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Silly question: what the hell is "sally service?" Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk 2

+1 On the Gaimen book. Finished it two days ago, and it was a great read. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk 2

I have been away from it all, including strip clubs, for over a year and a half (a relationship that led to an engagement, you see?), but I think what you are seeing really is a regionalized evolution in our sensitivity to sexualized titillation. To some greater or lesser extent, it's about the novelty of seeing something you can't see everywhere, and the economics of getting the greatest return for what you spend, and you see this in the adult industry as a whole. In porn, just witnessing two people having sex used to be enough to turn our cranks, but we've gradually become adjusted to an increasing level of naughtiness that now has double anal penetration ranking as commonplace. In strip clubs, 5 dollars isn't as big a deal as it was 25 years ago. But, for 20, guys are wanting a lot more "mileage," given that they can watch Hollywood starlets disrobe almost completely on prime time television anytime they want. Burlesque used to provide titillation in that you could nowhere else see a woman acting outwardly sexual, and also in varying degrees of nakedness, except for in these shows. And, let's be honest, its about the availability of skin. That's why I say it's regionalized. The refusal of federal govt to play a role in defining obscenity has left that job to communities. So, in one community a dirty lap dance (my favorite) with grinding and touching and who knows what else is fine. In another, dancing naked a foot from your customer with no contact at all is still only allowed so long as alcohol is not served. Supply dictates demand. If I can have an ultra hot 20 year old juggling my face between her breasts while grinding on my increasingly frustrated lap for $20, I'll take that every time over the same 20 year old naked hottie who dances a foot and a half from me in perfect parody of Britney in her prime (with or without costume). If that same lap dancer offers extras for the same price, that'll be where demand escalates a notch again. And so on. Not saying it's good or bad. Just saying that's the way it is. Scrb Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk 2

I think suicide is terrible, and nothing will ever make it less so. However, I also think perspective needs to be taken even in the middle of what is clearly an incredibly emotionally charged situation and set of circumstances. We all need to remember accountability: society, and our part in it, in creating an environment where the belittling and degradation of others is an increasingly popular means of making yourself look stronger; the bullies, for knocking someone down to mask their own insecurities and boost their own self-esteem; and those who take their own lives, for choosing to deprive their loved ones of themselves. Amanda Todd's death is terrible. It's terrible that she lived in a world made so hyper-technologically socialized that one incredibly bad decision, to flash her breasts on webcam, became instantly public. It's terrible that a bunch of sadistic punks chose to torment her for that because it made them feel cool. It's terrible that our society models that behaviour in the way we love to watch and laugh at the Honey Boo Boo's and Charlie Sheens of the world. It's terrible that Amanda's family will live without her because she chose the worst way out of a terrible situation by killing herself, solving nothing. There's enough tragedy in all of this to go around. Unfortunately, we can't only point the finger at the bullies, and no law will fix this situation. It starts with all of us. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk 2

Without knowing the context of the accusation, it's difficult to comment. I mean, could be a case of the woman having committed the act while the guy was drunk, so the issue of consent has more to do with his mental status at the time. Otherwise, I find it difficult to see how a woman can sexually assault a guy. I'm not saying it's impossible, I'm just saying it is generally fairly difficult. Bash me for being sexist, but in general men are physically stronger than women. If I don't want a woman to go down on me, I find it difficult to see how I would be physically incapable of stopping her. As for arousal.... I dunno. I can honestly say that there are situations/circumstances in which I become physically aroused despite the fact that my mind is not consciously on sex. I don't think I've ever become aroused when something unpleasant or threatening was presented to me. So, I would generally say if the dude is getting hard for the woman, there was something about her or the situation that was arousing to him. He was at least in part willing in spirit. This doesn't in any way change the fact that, turned on or not, a guy or woman can decide whether they want something to be done to them or not. Maybe he was hard for her because he found her hot. But, if he said no, it still means no. I'm betting on the drunken theory, though. Cause I still can't see how a woman can force her mouth on an unwilling man's privates. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk 2

I'm still unable to see certain folders. This all started when the SP and MA sections for Ottawa were split. I can only see the old folder with Tapatalk. No idea why. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

