danjo

I am a bit shy, and appreciate and get really turned on when the provider takes the lead, especially in a naughty way. It is my greatest pleasure to give my partner pleasure.

My first visit with a provider was much like that described by empty83. I was quite nervous. My wife, a very wonderful, and beautiful person, was suffering in the throes of menopause at the time, and not very available. I didn't want to have an affair because I love her very much, and sex with her, when she is available, is great. However, I was in need, and turned to a provider. It was, without a doubt, one of the best sexual and intimate experiences I have ever had. She was the perfect therapist for the condition I was suffering at the time, and I wasn't ashamed at all, just thankful.

The DSM is really just a checklist of symptoms, and a useful tool for mental health providers in the sharing of information. Personally, I dislike diagnoses. In my opinion, it is much better to take a holistic approach with regards to interventions of a mental health nature. A simple diagnosis is often quite limiting, and can sometimes do more harm than good.

I totally agree with Gabriella. However, I would like to add that many people these days suffer from some serious environmental allergies, myself included, and can get quite sick when exposed to certain, and in some cases, most scents. I use an unscented deoderant myself, and encourage the person I am with to do the same. To me there is nothing sexier than the smell of a freshly washed body, and I love taking a shower with my partner whenever the opportunity arises.

Actually, the best way to handle worry is to let it be. Worry is what we (humans) do, and to try and not worry attaches a person to the outcome of having somehow to fix yourself. As soon as I do that I stop enjoying the moments I have, in the mistaken assumption that I need to be anything or anywhere else to be ok. Just as I am able to still love though I am in great pain, I am able to enjoy life even though I worry. Hold worry in your heart like you would a small child needing love, and it will be ok.