EvaAdore

*gasp* Way to go Realnicehat!!! I always love reading your input on things, and you make me giggle like a maniac at my computer desk more often than not. Thanks for being here and sharing your wicked self with us :)

YAAAAYYY!!! Happy Birthday! Wishing you an orgasmic, fantastic, boombastic day!!!

I hear you about the dog situation, I have a 9 month old Rotti pup so I can't leave her for extended periods. My plan in the future is to buy an RV, fix it up and travel around in it and blog about the whole experience. How was Belize and Guatemala? You have some cahones, girl! I think it takes a really special kind of person to travel the world out of a car like that; wild and free! I like your gypsy spirit :) Have you always had itchy feet, or was it something that happened later? I grew up clinging to the backs of my friends as we ripped through empty streets and winding roads. There really is nothing like the wind whipping through your hair, against your face and the wild sailing all around you. I have always wanted to learn how to shoot!!! I am so jealous!!!! I am very much the same, I like to grab the camera and wander around. You never know when you will glimpse The Perfect Shot. I also really love action shots of people, cityscapes, and nature. I find nature enthralling and exciting, and it provides the most diverse choice of subjects... I also like shooting random things that provoke strong feelings of nostalgia - I shot a picture of a barbie party bus sitting haphazard in a driveway... so many feelings attached to a simple picture. I love things like that; I like making people "FEEL" things through my art.

Thank you, Realnicehat! I can definitely see how some guys may say silly things when their brains are depleted of blood and oxygen LOL! I guess I should just chalk it up to being half braindead in the moment, it's when it happens several times that it kinda makes one wonder "Am I doing something weird/embarrassing/awkward??" But yes, kisses are most definitely better than talking in those situations!!! xx AMEN!!!! That's how I always thought it should be, too! I would much rather be a loud "really into it" type of person than a dead starfish! Thanks sweety! Yeah, I think some guys are just socially weird, or maybe intimidated or... I don't even know. I should just shrug it off and think of it as a "them" problem instead of a "me" problem. YES!!! I love it when guys are big shooters and get right into it - totally HOT!!! Still waiting for my Orgasm Fairy visit! Is there going to be a cheque underneath my toy collection when I wake up tomorrow? LOL! And I agree with you that a shivery, shaking, sweaty and loud orgasm should be the ultimate compliment... I think some guys just figure an orgasm should be as easy for us as it is for them. I dunno. Thanks for your support sweety! Yes, Sir! Right away SiiiIIIIIIIIiiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrr-ooooooooohhhh!!!! Thanks for your support Emily! I appreciate it :) I can understand and hear where you're coming from, that some people might feel ashamed or self-conscious about it; I agree that sharing that moment with someone is a very personal, intense, intimate thing whether you are strangers or lovers or long time partners. It is an extremely vulnerable moment, whether you are a man or a woman. And by the way, your pictures turn ME on! :D That's a great retort, Notch! I will use that one next time LOL! Hard at work, eh... Naughty! *heehee* Oh I definitely get the whole asking if the girl is okay to keep going, or if she's alright if the orgasm wasn't sex-related or something... but if a woman is on top of you and she cums, there's no reason to ask. I mean, obviously she's having a good time lol. Which is why I kind of don't understand this whole scoffing and acting like she has just done something totally weird!!! I'm glad you have learned not to blame yourself for your wife's quiet orgasms! Us girls are all very unique and different in how we express ourselves during sex, and a whole gamut of factors weigh in on it - stigma, religious backgrounds, self-esteem, social issues, body image, etc etc... Or maybe she's just not a super sexual person! Point is, as long as you are both happy, then great! Yes, it is most definitely hot in here! I had to get naked, my windows were steaming up! :P LOL and YES SIR, you've got yourself a DEAL!!! Although I would never ever say that to a man anyway! Thanks again everyone for your support and input. It means a lot that I can be open and honest here, without feeling self-conscious or shy. It feels great that I have a group of people to listen without judging or laughing, since sex-talk can sometimes bring out the trolls in people! xoxoxox Additional Comments: I can see in the opposite position how that could easily get messy (pardon the pun :P) - For me, the more into it and louder the guy is, the more into it and loud I get. It just adds to the passion and intensity of the whole experience. Awwww, what a charmer! xox AMEN!!! And LOL at your descriptions!!! Hahaha "do you have a pulse" that's hilarious. I don't think I could ever be a non-responsive partner sexually, as in life generally I am an "all or nothing" type of person... I'm either ALL there, or I'm ALL gone. Thanks for your support!

Olderguy: - Where have you traveled to? Where are you going next?! - LOL! Yes, I think I much prefer the drinking part too :P Cltchmcg: - Hey, nothing wrong with a little nerding out! - *gasp* OOOOHmygoodness, I don't think I could do it... I am terrified of heights, I don't think I would enjoy that! lol! What got you into that hobby? - Mmmmm, tattooooos *heart* Who is your artist of choice, or are you a wanderer like me? Cleo: - SOOO Jealous!!! Do you drive in your car or do you have an RV type thing? That would be so cool!! I went from Ottawa to Victoria by Greyhound/Ferry a couple of years ago, it was the most lifechanging experience I've ever had. Good on you! - You definitely should, cats be darned!!! You could knit yourself a skein-holder-bag-thingy so they can't really play with it. I have a couple patterns I could send you! - Great idea! French isn't too bad as long as you have someone to practice with (imo). Malika: - That's totally cool! Where in Europe are you going, or are you just gonna wing it?? I have a lot of family there, I want to go one day. - I have seen some really cool rope pictures on here and around the internet and I think it's super interesting; what got you into ropes, or was there always kind of a "pull" towards it? - AMEN to that!!! PC gamers UNITE!!!! lol - Bwaaahahahaha, I know right?! Additional Comments: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA omg I'm dying Additional Comments: Yay photography!!! I took a couple of courses and really loved photog too for a long time. What is your favorite subject matter (or do you have one?) Gahahahaha, you'd probably enjoy Escape Plan - it combines left-to-right motion with puzzles. KNOW IT, PLAY IT, LOVE IT. lawl LOL anger is everyone's hobby :P Also YES WORD GAMES ARE AWESOME. Especially when they involve several 4-letter words LOL

I have always fantasized about having 2 men at once, but haven't had the opportunity yet. I think it would be totally hot

Let me first just say that I can openly admit that I am an intense cummer. When I get off, I feel it with my whole body; I shiver and shake, I yell, I moan, I arch my back, I lose my breath. I never thought of this as a bad thing, I always thought it was sexy, exciting and hot for a guy to see what his cock has done to me. Then, several times in my personal and professional life, I've had guys half-smirk, giggle, or look at me with a blank stare and scoff out an "Ummm... are you okay?!" as if I have done something embarrassing or weird. Of course, in the moment I was taken aback, humiliated and it made me feel totally self-conscious... and the more times it happened, the more awkward about it I became, to the point where now I have a hard time cumming at all - in fact 95% of the time I don't. So I ask - why do men ask this rude, annoying question, and how could they possibly think this would make a woman feel comfortable with them sexually? How would it make you feel (if you're a man), if when you whipped your cock out, a woman giggled at you and said "Is that it??" - different question, same gist. I am working to overcome this complex now, but it kind of pisses me off that people's thoughtless and oblivious comments have affected me to the point where I now have trouble enjoying the very thing I love most. I am an extremely sexual being, yet I suddenly have a mental block that stops me from getting to orgasm because I don't think it's sexy or like I'm "doing it right". What's with that?!

Hey guys, I like starting random discussion threads, so here's the random discussion of the day: What are your hobbies? Myself, I am a HUUUGE knitter, and any crafting in general really. I love art of all kinds so I like to draw, paint, scrapbook, do digital art... I've always been a "modder" by nature so I generally like to modify things in some way to make it "mine" - unique and original. I guess that's why I want to take up a sewing or seamstress class, as I've dreamt of learning to make my own clothes/shoes for AGES. Other than that, I love to read - especially awful, trashy romance novels (they are AWFULLY DELIGHTFUL nyuk nyuk nyuk) and learn. Language has always been an interest of mine, and I have learned (and lost) several languages over my life - French, Spanish, some German and started learning Russian and Czech, but over time I have lost them because I don't speak them often enough... One of those cases of "use it or lose it" I'm afraid. And ummm... I'm a huge nerd, so I like playing video games a lot. I'm an introvert, so I tend to gravitate towards solitary hobbies as you can tell (lol). I play World of Warcraft, StarCraft 2, Anno 2070, Diablo 3, The Sims, all kinds of puzzle games (I love puzzles!), and whatever else I find on Steam that peaks my interest. What about you guys?! What are you into?

Welcome to the boards, new members Dave and Danielle! Hope you enjoy your stay and find all the help you need.

Thanks for sharing, and wishing you a speedy recovery! You are a strong person, I have no doubt you will kick this in the ass!

You're welcome.

I want to cum!!!!! ....I mean.... join you all..... for fun..... and drinks..... it's hot in here....

Having just hit this mark myself, I want to extend my congratulations! I know the first 100 can either be the easiest or the hardest. Thanks for contributing and being here!

