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I missed this part. It honestly never occurred to me, grendall, until now since none of these guys ever proposed it. The timing, randomness & classless acts are our bones of contention. Trust me, some of the cheap S.O.B.s you mean have the bravado to just ask. These were on another site. Hobbyists also responded with laughter. Those we can pick out. Lol obviously. I actually have employed the trade option in the past so I am not averse to using it to my advantage. I have 2 photographers. One is free, he just enjoys photographing SPs. The other was trade. He was reluctant to propose it as to not offend me, he didn't, he freely gave me references & a link to his portfolio. I balanced an hour of my time with what I would get in return & felt it was worth it. It was & I have no regrets. If someone is upfront & respectful in approaching me, about anything, I will consider it. When I had my car, I actually gave a ride home to one gentleman. lol But I knew & trusted him. And RG, simply based on your posts, I would never fear you. It's when Zippy the Wonder Twit pops into my phone out of the blue that I say.....Hmmmmmm? You are so sweet. They have pornstar awards, why not poonstar awards? I would love to see that trophy. Haha! I tend to take most silliness with a grain of salt until it becomes particularly bothersome. This was just one of those times. Truth be told, 4+ years & I have few problems & am grateful for the charmed albeit odd life I lead. Baffled but still happy! When that changes, I will take my leave. Until that day, BEST JOB EVER!!! Sandi

Grant defined smooth. And he & Grace Kelly were great together too. Rock Hudson & Doris Day. So cute. Their movies are such fun. From Here to Eternity beach scene between Deborah Kerr & Burt Lancaster. Some classics never fade. Sandi

Great post RG. Last year, my cousin GG in ON passed suddenly & obviously my sister who lives there attended the funeral. On the way to the graveside service she called me on her bluetooth like I wanted & I asked, " So how was it? ' " You know sad......the girls had a rough time............ you know what.......our family is so fucking ghetto....." & started to laugh with mirth mind you. Apparently the best dressed there were my Sis & my Dad. GG's brother, father, nephews all wore jeans, sneakers & the like. Some of my female cousins though mini's were ok. My Sis was embarrassed for them. We were raised in an Army family. Not drill style but certainly respect wise. Always taught that you need not agree with a person you always show respect to the institution. House of worship, political office, courtroom, school, military services, etc. And the first way to do that is to dress in line with the circumstances. No hats inside, no jeans or sneakers in church, no mouthy t-shirts in school, no relaxed attire to a funeral. My parents had only 2 girls & we weren't allowed our ball caps at the table. And no cursing in public lest a child or elderly person be within earshot. I swore once out loud on the ball field after a game only in the company of 2 friends & my father who was behind me. I braced for it....sure enough....WHAP....right in the back of the head. He worried if I did that so easily in front of him in public, I must be one foul little snot elsewhere embarrassing him to no end. Which wasn't true but I never did it again. Precisely. The situation warrants respect. The easiest way, in my mind, is to at least take the time to shit, shower, shave & dress nicely. It's not hard & it shows you are thoughtful. Exactly. Society has lost a sense of decorum of late. Simply because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD. I have also been to weddings where I could swear girls were trying to outshine the Bride??? By the way I like your Great Grandma. My Dad used to say, " Do ya like your freckles where they are or do you want to spend the next hour sweeping 'em up off the floor? " " yessir yessir yessir! ". That was it for my parents. If you embarrass us you will pay for it. Thank goodness there are still parents like my sister who raises her sons with impeccable manners. They hold doors for people at Wal Mart, it's so cute. This too makes me sad. We communicate by bluetooth, PC, Text what have you & not in person. I miss the days in the Army life where we had a social at someone's house every weekend. We connected. Not so much anymore. Now when I attend a wedding or grad, the guests are so self absorbed it is nauseating. Agreed. I went to Catholic school in Ontario as it was the only French education then. Even though I am Anglican, I attended church services with my class. I omitted Communion & Confession but was always respectful & quiet. I like this. You are right, I am very conservative in most aspects of my life. What happens behind closed doors is fine. But how we show the world respect & consideration should trump ego. Sandi

