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I think one could argue that sex is definitely a basic human need, as it is with all animals, and that it is our right to fulfill our needs within the boundaries of conduct that does not harm or deny others the same right. But... Arguing that prostitution should be decriminalized as a constitutional matter because criminalization deprives us of our right to satisfy our sexual needs?... I think that's taking it too far. Criminalization does not deny us our right, it just denies us one particular avenue to satisfy our needs. It would be argued that there are others. Just my thoughts. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I don't know if I believe in sex "addiction." I'm more apt to believe in sex "compulsion," because I believe just about anything in life can become a compulsive focus. Think about it in these terms: people who are obsessive compulsive will exhibit certain habits, like always having to place their pens in a row on their desk. They feel the need to do it, and it satisfies something in them once it is done. They can experience discomfort or anxiety if they try and resist their compulsion. I sort of think sex "addicts" are the same. They feel a compulsive need, and will obsess about the need until they satisfy it to the extent that seeking satisfaction of the obsession gets in the way of normal day to day life. I can see where some think it's an addiction because of the endorphin release and so on, but then that means anything that releases endorphins could be addictive and one activity that releases endorphins could theoretically replace another. I don't think there's anything wrong about talking sex addiction on CERB, so long as the material read here doesn't feed your compulsion. The enticing images in the ads, the nature of some of the recommendations.... I could see that as something that would more likely feed a problem than resolve it, whatever good intentions were at the outset. I think that's what loopie meant. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

.... Yup, definitely in. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

If Malika's ass, boobs or hand is involved, I'm in. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Having an available box ticket to tonight's Sens game because someone else is a no show, and not having anyone else to take. >:( Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

In general, the thing I enjoy about sex is the reactions from the woman; the heat, the rapid breathing, the intense wetness, the glassy look in the eyes, muscles bunching, an intense orgasm. As far as I'm concerned, whatever gets her there, preferably as often as possible, works just fine for me. That includes anal. Otherwise, I don't really have a preference or particular desire for it. I had a girlfriend who discovered she enjoyed anal (discovered equals an accidental slip during a particularly intense session that was abundantly slippery ;) ). It was never about dominance. In fact, she was usually on top, and it was always at her prompting. I'm an average guy, but she was tiny, so size would have been a concern for her I'm sure. But, oh my god the amazing orgasms she would have, grinding back and forth on me like that... As Malika put it, screaming banshee. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

As I stated earlier, I fully support the ladies imposing a cancellation fee of some sort. I don't think that this should have to be communicated in advance of booking in any way, because there are so many situations in which exceptions will be made, or in which the fee may be modified because of the circumstances. I also don't feel the ladies need to offer a discount if they cancel, though I'm sure it would be appreciated. Ultimately, the client and the provider have a lot of power in this transaction (sounds dirty when I use that word.) If a provider no shows or cancels and the client is upset, he can choose to take his end of the transaction elsewhere. Likewise, if a client cancels or no shows and is unwilling to pay a nominal fee, the provider can choose to not see that client again. There is no obligation on either part. And, honestly, the ladies have it tougher; they're losing revenue, whereas the client could book with someone else, go for a massage, visit s strip club, etc. Any client booking with a lady should assume that cancellation or no showing may come with a penalty. It's pretty common sense. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Did we really just create a whole new thread talking about another thread? A thread about a thread. Doesn't sound redundant at all. :) That's all sorts of funny. I don't think anyone here, but the Mod, has the right to stop a topic from being discussed. That said, I'm not sure all topics should be discussed. And, I think that common decency would dictate that those posting about any particular topic will take feedback from their audience rather than stubbornly proclaiming their right to speak. There does, in fact, seem to be a disturbing trend of territory marking in some of the posted topics, and I find that unfortunate. Some people seem to express a need to be recognized as some manner or authority or alpha. If ladies feel offended by the "best of" threads, they are entitled to express their opinion. If someone wants to post a boasting recommendation of an SP who has nothing to do with CERB, good on ya. Maybe let's not post it in the General Discussion area, is all that was being said. Let's all try and get along, shall we? We're more mature than this all would imply. This passive aggressive talking about a topic in a topic stuff is a little bit much. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I'm certain it wasn't my aim, at least, and I don't think the objective of others in any of this was to satisfy or convince you, Cato. More than one have suggested it, and more than one have deemed it a good idea that this sort of content be moved to an appropriate forum. Let's let the Mod decide if they are convinced and satisfied, since it's their board. Otherwise, I'm not sure what else of value can be added to what has already become a circular argument. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

... which may be why I stated that there should be a section for those kinds of recommendations, instead of posting it in a general discussion forum for all of Canada. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Perhaps there should be a section for that as well. I agree with Berlin that it is not relevant to this board, outside of being a sort of "Penthouse Letters" that I'm sure many (apparently over 1000) will still enjoy reading. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

It really is a very interesting idea, if it could be somehow centrally and impartially managed, and with the possibility for the client to somehow appeal. For safety reasons, it would be a good idea as well. I just have images of the national no fly list in my head; you can be on it by mistake, not know why, and have no way of getting your name off it. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I think networking and sharing information would be a strong positive for the industry, but I hesitate about the immediate blacklisting. It seems to me that someone could be blacklisted very easily for any number of reasons, not all of which are necessarily valid or fair. I fully support the respect and safety of the ladies, and believe they should have the opportunity to ensure their time is not wasted. But, the client's side in all of this should be considered as well. What's to stop a pissed off SP from blacklisting someone maliciously when, perhaps, it isn't warranted? Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