WOW RG, I aspire to one day hit the 9000 mark like you! You are always so well-spoken, and I enjoy reading everything you have to say. Thank you for being here with us :)

Happy Birthday pretty girl! I hope your day is wonderful, luxurious and filled with things that make you smile.

Awww guys! I didn't even see this until now! Thank you so much, I'm so honored to be here with all of you amazing people. It really means a lot to me that you all "SEE" me and enjoy my posts. Thank you all <3

Awww thank you. That makes me feel really good *kiss*

Welcome to the board, Dolly! Best wishes and luck to you!

I feel really sad that an important topic has been debased to arguing the semantics of idioms and turned into a shit-flinging contest.

My two cents... - I don't think haggling an SP is respectful or acceptable - I do understand that some SP's are more than happy to negotiate their rates/services, and that is completely fine. Each person is going to act according to their own values and comfort. If an SP has clearly stated that she is open to suggestions, then by all means take her up on the offer! However, after looking at many a website, I have noticed that an overwhelming number of them have CLEARLY stated that their rates are NEVER up for negotiation whatsoever, and the numbers based on meaghanmcleod's tallies speak for themselves (thanks for putting that together, by the way!) I understand that many people (specifically hobbyists) have mentioned that negotiation is a regular part of doing business, independent contractors especially. While I agree that it is a part of business, we are not talking about some intangible object or a 'regular' service based business. We are talking about a woman's body, mind and well-being here. Many of you hobbyists have no idea what being on the SP-side of this business is like; what kind of personal, mental and emotional tolls it can take. Yes a 'normal' job can cause distress and each have their own specific consequences, but sharing your body and your Self with your clients is a whole different ballgame. I don't mean to speak for *everyone* or speak in terms of absolutes here, either. Regardless of whether a woman has a solid self-esteem and sense of worth there are still many issues we have to deal with that a hobbyist does not. And while there are certain issues that the client deals with on their side of things (I'm definitely not saying you guys don't have to deal with risks or emotional issues of your own), I think you need to take into account that whatever issues you deal with as the client, ours are magnified a hundred times over. Our rates reflect (not necessarily all of these, but many) - Bodily maintenance like buying expensive lingerie, clothing, makeup as well as things like getting waxed, laser hair treatments, nails done, etc so we can look and feel our best for you... all of which are expensive and/or painful; Also frequent testing and risks of UTI's, yeast infections, etc from unhygienic clients or use of toys, all of which cost money and can be very painful and uncomfortable; - Costs to rent out/provide a space for you to come and enjoy us; - Touring costs; - Transportation costs; - Taking time off so we can heal, get our minds right, not be an object/living blow up doll for a while; **I'm not saying we all feel like this, or feel it all the time - but personally, there have definitely been moments** - Dealing with a hobbyists ignorant/mindless comments from time to time (I'd like to point out that the vast majority of you gentleman are great, respectful and a pleasure to work with, but the occasional asshat does appear and can make us feel dirty, ashamed or even scared for our lives) - The risk of being hurt physically, or even extreme cases where the woman is killed or sold. Honestly, how likely is it that an SP is going to have some kind of psychotic episode and physically hurt you? How many times have you heard of that happening? Yet how many thousands of women have died, been sold, been stalked, harassed, hurt or been in any kind of pain because of a client? - We take a huge risk in our personal lives for being stigmatised, called out, exposed, losing friendships/relationships and even family members; especially us providers that show our faces in our pictures. And I would also like to point out, for the people who are going to jump in and say "Well if she struggles with issues, she shouldn't be doing this job!!!" -- Okay, yes. There are people who aren't mentally/emotionally equipped for this job. And when the cons start outweighing the pros, that's when she should either take a break or retire. However - there are many women who are most definitely able to do this who have moments where they want to quit because we deal with a LOT. ALL the time. Regardless of whether a woman is able to handle this job or not, please recognize that we have a LOT more to deal with than the average person. Not to sound high-and-mighty or anything, but we do! So no... I don't think you should negotiate a woman's rates. Ever. If you think a rate is too high, find someone who offers their services for a lower rate. End of story. We take too many risks to be lowballed or haggled with by an opportunistic person who doesn't take into account all the things we go through and worry about so that we can be here doing what we do. Sorry if I sounded harsh, accusatory, or like a total whiner! I am not trying to come off as defensive or angry here; I just personally find it extremely insulting when people make comments about my rates as if I don't provide a great experience that isn't "worth" what I ask for it, or make me feel like they are doing me a favor by paying my asked price. Please!