Phaedrus

Do I get extra points for the Star Wars reference?

To give you a couple of specific recommendations... Megan and Jessica are both fantastic and in the area. They both post schedules quite regularly.

A question for (and on behalf of) the paranoid: are there hosting services that don't keep logs at all? After all, what doesn't exist can't be subpoena'd...

Aaaand.... there's another issue! I'd always assumed that if someone has a reco thread already, then that means that a) they're OK with recommendations in general, and b) they won't mind if I post my own, assuming it's complimentary (which it always would be, or it wouldn't be a reco, would it :) ? Have I screwed up here? Should I be asking ladies if they mind my posting a reco, even if they have a well-established reco thread? (I should probably mention that if there's no established thread I'd *always* ask first, since that may indicate that someone doesn't want reviews. I'm talking about people for whom recommendations already exist here.)

I'm speculating somewhat here... but I do get the feeling there's more of this going on than most of us would care to admit to. Seriously, guys, we're not insecure fifteen-year-olds any more. Nobody is going to judge you on the basis of who you had a good time with, or what you did while having a good time with them. At least, not here. They might on other boards, but not here, from what I've seen.

New Model Army - The Hunt http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=liyaXjf_WSI

Wasn't it "friendly fire"?

How do you give someone a rash by PM? Enquiring minds would like to know... :)

I'm in the same boat - I've never written a lengthy blow-by-blow report, and I very much doubt I ever will. And I'm sure we're not the only ones. But at the end of the day, for me, the most important bit of information is "I saw X, and it was great, so you should too." All else is icing on the cake.

U gives cheezburgers wiv appointmentz? Ya, LOLcats are a guilty pleasure. I don't usually own up to it...

As far as I'm concerned, the only sensible answer to this question is "whatever you (the SP) are comfortable with". Sure, we hobbyists may have a preference - and some may even go so far as to avoid SPs with the 'wrong' sort of incall - but that's their loss. And it sounds like for every one who'd prefer you had other arrangements, another will like the choice you've made. You can't please everyone all the time, and I think it'd be foolish to try. What *really* matters is that *you* are happy with the arrangements you make and feel safe and secure there. If that means the comfort and familiarity of your own home, that's great (and as others have said, I'd be seriously flattered that you trust me - a relative stranger - to that extent). If that means the relative anonymity of a hotel room, that's great too.

A half-century? This landmark needs a haiku Happy birthday, sir!

Many thanks for the comments, all! It's good to know what other people feel about this sort of thing. Clearly I'll have to get scribbling more often than I have done in the past!

Thanks, wellie. Looks like our esteemed Mod is already reading this thread, so should be no worries on that front. One other point, related my original post: it would be nice if what new users saw on their own profiles and posts made them feel welcome, rather than implying that they're on probation. I know that new members *are* on probation, at least initially while their posts are moderated, but maybe we could change the rep-points message once a user is no longer in automatic moderation? I have no idea whether this is feasible or how much this actually matters in practice, though.

For anyone who's already sick of the impending Royal Wedding (and even those who aren't), today's live-blog at The Guardian is worth reading.

So, a question arising from the recommendation thread here, which I thought deserved its own thread... It seems to me that recommendations have a bias in favour of SPs/MAs who are new to the scene, or who may have just left one establishment for another, or gone indy. This is all well and good, and probably understandable, but - where does it leave the ladies who have been established for a while, and who have probably built up a good number of regular repeat visitors, and thus may not have (or want, or need) the same volume of new customers as the latest arrival? To ask a more concrete question on behalf of those who write the recommendations: if you've already written a recommendation for someone, when (if ever) is it appropriate to maybe write another, if only to say "yes, she's still awesome"? And where does that cross the line into shilling?

Well.... they're different. I'd consider a quick note to say thanks to be a common courtesy, and - assuming I have some means of contacting the lady in question, which may not always be the case if an agency or MP is involved - it's something I'd do unless I felt there was a good reason not to. A recommendation, on the other hand, is not something I'd feel obliged to write, and also not something I'd feel obliged to do immediately; quite apart from anything else, it requires more care and attention than a thank-you note. I've also deliberately held off writing a reco in the past because someone else had just written one for the same person, so I left it for a bit until the thread-bump was more worthwhile. I don't know whether this was ethical or whether it crosses the line into shill-ish territory, but there we go... <afterthought> Of course if you're just talking about people who insist on being able to read reviews but don't ever provide any of their own... I agree, that's unreasonable. I've benefited from the collective wisdom of the CERB reviewers, and it would be remiss of me not to give something back to them and to others.</afterthought>

After a few PMs with Erin to establish a rapport and find a mutually convenient time to meet, I finally managed to escape from work a little early and meet up with her. Erin's a beautiful lady, and I found her really easy to get along with. After a very pleasant shower together, she gave me a massage that was every bit as sensual as the recommendations above had led me to expect (no sunbeams, alas, but if there had been I'd probably never had left :) ). I left thoroughly relaxed and with a big smile on my face. I'll definitely be back.

Surf_Nazis_Must_Die Isn't quite my type. Must see the Cleosaraus! Well, you did ask :)

To be honest, I don't see that it's any of my business, provided it doesn't have any impact on me. I see no reason why any SP should have to tell me about her SO (or lack thereof), much less justify any decisions she's made to the likes of me. This is her life we're talking about, not mine. This sort of thing would, of course, be the one exception to what I wrote above. Fortunately it's never happened to me... touch wood...

I was quite touched last year to see two of my colleagues wish each other a Merry Christmas. I was touched because one's a Muslim, and the other's a Jew. There's still hope while common courtesy can triumph over religious differences.

I'd vote for that: it's a simple statement of fact (most of the time), rather than a potential judgment.

Hope whatever you get up to next goes will for you! You'll be missed hereabouts...

...speaking purely selfishly, of course. If anyone sees her, please wish her well from all of us here!