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This thread wouldn't be complete without acknowledging the many fine lingerie selections that the ladies of CERB have shared with us. One of my favorites has always been Gia's pink and white lace ensemble. She tells me the bra and panties are from the Eliza collection of Panache., and the rest she put together. With thanks for her permission, here are the pics from her web site ...

Welcome to CERB, LonesomeSoul! I think you'll find this a friendly and fun place to hang out. Check out the many Social Groups and join the one's that interest you. Also, there are lots of discussion and picture threads on the go, especially in the General Discussion Area. If you have a bit of time on your hands, we can always use more contributions to the picture threads, such as Freekin' Hot Fripples, Babe of the Day, Beautiful Lingerie, Best Bums on the Planet, etc. Or start your own theme! Oh, and by the way, you're not a "geezer" here. As my wife is fond of reminding me, "you're only as old as the woman you feel!" :icon_wink:

Is it just me, or does anyone else find this look to be really HOT??? (Agent Provocateur again, btw)

Just curious, but has anyone (other than a regular client) who was short on the required fee ever made an effort to correct the mistake in a later session? This question goes especially to Christine, but it would be interesting to hear other experiences. Personally, I think the vast majority of people are honest. Yet most people won't pay back a store if a mistake is made in their favour. I wish there were stats on that. I did once read about an interesting survey done by Readers Digest involving lost cell phones though. The test was conducted in cities around the world, with some surprising results (68% return rate). Here's a link. http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/readers-digest-conducts-global-cell-phone-honesty-test-researchers-lose-mobile-phones-in-32-cities-and-two-thirds-are-returned----if-you-found-one-what-would-you-do-52760557.html And this story has more about the less honest people, including a security guard who denied seeing the phone even as it was ringing in his pocket! http://www.rdasia.com/the_reader_s_digest_global_phone_test

In the User Control Panel, under Edit Your Details, you can set your Profile Privacy to Public, Private or Friends Only. Private means any registered member can view your profile. If someone can't view your profile, they can't view any of your albums. But if they can view your profile, whether or not they can view an album is controlled by a specific album setting. When you create an album, you can set it as Public, Private or Profile. Here, Private means something different. It means anyone in your Contact list can view it. That includes friends, but also includes people you added to Contacts but which you did not befriend. There seems to no way to limit album viewing to just Friends, except by limiting your entire profile to Friends. So, create your albums as Private and make sure you clean up your Contacts list and remove any non-friend contacts you might be unsure of. Incidentally, when you click on an existing album you'll see an Edit Album button on the right. Click this and you'll be presented with the same screen you get when you create an album, this allowing you to change the title, description, or privacy settings. Use this to fix the privacy on your existing albums.

Hmmm ... multi-colour ...

This sure looks like flirtation to me ... Is this girl just lip biting, or is she practicing for something intimate?

Hmmm ... To put it another way, just because I have a "business partner" doesn't mean I'm precluded from doing business with others. (Does that include "funny business" I wonder :icon_smile:) On a serious note, and now I'm rambling, the term "partner" is often used today in the context of marriage or marriage-like arrangements. I wonder sometimes how many people who use it actually embrace it's full meaning within their relationship. A partner is one who has agreed to work with you to advance common goals or interests. Partners may divide duties according to their skills or preferences, but when one partner is unable to fulfill their duties, the other partner is expected to "stand in" for them. In a partnership, you don't get to say "well that was my partner's decision, not mine!". Partners must share responsibility for good and bad outcomes.

Cross posted from "Beautiful Lingerie" Additional Comments: Cross posted from "Beautiful Lingerie"

My theme today is "sheers", starting first with this "Dirty Dancer" set from spurst.com .... And here's some more teal ...

I like Touch because he makes contributions to many of our threads, paticularly picture threads such as Babe of the Day, Fripples, etc.; and especially for his many contribtions to the thread I started, Beautiful Lingerie! Additional Comments: I like Touch because he makes contributions to many of our threads, paticularly picture threads such as Babe of the Day, Fripples, etc.; and especially for his many contribtions to the thread I started, Beautiful Lingerie!

