Phaedrus

So, I am somewhat sad to have just discovered - too late - 2012 redhead, day, which took place in Holland. http://www.roodharigen.nl/en/who-what-where-and-when We should have sent a delegation...

Nice to be here, and... Goldfrapp - Lovely 2 C U

Well, Jessica and Katrine are both individuals, but CMJ is a MP, so that's a tricky comparison - it'd depend who you see at CMJ. Katrine and Jessica are both very good. I can't comment on CMJ for the simple reason that I've never been, but they seem to be generally well-regarded and many of the MAs in Ottawa have worked there at some point. I can't really tell you who's best because I haven't met everyone yet, but please rest assured that I'm researching your question as best I can :) So... I can't really tell you that you should pick one of the choices you mentioned. I can tell you that whichever one you do pick, you'll probably have a lot of fun.

Funnily enough, I can think of someone else who I like for exactly the same reason. Tip o' the hat to you, RG.

This guy is probably insane. And also totally awesome.

Happy birthday, Nicki! Hope you're having a great time!

Happy birthday, Touch!

OOI, did you ever find out? My guess would be that it was an account that was closed after the PM was sent, but Mod would be able to give you a definitive answer....

Antarctica!

Because, of course, everyone knows that SPs only ever become more hygienic overnight, when they're visited by the SP-cleaning-fairy (who is the tooth-fairy's cousin, btw) and given a thorough overhaul and tune-up while they sleep. It's nothing to do with soap and mouthwash and mundane stuff like that. Oh no.

I recently had the great pleasure and privilege of meeting Georgiana at her downtown incall. I'd been chatting with her here (and elsewhere) for a while, and I was impressed with her obvious intelligence and grace... so, obviously, we had to meet! Arrangements were easy; alas, making them several days in advance was... well, you remember what it was like waiting for Christmas when you were a kid? It was like that. Still, just like Christmas, the day arrived... eventually :) Georgiana's incall is very tastefully decorated, although I didn't really notice this when I arrived because I was too busy feasting my eyes on the lady who opened the door. By all means go and look at her pics if you like; rest assured, they don't tell you half the story! Where was I? Yes, I'd just arrived. So, after being welcomed in, we sat and chatted for a while. Gia is just as lovely and intelligent and well-informed in person as she comes across when she posts here. I could quite happily have spent hours talking to her... and quite possibly would have done, if she hadn't reminded me that we really ought to get better acquainted. So, a bed was conjured from under a pile of cushions (good trick, that), clothes were magicked away (also a good trick, although not so much when the prospect of leaving naked becomes a possibility) and... well, at this point the camera pans out into a soft-focus, use-your-imagination-to-fill-in-the-blanks kind of arty shot, 'cos I don't talk about details :) And so after a fantastically fun-filled interlude, it was time to say our goodbyes and part company... for the moment. Until next time.

Tricky one, this. It's easy to get sucked in. To be honest, I think that getting sucked into spending a lot of time on CERB (or similar) is a serious danger and avenue to discovery. Disappearing for an hour or two every so often and keeping a bit of cash and a throw-away cellphone hidden isn't too hard, if you're careful... but disguising the fact that you're spending a lot of time on a regular basis on boards/twitter/email/etc is probably harder, especially if it's accompanied by an emotional withdrawal from your SO. And eventually you may well end up having that awkward conversation that begins, "Hey, what's that website you're always on...?" Perhaps you should also join a golf/fishing/whatever board or two and keep those open in another browser tab while you're here... So, yes... suitable caution and/or rationing may be a good idea!

