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[URL]http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/07/21/to-each-his-own-men-and-fetishes[/URL] As a sexuality counselor and author, Iâ??m often asked, â??Whatâ??s the strangest thing youâ??ve ever dealt with?â? I wish I could tell them something really juicy, like naked clowns wrestling in Jell-O, for example, but the truth is that most sexual complaints tend to be rather common: sex ruts, [URL="http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/Documents%20and%20Settings/mccarter/Local%20Settings/Temporary%20Internet%20Files/OLK49/thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/05/26/good-in-bed-getting-back-in-sexual-sync"][B][COLOR=#004276]mismatched libidos[/COLOR][/B][/URL], erectile disorder and [URL="http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/Documents%20and%20Settings/mccarter/Local%20Settings/Temporary%20Internet%20Files/OLK49/thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2010/10/28/men-and-sex-survival-of-the-quickest"][B][COLOR=#004276]premature ejaculation[/COLOR][/B][/URL] in men, and orgasm problems and painful sex for women. What people really want to know about are the unusual sexual fetishes of others (also known clinically as paraphilias), which affect a much smaller percentage of people. Interestingly enough, most of those people happen to be men. Thatâ??s not to say that women lack their own unique turn-ons and turn-offs, their kinks and squicks (sexual repulsions), but when it comes to, say, having a favorite fantasy versus having an obsession in which all sexual pleasure is almost exclusively derived from a single object, body part or sex practice, more men seem to fall in the latter category. In their compelling new book "[URL="http://www.billionwickedthoughts.com/index.html"][B][COLOR=#004276]A Billion Wicked Thoughts[/COLOR][/B][/URL]," (also discussed in this [URL="http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/05/09/inside-womens-sexual-brains-preferences-and-porn"][B][COLOR=#004276]blog[/COLOR][/B][/URL]) neuroscientists Ogi Ogas, Ph.D. and Sai Gaddam, Ph.D., analyzed more than a billion Internet searches in order to learn about the differences between male and female sexual preferences, as well as what those differences tell us about how our brains are wired, and why, for example, men are more predisposed to have fetishes: â??The male sexual software is what a computer engineer would call an 'OR gate.' It is instantly aroused by any single cue. The male brain is turned on by deep décolletage or sashaying hips or the whisper of a sultry voice or two Applebeeâ??s waitresses kissing. The female sexual brain is what a computer engineer would call an 'AND gate.' It requires input from multiple cues simultaneously to surpass a combined threshold of activation before arousal occurs. â?¦ Though for most men the OR gate can be triggered by any one of a variety of sexual cues, for some men one specific cue is essential. This necessary cue is a fetish.â? Although fetishes have been [URL="http://www.amazon.com/Psychopathia-Sexualis-Richard-von-Krafft-Ebing/dp/1902588762"][B][COLOR=#004276]well-documented since the mid-19th century[/COLOR][/B][/URL], and could easily fill an encyclopedia with thousands, if not tens of thousands, of entries (from agalmatophilia to zoophilia), the underlying mechanics of fetishes remain something of a mystery. And while the American Psychiatry Association recognizes fetishes in its clinical bible, the "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders," thereâ??s much professional dissent about how to treat fetishes and whether treatment can even be effective when a fetish is deeply ingrained in a person. Freud believed (no surprise) that fetishes stem from issues such as a manâ??s universal fear of castration or his unconscious fear of his motherâ??s genitals, while many psychologists continue to believe that some sort of â??sexual imprintingâ? must occur in the early childhood of the fetishist for sexual excitement and the fetish object to become so intricately enmeshed. Today, fetishes are often treated with a combination of psychoanalysis (the search for deep unconscious meaning behind a fetish), cognitive behavior therapy (in which the fetishistâ??s thoughts are viewed as irrational ones that can be reversed with conscious mindfulness) and/or psychiatry, which seeks to alter the brain chemistry of the fetishist through drugs. Even in our own expert-forum at [URL="http://www.goodinbed.com/"][B][COLOR=#004276]Good in Bed[/COLOR][/B][/URL], fetishes are a source of speculation. Recently, for example, a young woman complained of her boyfriendâ??s â??freeze fetishâ? - his sexual propensity for immobility, statues and wax figures. While her boyfriend didnâ??t seem to be exclusively turned on by the fetish, she nonetheless was confused and anxious. Our experts weighed in: â??Fetishes donâ??t usually go away, but they can morph a little,â? writes Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, author of "[URL="http://www.goodinbed.com/ebooks/2011/04/womans-guide-to-men-and-their-penis-problems/index.php"][B][COLOR=#004276]A Womanâ??s Guide to Men and Their Penis Problems[/COLOR][/B][/URL]." â??If people are disturbed by them, they could explore what the unconscious interpretation of the fetish is for them. Then they can experiment with another representation of that meaning that they can then assign erotic feelings.