I like to arrive at work unrushed, so I get up early enough to shower, shave, dress, have a cup of coffee and read the newspaper. That doesn't mean I'm entitled to show up for work late. Gabriella likes to "offer" an unrushed experience, but she can't know what her client's expectations are for the session. There is an onus on the client to communicate what he wants, preferably before the session. (The lady might then choose to decline.) In the absence of that, he needs to take some responsibility for pacing the session according to his desired outcome and not expect the SP to be a mind reader. Regardless, he's not entitled to interpret "unrushed" as meaning he can take more time than he booked. I have never interpreted "unrushed" to mean I can take more than my allotted time. To me, it speaks to the kind of mutual experience the lady is seeking to have and so as a prospective client it's up to me to decide whether that's what I want. If not, I should seek another SP. I agree with many of the other replies that "unrushed" means not paying real close attention to the clock. However, having a clock in plain sight is helpful because then both parties can occasionally (and discretely) take note of the time and adjust their pace accordingly. If I were to lose track of time, I would have no problem with the lady mentioning nicely that our time was up. I'd be mortified (for not noticing), but I'd want to know. Gabriella, I think you do a great job on your website of explaining the kind of experience you offer. Unfortunately, there will always be some people who will focus on what they want to see and ignore the context around it. I'd like to think that there are enough good clients around that you can afford not to repeat with one's that pass your excellent screening but then act in the manner you described.

Here's more from the Lise Charmel collection ... and I must say, the model (whoever she is) is stunningly beautiful ...

Happy Birthday Jessica!!! Treat yourself to something special today!

Touch beat me to it today with some beautiful silk pieces, and as I was trolling around for another idea I came across this collection from Lise Charmel, which I found on http://www.lingerieform.org. Seems like a nice way to add a splash of color to a white summer dress!

It does seem silly to sign someone's guest book with a thank every single time they give you rep points. I don't think that was its intent, otherwise they would have called it something other than Guestbook. But, I do think there's value in providing a thank you, so here's what I do: - if the rep points are from someone I've not had contact with before, then I read their profile and sign their Guestbook, mentioning the post they liked. I might also send them a friend request. - if it's someone I know, and someone that I find I'm also giving rep points to fairly often, then after awhile i'll send them a PM and suggest we stop the thnak you's - otherwise, if their Guestbook already has recent thank you's on it I'll give it a rest for awhile.

Here's one for Peachy (pearls) and Touch (easy access) ... and the one on the right is especially for Peachy ... There's a few others with pearls I'd like to post, but they come awfully close to breaking the non-genital rule. A single strand of pearls doesn't cover much, so you'll have to use your imagination! (Or do your own search for "lingerie pearls").

To clarify my previous statement, "adultery" is one of the three conditions that are grounds for divorce under the Divorce Act. I said infidelity, but I meant adultery. The other two conditions are: - You and your spouse have been separated for one year - Your spouse has treated you with intolerable mental or physical cruelty So adultery is relevant when the other two conditions don't apply. It can get you a divorce in less than a year, and without having to formalize a separation. (Not a great idea, in my view, but some people feel agreaved enough to take advantage of it.)

Finally found a worthy fripples photo. I just don't have the sources some of our other posters seem to have access to, but this pic cropped up when I was doing a search for my Beautiful Lingerie thread. Apparently this is a custom made, reinvented kimono plus gakuran (Japanese school uniform) plus lingerie thingie. Can't say I like the look, but the fripples are nice ...

