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In this scene from act 2 (act 3 when they did it in Toronto) of The Tales of Hoffman by Jacque Offenbach, set in a brothel in Venice, Hoffman played by Placido Domingo realizes that a courtesan, Guilletta, has not only captured his heart, but has stolen his reflection. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoB42XMZ2HY The music is in part a reprise of the Bacarelle, one of the biggest hits of the entire opera. The reflection is apparently the more serious loss probably cause he loses his heart to pretty much every skirt in the opera, including a mechanical doll. I love this opera. It so romantic, but mocks the ideals of romance throughout. In an earlier scene Hoffman boldly claimed that one does not fall in love in a brothel... and sure enough he does in the very next scene even though the girl was trying to warn him away because he would lose his reflection if he loves her.

Ok, well this one is about a dog passing away... the same friend I mentioned before had a pet pass away this weekend. Her pet was not a dog (it was a bird), but this song was closest she could find and she really liked the line about a shady tree just like the one in the backyard.

On the weekend a woman friend of my reminded me of this song that starts with this little bit of theatre... On a hot summer night would you offer your throat to the wolf with the red roses. You took the words right out of my mouth

For Squid, the male takes his sperm package from his sex organ, and using his tentacles places it in a pouch on the female. the Female then takes the sperm package and uses it to fertalize her eggs. No genital to genital contact what so ever, but the squid get really involved and excited about the process... changing colours and so on and they die shortly after. Some smaller males pretend to be females, have other males mate with them, them while the larger more agressive males are busy, the little males go in and score with the lady squids. Although most new squids are from the big and brauny males, the little males that act like females, have a disproportionate success rate (higher than you would expect given their numbers). From some show I watched on the National Geograhic Channel

"The love felt today between two people is no less powerful than it was by two people in the past. The difference is now, in our culture today, no one is willing to put the necessary work into making something work. We just go on ebay and find a new one, often at what we perceive to be a better price. At least that's how I see it." Part of the problem is that because there are more women in the work force, men and woman interact more with the opposite sex and that leads to a lot of things going on. The thing is that people get divorced not only because they fall out of love, but because they fall in love with someone else. Now it used to be that the couple would go on living together like that; these days woman are less likely to ignore signs that their hubby has a mistress.

If I became involved with an SP that progressed into something more than SP type service. Love or whatever. Sure, why not. I think that an SPs are very good at what they do (compared to amateur hour that takes place with my current significant other). Ican't offer the same quality back -- being amateur myself -- but I'm sure she could teach me a thing or too. I think it would depend on if the woman was going to be mine from then one, or continue in her career. The later option would probably be a problem for me.

Interesting thread. During my first sexual experience ever, the girl, after the condom was on, decided not to insert my manhood and brought me to issue by rubbing it against her body. We never had another date. So I was left wondering for a few months if I was a still a virgin or not. It doesn't matter to me now, but it did back then. On the other hand a few years later I had this "friend" at work who was flirting with me, a lot, and I was thinking about her one night when I was home and called her at the work (she was working the night shift) and I masturbated while talking to her. A couple months later after we had become lovers I told her about that, and she counted it as sex -- "oh, ok, so this was our 3rd time" she said smiling.

I didn't notice anyone else mention this yet (but I didn't read all the lines). The Boxer Simon and Garfunkel. Asking only workman's wages I come looking for a job But I get no offers, Just a come-on from the whores on Seventh Avenue I do declare, there were times when I was so lonesome I took some comfort there

Do you know where friendship ends and passion does begin? It's between the binding of her stockings and her skin. (oh yeah) -- Stockings, Suzanne Vega

"never piss off a woman your girlfriend, your wife or your favorite SP" And with luck, the 3 of them will meet each other. :-)

lol Yeah computers automatically save drafts and temporary files and sometimes they are not automatically deleted if you don't save the file.

booking a repeat with a lovely girl on Friday

I've never regretted a single payment, but I might regret it if made it toooo obvious.

AN UPDATE After due consideration I decided to go back to the same lady again. She was just so good I couldn't pass that up. My discomfort was temporary anyway. I booked the service provider to get someone else off my mind (a friend with beautiful long wavy brown hair and a tendency to flirt). It worked actually quite well for a few days, but I need another session of "forget about her" therapy. :-) The other thing was that made me feel a bit uneasy was that I felt protective. I think it might have been because the service provider is about the age of my daughter, but I know the lady is an adult and she knows what she's doing (very well I might add). Besides its not like I do much protecting for my daughter anyway -- shes an adult and shes got a live in boyfriend who has that job now. Anyway, I'm not about to avoid young ladies for that reason... thats one of the joys of this hobby, spending time with such beautiful young ladies... All is well.

Thats hilarious. The closest I came was when the apartment the lady was in was on the route between my home and where my wife worked. I was always a bit nervous parking in the lot across the road, or walking across the road on route to the lady's apartment. I can understand why you choose not to return.

Thanks, I'll check it out. I think Zooey is hot; love her hair.

"Maybe I should just be happy at that. After all, it's not like he doesn't know about my other involvements, pleasurable as they may be." Thats sounds reasonable and fair.

I was all proud of myself for reaching 100 posts today and then I hear about the 7000. Wow. Thats a lot of text. Congrats.