From details I heard in the news today, this all relates to 6 unsolved murders of sex workers over a 20 year period in Ottawa. Smells a little of suspicions of a serial killer, to me. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

You ladies commit time and energy to preparing for a client, and cannot book that time for anyone else. So, you lose your time and effort and potential revenue. In both cases, unless there is a very valid reason and this is an exceptional instance, you should definitely charge a cancellation/no show fee. Maybe this would also discourage that kind of disrespect from occurring in the first place. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Any way for a dude in Ottawa to be involved? :) Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I can see the confusion. I think kissing is restricted, when it is, because it is considered a more intimate and emotional act. I could say the same for DATY; what is more intimate than having your lips and tongue on the absolutely most sensitive parts of a woman's body? I rather enjoy it for that very reason, and have been lucky recently to be with partners who enjoyed receiving and were spectacular to offer to. :) I don't believe the restriction is due to risk of infection, I think it's a personal boundary some don't wish to cross, and I would respect that. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

It's interesting to note that throughout the history of porn, porn has been used in the spirit of spying into the private lives and bedroom activities of normal people. Porn with higher production values, elaborate scripts and plots and so on did not become common until shortly before the boom that saw the Mitchell brothers become famous. And, we're seeing a resurgence of this voyeuristic spirit in the popularity of gonzo porn and amateur porn. Some argue that porn in the internet age is dangerous because it is teaching people an incorrect expectation of what "normal" and good sex should be. I'm not sure; is porn, so to speak, art imitating life, or life inspired by art? Ladies, do you feel the sex you have with clients has been influenced by what they see in movies? Personally, I like sex in a variety of forms, and am not formulaic about it. I enjoy porn, but find some of it distasteful. Particularly, I don't like anything involving simulated abuse or violence, including slapping, choking, forced gagging, etc. Maybe that's a kink that some women actually like, but I'm never sure and I'd rather not see it and assume. Porn with a partner can be fun, and has been in the past. But, I'm usually a lot more focused on the lady I'm with than the one on the screen. ;) Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Not agreeing or disagreeing, but asking out of curiosity, what *is* the minimum reasonable age to be in this business? Or is it more related to the age of the client vs the lady in question? Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I hope so. But that depends on if you're the one that bumped your head. ;) Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Bumping your head hard on a headboard during a vigorous moment. Or someone else's head. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I feel uncomfortable using a term like "curse". It's a more complex issue than that. I have always been monogamous. I, too, was exposed to hardcore porn at a relatively early age. I have only been "hobbying," a term I truly dislike, since the beginning of this year. I was married to a woman who became a stripper, and she had girlfriends at one point before our divorce. So, I've been around the block more than the average 35 year old, I think, but maybe I'm deluded. The most difficult thing to accept after having been around professionally sexual women is that not all women are like that. You become accustomed to being with women who are exceptionally in tune with and accepting of their sexuality. That's difficult, but not impossible, to find outside of the industry. And, as a guy who enjoys sex on so many levels beyond the physical, it's important that I would be with someone who can own their sexuality. That's a challenge, but I've also been fortunate enough to have met women that are like that. I've also been unfortunate enough to lose them, which is why I am currently single. As a single guy, "hobbying" is also easy. I'm a decent looking, intelligent and funny guy with a great career, but I'm also shy and unsure of myself, so I don't meet women easily. I don't have the nerve to approach an attractive woman. This has resulted in me being single for longer than I care to admit. Seeing an SP, though, is simple. There is no need to be worried about rejection. As unpleasant as it is to use the term, it's a "sure thing". If there is a curse here, it's that I would give up hobbying and commit to a woman if the right one came along, but find that my admiration of strong women in touch with their sexuality lines me up for interest in SPs more than it does most "civilians". It's a curse, because I know it's unattainable. I have met some incredible women this year, and would be proud to consider them more than just a paid companion, but I suppose that's not the way this game is played. So, I'm stuck between something I shouldn't wish to have, and something that isn't necessarily the right fit and that I don't have the nerve to chase anyways. There's your curse, I suppose. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Actually, when Mary Magdalene is introduced by Luke and Jesus casts out seven demons that plagued her, which is given as evidence of sexual misconduct and prostitution. And, Jesus's words "Her sins are many, but they are forgiven, because she loved me much" are taken to again indicate that she was known as a prostitute (her many "sins"). In fact, the practice of prostitution in biblical times went through a number of changes in acceptance and censure. You have to remember, the old temple practices that still existed while Christianity was coming into prominence were at odds with "new" thinking about the sinfullness of sex. So, you still had temple prostitutes as part of a more pagan tradition, and you had Christian thinking. Generally, even Christian thought was that prostitution was acceptable under certain circumstances. For instance, Saint Augustine was a firm believer that if you git rid of prostitution, you were putting people's souls at risk because of the central tension between the body (and lust) and the spirit; remove the sexual outlet, and uncontrolled lust would damage the soul. That's enough thinking for one Saturday. My brain hurts. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Being asked at a store by an older lady if I could get something down that she couldn't reach, even though I'm only 5'8". Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I just read this moments before logging on to CERB. It is a bitter irony that the day after a social for sex workers and clients that expressed not only good will and mutual respect, but generated a mountain of toys for charity and donations to a needy family, sex workers are being warned that they are being targeted. Bitter and sickening. Directed at street workers or otherwise, please please be careful ladies. Until this kind of menace can be abated by a proper reevaluation of laws and legislation, it's up to the community to care for itself. Speaking as a client and, I hope, friend to some of you I hope you'll take whatever precautions are necessary to ensure your safety and the safety of your fellow workers. And if there is anything the clients can do themselves, let us know. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk