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I almost never swear. I find it disturbing and annoying in some contexts, but not in others. When my eldest (adult) son swears in front of his younger teenage brothers, I find it very annoying. But last week, I was with a service provider who used the F - words, but did so in a manner that clearly flirty, not insulting, so it didn't bother me at all.

Nightmare before christmas is the only christmas movie I can stand watching over and over again. Because, "I Jack, the pumpkin King, have grown so weary of the same old thing"... A perfect blend of absurdity, humour, horror, and romance. "and sit together, now and forever, its plain to see, were simply meant to be."

Mikeyboy said "I still get incredibly nervous every time I meet a new lady, although that is part of the thrill and exhilaration for me. It's an adrenalin rush at times. I hope I never lose that. If this hobby ever becomes ordinary or common place to me, I'll likely stop." I'll second that, I've been sexually active for 30 years, I've seen probably 24 different escorts and some multiple times, but I'm still nervous about meeting each girl. I sometimes need to take an antacid before going out to meet the gal. Although the sessions are not always perfect, I've never had a bad time; I've never regretted any session.

LOl, yes its thorough. No, she doesn't work at the CIA as Gegefatale suggests, but did discover an affair I had years ago when I was young and Naive. This fact has two interesting effects. First, she knows I'm capable of cheating (not good), but she also over estimates her abilty to detect it (very good)... Always let your SO think she's psychic or very intuitive... There's nothing better at hiding your true behavior than having a SO that thinks she can read your mind. Additional Comments: If I wasn't married I doubt I have much trouble finding women to make out with (I've had offers). For me, the issue about my wife is that she has largely lost her sex drive and that is actually quite natural considering her age. However, there are lots of good reasons to stay married (e.g., having 2 teenage sons, and two young adults in college). So SPs provide a service that allows me to stay relatively content in my marriage.

(1) I usually vary the time that I get home from work so that when I sneak off to see an SP there is nothing unusual in terms of the time I get home. I always try to squeeze my SP time during times when I'm not expected to be anywhere in particular. For example, I take off work a half hour early and get home a half hour later. Because my hours vary anyway, no one notices. (2) I switch my cell phone off after confirming the room and so on. During the normal week, I often do not keep my phone on, or and often don't answer it because I can't hear it in my briefcase... Since this is the norm, on those occassions when I'm visiting an SP and switch it off, its not different from my usual irratic behavior. (3) I also tend to meet SPs when my SO is scheduled to work so that she won't be home when I get home. This gives me the opportunity to have another shower and change my clothes when I get home, without arousing suspicion, and ensures that no funny smells will be noticed. (4) I bring my own soap and shower after each appointment. (5) I clear my call log, web history, and contacts on my cell phone after each appointment. (6) I withdraw money irregularly in relativley small amounts so that there is no unusual pattern of withdraws. By being consistently irratic, there is not obvious pattern of behavior. (7) I recently switched my banking to online statements so that there are no longer any monthly statements. I take money out of 2 different accounts one of which my SO has no access too. (9) I keep my appointments to a minimum so that the amount spent is not unusual. (10) I have a cover story for money I withdraw. For example, a need to buy lunch when we run out of bread at home (a regular occurence) or cafe lattes paid in cash ($5 each) can really add up, but I really need them to stay awake at work, lol. My wife knows I have an addiction to caffine, I just don't mention that sometimes I get my caffine from tea bags (2 bucks for a box). But keep stories realistic. (11) I try to schedule SPs when I travel (e.g., Nevada, Australia, Austria). She knows that I will have a lot of travel related expenses, often in cash, such as taxis, and that I get reimbursed for many of them. I rarely take taxis, I prefer to use public transit or walk, I never mention this to her. Ironically the only trip that she's ever questioned me about the spending, had no sneaking around expenses. And all suspicions disappeared when I got my reimbursement cheque. (12) Never use the same email for social or work things as you do for naughty things. And never forward email related to your hobby to anyone else. (13) Never use the "remember me" option on email unless you have a login password. (14) Know more about your technology than your SO so that you can keep your stuff private. (15) You can use a password on your phone, but this is complicated because you have to type in your password when answering phone calls... have nearly missed a call or two because of a password... So use a password that can be typed into your phone quickly. (16) Never leave your email or other accounts on your computer when you are away, and if you do so accidentally, know how to clear the account and make it safe. (17) Don't get intoxicated. I should note that keeping SP visits secret is so easy compared to hidding an affair. I started to get involved with a woman romantically, and even though she kept telling me about the importance of discretion (wanted me to keep it secret), she did everything wrong. The worst part was that she wanted to go drinking, in public, first before getting romantic. It never went anywhere; too risky. Additional Comments: There is a difference in hormones. I know of perimenopausal woman who is currently on hormone replacement therapy that includes low doses of testosterone, and she went from having no sexual desire at all to constantly thinking about sex. It was actually quite amusing.

My advice is relax, don't worry about it, just pick one and have fun. I haven't yet had a bad experience with an SP, ever. I usually book with agencies and check into the agency's reputation.

Its getting hard to ensure that a song hasn't been done already, but don't think this one has been done yet. This follows along the lines of interpersonal problems, but no icepicks. Rather I get such a clear vision of the situations of having a fight while driving. I love it. The video I'm not that crazy about, but I do love this song.