Its only if you want to get divorced quickly (in less than a year) that adultry is relevant, but it is my understanding the faulted divorces often end up taking longer (and cost more) due to the legal rangling that go on so if you want a fast quick cheap divorce, the 1 year separation works better. I was amazed when my in-laws got divorce how irrelevant the adultry (he was living with his girl friend) really meant to the proceedings. But the squabble over the division of assests dragged on for some time because of mutual hatred. Additional Comments: Thats an amazingly judgemental considering the sight we are on. There are actually a lot of women that don't want to have sex. I don't know anything about the life situation of the person who you were responding too, but you leap to a lot of conclusions about what is wrong in his marriage. You can't always blame the man for all the failings of a relationship. According to http://www.azcentral.com/health/news/articles/2010/09/14/20100914women-not-interested-in-sex-study.html "While almost 40 percent of women have low libido, it only causes distress for 10 percent of them, according to the PRESIDE study." In my own marriage, in the past year we've seen 6 plays together, an opera, and spent a week with her in Paris. I cook, I spend more time with our kids than she does, and frankly she could work part time without jeapardizing our finances or her carreer. The fact is that sex is not a priority to her. Lately shes has traits similar to Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory. When she hears on a talk show that sex and intimacy are an important part of marriage, she reacts like Sheldon would to the news that say giving a birthday presents is a "non-optional social convention". She clicks into an altered state of being and wants sex. Its really quite funny, but short lived. If talk shows would address the issue sexual intimacy more often, I'd probably not need to seek out the services of SP... but there you have it. I've actually tried to bring up the issue myself, but she only responds if someone else mentions the topic (Ironically I have more impressive health care related credentials than the people they typically interview on these talk shows). Someday I should tape one of those talk shows.

>Infidelity remains the one absolute condition for divorce in most jurisdictions, but we may see even that erode as courts come to grips with our ever increasing lifespans. In Canada we have no fault divorces which means that there is no need for fault for a divorce and infidelity is really irrelevant to the whole thing. The main issues during divorce all centre on who gets which assets and making arrangements for shared custody of minor kids (joint custody is also the default). Most people get divorced because they fight too much and the main thing couples fight over is money. Infidelity is often a symptom of a failing marriage, rather than the cause. Many couples remain together or get back together after "infidelity". My own marriage surrived one short affair. I doubt it would survive my current hobby but I think her complaint would be about the money, not the activity per se (its not like she been making regular use my body; its been available). Speaking of soul mates, I watched Crazy, Stupid, Love last night. I really enjoyed the film... except for the last 10 minutes where it becomes sappy and sentimental. I especially loved the scenes with the school teacher (Marisa Tomei). Hilarious film, except for the sappy bit at the end about soul mates. I've been convinced a number of times in my life that I've found a soul mate -- and I'll admit it is a powerful instinct that captures one attention -- but years of experience has corrected that misperception. My best wishes to anyone who thinks they've found love or that "real" love is out there to find, but please keep in mind that love is a 4 letter word.

I accidentally hit upon an interesting means of getting cash for hobbies. I set up a tax free saving account, but the bank blundered. They were supposed to take 40 per month from the chequing and put it in a mutual fund, but instead, they took 80 and put only 40 in the mutal fund, and the other 40 into just a saving account. My wife by now is used to the 80 going out each month as savings and is even thinking of setting up her of TFSA. Well, a couple months ago I cashed in the savings part of the TFSA and put in into another saving account that she doesn't know about. Thankyou BMO for that error; too bad it was only 40 per month.

"It's nothing personal. Some guys just don't do the reco thing." One reason is that it is difficult to be absolutely confident that ones post will not come back to haunt me. In my case after more than a year on this site, I'm not becoming increasingly confident (or reckless) about posting, but I was very reluctant to post or to make recommendation for a while.

"That said, I still hold out hope for the future, but it begs the question, is perennial happiness achievable?" Happiness through marriage? Are you seriously asking people on a web site devoted to linking customers and escort service providers if perennial happiness through marriage is possible. Hummmm, well, lets see, if I could regularly have fun with some other woman while remaining married, than sure happiness is possible. What people feel is love is largely a bonding instinct that evolved to produce children. It does this very efficiently. We love our children, but that is similarly a bonding instinct which has evolved to keep the children alive, long enough to have their own children. Without that bonding instinct, few kids would make it to adulthood. To be honest, I doubt any would make it past the first temper tantrum. But romantic love only last long enough to get the kids born and started towards adult life and after that it fades. My kids are teenagers and I suspect my bond with my spousal unit has run its course though neither my wife or I are in any hurry to move on. In her case she likes the rather comfy life style of a 6 figure family income and a husband who cooks gormet food about 2 times a week, and I like not having to cook the rest of the week and about 50% of the food she actually cooks. Thats love for you.

"I avoid using credit in any way shape or form, even to the point gas for my travel is paid for in cash. That way if I don't have the disposable income, I can't get in trouble having more encounters a month than I can afford" Well in all seriousness, unless every cent of ones mortgage is paid off, everything is on credit in one way or another... and I'm not exactly sure what paying for everything in cash would mean. My cash comes out of an ATM. But definitely one has to keep oneself to a budget that is affordable, but in my case I'm more limited by what I can get away with withdrawing without it being noticed, than how much I can afford. I've found a few ways of getting more cash from time to time with her noticing, but I usually need a good cover story (my other hobbies, those daily lattes, paying for my kids recreational expenses, paying the interest on my daughter's line of credit). Fortunately my wifes lousy at math... or just doesn't bother doing the math, not sure which. I was rather amused recently when when she found out I'm donating $30 per month to a hospital charity she was upset that we couldn't afford it (what a laugh that is), but she didn't say anything about the $600 I withdrew in cash last month (of which only $250 was for this hobby). One trick I use is to withdraw a bit more (say $60) every week then I need (thats like 10 lattes that I don't really need, or 3 extra bags of aquacultured algae to feed my coral in my marine aquarium if she should ever ask) and stash the extra $60 away so that on the day of my "appointment" I don't need to take out anything extra.

Yes there is software that will log your keystrokes. If its your employer doing it, you wouldn't be able to disable it without admin privledges. At home make yourself the only administrator and run anti-spyware software, but that would only be able to defeat some of the less sophisticated programs.