My understanding is that the cameras are one of the bylaw requirements that came in with the more open CRs. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I find it surprising that men and women are responding to the OP opinion this way. For sure, the original post is extremely resentful and blunt. I would even go so far as to say it is excessively so. But, I don't think the message behind it is less valid for any of that. Sex can be an exploration, a satisfaction of a need, and an escape. There can be no doubt that the OP's marriage had faults and problems before CERB was at all brought into the mix, but it's naive to think that escaping into sex with a variety of women with whom you have no attachment does not have ramifications as well. By avoiding dealing with whatever problems existed and by adding infidelity with paid companions to the mix, a bad situation becomes worse. And escaping in this manner probably made it easier to not deal with those problems at all. CERB itself isn't at fault, but it's wrong to think of all this as innocent and harmless. There are implications derived from everything we do. That's what determines whether being a part of this lifestyle is right or wrong for you at any given moment. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I will uncharacteristically come to the defence of a mainstream holiday... Every point made here is valid. However, I see nothing the matter with VDay. Granted, for the first time in a long time, I am not single on this particular holiday. But, having been in the past, VDay was no more a reminder of my singleness than any other holiday, or any other occassion when I would see a couple holding hands or kissing in the street. When you are single, and unhappy about it, you are constantly reminded of it. if you want to bitch that VDay is stupid because you should be romantic every day, you'd have to cancel almost every holiday there is. Frankly, you should never need a recognized holiday to express the sentiment most associated with that holiday, you should already be doing it every day. However, we're a selfish, dirty and disgusting species, and generally need special occassions to do what's right. As for the commercialism... What isn't? Everything is commercialized! And I can't help but find it at least a little amusing that some people will complain about the commercialization of romance in their posts, here, on a forum dedicated the professionals of commercialized romance. I mean, seriously... I'm fine with VDay. It's an easy holiday to get behind, if you find yourself with someone, and if you're single it *should* still be easy to respect a holiday that's all about love. Sure as Hell makes more sense than celebrating a rabbit that shits chocolate. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Raw sewage regularly leaks into the Ottawa river because of how archaic and inadequate our sewage system is here. Otherwise, I know there are multiple stages at the water treatment facilities to filter out garbage and solid waste. Even in a city of almost 1million, that crap (pardon the pun) happens, unfortunately. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I heard a bit about this on the radio yesterday morning. CBC unveils online preview of Ottawa "human library" project Posted by Trevor Pritchard on Monday, January 16, 2012 CBC Ottawa has launched this stylish interactive portal to showcase the forthcoming "human library" project that will be unveiled later this month in the city. The Jan. 28 event is being co-organized by the Ottawa Public Library, the CBC, and the Canadian War Museum. It's the first time a human libraryâ??which allows visitors to "borrow" people from different walks of life and have them tell their storiesâ??has been put on in Ottawa. Or as HumanLibrary.org defines it: Visitors to a Human Library are given the opportunity to speak informally with â??people on loanâ?; this latter group being extremely varied in age, sex and cultural background. The Human Library enables groups to break stereotypes by challenging the most common prejudices in a positive and humorous manner. It is a concrete, easily transferable and affordable way of promoting tolerance and understanding. The first human library was organized in Denmark in 2000 as a way to raise awareness about violence. Subsequent events have taken place in 27 countries, including Canada, on different scales. The Toronto Public Library hosted a human library in 2011, with some 40 residentsâ??including a police officer, a bullied student, and Toronto Star columnist Catherine Porterâ??serving as books. The Ottawa event will include potential conversations with a Haiti refugee, a sex worker, an OC Transpo driver, and some yet-to-be-determined individuals. CBC Ottawa will be airing clips from some of the "human books" on All in a Day and Ottawa Morning over the next two weeks â??conversations you can preview by visiting the portal they've put together. For more information on when and where the human library is taking place, visit the OPL's page here. [url]http://ottawa.openfile.ca/blog/curator-blog/curated-news/2012/cbc-unveils-online-preview-ottawa-human-library-project[/url] Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Huh, correction: When I first go into the Ottawa section after loading Tapatalk, the old ad folder looks like it used to (doesn't say "archived"). If I go into the old folder and back out again, the title has changed to "archived"... It's as though the folder isn't updated until you've been in it. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I'm on the latest version, for Android anyways, and I can't see the new sections. The old section does say "archived" now, but the new sections aren't there. I'm able to view ads posted in those sections if they appear in my "unread posts" tab, though. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I actually wondered if the two were possibly related in some way, as an effort to force an early closure. Just speculation, though. If it was, it was pretty ineffective. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Just heard a report on CBC. Apparently the fire was malicious. Someone used a sledgehammer on the front door, and there were gas cans and such at the scene. The fire was contained to the front door area, but there is water damage in the rest of the club. I would speculate it'll be closed a little while. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I don't immediately discount anything, and dislike that things are dismissed without consideration by calling them "conspiracy theories." To me, sniggering and shrugging something off without thought is more dangerous than coming up with a crazy idea that can be disproven. Conspiracy theory is important. It gives people a feeling of power or agency when the situation makes them powerless and is incomprehensible. It also challenges the norm and forces (or should) people to ask questions and get informed, which are two activities we need to do more (need proof? Who did we elect out of willful ignorance and a laziness to examine the issues?). A conspiracy just implies that every event has a cause that can be explained rationally and was planned out. To dismiss conspiracy is to embrace Contingency Theory, which basically just says shit happens for no reason and we don't know why. Which one makes you feel less helpless? I think there's a little truth in a lot of the theories to go along with the kookiness. The interesting part is to tease out the truth. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Best. Mental. Image. Ever. :D Why did my pants just get so tight? Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

