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The first clue this might happen came last week when listening to a radio interview where some woman (didn't catch her name) was extolling the virtue of Sweden's laws. When the interviewer said something about people who were in favour of prostitution she interrupted him and said "You mean pro-violence."

Because I have anger issues that I've controlled fairly well over the years. But today, not so well. Give it a day or two and I can talk rationally.

In theory, that should work. In this instance, the profile is "Private" so none of the usual useful tidbits are visible. The only thing one can derive from the continued existence of the account is that it hasn't been deleted. So the OP is left depending on the kindness of strangers in the search for current information.

The other possibility is to use the Search function to search for posts or threads about or by her. That search only brings up this thread. Take from that what you will.

So, let's review. OP asks why some providers specify no black customers. Replies include because she's a bigot. She has an black "agent" (can we just be plain and call him a pimp?), blacks (not all but enough to warrant a rule) have cleanliness issues and haggle. Did I miss anything? You just know where I'm going with this, don't you? There's enough "judgemental" in this short thread to feed a family of four for a week. How about we go with the idea that the provider just chooses not to see black men for reasons known only to her. Just like some choose not to see old men, some not young men. Not sure how the putative pimp showed up so early. We all know cleanliness and haggling are not race based. So I would go with this answer to the OP question: because she chooses to (or not) and there's no accounting for taste.

Herein are my notes from the strange evening with the Americans. This evening they were at a sports bar watching the Montreal - New York playoff game. I arrived shortly after 10:00 pm to pick them up. I was due at 10:00 sharp but who leaves a playoff game that is tied 1 - 1? Well, actually, two of them. Took them back to the hotel. Foreshadows of things to come. Returned to the bar. Game ends. Fourteen gents in varying states of inebriation load into the back and are ready to PAR - TAY! Mt direction is to take them back to the hotel unless they want to go somewhere else. Whatever - take care of them. I advise the group of this. The response is instantaneous. Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Good Lord! There is the desperation of starving baby birds in their cries of Titty Bar! We have to go "Across The River". This spoken in tones usually reserved for describing the Holiest of Holies. Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! We arrive at Pigales. The moment is upon us. The car is strangely silent. Reverential silence? I open the car door and stand back so I won't be trampled by a hoard of inebriated hormonal young men. No one gets out. I stick my head in and announce we're here. No one moves. Most of them are staring with great interest at the floor. One guy looks at me and asks "What's it like in there?" "Well," I reply, "There's naked women." "Is it clean in there?" "There's naked women." No one moves. Exasperated, I go to the doorman, explain I have a bunch of shy Americans on board and ask if one can come take a quick peek and report back to the others. He agrees. I relay this offer to the boys and ask who wants to take point. No one moves. "I hear there's a casino." "Yes, there's a casino." Casino! Casino! Casino! Casino! So we drive away leaving the nude flowers of Quebec womanhood unviewed, untouched. And my head hurts between shaking it and smacking it. Americans can be odd people. I know. Because I are one.