Is there a particular reason you are upset about honesty. I don't think there is any more or less honest around. Some truths are best left unsaid. Sometimes people don't want to know all the truth. Can you imagine a world without lies; how boring and cold it would be (see the Invention of Lying... a very funny movie).

Nicholette said "It's usually people I know." I agree. Most often I think about the past, sometimes thinking about possible futures. I will watch video clips downloaded from playboy or late night soft core (Latin Lovers), but not because they are celebrities... That said, one celeb does get my attention. I would really love to run my hands through Zooey Deschanel's hair, but thats as far as I've imaged it really. LOL.

On the weekend two people noted that I'd lost weight. Apparently the exercise is working... finally.

I love silky smoothe skin. Yes, we might not know what products you use, but please keep up the fantastic work.

I'm 5 10, my ideal lady would be about 5 feet 6 or 7 I think. I was with a very nice lady yesterday who is 5 foot 2, and there are some practical short coming such as not being able to kiss while connected (thought every second of my time with her was fantastic).

I think my life has been largely governed by a series of random mistakes that have somehow worked in my favour. I didn't choose exactly the right education for the job I have, but its worked out very well anyway. There was a girl I knew for a nearly a year before I got married. I found out she was attracted to me after I got married. We had a short affair and then had to end it. But I wonder what would have happened if she said something a bit earlier. In spite of her poor timing she had a big impact on my life. I decided to go to grad school in part because that girl encouraged me to pursue an advanced degree (I don't think my wife had a clue what grauate school was). The grad school I ended up going to was selected by my wife in another city in order not to be anywhere near that girl.

Had a visit with a sweet lady yesterday (4th visit). She was back from a vacation. We (both) had a great time.

Can see someone without eyes The story in your eyes Moody Blues Listen to the tide slowly turning Wash all our heartaches away We're part of the fire that is burning And from the ashes we can build another day But I'm frightened for the children That the life that we are living is in vain And the sunshine we've been waiting for Will turn to rain

Welll happy birthday, when ever it is. I guess if you're young enough, happy birthday everyday would be nice... I'd prefer to forget about mine entirely (turned 49 last month).

Congrats, on the birthday. We just got back from an extended family labour day party... fun, good food, but too much food.

yeah, no problem, observations are appreciated.

>you're still talking about it No particular reason for bringing it up but it was early Monday morning, nothing to do, kind of bored, ran out of other topics to discuss, and waiting for an agency to post its schedule for the week.... (my favourite brunette is apparently back from her vacation, can't wait). "it could get ugly, she has info that could harm you in the future" Yeah, she has secret info about me, that could potentially harm me... but surely if I had an affair with her, that fact would be as potentially damaging by itself as any info she has about my hobby, and the info she has about my hobby is heresay given that she has no corroborating evidence, so I'm not really sure I get the point.

For my birthday I arranged a date with a lady and asked the agency if it was ok to bring wine. They said ok, and we had a little bottle of sparkling wine that made a wonderful date, just that little bit more special. ... and I'll be bringing wine to my next appointment. By the way if I had any alcohol at my work place, I'd be in serious trouble, probably fired.

erotophobia -- fear of sex or negative attitudes about sex erotophilia -- which is positive feelings/attitudes about sex I definitely have erotophilia, but I don't suffer (unless I want to).

Originally Posted by rickkkm "I think your friend will make some sort of move as she is now excited about the whole scene......maybe an affair......advice to you......, you made a mistake by divulging it, now you will have to remove yourself from this mess, time helps... you have started a slow moving train wreck with your commute buddy!!!!" Its been a couple months now and so far no train wreck (great use of metaphor by the way). We've actually become closer firends, but just friends. In fact recently we sort of worked out what sort of friendship we are having and she told me fairly clearly that she doesn't want to have an affair: "you being married, I wouldn't want to go exploring with you or anything like that for obvious reasons" and I responded that I don't want to do anything to jeopardize our friendship. I never asked what those "obvious reason" were. How that email exchange happened is a complex story that I don't want to go into. I don't think the fact that I see professionals attracts her to me at all; but it doesn't seem to upset her either. But neither of us has brought up the topic. Mostly we talk (often by email) about movies, music, travel (I travel a lot), environmental issues, and her attempts to be a vegetarian. It also came out recently when we were joking about setting her up with my brother (51 and never married), that she doesn't really want to get involved with anyone right now (if ever). That night she had a nightmare about some nasty experiences with men in her past. I think she likes the fact that I tell her she is pretty from time to time without coming on to her and she says she's content with her life the way it is. Personally I'm glad I told her because I don't want her to think I am some kind of ideal man. As to staying on her good side; an essential aspect of friendship is trust. I trust her.

Took my eldest son back to college today, so that only two kids left in the house. Also, when he was talking to his mother this morning, he told her that we were pretty good parents.

A big nose might help you smell the world around you, but if you sit back and really observe whats going on around, you might hear a mouse playing daffodil. Nice to be here Ok, in all seriousness, I just love this song.

I personally pay very little attention to a ladies shoes. What I find sexy however would depend on my mood. I recall once a friend of mine couldn't find her shoes in the morning, so she wore tennis shoes to work with her office attire (blouse, a long skirt, a pretty formal look) and she was very self conscious about her shoes. I though it a very sexy combination. She thought I was making fun of her. I couldn't convince her that I was not joking.