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Sorry I am so late replying!!! To answer your questions: as a SP what would set up the mood other then the grooming and personal cleaning? I mean like music, etc. I know this might vary from an SP to another but I wouldn't mind knowing yours Music is always fun to incorporate into an encounter, for me personally my "get down" music is reggae-inspired, or slow R&B, chill or downtempo type things. A lot of instrumentals! Example 2 and would the time start as soon as the appointment starts? or as soon as she arrives? or after the convo? Generally it starts when it was booked for. Some SPs are lenient and the appointment starts when you walk in the door, but you should always ask beforehand. regarding the previous question as friends I meant like friendly talk's for sure you would have one with a client in the beginning but after that (for sure not going to personally), lets say a client saw you outside would you talk to the client? or would you prefer to avoid? It depends on who I am with or what the situation is, but generally I will smile but pretend I don't know the client. I don't know who they are with, or what their circumstances in that moment are, so I don't approach. And vice versa, I could be with a family member or friend or another client, or on a date... 99% of the time it would be an awkward situation (imo), so I pretend they are a stranger (or in the odd case I will give a big smile or a wink or something as a hello without words) BTW you look Gorgeous in your pictures Awww, thank you :)

Another discussion to start, because it's fun and I am interested in everyone's opinions... Ladies, Gents: What kind of hair removal do you use most often (if at all)? What do you want to try? Which do you think is best? I usually get waxed and then just shave my legs, but I am looking into StopGrow and a variety of at-home laser hair removal systems (IPLs); - TANDA - NoNo - TRIA Has anyone used any of these?

CONGRATS darlin! You're awesome!

No offence taken at all, Ramok :) I hope I have helped in some way. As the others have said, information is your best ally. Read the forums, ask questions, talk to SPs. It will all help you make better decisions! Welcome to the board!

I had an incident where I was working for an agency (back when I first started) and they had posted my pictures on places other than CERB (not to my knowledge). A "friend" of mine who knew all of my close social circle somehow found one of those ads, and showed it to all of my close friends. Luckily, my family is still in the dark (except the few I have chosen to share with), but it caused a lot of heartache and problems in my life. I was mortified, embarrassed (not of what I do, but there are some people I had not trusted with the information), angry, hurt, confused... I am sharing this in the hopes that you will reconsider your urge to possibly say something to her family. If she trusted you with the information and confided in you, just because you know doesn't give you the right to go around sharing her personal stuff - she confided in you, honor that commitment. I may be coming across a little harsh, and if I am, I apologize, but I am trying to be as blunt as possible. Coming from the other side of the experience, believe me, it is unpleasant and causes a lot of emotional pain when someone goes behind your back and tells your personal shit to people. It's not your secret to tell. Even if you think you are doing the right thing, there may be consequences for her that you don't even realize.

First of all, welcome to CERB! I don't know who to pick, and when, Do your research! Look up some Recommendations, check out girls' websites, PM them beforehand, look in the Ads section... there is a wealth of knowledge available to you to find the right person. I prefer out calls into my private apartment but I'm not so much familiar with the whole process There are many SPs who offer outcalls to apartments, but keep in mind if you are a new client some SPs may not be comfortable with this at first. Everyone is different, though, so again, talk it out! What would she expect before/once she gets there? This has been covered a lot, in many threads on this board. Some main points: Make Sure You Are CLEAN - Shower, brush your teeth, make sure your nails are trimmed, scrub/trim your junk, guzzle some mouthwash. Etc. BE POLITE - treat it like a date. Nice clients make for happy SPs, and happy SPs are good to their clients. PAY UPFRONT - offer the lady your envelope as soon as she walks in the door, or leave it on a table in front of her. Don't be offended if she counts it in front of you. DO NOT SHORTCHANGE - Duh. Do you give the donation before or after the service? Upfront. Always upfront. How do I know that she likes her job before booking an appointment? This is something you can never *really* know, but assume she does. You should know if you've spoken to her beforehand. And if not, you can always ask! Do you ever become friends with a SP? From my own experience, I can tell you personally I tend to develop a friendship with my clients, but I don't mix business and pleasure. My personal life is personal, and I don't see or date anyone who is or has been a client. Period. Is it ok to ask for ID before getting into something? because I heard a lot of stories about SP Reporting abuse against their clients (with all do respect to all the SP on the website) I would never show my ID to a client. I refuse outright to give my personal information, including my real name/last name, to anyone. I won't get into that can of worms, but first of all it would be rude and impolite to ask for, and second it's an invasion of the lady's privacy. I'm not that experienced so is there a lady that is specialized with non-experienced men? Most ladies have a knack for getting past your jitters - let her know in advance that you are inexperienced so she knows to take the lead. Is it safe to go down on an SP or make out? How do you know it's ever really "safe"? Even if you are in a monogamous relationship, you never *really* know what's happening behind closed doors. Take percautions, use protection, get tested. Hell, get tested before and after if it will make you feel better. And I'm the type of guy that likes to satisfy, so would it be easy to satisfy an SP? Again, you can never know that. Every person is different, every encounter is different, the chemistry between people is different. I know as a woman, some days are easier to cum than others, I get off with some people and not with others, some days honestly it's just too much work and I don't feel like it. That's something you can never guarantee. Hope that helps!