I feel the same here as in Cristy's thread. Paul Newman & Elizabeth Taylor. They crackled on screen. Others: Bogey & Bacall. That overbite, those eyebrows, the confidence even at 19 & you could tell he was already in love with her. They were great together. Burton & Taylor in Cleopatra. Still love them. Most expensive affair ever. Kathleen Turner & Michael Douglas in Romancing the Stone, Jewel of the Nile & War of the Roses. I love 48HRS. too but Eddie Murphy & Dan Ackroyd in Trading Places were hilarious. And of course Jay & Silent Bob in anything. lol Sandi

I love Redford too. And I think Streisand has a unique look that in some of her movies makes her beautiful. The movie itself is also amazing. My #1 movie ever though is Casablanca. But my top pick regarding the physical beauty of the characters? Cat on a Hot Tin Roof ( 1958 ) with Paul Newman & Elizabeth Taylor. Two of the most gorgeous people that ever lived. Here is the trailer link. Sandi

Precisely my impression too. As though they have just invented the wheel. Every one has the right to try to build a business but the way you go about it is equally important. In this age of internet, once you have established yourself as less than proper in your conduct, it will follow you in perpetuity. Like MightyPen says, so are you. So what's your phone number? You know, so the next time I'm short on rent, I'll just pick up the phone.:icon_wink: Seriously though, I get what you are saying, that someone could conceivably make money from my business. The point is, they already do, have done for some time now & faithfully when there was some risk to them. My driver & incall attracted me NOT by hitting me up with spam but by advertising on sites specific to the industry. However none of these new generous guys showed an interest in " helping " a lot of us last month. So the timing of it all, coupled with the erroneous assumption that 1- We are too ignorant to be aware of the new laws, 2- We need to be told how to run a business, 3- They believe we are so stupid as to trust a stranger not yet vetted with our safety, 4- They have done absolutely NO research into MY business yet feel they are somehow suited to it & entitled to have a piece of the pie.....as it were. is why I personally find it incredibly insulting. Exactly. Men have gone so far as to join sites to solicit us their 'help' with these tasks." Some of us have received PMs/Texts from brand new members. These are not businessmen, they are not even hobbyists, they joined for one reason only: they are opportunists. And cowardly ones at that. If their services were so invaluable & honourable, they would have stepped up prior to no longer having to assume any risk. It isn't, unfortunately. My post was in direct response to tacky practices industry specific & while it has been more volume since the SC decision, it sadly isn't the first time. I have been solicited by photographers & web designers. I politely declined as I have both. One photographer's response was to launch into a diatribe of vile insults including " your pictures suck ", " At least I make my money on my feet not on my back " & the fail safe justification for being turned down, " You are just a dumb fat whore " This is only a fraction of what we are often forced to endure given the life we've chosen & most of us handle it with aplomb. We are aware when someone goes to THAT route, they are just rage-aholic idiots, it isn't about us but them & we dismiss it as such. However, it is why, at times such as this, we become very offended when it is assumed we are dumb bimbos with no business sense. After a while, enough simply becomes enough & something needs to be said. Sandi