â? â??The best way to treat fetishes is to identify the nonsexual meanings of the fetish and crack the erotic code by identifying what he is looking for unconsciously through the fetish,â? adds psychotherapist [URL="http://www.joekort.com/about_joe.htm"][B][COLOR=#004276]Dr. Joe Kort[/COLOR][/B][/URL]. â??Perhaps he was afraid of mannequins in retail stores or impressed with them or aroused by them as a child and now they have become part of this arousal template, or maybe he saw a movie or video about this as a child which caused it to become locked into his mind and now is eroticized. Whatever the case it could be helpful to understand the origins for both of you.â? Luckily, many people who would normally be distressed by a fetish are now finding like-minded peers via the Internet and/or some form of erotic stimulation (such as specialty porn) that caters to their specific interests. Or they are fortunate enough to have sexual partners who, in the words of columnist Dan Savage, are sexually GGG (â??good, giving and gameâ?) and are willing to stretch their definition of the taboo and incorporate their partnerâ??s fetish into their sex-play. One single woman I know even joked that sheâ??d love to meet a foot fetishist: At this point in her life, a good foot massage sounded better than sex. Perhaps the greatest goal for couples dealing with a partner who has a fetish is to decide how that fetish fits into their relationship. â??If a man is able to have healthy and hot sex with his partner and have his fetish fantasies without her and enjoy them,â? asks Kort, "Whatâ??s wrong with that?â?
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This one is my fav, I could stare at her hazel, i mean green, no I mean blue, ya blue, eyes all day.
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You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
Toronto (Pearson YYZ) airport too! You're old when you remember that everyone was going had or was going to have a CB radio in their car: -
A gift for the man that has everything, a Busen-Hasi: http://www.erotikpoint-shop.de/shop/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=579
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internet scams
qwertyaccount replied to Emma Alexandra's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
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[URL]http://www.cnn.com/2011/CRIME/07/20/new.york.prostitution.bust/index.html[/URL] [B]New York (CNN)[/B] -- Seventeen people and five "corporations" connected to a New York City escort service were indicted in Brooklyn Wednesday, charged with running a high-price prostitution and drug ring. The alleged racket earned more than $7 million in three years, catering to high-rolling customers who could drop more than $10,000 a night, according to the Kings County District Attorney's Office. The 144-count indictment includes allegations of enterprise corruption, promoting prostitution, money laundering, and criminal sale of a controlled substance against High Class NY, an escort service based in the Sheepshead Bay neighborhood of Brooklyn. Among the individuals named in the documents are High Class NY's owners: Mikhail Yampolsky; his wife, Bronislava; a son, Alexander; and a stepson, Jonathan Yampolskaya. Eleven High Class NY managers and two of the escort service's largest financial investors, Efim Gorelik and Yakov Maystrovich, also are indicted. They could face up to 25 years in prison if convicted. "We are not going to run from this. We intend to fight these charges," said Joseph Mure, attorney for Yampolskaya and the younger Yampolsky. Two escorts are separately indicted on prostitution and drug-related charges. Fees for High Class NY's escort services allegedly ranged from $400 per hour to more than $3,600 per hour, and clients often spent more than $10,000 in one night, according to the indictment. Authorities claim the money paid for sexual contact with the escorts as well as cocaine and other controlled substances. The indictment charges that High Class NY concealed client's credit card charges in monthly billing statements. The names of five shell corporations were used on the billing statements in place of High Class NY, the prosecutor's office said. Escorts, called "models," were required to sign employment contracts prohibiting sexual contact with clients in an effort to mask the illegal nature of the business, the indictment says. "There is no such thing as a high-class pimp, and as we do with all other pimps, my office will prosecute these defendants and seek the maximum sentences available under the law," said District Attorney Charles J. Hynes. The indictment charges the High Class NY operates several escort websites, including highclassny.com, discreteclub.com, nyadultdating.com, cupiddirect.com, and angelofyourchoice.com, in addition to advertising its services on Ã?Ã?Ã?Ã?Ã?Ã?Ã?Ã?.com and craigslist.com. According to the company's records, the escort service earned more than $7 million between September 2007 and November 2010, according to the indictment. Yampolsky faces charges of laundering these profits to hide the illegal income. Albert Dayan, the Yampolskys' attorney, was unavailable for comment. An arraignment was scheduled for Wednesday afternoon.