A little late, but Happy Birthday! I hope your day was pleasurable and everything you hoped it would be!

Notch, I am sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you hugs and good vibes :)

RG, I am sorry for your loss. I know that there is nothing any of us could possibly say that will ease your pain or grief, but take comfort in knowing we are all here to support you. xo

Hey you, this is a great question! There are lots of things you could talk about that aren't just about menial every day things... - What are your dreams, goals - What have you always wanted to do/try/see but haven't had the chance to yet and why - Do you have any pets? Does she? Talk about them! - Have you travelled? Where? For how long? Where has she been? Did she like it? Etc - You like to eat, right? I bet she likes to eat, too. Where are your favorite food places? Meals? Desserts? Foods to use during sex? After sex? Before sex? - Look around the room... notice unusual/interesting personal items or art and ask about them - Comment on what she is wearing; where did she get it? Why did she pick it? Tell her she looks amazing in it and why! Be detailed. All women loved to be noticed for something other than the obvious. - Is she wearing jewelry? Ask her details about it! - Do you have any tattoos? Does she? Talk about them - people loooove talking about their tattoos. My best advice would be to read or lookup some e/books about conversation and small talk. It just takes practice and creativity to think up questions or comments about your immediate environment or company. You could always just flat out tell her that you aren't great at making conversation and let her steer your dialogue. There's nothing wrong with a bit of sexy silence, too! Also, you may want to kind of create cliff-hanger conversations via PM here on CERB first, so that way you can pick up the conversation or reference it while you are talking. Bring up or talk about a wide variety of topics and you can grab at them later on while you are in person. Hope this helps sweety :)

Oh for sure, I can see how it would be detrimental to post that kind of thing on a public board. It's kind of a sticky situation though, because for new people like I was who do want to learn, I was too shy to really ask any of the SP's for help - I don't like being "a new girl" in any situation (school, neighborhood, etc) so I found it really intimidating. After all, I figured, why would any of these women care enough to help me, I am nobody to them yet! At least that was my thinking. Since I've been a part of the community now for some time, I know differently and that most of the SP's on here are actually very personable and nice, but I didn't know that when I was still green. I also don't like feeling like a burden on people, and my train of thought was that I would be an inconvenience to the SP who would take time out to speak with me. I tend to learn better by studying and reading, and that has helped me a bit in this business (Google is a great thing), however it can kind of only take you so far. If you have questions about being an SP there isn't always an answer Google is going to come up with. I guess I just wished there was some sort of guide that says step by step how to get started and how you can improve your business without having to inconvenience someone else. But I suppose if you are paying, it isn't really an inconvenience, is it! lol

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Hey Cat, I think this is a great thing to put together and kudos to you for even attempting it. Taking on a task of that magnitude would be daunting for any one person, you have some major cahones! The points you mentioned seem to be geared mainly towards hobbyists, but what about SP's? A how-to guide on how to even get started would be very cool, and something I looked for when I first started (and still!). I remember I had a LOT of questions, and was mostly too shy to reach out very much other than a few PMs and maybe a post or two. Not sure if you are interested in taking on that side of the equation or not (it's a big topic), but if so, some of my questions would have been: 1. How do you get started - where do you even start?! 2. How do you know it's the right kind of job for you? 3. How do you get things set up - how do you choose an incall location, how do you work finances (IE: THIS THREAD), how do I decide what to charge/what's fair pricing? 4. How do you screen calls and choose clients? 5. What do you do if things get nasty, or if a client becomes obsessive? Who do you reach out to, what if I'm scared to go to the cops? CAN I even go to the cops?! 6. How do I build a clientele? 7. How do I protect my pictures and info from being stolen? I guess at the end of the day, becoming an escort is the same as starting a small business venture but that can be confusing, and it's not exactly like most of us want to call up the Entrepreneur Center and ask. And if we did, there are a lot of intricacies around it that are specific to SP's. Most of us either have a mentor or figure things out by trial and error, but it would be really cool to have something put together for new girls who want to try being serious in this profession. I am proud of what we do, and it is my hope that the ones who play games and do sneaky things like bait and switch, or use fake pictures etc would take this career more seriously if there was a guide that said "You want to be one of us? It's all here." Of course, there will always be a few rotten apples in the barrel, but that will happen regardless of what industry you're in. I realize that some women may not like divulging trade secrets or whathaveyou... but I feel like if we share our resources we will become stronger as a unit. Maybe I am idealistic? lol. I dunno, just some thoughts...

Wow I definitely didn't mean for this to turn into a shit-slinging contest... Thanks for completely hijacking this thread and turning it into something it was never meant to be, PurpleHaze. This is now a game of pigeon chess, and honey, you're the pigeon. "Debating you is like playing chess with a pigeon - it knocks over the pieces, defecates on the board, and then struts around like it's victorious."

BAHAMASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Like the culture better. Sex with music or without?

"I like my men like I like my steak - thick and juicy" ... pretty much sums it up for me hahahaha