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Oh, poor Lee, the pitfalls of menopause. Eat some chocolate & have a good cry. There there! Sandi :icon_lol:

I love bacon & don't want any kids so this is good to know. Question: will it also attack the sperm? It would be nice have backup birth control if the condom breaks.;-) S

It's an Army saying, I don't own it. Have at 'er! Actually I do. I never would, but I do have that right. The above are from Section 2 of the 1982 Charter of Rights & Freedoms. Should you take issue with it, petition the courts....but you will lose. Sandi

It absolutely is not. What you are essentially saying is that because a white man wants to see an Asian provider, it's his "preference" & that's ok. And because of that she should automatically say yes? What if her husband is white? What if her day job is in a male-white-30+ demographic? Would it not make sense to limit her client pool to those who do not fall into this category out of an abundance of caution? But if a white woman does the same, she is automatically branded a racist? I am NOT saying she isn't a bigot. The fact is that I really don't know. None of us do. And for the record, RG, who BTW we know you aren't picking on, never said he supported anyone being a racist, he said it was her right. This may be picking fly shit out of pepper, but to me, it is very much a clear distinction. She has the legal right to be a sloped forehead, backwards ass, country inbred, ears flat back, cross eyed redneck, perched on a rock & nekked huntin' for her meal with a slingshot...... but that doesn't mean, EVER , that I support or agree with it. It does however mean, as repulsive as she may be, I will defend with my dying breath her right to show us all how putrid she is. That is the downside of a free speech society that I WILL never relinquish, no matter how I feel about what has been said. Because if I get to quash HER words, who gets to choose which of MINE are spoken? It is not a balance at all! I personally agree with you. It is a ridiculous sentence that I also find offensive. And others, clearly. But if we start censoring every word on the planet, we may as well delve into book burning, blacked out news papers & online censoring.....think about that! I would much rather be offended by some twit's post, respond & have discourse than the alternative which is that MY voice is also silenced. Free speech, baby, love it or move to Cuba, lol. But for the record, this is a very passionate & intelligent discussion. And I am also enjoying the good manners involved. Sandi

I agree, not because she should have her rights trampled, but just blurting out, " whites only " is so very 1950's Alabama water fountain. Not good advertising regardless of her thoughts because ALL prospective guests do not know her reason. And a lot of white men will be put off with that statement. Agreed, the bluntness is certainly offputting. Sad but true. I am always baffled by those who make 2013 sweeping remarks in my presence assuming that this freckled, blond, caucasian person will not say something. As always Cat, level & rational with helpful feedback. I'm curvy but will you marry me? :wink: Seriously, I worked for an incall here in Van for a whole week, met an awesome girl, Black, who had moved from elsewhere to escape an abusive marriage. He had national gang affiliations & for THIS reason, she would not entertain Black men. Is she a racist? Of course not. Fair enough & you are so right. If a man wants to see a brunette spinner, should I be offended as a curvy blond? No. That said, I am not physically attracted to _insert whatever_, I don't want to offend anyone, but for ME, if guests are respectful, clean, don't barter, I will ALWAYS have fun. But I have, as Cat pointed out, never had a bad date with a man from particular racial demographic that has traumatized me. If I had, I may have needed to qualify my advertising. It IS a bit harsh, I agree. But that boundary may be for any reason, as many have stated. Of course it could be that she is a bigot & so not great at marketing. No it isn't simple because you don't know her reasons. And I will speak here for a lot of us, PLEASE stop referring to us kissing you, blowing you, fucking you as any where NEAR the same as processing your debit card & handing you back your groceries. It is NOT the same & so incredibly dismissive of what we really do. Thank you. Absolutely we have that right. And if I decline an encounter, I do not feel the NEED to justify. However, I do also feel in this case, the crux is the blunt, harsh, "so there" message that comes across. But I have seen sites & ads that state a racial preference but in a soft & explanatory fashion. No means no but it came across as nicer & not at all racist. " For personal reasons, I prefer not to see-___whomever___ men. Thank you for understanding " It reduces the incidence of hurt feelings or misconstrued intentions. Sorry dude, it has everything to do with sex. CERB doesn't stand for, Cheese Eggs Recommendation Board. It's a sex site, not a Zehr's. Respectfully, not ONE person here has supported racism. This is a pretty cool place where ALL are encouraged to participate. Exactly! Simply because she is an SP should never imply that a man having a full wallet gets to see anyone he wants, regardless of her boundaries, concerns, etc. And honestly, who would want to? What actual man wants to anally penetrate a lady who does not voluntarily offer greek? Who wants to court a woman who is a CBJ provider then shove his uncovered dick in her mouth & blow? So, by extension, why would any man of colour wish to show up at the door of an SP who does not see non-white gentlemen (for whatever reason) just to be denied or worse, have a scene? Is racism repugnant? Hell yes. So just spend your time with those who aren't, be they SP, friends, what have you. And hope that the bigots just inbreed themselves out of the human gene pool into instinction. Sandi