[URL="http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/05/23/3440976/college-student-suicide-porn/"]College Student Commits Suicide After Being Cyberbullied For Appearing In Porn[/URL] Alyssa Funke, a 19-year-old who was earning straight As at the University of Wisconsin-River Falls, committed suicide last month after her former high school classmates found out she appeared on an amateur porn site. Her parents believe that the online harassment she received over her porn shoot â??played a significant roleâ? in her decision to end her life. When Funke was 18, she recorded a video for the amateur porn site Casting Couch X. According to a KMSP investigation, her high school classmates found the video and started sending her judgmental messages on Facebook and Twitter. Some of them called her a slut and a prostitute. Funke initially appeared to be trying to brush aside the cyberbullying. â??The people that envy & hate you the most, stalk you on social media the most so, hey hi hello how r u doing, this ones for you,â? she posted on her Facebook page. Her last tweets before her death referenced how famous she had become for her â??pornstar status.â? But on April 16, the college freshman killed herself on her familyâ??s boat. Funkeâ??s family told KMSP that she had struggled with depression in the past. They believe that being subject to cyberbullying contributed to her suicide, and recently set up an â??Alyssa Stop Bullying Fundâ? to raise awareness about the harmful effects of online harassment. Local police, on the other hand, say they donâ??t plan to press charges since the comments that Funke received on social media donâ??t fit their definition of criminal harassment. Funke isnâ??t the first young college student to be outed for doing porn. Recent Huffington Post investigations have found that itâ??s hardly unusual for college students to choose to appear in adult videos, although young porn stars often struggle to protect their identities. Earlier this year, news about a Duke University freshmanâ??s decision to appear in porn spread like wildfire after a fraternity brother leaked the information to the rest of the campus. That student, who goes by her stage name, Belle Knox, was â??mortifiedâ? about being exposed. Knox faced significant bullying from her peers. In a personal essay on xoJane, she criticized the culture of â??slut shamingâ? that contributes to the harassment of women who are outwardly sexual. â??I ask people to deconstruct why they treat female sexuality with such disdain. Why do we call women sluts and whores? Why do we use synonyms for prostitute as some of the worst insults in the English language?â? Knox pointed out. Indeed, this type of backlash is one of many ways that women are unfairly punished for their sexuality. Women are simultaneously encouraged to present themselves as objects of male desire and condemned for being too â??sluttyâ? if they donâ??t cover up their bodies. From a young age, theyâ??re told that itâ??s their responsibility to prevent men from being too tempted by them. That dynamic ultimately fuels the concept at the heart of rape culture: the myth that women who get raped must have been â??asking for it.â? Unfortunately, because of the link to rape culture, even young women who didnâ??t choose to engage in consensual sexual activity are still on the receiving end of this type of bullying and harassment. Over the past few years, several high school rape victims have been subject to slut-shaming cyberbullying â?? and in a few cases, itâ??s driven them to take their own lives, too. â??I truly believe that American culture prefers girls chaste and dead over slutty and alive,â? Jessica Valenti, a feminist writer who has published a book about the damaging effects of our cultureâ??s emphasis on purity, pointed out on Twitter. Additional Comments: What strikes me the most in this article is the last quote. [I]â??I truly believe that American culture prefers girls chaste and dead over slutty and alive.â?[/I] Welcome to the American Taliban. I suspect Amanda Todd and Rehtaeh Parsons' parents would suggest Canadian society is not much different in this regard.

Huh... It never occurred to me to tell someone I saw her on CERB without giving my user name. At this point in the ongoing strangeness that is my life, all the providers I see are here on CERB. It has always seemed logical, on first contact, to give my CERB handle along with my real name. It makes sense to me that this would be a comfort / security thing for her. A way of telling her I have nothing to hide and, if she is so inclined, she can take a quick look at my posts and form an impression. Seems only fair. I read her posts. Would I accept a discount for providing my CERB handle? Sure! But I'd probably give it back along with the tip.

Your next lesson, Grasshopper, is this. If it's not fun and you can't dance to it don't do it. :)

I think it would behoove all concerned to remember that almost no one appears in real life as they do in photographs and videos. In other areas of life such as with those in the public eye they often use this to their advantage. I've encountered very public people when they were "off duty" and, were I not told who to expect, would never have recognized them. In the area of interest of this board no person has exactly matched my mind's image which is formed from their posted images, blogs, posts and emails. But they've been close enough! Misleading to me would be posting 15 year old pictures and trying to pass yourself off as a 20 year old or describing yourself as a "true spinner" and posting pics that intentionally do not display your prodigious bubble butt (not that I'm knocking large asses). Midnight's point is well taken that in any situation we will present ourselves as favourably as possible. We as the clients need to keep this in mind.

Let's work backwards with what you wrote. You don't want to come across as completely ignorant. Treat her with the grace and respect you would any other woman and you're good there. Is the relationship worth pursuing? Like you said, you won't know for sure until you meet her so let's put that question on par with your chances when you meet anyone new to you. You're straight and attracted to women. Well, to put it delicately, work with what you know. And you already know what to do with a lot of her. And a lot of the experience will be just like being with another woman. Okay, enough with dancing around the elephant in the discussion. Yup, she comes with a difference (no pun intended). You can, within reason, make of that difference what you will. You may go into the evening thinking you won't really be up for dealing too much with that. As things progress, things will get hard. I mean, you might find it hard not to play there a little bit. Or a lotta bit. In my experience no woman is going to force you out of your comfort level. And in my experience, I've found the boundaries of my comfort level in this situation greatly expand as the evening progresses. All of which is a long way of saying this. You have an interest in this as demonstrated by you posing the question. Explore that interest. You might find that you actually don't have an interest worth pursuing. You might have an excellent mind blowing experience that you will thank yourself for in the morning. But most of all, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you gave it a try. There are no points awarded for that which you meant to do but never did. Good luck and enjoy!