In the wake of the new Ontario laws regarding drivers, security, accountants, incall locations & other services now legal to perform for escorts, I, & a great number of my colleagues, have been inundated with offers to perform them & from complete strangers. E-mails, phone calls, texts. Men have gone so far as to join sites to solicit us their " help " with these tasks. NO man wants us to reach out whenever we please to ask if they want to see us therefore the same rule applies to this invasive new phenomena. If we want you, we will find you. What exactly do you think we did a month ago to run our businesses problem free? Put our money under our mattresses? Go to a call, not screen, with no back up? Show up at a friends home to borrow their bed? Beam ourselves to appointments? No. We also did not blatantly, desperately, unprofessionally harass the gentlemen who honour us with their time, kindness, hard earned money to garner business. Some of us have become quite successful by smart marketing & forging lasting relationships built on, and I can not stress this enough, trust & mutually respectful boundaries. There are women all over Canada who have worked for up to 20 years without violence, legal or logistical stumbling blocks & did so quite well long before any Supreme Court decision. So to those who feel they are now doing us a favour, conveniently after the risk factor has been removed, please hear this: I have a financial adviser, I keep receipts OCD style. I have a lawyer, I am aware of what I can & can not do under the Criminal Code. I have a photographer & am happy with my pictures. I have a website, I advertise for myself & need no help with writing or presentation. I have an incall with a person I have actually met. I have a driver for outcalls when I travel further than is possible by cab. I screen well, have a safety person & an incredible relationship with VPD. I have a boyfriend, seriously, & even if I didn't, I have the money for a vibrator. Most importantly, my brain is not pushing a triple digit I.Q., it's pulling it on a trailer hitch. So get an advertising account, post your services & if I am interested, exactly the same as when a gentleman wants to visit me, I am perfectly capable of reaching out. Until then, please stop pestering me & escorts everywhere. Sandi

I agree, periods sometimes can't be helped & they arrive early like the annoying relative who will not stay at the hotel you suggested. It happened early in my career & I was mortified. The guy punched his fist into the counter of the hotel bathroom & it was one of the few times I felt a rush of adrenaline attributed to fear. Believe me, while a man may be unimpressed, we are the ones at risk of being alone with someone whose reaction is not rational. I know no women who would do this on purpose. When I was later apologizing to my agency boss because the client flipped she looked at me & said "Hey, relax, I am not upset. It happens. Besides, he is having relations with a 32 year old woman of child bearing age. If he doesn't realize it might happen & can't handle it, tough." I was still embarrassed but I felt better & it put it in perspective. I am neither pre-pubescent nor post-menopausal & to me it's not the same as hygiene, but equal to a client who burps while kissing you or farts while you are going down on him. Especially if he is in a relaxed state of bliss. It happens you know. Can it be helped? Probably not & I imagine he is upset where I am not. Some things in life are simply out of our control. Especially bodily functions. No woman wants it to happen & I imagine when it does, as in my case, she is as unhappy if not more. If she DID know & did not inform, condoms notwithstanding, that is inconsiderate but I agree with Cat. Bills need to be paid & kids need to be fed. And life will go on! Sandi

I live DT Vancouver, near the water as well. When I walk the beach I see a lot of them & it sickens me. I don't know if it is from backed up treatment centers or people toss them away after a booty call. Either way it is shameful. Public opinion turned the tide on Styrofoam & Diapers. This is a problem we need to address too. They are simply not meant to be sewage. Sandi

Cristy, I totally agree with you on the disposal factor and that it is serious. I think the detour into Dick Wolf's imagination has a few of us just saying " Huh? " It infuriates me too when people flush them. Plumbing & environmental issues bother me. So my routine is I let him remove it, hold out my hand, take it politely, tie it in a knot then put it in the trash. Yes, tie it off. Why? In the past I have had the misfortune of sharing an incall with less than considerate co-workers. I show up for an morning encounter, do a quick room check only to have my stomach turned by the odour fermenting since the night before. Nasty. As far as an ulterior motive on the part of an SP? Given that logic, should a client adamantly want the condom afterward, I also have to be concerned. After all, on the outside of said condom, exists MY DNA as well. Right?! Sandi

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Forgot the word YOU in my comment to OldDog, laughing so hard at the photo. The scene in Scary Movie was my first thought too when reading this. God I love those movies. As for hot or not? :spermy3: Love it!!! Absolutely love it! The look, the feel, the taste. Love it. I have never heard it " whoosh " though, that would be fun. Dirty, nasty, filthy, don't care. I just love it! Sandi

Not impressed with the word " willing " either. Not at all.