With the continues fixation on sex and pussy in your replies, I can see how that might have gotten misconstrued. Oh, the reason everyone is so "cotdamn sensitive"? Probably because you are not. The OP of this thread is offensive on so many levels. "Fellas"? I'm male but do not presume that all males on CERB hold women in such low esteem as is suggested in the initial premise. Maybe "fellas" think providing food to a woman gives a man the right to access their bodies. Mature men know better. The continues reference to "pussy" as a synonym for woman suggests a view of women as sperm receptacles. Mature women, including the women on CERB, tend not to view themselves this way. The OP used the term "respect" a time or two but the whole line of thought shows total disrespect of women as persons. Can we be lucky and this is really just a troll? Or has someone just volunteered the information that he preys on insecure women for sexual gratification?

Good suggestions and thank you for them. As I write this, I am sitting on the beach. Sunny day. 30 degrees. Ocean temp nearly the same. Watching the babes on the beach. Another thought comes to mind. Not a one of these women can hold a candle to any of the fine women of CERB. God, I love Canada.

So I'm down here on holiday. Things are quiet here so I connect to the campground WiFi and enter cerb.ca in my browser. Oops. Cannoy connect. URL blocked. Adult Theme. Fortunately I also have 3G so I can connect. God, I love living in Canada where people are not quite so freaked out about sex!

Samantha, My condolences to you for the loss of your friend. I hope you can take some comfort knowing you added so much to his life. Would that we all could be so lucky to have someone care for us that way when we get there.

And that, folks, is what I think CERB is best at. Someone has a genuine question, needs information. Someone supplies the requested information. I love it when a system works! :)

Ummm... maybe I'm suffering a sudden case of being dense, but I'm not sure how anyone could realistically respond to this question. To me, the question presupposes that a qualified response would require that one had experience with a very large number of "oral qualifiers". I know how many people I've experienced - down there - in the last 30 years (quite a few) and I don't think I've had a large enough sample to be able to accurately respond to the query. I don't know. Just my opinion. But I think it is a dumb question. That's just me. The rest of you can have at it. Good luck with that.

My mind comes up with the strangest questions sometimes. Tonight I got to wondering if an observant Muslim could DATY during the daytime during Ramadan. Well, it appears he cannot. Nor can he masturbate - unless! - he does not do it to ejaculation. Priming the pump is allowed but no happy endings. There are a whole host of other things that cannot be done. Biting your nails, swallowing coins, swallowing bits of skin are off limits, too. If you go into a coma that lasts from sunrise to sunset you are considered not to have fasted and have to make that day up. Women who are menstruating are considered to have broken their fast and must make those days up. Like they say on the Global commercials - "Huh!" http://www.islam-qa.com/en/search2/Things%20that%20invalidate%20the%20fast/AllWords/t,q,a

I want to believe in the fundamental goodness of the majority of the police what with having a sister and a brother-in-law who worked in law enforcement and a daughter who is seriously considering it. But Lowdark's quote regarding Picton's victims, "...a quote from a family member of one of the missing who said that if had been fifty or so white school girls who had disappeared they would've had the army out" reminded me of journalistic pieces I've seen about the girls of colour who's disappearances went unremarked while missing cute little white girls were all over the national news. The other thing that mitigates against my desired belief is the frightening ease with which you can find police behaving badly.