kingBong

I am glad that this thread that I started is going well also, which means that the subject idea was not foolish after all. I think CERB needs more discussions on interesting subjects even if we all do not agree on them. My personal opinion is that this is really lacking on CERB, but then you don't have to agree with me. I think that you cannot sustain the interest in a forum where everybody agrees with everybody and it becomes really BORING (and I hate to be bored). Again you don't have to agree with me on this and it's ok! Nonetheless, I like to be a member of CERB to check on the SP schedules and marginally for some well respected recos. Therefore, I have decided to join the silent majority on CERB and not contribute. Believe me I have to do this and it's not really a matter of choice for me now. Consequently, and since I CANNOT DEFEND MYSELF AND MY VIEWS NOW, please REFRAIN FROM QUOTING ME. It is only fair I think. Have a good life and play safe!

I started this thread and it was the most popular for the last few weeks or even months. S Admirer, a long term member, has also noticed that this type of discussion rarely happens on CERB and he is right. My personal opinion is that this is really lacking on CERB, but then you don't have to agree with me. I think that you cannot sustain the interest in a forum when everybody agrees with everybody and it becomes really BORING (and I hate to be bored). Again you don't have to agree with me! Nonetheless, I like to be a member of CERB to check on the SP schedules, and marginally for some well respected recos. Therefore, I have decided to join the silent majority on CERB and not contribute. Believe me I have to do this and it's not really a matter of choice for me now. Consequently, and since I CANNOT DEFEND MYSELF AND MY VIEWS NOW, please REFRAIN FROM QUOTING ME. It is only fair I think. Have a good life and play safe!

I am a negative person because I speak my mind or because you don't agree with me? I am just laughing at this because you don't know me. Most people say the opposite but you are entitled to your own critique. I, on the other hand, cannot criticize you before knowing you, because you could be a real sweetheart, and I will tell you so, even if I disagree with you on some aspects of this issue.

Actually I did that too about two years ago in a massage parlor where I was a regular. Her husband was in the living room, and it went for more than an erotic massage. Additional Comments: Well you are right; and for me and a LOT of others (silent majority here) it's going to be the second option.

It's about SP safety in general; the buddy system for SPs could be one approach. I am trying to see if there are different ways for the SPs to protect themselves and at the same time be able to make money. Being too demanding by requesting the client to give away their privacy will necessarily reduce their business, but all approaches are open for discussion, including those who are very demanding on the client.

I don't think so. Look again! When you say bashing you mean reviewing? Don't give him the website, he already knows it. Additional Comments: The thread about sp safety is now open. Go there if you want to discuss SP safety. Additional Comments: You are wrong, I never went to see that SP. No f way.

A few weeks ago, I went to see an SP, and when I arrived there were 2 SPs. The SP I had an date with asked me if I didn't mind if her 'friend' stays in the apartment and I said no problem. I even found it a bit exciting that she was hearing us in the bedroom (she was in the living room). I finished my business and left, and I thought that was a good means for her own safety, that did not bother me at all and that she didn't have to ask for my private information. That did it for both of us. I know that some SPs here are doing this and I think this is one good way that protects the SP, even though no one method is 100% sure. And I seriously think that this is more efficient than having a full legal name (if the SP can have that name of course, which is another story...). Do you think having a buddy SP system is feasible or is this only for young SPs that are not so keen on their own privacy to have someone else share the incall? And don't shoot the messenger!

No it's not always: you can discuss privacy from the perspective of the client and then safety from the persective of the SP seprately so that each will have enough 'air time' to be fair with both issues. Here we are discussing the safety from the perspective of the SP about 80% to 85% of the time, which means that the thread about client privacy has been hijacked! it's only mathematics (it doesn't bite!). See the thread about SP safety for the continuation on the subject of SP safety.

I agree with you on this and I personally I love animated and clever discussions more than the usual BS that we read sometimes... But the thread about client privacy, which is important for us clients, has been hijacked. You cannot deny that. That's why I am opening a thread about SP safety and all can contribute there. Thanks again!

Yes you are absolutely right and that's why the subject about the privacy of the client has been hijacked. So I requested a close of the thread.

I agree totally with you on this, and this is exacty what I did: I told the SP 'thank you very much it's not for me' (even though the sp was gorgeous). Now, among the number of SPs and MAs who gave their opinions on this and were saying that they ask for real legal full names (which I totally respect BTW even if I don't agree with), only one does so in her ad. So, for the Benefit of everybody and not to waste your time and the client's time, PLEASE PLEASE and pretty PLEASE make it explicit that you are also screening for the full legal name in your ad. That way, some of us who are mindful about their privacy will not waste your time (and theirs). Thank you all for your contributions, even though sometimes it was like a twister in a glass of water :-)

I don't know what you are talking about...re-read my post. My bad. I should have made it explicit that I was looking for feedback from Male members only, but I thought that implicitly it was clear... Now the thread that was about clients' privacy has been hijacked. I am asking the mod to close it. Mod, please close this thread.

Well said. I think if an SP asks for the legal full name she should be ready to give hers. It is a tust question and it works both ways. Who tells me that the SP is not some sicko herself that can do exactly what Chavez described? I understand that some SPs want to be safe, but I just don't agree about the means. I personally feel that asking for my full legal name is invading my privacy, and I don't feel comfortable sharing, especially with a touring SP that is out of town, and that I have never met before. I also know and some of you do too that one SP has serious mental problems. Do not get me wrong I sympathize with people who have mental problems a lot and this is not about that. But who says that this SP (with a severe paranoia problem) won't go to the police saying that I hit her or raped her or whatever is in her mind? I know this one SP with serious mental problems, but there are probably more...(by the way don't ask me for the name of this SP because I will not give it to you). For me the risks just outweight the benefits. If we ever become like the States where date deck is becoming a pandemic, then I will just have to quit hobbying altogether!