Phaedrus

As far as I'm concerned, the only sensible answer to this question is "whatever you (the SP) are comfortable with". Sure, we hobbyists may have a preference - and some may even go so far as to avoid SPs with the 'wrong' sort of incall - but that's their loss. And it sounds like for every one who'd prefer you had other arrangements, another will like the choice you've made. You can't please everyone all the time, and I think it'd be foolish to try. What *really* matters is that *you* are happy with the arrangements you make and feel safe and secure there. If that means the comfort and familiarity of your own home, that's great (and as others have said, I'd be seriously flattered that you trust me - a relative stranger - to that extent). If that means the relative anonymity of a hotel room, that's great too.

A half-century? This landmark needs a haiku Happy birthday, sir!

Many thanks for the comments, all! It's good to know what other people feel about this sort of thing. Clearly I'll have to get scribbling more often than I have done in the past!

Thanks, wellie. Looks like our esteemed Mod is already reading this thread, so should be no worries on that front. One other point, related my original post: it would be nice if what new users saw on their own profiles and posts made them feel welcome, rather than implying that they're on probation. I know that new members *are* on probation, at least initially while their posts are moderated, but maybe we could change the rep-points message once a user is no longer in automatic moderation? I have no idea whether this is feasible or how much this actually matters in practice, though.

For anyone who's already sick of the impending Royal Wedding (and even those who aren't), today's live-blog at The Guardian is worth reading.

So, a question arising from the recommendation thread here, which I thought deserved its own thread... It seems to me that recommendations have a bias in favour of SPs/MAs who are new to the scene, or who may have just left one establishment for another, or gone indy. This is all well and good, and probably understandable, but - where does it leave the ladies who have been established for a while, and who have probably built up a good number of regular repeat visitors, and thus may not have (or want, or need) the same volume of new customers as the latest arrival? To ask a more concrete question on behalf of those who write the recommendations: if you've already written a recommendation for someone, when (if ever) is it appropriate to maybe write another, if only to say "yes, she's still awesome"? And where does that cross the line into shilling?

Well.... they're different. I'd consider a quick note to say thanks to be a common courtesy, and - assuming I have some means of contacting the lady in question, which may not always be the case if an agency or MP is involved - it's something I'd do unless I felt there was a good reason not to. A recommendation, on the other hand, is not something I'd feel obliged to write, and also not something I'd feel obliged to do immediately; quite apart from anything else, it requires more care and attention than a thank-you note. I've also deliberately held off writing a reco in the past because someone else had just written one for the same person, so I left it for a bit until the thread-bump was more worthwhile. I don't know whether this was ethical or whether it crosses the line into shill-ish territory, but there we go... <afterthought> Of course if you're just talking about people who insist on being able to read reviews but don't ever provide any of their own... I agree, that's unreasonable. I've benefited from the collective wisdom of the CERB reviewers, and it would be remiss of me not to give something back to them and to others.</afterthought>

After a few PMs with Erin to establish a rapport and find a mutually convenient time to meet, I finally managed to escape from work a little early and meet up with her. Erin's a beautiful lady, and I found her really easy to get along with. After a very pleasant shower together, she gave me a massage that was every bit as sensual as the recommendations above had led me to expect (no sunbeams, alas, but if there had been I'd probably never had left :) ). I left thoroughly relaxed and with a big smile on my face. I'll definitely be back.

Surf_Nazis_Must_Die Isn't quite my type. Must see the Cleosaraus! Well, you did ask :)

To be honest, I don't see that it's any of my business, provided it doesn't have any impact on me. I see no reason why any SP should have to tell me about her SO (or lack thereof), much less justify any decisions she's made to the likes of me. This is her life we're talking about, not mine. This sort of thing would, of course, be the one exception to what I wrote above. Fortunately it's never happened to me... touch wood...

I was quite touched last year to see two of my colleagues wish each other a Merry Christmas. I was touched because one's a Muslim, and the other's a Jew. There's still hope while common courtesy can triumph over religious differences.

I'd vote for that: it's a simple statement of fact (most of the time), rather than a potential judgment.

Hope whatever you get up to next goes will for you! You'll be missed hereabouts...

...speaking purely selfishly, of course. If anyone sees her, please wish her well from all of us here!

Yep. Of course, the public interest is frequently not the same as what the public is interested in :)

Agreed, it's illegal (and despite the DMCA being US law, I'm sure there's some sort of Canadian Intellectual Property laws that could do the same job). My point is simply that if your stuff is thieved, you're highly unlikely to get compensation remotely appropriate to the harm done - especially after you take into account what you'd have to pay lawyers to get it. It's a cost-benefit issue, when it comes down to it. Absolutely. IMHO all you can really do is watermark your pics when you post them... Edit: I see OutForFun has already updated us on the relevant Canadian law. Thanks! Although I'd be interested to know whether what's happened here counts as "fair use".

I'd suggest you have a look through the recommendations and see who you like the sound of. Given the nature of this forum, I think any MA mentioned here will give you the release bit, and at least some amount of mutual sensual touching (some allow more than others in any case; YMMV in all cases; if you really care a lot about this, get in touch with the MA you're thinking about and ask). And hell, get out there and experiment! I've generally gone to MAs who were recommended hereabouts, and my experiences have ranged from good to out of this world :)

Over to you, Philosoraptor... (and no, I couldn't find one that was with correct spelling. Sorry!)

Amen to that. Fully-sugared unhealthiness or GTFO :) But I really don't drink sodas much at all... most of what I drink is either water, fruit juice or completely natural beverages that have undergone the influence of certain useful micro-organisms :)

Agreed, this is piss-poor journalism, and I hope they get hauled over the coals for it. <thread_hijack> However, it should probably be said.... anything posted on the Internet *immediately* becomes available to anyone who wants to redistribute it - and lawsuits after the fact can't turn the clock back if this happens. And in the case of photos, most photo-sharing websites where you can post pics for free probably have something in the Ts&Cs (remember that bit where you clicked 'I agree' without actually reading it?) which gives them non-exculsive rights to do what they like with your pictures. I should probably point out here that that I've never read EC's Ts&Cs (or CERB's for that matter :) ), so I can't comment on them specifically - I'm very much talking about generalities here. Summary: if you put it on the Internet, you've lost control of it. Information wants to be free (to quote Julian Assange, in a different context). That said, I now return you to the topic under discussion. </thread_hijack> #include <hijack/apologies.h> (and if you got that, you're officially a nerd :) )

One comment... No reputable SP will *ever* let your phone number out into the wild, unless you do something that requires that other SPs be warned that you're bad news. Not that I'm implying for a moment that you would, of course. Also, AFAIK most SPs don't answer calls from blocked numbers. If you're *really* paranoid about this, buy a pay-as-you-go phone that takes top-up cards (no contract), pay cash, and give a false name and address when you do if any is required. That way there's no way the number can be traced to you. At least, not without *serious* effort and resources :) And okay, I know, that was three comments. So sue me :)

There's probably as many reasons as there are people :) It may be that you're comfortable with a massage, but not with a FS experience, for whatever reason. It may be that you're having a lazy day just want to have an experience where you can just lie there and enjoy it, rather than needing to actively participate. It may be that you particularly want to spend some time in the company of someone who happens to offer massage rather than FS. Whatever the reasons may be, there's clearly enough people to whom they apply on any given day to keep MAs in business, for which we should all be grateful.

"There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven't yet met." - W. B. Yeats, who probably wasn't writing about CERB at the time, but could have been.

Couldn't have said it better myself. WIT, I have no idea how long it took you to put this tour de force together, but I stand in awe of your knowledge and thoroughness. And very grateful, too.