What makes me most comfortable? Total nudity. :) Okay.. got the smart-ass bit out of the way. I've had the pleasure of sessions in condos, hotels, and suburban homes and really have no preference. Where shall she be, there I shall find her. The only limiting factor for me would be if I needed to park an oversized vehicle. Don't laugh! It's been done. I once parked a bus in a driveway between two houses in Kingston with 2 inches clearance on both sides. My most recent condo visit had no visitor parking so it was catch as catch can to find an on-street space. The suburban settings were quiet neighbourhoods and, so far as I can gather, the women were sufficiently low volume that there were no neighbours with pitch forks in the driveway. So long as I can find (or fake) some parking, the location is clean (tidy is an option for me), and the setting is secure, it all works for me. My advice to an SP, were I asked, would be to do the math and figure out what works for her. Then when the timing is right, let me know where to be and I'll be there - with a grin.

I just have to ask. Are you looking for a recommendation from the BP ladies? Or are you looking for recommendations about the BP ladies. Just curious... :)

Is there an option for Meg without her jersey? Maybe the jersey casually dropped on the floor? I'd go with that option if Meg is all right with it.

I know I'm preaching to the choir here but I find it depressing when he mentions "the misconception that prostitution is a victimless crime" and talks of rape and robbery. Those are violent crimes. The transaction of prostitution in and of itself has nothing to do with them.

I'm just tickled that the officer is a Coward. That's her name. Yup.

Good luck with that. A history lesson. Almost fifty years ago I became a member of an organization that I thought was good. Parenthetically my father was proud of my membership. In the fullness of time I proposed a friend for membership. He was a leader, a scholar, a fine human being. However, he possessed one characteristic that made him intelligible. He was black. I resigned the next day. I explained that if this gentleman who was so much better than me did not qualify, neither did I. To his credit my father supported my decision. Fast forward fifty years. Not that long ago an SP opened a thread here about a client that raised religious / cultural exceptions to reading material he noticed in her apartment. Have things changed? Not much. But in my case, I keep chipping away where I can. To bring this into the Provider/ Client context - if a provider expressed something I found totally inappropriate I would begin wrapping things up and heading towards the door. My reason for being there has nothing to do with re-educating her. If a Provider were asking for advice regarding a client revealing himself to be some garden variety shithead, my advice would be to do whatever is necessary to complete the contract insofar as her comfort level and then show him the door. There is no way in the brief time you see him you will change his world views. A variant of GIGO - he arrives a twit, he will leave a twit. My two cents - now rounded down to zero.

Initially, I got the same thing when the campground we visit in the States first got wifi. I used a free VPN to get around it. That and using my Kindle. Whispernet is uncensored.

I'm sitting. Drivers do that. A lot. Sit. When the client is ready I will drive for ten minutes. While I wait I am reading "All My Puny Sorrows" by Miriam Toews.

Though I've not been here forever, I've seen the differing ad types come and go as well as differing modes of expression from various members. My thoughts are this. Advertisers will do what works for them. If their ads are not working or don't draw the client they want the ads will change. If the ads are working for them their ads will remain the same. The persona displayed by any given member will be attractive to some providers and not to others. If the member finds he can book arrangements to his satisfaction then there is no problem. It all sorts itself out in the end.

Actually, the avatar is a picture of Autoroute 50. I chose that one because I drive so much. :)

Well, while we wait for the ladies to chime in, there's this. To me, the clock starts when I walk in. The hugs, the kisses, the chit-chat are all part of the experience and the shower time is also counted. More importantly, were I enjoying the pleasure of your company, time is up when you say it is. Period. If it's at the 29 minute mark or 39, it is your time, your business, your decision. IMHO, sounds like you met a Class A twit.

Possibly because it can be a PITA. :) This thread got me to wondering so I checked and all I had was a profile picture. It took me a few passes to get something up for an avatar and even then the system said the upload failed. But I see it when I check past posts. If you don't see a highway on this post let me know.

Hmm... Just had an image of a couple going at it doggy style and he's checking out a copy of Penthouse. Naaa... Maybe not. Though I will 'fess up that on rare occasions the vid thing has been fun. Under the right circumstances I wouldn't be adverse to my partner bringing it up.

If you check your own profile you will see in the lower right an indication of the last 10 members who checked your profile. There may be more for the providers. I'm not an SP but I can spell it and have spent time with one or two. :)