Now and Then. IMDb link Sweet movie! Sandi

I did wonder that too. But I would also like to know why he has been here more than a year now suddenly is of a broken heart. It occured to me, at first, that maybe his GF found his account. In which case, sorrry dude, you brought this on yourself. But this post, given that after 15 months & his only one, his profile says Hobbyist but no reco, & now, poor me??? My second thought is, " Pity Party Ploy ", cheap & looking for a sympathy freebie. " Sorry, I don't think so." Sandi

Perhaps I missed the Cerb memo where the ladies needed someone to come to their rescue & you were elected saviour of the downtrodden, but dude, enough already. Because personally, as a smart articulate woman who can fully advocate for herself, I find your attitude & posts incredibly patronizing. That said, I have a whole other issue to address. This entire post makes me uncomfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with it's tone. Firstly, it reeks of a fishing expedition on how to run an agency & I feel reads like an SP or Agency/Spa discussing an Escort Industry problem. Because why does a photographer need to know the ins & outs of how to reduce the number of no shows? Again, why is this so important to you? Respectfully, if you ask questions here, you will get answers. Whether or not you like them is immaterial. This is a public forum with strong opinions from intelligent people. No one is trying to be mean, they are simply being honest & sharing their thoughts. If you have something informative, why not post it here if it is so awesome? But just because folks disagree with you does not mean that anyone is twisting stories, taking things out of context or that your posts are considered useless. I find them incredibly useful for my main bone of contention: your lack of discretion in implying that professional secert keepers are sharing info with you, followed by YOU cryptically sharing it here. I have 2 photographers that are also friends. They know my real name, address, phone number & personal details of my life. If I were to read a post such as this from either of them, I would be beyond incensed. And they would no longer be trusted. They would, however, be in every SP only area in which I participate as a warning to other ladies not to engage their services. You may wish to consider this when you read again how you have spoken out of school in reference to your clients. And since you feel that the reco is of such paramount importance that it MUST be written, know this, also, please: by alluding to the fact that SPs are talking to you, complaining, whatever, you are, without proof, quietly & perhaps irrevocably, casting aspersions as to the character & discretion of ladies you have seen. This alone may cost them more in terms of clients, money & reputation than any reco or lack thereof. In my mind, a sincere apology is rarely followed by a comment like this. The fact of the matter is: you got a lot of answers. Also a fact: you just don't like any of them. Fact: not a Cerb problem. Also fact: seems it's only yours. Sandi

Perhaps I missed the Cerb memo where the ladies needed someone to come to their rescue & you were elected saviour of the downtrodden, but dude, enough already. Because personally, as a smart articulate woman who can fully advocate for herself, I find your attitude & posts incredibly patronizing. That said, I have a whole other issue to address. This entire post makes me uncomfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with it's tone. Firstly, it reeks of a fishing expedition on how to run an agency & I feel reads like an SP or Agency/Spa discussing an Escort Industry problem. Because why does a photographer need to know the ins & outs of how to reduce the number of no shows? Again, why is this so important to you? Respectfully, if you ask questions here, you will get answers. Whether or not you like them is immaterial. This is a public forum with strong opinions from intelligent people. No one is trying to be mean, they are simply being honest & sharing their thoughts. If you have something informative, why not post it here if it is so awesome? But just because folks disagree with you does not mean that anyone is twisting stories, taking things out of context or that your posts are considered useless. I find them incredibly useful for my main bone of contention: your lack of discretion in implying that professional secert keepers are sharing info with you, followed by YOU cryptically sharing it here. I have 2 photographers that are also friends. They know my real name, address, phone number & personal details of my life. If I were to read a post such as this from either of them, I would be beyond incensed. And they would no longer be trusted. They would, however, be in every SP only area in which I participate as a warning to other ladies not to engage their services. You may wish to consider this when you read again how you have spoken out of school in reference to your clients. And since you feel that the reco is of such paramount importance that it MUST be written, know this, also, please: by alluding to the fact that SPs are talking to you, complaining, whatever, you are, without proof, quietly & perhaps irrevocably, casting aspersions as to the character & discretion of ladies you have seen. This alone may cost them more in terms of clients, money & reputation than any reco or lack thereof. In my mind, a sincere apology is rarely followed by a comment like this. The fact of the matter is: you got a lot of answers. Also a fact: you just don't like any of them. Fact: not a Cerb problem. Also fact: seems it's only yours. Sandi Sorry I posted in the wrong thread. I reposted in the correct one but will also leave this here. It applies to both, I feel. Thanks. S