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It's hard to pick a favourite thread, but if you put a gun to my head I'd probably pick this one.
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You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
You know you're old when you can remember in a time before the new environmentally friendly recycling came along where they crush glass bottles, you would return your empty bottles for a refund and they would wash and reuse them. -
An Ethical Dilemma
qwertyaccount replied to WildTiger's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
Always remember: No good deed goes unpunished. And: "Ignorance is bliss" As Meg and others said, stay out of it -
Fun Places to do the Nasty
qwertyaccount replied to Lexy Grace's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
That reminds me of this clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_M6nABBrsA&feature=player_detailpage#t=73s -
20 classic movie/TV bikinis: http://www.ew.com/ew/gallery/0,,20483133_20507239,00.html
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internet scams
qwertyaccount replied to Emma Alexandra's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
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Whistleblower Sean Hoare
qwertyaccount replied to Jabba's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
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Video: CNN's Brian Todd speaks with experts who explain about how easy it is for the modern-day hacker to access your personal information. http://money.cnn.com/video/technology/2011/07/12/t_cell_phone_hacking.cnnmoney/ Summary: Set your voicemail password to something other than the default "1111", "1234" Don't use the last 4 digits of your phone number as the password Don't use your birthdate as a password Set your voicemail to always require a password, even if you are calling it from your own phone Use a 5 or 6 digit password
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Fun Places to do the Nasty
qwertyaccount replied to Lexy Grace's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
I can't top that, well, not just yet anyway! -
That's impossible, there is no way to make a glass of beer THAT cold. A beersickle maybe.
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You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
You know your old when you go to parents night at your nephew's high school to meet your old teacher who is now his teacher and be informed that he is retiring after this semester. You then realize that he was younger when he was your teacher than you are now. -
You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
Show: Emergency The paramedics are John and Roy. The nurse is Dixie and the doctors are Dr. Early and Dr. Braket. How about these guys: -
Whistleblower Sean Hoare
qwertyaccount replied to Jabba's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
I can just hear a bobby saying "Nothing to see here, please move along..." That said, there are many, many fine officers that risk their lives everyday to protect us that we never ever hear about. It's too bad the odd bad egg's are the ones that get all the press. -
You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
You know you're old if you can name all these charaters: -
Many of the ladies (and a few of the gents) will like this: CNN: Cat toilet-training kit poo poos litter box NEW YORK (CNNMoney) -- The days of stinky litter boxes could be coming to an end. Seven years ago, Rebecca Rescate, 32, put together a kit that helps train cats to use the toilet called CitiKitty. And now her company -- which has made $700,000 in sales, so far -- is projected to hit $1 million in revenues by yearend. The rest of the article is here: http://money.cnn.com/2011/07/18/smallbusiness/cat_toilet/index.htm
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Learning to stick with a project
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
Goals in life are important, and your project sounds very rewarding. -
I need help sorting out all my paperwork.
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You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
That was my first computer in 1977! It had 4K of ram. Not 4 Gig (4,294,967,296 bytes), or 4 Meg (4,194,304 bytes) but a mear 4 Kilobytes (4,096 bytes). -
You know you'e old
qwertyaccount replied to bcguy42's topic in General Discussion Area - all of Canada
My grade 11 class read 1984 when it was the present, in 1984.