Phaedrus

I've never tried one, but a couple of thoughts occur. First, from the infographic that EmJ posted: 95% effective with perfect use? 79% with average use? And that's as a contraceptive; viruses are smaller than spermatozoa. Those numbers seem low to me. Mind you, the numbers for the condoms we all know and love are 98% and 82% (from the same source), so they're only a bit better. Second, I can't help but think that the preference may tie in with BBBJ vs CBJ. If you're doing CBJ, then pulling off the condom so that you could then use the female version sounds like unnecessary hassle to me, whereas if you're doing BBBJ then it may follow more naturally. And finally... This still doesn't strike me as a major overhead compared to the going rate for visiting a SP in the first place.

Not really camel toe, but... I think the new cycling kit that the Colombian Women's Team will be wearing deserves an honorable mention.

Last time anyone asked, she was still around.

I'd be OK giving my identity to someone who was well-established in the industry, and who I trusted to destroy any record of it once she no longer required it. But there's absolutely no way I'd send it to a newcomer or to someone without a good track record.

I don't know the answer to this, but... I really, really hope not. It would be a very sad day if all ads were done to the same template and the only difference between ladies was the pics.

Another illustration of the utter pointlessness of attempts to prevent people from getting it on with other people, even when there's money involved. http://ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/sex-marathon TLDR version: Porn star wants implants, fucks 25 guys in a night (on film) to fund it. Usual suspects try to shut it down, and fail due to some fairly simple "paying for X, not Y" arrangements. I really wonder when people in various positions of power and influence are going to work out that this kind of thing will happen, has always happened, and won't stop just because they disapprove? As far as I can see, their efforts to prevent this event had only two results: it was moved from an RV to an apartment (which doesn't strike me as a bad thing) and it resulted in a lot of free publicity.

Happy birthday! Hope you had an awesome day!

It's finally here! http://www.amazon.ca/What-If-Scientific-Hypothetical-Questions/dp/0544272994/ref=sr_1_1 Yes, I'm a nerd.

A few random thoughts... I really don't want to get into telling you how to run your business, but since you've asked... First: you might be better off having this conversation in the SP-only section. I suspect the other ladies here might be more forthcoming there than they would here. Remember that you can change your rates at any time, so if you get it wrong to start with, it's easily fixable. You can always offer a short-term special if you find yourself simultaneously horny as hell and out of batteries, or put your rates up (or just turn people down) if you find yourself overly popular. If you want to nudge people into longer appointments, you can do that with your rates. If you're thinking about $500 for two hours, then if you set your rate for an hour at $300 (or even $400) then you'll give your clients an incentive to book for longer. And if they book the shorter appointment, you have more funds in your pocket to spend on batteries :) I definitely take this sort of thing into consideration when booking, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Of course, you'd doubtless lose *some* potential clients this way, but I'm not getting the feeling that'd be a big deal for you, unless "some" became "most". If you want to keep your rates the same independent of location, then you may need to keep them high enough that the meeting is still worthwhile when you do have to book a hotel room. Or, possibly, you might find another local lady who's willing to share an incall, or let it out to you on an occasional basis. Rates matter, of course, but they matter a lot more to some people than to others. You'll obviously be out of consideration for some people if you rates are too high for them, but bear in mind you may also put yourself out of consideration for others if your rates are too low. And definitions of "too high" and "too low" will vary enormously. I've decided not to see particular people for both reasons in the past.

Like the title says... that's a lot of writing! Thanks for all of them, PP... and in particular, thanks for all the recos you've written over the years. They've definitely been helpful to me, and I'm sure to many others too.

Five posts, anywhere, to get out of moderation. You already have three :) Have a look in the General and Fun Stuff sections - there's plenty of threads there where it's easy enough to chip in....

I suspect "social disease" was just a typo for STD. Or at least, that's what I'm guessing the OP meant. Unless he meant this...

A guy with a really freaky foot!

The spas know damn well that we guys aren't there to see each other, and are generally very good at making sure we don't run into each other in the hallway or anywhere else. I've only had it happen a couple of times at different places... and on both occasions that was passing a client on the way in as I was walking out the door, which they really can't do much to avoid. I've *never* spent any time hanging around the lobby, or seen anyone else doing so. So, yeah... Ottawa doesn't sound like Toronto :) I guess you might have to spend a little longer in the communal areas if you just show up and then want to know who's available, but I've always tended to look at the schedule, do some research in advance and then call ahead, even if it's just a "Hi, is X available in ten minutes' time?". I've never just shown up unannounced, even at the places that welcome walk-ins. That way you know that you'll see the person you want to see, and you have as little time as possible before you get into the room where you definitely won't see anyone else.

Probably because of the consent involved, or lack thereof. I'm sure we all spend plenty of time appreciating pics and vids of good-looking people in various states of undress and engaging in various activities, but in general these are all done with the consent of the people involved. Whether you're looking at paid models and actors, or the pics that ladies here post of themselves, you can be pretty sure that everything was made public with the full knowledge and consent of whoever you're looking at. Even if they may subsequently change their minds and discover that nothing posted online can ever really be erased, they were still OK with it being put up there in the first place. But that's not what's happened here. It seems that everything in this collection of material has been stolen without the consent of the people in the pictures, and includes stuff that they never intended anyone except a very small audience to see. To me, this seems more akin to revenge porn than to anything with any legitimacy. The fact that the people we're talking about are famous doesn't change that. Let's face it, the Internet already contains more legitimately-produced erotica than any one person could ever watch, and more gets added every day. I don't see the need to seek out stuff that was never meant to go public.

No! Titcoin!

True. Plus the need to spend time haggling every time you do it, since you can't have an up-front rate for your time if you don't know what you're going to be exchanging it for. I get the impression most ladies aren't fond of haggling.

Everyone else on the road. All of them. When I become dictator for life, I will have my own private highways.

Love it or loathe it, it seems to be the way the language is going. Still, we Canadians should be fine. We've been doing the moral equivalent for years, eh?

Congratulations, Fortunateone! I always enjoy reading what you have to say.

Two things I want to say on this. The first is: congratulations, and thanks. To everyone. This thread had only a few posts last time I looked at it, and I must admit I had thought it would inevitably turn into a shitstorm. But.. it hasn't: we have instead had (mostly) an interesting and useful and civilized discussion on a subject that really doesn't seem to come up very often. That's a rare and precious thing; you have only to look at comment threads on news articles or even some of the other boards to know that. And if that lot sounds patronizing... honestly, it's not meant that way. I've tried to avoid sounding condescending, but I'm not sure that I've succeeded. The second is a more general and non-specific thought on GFE, and what it is, and - more importantly - what it isn't. If we're honest, we clients don't want to have an experience that's exactly like we'd get from a girlfriend. We just want the good bits. The highlights. We only want to give as much as we feel inclined to give, rather than giving as much as is necessary. And the ladies know this. That's why, when you go to see a SP, she won't tell you that your shirt doesn't suit you. She won't spend the first hour venting about what a bad day she's had, or fretting because her puppy's off his food. She won't decide that no, she just wants to cuddle this evening (unless you want that too) and she sure as hell won't have a headache. She'll give you the impression that she enjoys your company just as much as you enjoy hers. You get all the positives of a girlfriend, and none of the negative stuff or the stuff that might require effort on your part. Is this selfish? Of course! And that, of course, is one of the reasons that there's an envelope on the table. And that comes back to this thread. We guys know that menstruation happens, just as bad days and sick pets and headaches and all the other things that might make things less than stellar also happen... but, if we're honest, we don't want to have to deal with that - and part of what we're paying for is not having to deal with that stuff. It doesn't make the slightest difference to our enjoyment whether it's that time of the month or not, or whether today's just a bad day or not, or whether you're faking or not... provided we don't find out. But if we find out, that illusion of the perfect girlfriend is shattered. We're quite happy to pay no attention to the man behind the curtain, provided we can plausibly ignore the man - and, preferably, the curtain too. This also comes back to something else mentioned on the board recently; one of the ladies mentioned that she'd had to cut off a client or two for trying to cross the boundaries and get too close. I think the idealized, no-negatives "girlfriend" that we guys meet goes some way towards explaining why this happens; it's easy to forget that the "girlfriend" that you experienced and had a wonderful time with has a real, three-dimensional person underneath, and that you don't get to meet that real person at all just by putting an envelope on the table, and that the fact that you're slightly in love with the idealized GFE doesn't mean you'll feel the same about the real person, or that she'll feel the same about you. Where the hell am I going with this post? Honestly, I'm not quite sure... I guess that really makes it what RG would call a rambling. I think what I'm really working towards is a thought that much of this thread is the result of a disconnect between the day-to-day reality of being a woman on the one hand, and the guys' expectations of a paid-for girlfriend experience on the other. Most of the time, it all works out. But sometimes it doesn't. And then you get... this. And slightly incoherent late-night verbal diarrhea from the likes of me.