Lot's of great thoughts in PatrickGC's post, but I'd like to pick out this one for further comment. I do see a softening of attitudes in mainstream media, particularly newspapers, towards sex workers who ply their trade in private. The courts and legislators also seem to be working towards balancing the freedom to associate and engage in adult activities against the need to protect individuals and society from the dual harms of exploitation and exposure (of sexual matters) to minors. The recent Supreme Court of Ontario decision to strike down key elements of current prostitution laws is an example of how the courts are beginning to weigh protection of sex workers more heavily in their decisions. The existing laws attempt to ban undesirable effects of the sex trade -- such as having an openly public brothel in your nice family-oriented neighbourhood -- while not explicitly making sex between consenting adults (with or without payment) an illegal activity. There is considerable fear, however, that law makers will respond to the latest court decision by creating laws that head us back in that direction. I think the courts, though, have shown signs that they want the laws improved (for the protection of workers) not returned to an earlier state (where sex for money is outlawed). But the lawmakers are composed of people who live in our society, are influenced by it, and whose jobs are at the discretion of the public. It becomes easier for them to change laws if the changes stand a good chance of being supported by the electorate and general public opinion. Which is why we need more people, on both sides of the sex trade, to speak up and counter the negative stereotypes. We often say that prostitution is the world's oldest profession, yet Canadian laws don't treat it as one. Sadly, there is still such a stigma attached to sex-for-money that few dare to speak out about it for fear of reprisal at work, at home, or from friends and family. As a parent, it's even more complicated. So, my hat's off to those who have been brave enough to speak up and help change public attitudes. I wish I could join you, but for now, I'll have to stick to supporting you more quietly, from the sidelines, in whatever venue I can find that doesn't jeopardize my job or my personal relationships.

Society, I believe, created the institution of marriage as a means to provide the stability and safety necessary to allow a woman to be pregnant and then raise children until they are old enough to fend for themselves. We are fortunate enough to live in a country where, and at a time when, war is not on our doorstep; where we can walk the streets at night most anywhere in relative safety; where everyone has enough food and water that they are not in fear of someone taking theirs from them; and where we have the freedom to say what we think and be different from one another. And so, to some extent, the trappings and protections of marriage are somewhat anachronistic here in Canada, and in most "developed" nations. Advances in birth control and prenatal/neonatal care have made it possible for woman to explore their sexuality earlier and longer than ever before, with less risk of losing a child or their own life. Civil law provides financial security to woman (and men) who find themselves parenting a child on their own. Organized Religion is no longer viewed as the sole arbiter of morality and ethics. So is marriage relevant any more? For many, given the statistics on common law marriage, I guess not. But I think it still has its place in our society. I married when I was young -- just 22 years old. We had children, raised them, and were good friends for over 25 years. Were we in love? Yes, certainly. We we great lovers? No, not really. Did it last? Well, for about 25 years ... by which time we'd drifted far enough apart that we were headed for a break up. Then she became seriously ill with cancer. She died several years ago. I've since remarried, and taken on teenaged step-children. My new wife and I have a far more "flexible" contract -- a sign of the times, perhaps, but one which recognizes today's reality. We both have had our children. We both enjoy exploring our sexuality, with each other and when so desired and we can do so safely, with others from time to time. Being married allows us to support each other, pool our resources, save for our retirement, finish raising and educating the children, take care of one another during sickness, etc. For me, at least, I've chosen not just to get married -- I've chosen to live a married life. Not once, but twice now. I know I would not be happy living the life of a single man. It's just who I am. I count myself as very fortunate to have found not one, but two people whom I loved enough to want to be with nearly 24/7. And I'm doubly fortunate to have found, in my second wife, a woman who is smart, beautiful, sexy and not at all conservative in her views on sex and marriage. Married life isn't for everyone. Thankfully, the social pressure to be married, while still quite strong, is not as strong as it used to be. Times have changed, and sexual, living and child-rearing arrangements have evolved, and are still evolving. We have more options now, and I'll probably see even more added before the end of my lifetime. Perhaps the biggest factor impacting marriage today is that we are living longer and staying healthier well into our 80's and 90's. While our pioneer ancestors might have gotten married at 14, had children, and perhaps died by the time they were 35, we are living long enough for two such lifetimes. I can tell you from personal experience that 30 years of living with someone is a very very long time. It's no wonder that there are so many people in their 50's today who are getting divorced after long term marriages ... faced with another 30 or 40 years of the same life, they may be hungry for a change. But the traditional (monogamous) marriage contract doesn't permit that. And no one seems to include "till bored to death do us part" in their vows :smile: Infidelity remains the one absolute condition for divorce in most jurisdictions, but we may see even that erode as courts come to grips with our ever increasing lifespans. I believe in love. And I believe we have an infinite capacity for love. I believe in marriage. And I believe that if you want to get married, you need to be prepared to live a married life.

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