+1 on that Mr. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

*crickets* Thread start... Epic fail. :( Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

12 hours into 2012 and counting.... Still no New Year's kiss. :( Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

... I'm sorry, I'm still a little befuddled thinking about Charlotte first in a bath, then glistening with bathwater as she airdries, then smoothing herself all over with lotion. I think I need some me time. :D Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

But, something making life "bearable" or more enjoyable isn't a good enough justification for it being declared a protected human right. And, the government could still pass laws restricting things like prostitution if sex were a right, because they are not restricting *all* ways of getting sex. I know, I know, the argument has already been made that for some paying for sex is the only means to get it, but, really, that may be true in practice but not in theory. In theory, everyone has access to sex without paying for it. Whether the other person in the equation accepts is another matter. In theory, a sex worker could refuse just as easily. There is no obligation just because money is involved. It simply ups the odds, so to speak. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I've been reading and participating in another thread (Sex Basic Human Right,) and have also had discussions with some friends that have brought me to wonder: what would the ladies and gents here say is the importance or meaning of sex in their lives? It's one thing to say sex is good, and sex is a human right and that more sex is better than less sex, and it's another to explain why. What is sex to you? What does it mean? What does it do for you? What part of who you are is linked to who you are sexually in a way that it isn't to anything else or any other activity you do? (I may quote you (without attribution to protect the innocent) elsewhere in my blog because this is all part of the research for my master Machiavellian wonder opus. It's what us scribblers do, yo?) I'll start: I have varied and probably pretty dull intellectual interests, one of which is the way that people construct their notion of Self and their identity. Without getting into that, I keep coming back to the idea of sex as the most basic representation of true self; when we are having sex for the sake of sex, we are as close to knowing who we really are as we possibly can be. In sex, we are ourselves. In every other situation, we are more in control of the persona we want to project and our need to live according to the perceived expectations placed on us. I love sex because of the unspoken, unspeaking bond between myself and my partner. I enjoy the way certain touches, changes of position, light breaths and light licks are met with reactions that can be read and adjusted to. I can completely lose myself in the moment of absorption into someone else's sensation, where I can sense and feel a woman's reactions, mounting excitement, and the tension and anticipation building up to an intense release. I could spend happy hours repeating that whole cycle, because in those moments everything else about myself is stripped away, and what's left is the most basic essence of who I am as a person, if I can begin to understand it.

As a guy, I can honestly say I almost don't notice there are even men *in* porn. ;) However, I have noticed that some porn women annoy me as well. No, I can't think of names... Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I don't want to come across as saying everyone has ample opportunity outside of paying for sex. I'm absolutely, horrifically inept when it comes to finding a woman, which is why I have been single for a retardedly long stretch of time. It's not a lack of looks, or personality or whatever. I'm just bad at getting into a relationship. So, I'd say most avenues are not available to me either. All I meant was that we are almost describing sex work as healthcare. I'm not entirely against the notion of sex work having therapeutic value, because I think the argument is there that it has. But, if we try and portray it as therapeutic in the sense that it meets a distinct and important need for those who cannot find another avenue, it opens up the topic of regulation. Other therapists need to be licensed and regulated. So, why wouldn't sex worker/therapists? I think everyone should have ample opportunity to satisfy their sexual needs. As a very sexual person who cannot possibly afford to satisfy my needs fully, and who can't find a girlfriend with a map and flashlight, I feel the frustration acutely. But, there's the other issue: if sex is a basic right, (and I'm playing devil's advocate, so please don't pillory me) wouldn't it have to be made affordable or free for all? Otherwise, that right is still being restricted. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk