theoldguy

I completely agree that its a good middle ground. Can be as exciting as other aspects of the hobby, and the girls are generally not as rushed which gives you a much better chance to get to know them. Also, no chance of getting busted with all the nasty consequences that entails.

She had noticed an increase of "so my buddy told me you do so-and-so" type situations and had been wondering why... Still, cant help wondering if the incident will change her views and enjoyment of her profession.

Weird situation recently cropped up. A review of one of my favorite dancers popped up on another board. Was a very flattering review, but alluded that extra mileage was most likely available... Seeing as she is strictly a no extras girl (I know this having had a long discussion with her on the topic) I was kinda torn about whether or not I should warn her. Ended up texting her the link and she was livid and had it removed. Still not sure telling her about the review and the existence of these review boards was wise. Ignorance in this case may have been bliss. Any of the dancers that I know read these forums have an opinion on whether or not they would want to know?

Telling you they are bored is just their way of leading to the "want to go for dances?" question. Dont take it personally. :p

Would I lend money to a guy friend while gambling? Sure, I have in the past and I am sure it will come up again. Do I think its a long con? There's a good chance, who knows. Why did I do it knowing all I know? Curiosity? Wanting to help out someone in a bad spot that I have come to care about? Who knows. Did I walk to the bank to transfer the money thinking "This may be the stupidest thing you've done in recent years?" Of course. At the end of the day, a grand is a small sum of money easily replaced. The lesson is learned before any of it plays out. For all I know she left town for the moment because she owes too much money. And what do I expect out of it? Nothing. Sure, she keeps alluding to more, and I keep downplaying it. The girl is out of my league, I know it, she knows it.

Oh, I understand the seriousness of her problem. I thought I would never hear from her again but she kept calling regularly just to chat. Then she called one afternoon and was more honest than ever: she was tapped out and needed a bit more gambling money. I ended up lending her a small sum fully expecting never to see the money again, and, since I made it clear that was all she would get from me, expecting not to hear from her again. Yet she still keeps in contact, chatting about where she is, where she plans to go, gambling, her life. Was it stupid to lend her the money? Her friends assure me she always pays people back. Who knows. But I now consider her a friend and will continue to feel that way no matter what happens.

Some girls will kiss a brand new customer and thats fun and exciting in its own way. But in my experience its much better with some progression. When a dancer you've known for a while goes through steps. One session ends with a quick kiss on the cheeks, the next with a chaste peck on the lips, etc, until visits turn into prolonged make-out sessions. To me that shows way more of a connection and chemistry.

Worst part is, if she took a different tact, I would easily have spent the requested amount on her for a few overnights or whatnot. This girl is that fantastic. But this was just too classic a con job. Poor girl. Easily makes 1500 a night, hot and smart enough to land any guy in a different setting, doesnt seem addicted to any substances. Just a gambling addict.

And... There it is. After a week seeing her regularly in and out of the club, talk of dating, actual dinner datea, passionnate kisses and some of the best dances I've ever had, just got the call saying she's gambled away all her money and needs to borrow a few thousand. Little head off, big head thinking process back on. Time to block her number, avoid the casino and some restaurants and her club for a few months. Was a fun fantasy while it lasted.

... the club is in gatineau. The places I keep running into her are downtown, where I work and live. And at 4am on a weeknight? Ottawa has limited dining options.

-sigh- Managed to avoid her for close to a month only to run into her at a restaurant last night (at a tableful of strippers I all knew to make things worse) Awkward, and I'm back to fighting the urge to go straight to her club at every waking moment. I'vr gotta get a job that doesnt involve being out and about at stripper hours :p

Haven't seen this lovely girl at pigales in weeks. Anyone happen to know if she moved to another club?

She works an erratic late night schedule as far as I can tell. Always glad to run in to her.

I was actually pretty annoyed (and drunk) while I posted that. I know its nonsensical to expect the girls to act differently while with a crowd, its still somewhat problematic at times.

Maude seems to have moved to Pigales on most nights.

I tend to do the same thing (come in alone) but I find it produces the exact opposite result. The girls see me alone and its like a huge target on my back. I dont think the mgmt cares as long as you pay cover and dribk, they make no money on lapdances.

Jasmin at pigales fits the bill if a barbell instead of a ring is adequate.

Posting this WHILE at pigales with a bachelor party. Just because you're a regular for half the girls in the club doesnt mean they should all approach as they usually do knowing your name and with a big hug or kiss when you are with a large group. Just because a guy is there 3 nights a week doesnt mean he wants all his friends to know that :-p

Didnt actually see this Olivia as I got pulled down to the CR but the dj did announce an Olivia was next up on stage around 2am thursday if that helps.

I am actually glad I started this thread as reading about other's experiences strongly reinforces my belief I have to stay away. The extra confusing part though is that little of her behavior matches the expected or above described. I mean, I personally haven't run into a dancer before that insists on only charging for half of the dances in a session, or that freely shares so many details of her personal life. Or for that matter of a girl insisting we should grab a bite to eat after her work without trying to hustle me for dances. Dangerous territory I know. If its all some reverse psychology game, she is definitely the most accomplished hustler I have encountered. At least forewarned is forearmed. I dont foresee her maxing out my credit cards with her phone bills.

By somehow predicting where I would be in the future? Doubtful.

So I've been persevering as best as I can with my whole "stay away til she's out of my head" plan... tonight had a night off and resisted the urge to head to her workplace. Took a walk and headed to grab takeout in an entirely different part of town at 4am and after ordering, spot her and a few coworkers sitting in a corner eating. A big smile and a hug later and I'm back to thinking about those beautiful eyes. Starting to think this will require turning into a hermit.

Is the Lexi mentionned above the short spinner with light brown hair that worked at barbs for a long time then moved to playmate then dissapeared? If so she is great, used to have somewhat of an arrangement with her where on a slow night she'd just sit with me and keep me from having to turn down dances from all the girls I had no interest in. Great girl.

Sorry mod. Did not think I was crossing any lines by not mentionning any names.

Jordan (apparently a regular day girl that has now moved to the late shift for the summer) gives great cr dances. Tall extra skinny dark haired girl.