[url]http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2012/08/27/cindy_gallop_and_crowdsourced_porn_can_real_world_sex_online_take_down_mainstream_porn_.html?tid=sm_tw_button_chunky[/url] Two and a half minutes after I sit down with Cindy Gallop, the fiftysomething tech and advertising entrepreneur informs me that she regularly has sex with twentysomething men. She maintains a â??stableâ? of them, she tells meâ??a collection of only the most attractive, sweetest young men on the market. But about a half-decade ago, she began â??encountering certain sexual-behavioral memesâ? among her choice demographic: the presumption that female genitalia be hairless; a fixation on anal sex; an enthusiasm for ejaculating on a womanâ??s face. â??I thought, Whoa. I know where that behavior is coming from.â? That would be hardcore pornography, a cultural product thatâ??s been freely downloadable into my generationâ??s computers since we first learned to disable the family filterâ??and has now crept into Gallopâ??s bedroom, too. In a widely-circulated 2009 TED talk, Gallop told the crowd that she must routinely correct her young partners: â??Actually, no, thank you very much, I would much rather you did not come on my face.â? And she fears for a meeker young woman caught in the same porny feedback loop, wherein â??her boyfriend wants to come on her face, she does not want him to come on her face, but hardcore porn has taught her that all men love coming on womenâ??s faces, all women love having their faces come on, and therefore she must let him come on her face, and she must pretend to like it.â? If you are not personally familiar with this dynamic, you may at least have seen it on Girls? Gallopâ??s point isnâ??t that certain sex acts are inherently badâ??just that talking about them makes everyoneâ??s sex life better. To facilitate the conversation, in 2009 she created a real-talk sex-ed website called â??Make Love Not Pornâ? to dispel some of the common â??mythsâ? perpetuated by pornâ??s monolithic presentation of human sexuality. (On facial ejaculate: â??Some women like this, some women donâ??t. Some guys like to do this, some guys donâ??t. Entirely up to personal choice.â?) Later, Gallop realized she could do more than just annotate the pornâ??s industryâ??s productâ??she could compete with it. This month, she launched a beta version of a crowdsourced online platform wherein amateurs and porn stars alike are invited to tape themselves engaging in â??real world sex.â? If Make Love Not Pornâ??s curators like what they see, the video is offered for sale on the site for $5 a pop. When viewers take a peek, profits are shared 50/50 between the site and the sex partners. Gallop isn't the first to attempt to pin a business model on crowdsourced porn. But Gallop faults other "amateur" sites for expecting participants to model their sex after the prosâ??she cites submission guidelines that ask amateurs to focus on specific camera angles, engage in specific sexual dynamics, and even play up the idea that it's the girl's "first time" (even if she's a vet). Of course, putting sex on film will necessarily affect the proceedings, but Gallop encourages participants to film sex as close as possible to how they actually have it when the camera's off. That means not staging untenable, nonpleasurable positions just to angle genitals toward the lens. No editing out the messy bits, like the application of a condom or lube. And no expectation that the sexual encounter end in accordance with the typical porn conventionsâ??a faux-orgasmic scream from her, an external ejaculation from him. Gallopâ??s initiative isnâ??t just about disrupting the hegemony of the semen facialâ??itâ??s about making â??real world sex socially acceptable and socially sharable in a way no one has ever achieved.â? This is pornography that is created entirely by the people participating in it, not an outside team of writers, directors, and producers (even if it's later picked over by a team of curators). Not only that, but the site favors porn that is made by and for women. Gallop is actively looking to appeal to women, but to do so sheâ??ll need to overcome a serious gender barrier. Young men have long built a social order around the sharing of sexual materialâ??think of the neighbor kid who farmed out his dadâ??s stash of VHS tapes to his friendsâ??but itâ??s still less acceptable for women to talk openly about viewing porn, and even porn sites that encourage a commenter community are mostly filled with men. Then there's the ultimate male porn sharer: the guy who spreads private sex tapes to thousands of strangers through his â??revengeâ? porn site. Heâ??s not a libertineâ??heâ??s a misogynist. Most peopleâ??men and womenâ??are not served by this porn race to the bottom. Privately, Gallop says, sheâ??s heard from many men who are frustrated by the porn that's most accessible to them. But if Gallop hopes to really change the porn landscape, sheâ??ll need to convince men to surrender the sexual currency they hold over women in the internet porn marketplace, and pay real money for Gallop's more equitable experienceâ??and that means solving a problem that goes far beyond the money shot. ------------------- h/t [URL="http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=70467"]gentlemanprof[/URL], 'cos I just stole this from his twitter feed :)

Well, it's been far too long since I nominated a Goddess... so it seems appropriate to nominate someone I haven't seen for far too long: Jessica! Jessica was one of the first MAs I had the pleasure of seeing, and still one of the best. She's a beautiful person, inside and out. A moment, please, to reflect on this... Are you back? Good. And as an added bonus, she's willing to let things get extremely... messy, in the best possible way. I don't know who invented nuru massage, but I owe them a beer or three. Because... well, because this: Awesomeness. Very sexy awesomeness.

Thanks, voicesurfr - sounds like I'm wrong, then!

Many will watch the endless and repetitive lockout analysis, probably, 'cos that's probably what they'll replace the actual hockey with. I won't, 'cos I don't watch all that much in the first place! I'd love to think that they'd replace hockey with some coverage of the other multitudes of sports that are out there so that we can all be introduced to something new... but I suspect that's too much to ask.

I think she now goes by Madison, and is half of this duo. But I'm absolutely not 100% sure about that - I met April at R&E, but haven't caught up with her since.

Absolutely not a deal-breaker for me. But I've never really been inclined to take the view that "if we don't do X, it's a waste of time". There are MANY fun things to do, and you can't possibly fit them all into one encounter. Well, okay, you might, but I can't. Yes, I've seen the same. But this seems reasonable; after all, someone who advertizes a particular service really ought to be OK with it most of the time. Obviously everything is YMMV and the lady has the absolute right to change her mind about anything at any time and for any reason... but someone who doesn't provide what's advertized on a regular basis will eventually get accused of B&S. But, equally obviously, anyone who chooses to provide something she doesn't advertize will probably get a grand total of zero complaints :) That would make me very sad too.

http://www.wired.com/rawfile/2012/08/bald-men-get-new-hair-in-the-form-of-water-balloon-explosions/ Bald guys + water balloons + lasers = awesomeness. It's that simple.

I don't claim to be an expert on these matters, but I believe it's polite to at least ask what kind of stuffing is preferred :)

Not all of them!