I have photos taken by 2 male photographers & clearly, by knowing me, I am obviously exploited, pimped out & on drugs. Amphetamines, naturally, as evidenced by my svelte & slim form. I thought we all were......no????? I saw the ad & there is no way you can even tell it's a guy. Not to mention that out of ALL the garbage one needs to weed through on that problem plagued site, THIS girl is the one who is targeted. Because she is tiny? Seriously, most negative industry perpetuating, presumptuous, slanderous post ever! So wrong. Sandi

No shit, this is just creepy! Although, if I had children, this would work for me but discussed ahead of time. You know, " Hey, I know you want your privacy but every once in a while Mom needs to check your phone/computer to make sure you're good." My parents always reserved the right to do a room sweep if they thought something was wrong or pick up the extension to make sure I wasn't planning a bank robbery with my crew! :icon_wink: And these days, with online/cell bullying & pedophile stalkers, I believe parents have not only the right but the duty to monitor those with whom their kids are communicating. My thoughts exactly before I even got to this part of your post. If an SO is so suspicious she resorts to this, doubts existed long ago. I would NEVER do this to a BF. If I'm thinking he's cheating, he gets confronted, I will ask to see his phone, & if he has something to hide, he gets a one way ticket to the door. I abhor liars & flat out refuse to be in a relationship with no solid foundation of trust. And it works both ways, the exception being work. My guests expect & get absolute privacy. If someone were tracking me, saw THEIR messages back & I found out, I would have his balls on my bookshelf in 2 seconds. Sandi

Hey Capp, welcome to Cerb. Windsor has a few great local ladies & here is a link to Windsor Ads To the 2 great girls who helped me out with info when I visited: Lacy and Lexi Champagne Also we have Naughty Angel Here is her Cerb RECO It may be possible that she is on a break at the moment. Please do not let a lack of Reco here on Cerb for the other great women be any kind of deterrent. The fact is that Cerb simply isn't the review/reco/ad place in Windsor that it is in Ottawa/Montreal, etc. And when you visit these ladies sites, you will see links they have which will lead you to some more Windsor-centric ad venues. If you do see someone & have a great time, get back HERE with a reco. Help promote the site farther south. Sandi Forgot to qualify that a reco/review here or anywhere, should ideally be with the lady's permission. An even more stellar move: send it to her first for approval.( graphic details, something private, etc) It will score you major points as a gentleman enhancing YOUR standing in the future, which is a great thing if you need references. Also, know that Cerb requires 5 or 6 quality posts prior to starting your own reco thread. You can add on to an existing reco at any time. S

How come you take the time to repeatedly put out this sign: & think it makes sense to the smart people of Van? Sandi

Wrong, wrong, wrong.... run him down.......with a big net in one hand & a box of condoms in the other.... men love that! Well, I have been known to go up & lick a random chest, but I have recently been informed by the local constabulary that this is considered " pushy ". Puritans! Seriously though, I once saw 2 hot guys doing Hydro work & I just blurted out, " Is it wrong that I'm turned on by dayglo orange?" Got a good laugh followed by, " Hell, no!". Just the other day, I was in the line at the drug store, grabbed my stuff, looked back & WOW, what a hottie. I actually did a double take. He's looking at me like I 'm nuts but I couldn't help it. So I say, " Man, you look like a younger Jon Hamm", which he did. He got a huge smile on his face, looked at his buddy, back at me & said, " Thanks, I'll take that". I gave him a 2 thumbs up & said, "Tell your Mom, good job!" & walked away. I think men appreciate a sincere compliment as much as we do. As long as their wife/GF is not around. Bitches be crazy. If Junior Jon Hamm had asked, I would have given him my address & a key to my apartment! Alas, no. Maybe next time! Fun post SS! Sandi From a woman that had me pass a note in study hall to the cute zygote cooking our wings......seriously? And I don't need a big hamm... I need a big sausage. Get it straight! :icon_razz:

As always, a measured & well laid out response. If I may add to your list of reasons: There are unfortunately certain cities with a notorious history of no shows, last minute cancels & other assorted waste of time crap. My apologies to the wonderful men who reside & hobby there, but Winnipeg is in the top 3 of Cerb ladies list of " Won't go, won't show, not gonna happen" cities. Sorry, but that is the truth. Now you may have zero blame in this but you are now the recipient of others disrespect for a lady's time. The city also has a major pimp/low rent indi/b&s agency problem. Not to mention the ever lovely Mr Jetz, who in my opinion, should be eviscerated & hung by his entrails in a public ceremony. But I digress. My best advice: Do your research in your chosen intended, make sure that your deposit will not disappear (happens sadly which is why knowledge is paramount) & keep that appointment. Once you establish a reliable reputation with a few escorts, deposits may be waived in lieu of a personal history or good references (note that they are still at the lady's discretion & agencies don't count) And if successful, you may turn the tide of opinion for your city that will invite many wonderful ladies to visit, only enhancing your hobby experience. No pressure though, LOL! Hope this helps. Sandi