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[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Interesting food for thought from the [URL="http://www.utne.com"]UTNE Reader[/URL], sure to spark debate.[/FONT][/SIZE] [B][SIZE=3][URL="http://www.utne.com/Mind-Body/Pornography-And-Prudes.aspx"]Porno and Prudes[/URL][/SIZE] [/B] 3/12/2012 5:41:55 PM by Danielle Magnuson Tags: [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=Pornography"]Pornography[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=sexual%20intimacy"]sexual intimacy[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=feminism"]feminism[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=sex%20work"]sex work[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=mind%20and%20body"]mind and body[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=Sexual%20Addiction%20and%20Compulsivity"]Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity[/URL], [URL="http://www.utne.com/blogs/blog.aspx?blogid=28&tag=Danielle%20Magnuson"]Danielle Magnuson[/URL] Itâ??s out of vogue for girlfriends and wives to complain about their significant othersâ?? porn use, and a bride who asks her groom to forgo bachelor party strippers is universally seen as insecure and controllingâ??or at the very least an unrealistic simpleton. Only someone hopelessly outdated and provincial would turn away from Dan Savageâ??s advice to accept that itâ??s normal and healthy for people to want a variety of visual stimulus in their sexual repertoire. And yet, there are a few of us throwbacks who believe looking at pornography and paying for sex work are detrimental to relationships. Who ask our partner not just to limit strip club outings or keep porn use under discreet cover but to abstain from them altogether. See, Iâ??m already sounding like I wear my hair in a 1950s housewife updo and agree to nothing but once-a-month lights-out missionary position. Which is why it was gratifying to read in [B]Sexual Addiction & [/B][B]Compulsivity[/B] (Oct-Dec 2011) that research doesnâ??t exactly hold with the sophisticate theory that porn is wholly harmless to relationships:[INDENT] Menâ??s pornography viewing has been shown to be associated with unhealthy, less stable relationships.... For example, viewing pornography has been associated with (a) a decrease in relational sexual intimacy; (b) an increase in egocentric sexual practices aimed at personal pleasure and with little regard to the pleasure of the engaging partner.... Furthermore, men who frequently view pornography express a greater dissatisfaction with their partnerâ??s physical appearance, sexual performance, and sexual curiosity. [/INDENT][IMG]http://www.utne.com/uploadedImages/utne/blogs/Spirituality/garden-of-eden.jpg[/IMG] I realize that most modern feminists wouldnâ??t touch an anti-porn stance with a 10-foot stripper pole. Which makes it even more valuable to put this research out there and see if it jives with anyoneâ??s personal experience. Has a porn habit made your boyfriend less capable of attending to â??the pleasure of the engaging partnerâ?â??i.e., you and your orgasm and your overall sexual experience? Has it made one-on-one real-life sex with a real-life partner less rewarding for both involved? Some men â??prefer smut to real sex because while theyâ??re viewing porn, theyâ??re in control,â? explain [URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200508/you-me-and-porn-make-three"]therapists Barry McCarthy and Michele Weiner-Davis in [B]Psychology Today[/B][/URL]. No one elseâ??s feelings or desires need to be taken into consideration during solo sessions. As McCarthy says, â??Couple sex is much more complicated.â? In this era of the sexy feminist, where the liberated suburban mom takes pole dancing lessons, balking at pornography and sex work will certainly come across as prudish. But what Iâ??m hearing is that the more porn a man consumes, the less he and his partner will enjoy their real-life sex. And who wants that? The good news for couples, [I]Psychology Today[/I] reports, is that â??even a conflict over pornography, handled constructively, can improve a relationship.â? Which makes for a happy endingâ??for all. [B]Sources: [URL="http://www.tandf.co.uk/journals/titles/10720162.asp"]Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention[/URL][/B] (article not available online), [B][URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200508/you-me-and-porn-make-three"]Psychology Today[/URL][/B] [I]Image by [URL="http://www.flickr.com/photos/quinnanya/2948135719/"]quinn.anya[/URL], licensed under [URL="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/deed.en"]Creative Commons[/URL].[/I] Danielle Magnuson is an associate editor at [I]Utne Reader[/I]. Follow her on Twitter [I][URL="https://twitter.com/#%21/DnlMag"]@DnlMag[/URL][/I]. [LEFT][COLOR=#000000] Read more: [URL]http://www.utne.com/Mind-Body/Pornography-And-Prudes.aspx#ixzz1pbJEWD3F[/URL] [/COLOR][/LEFT]

Congratulations, Katherine, on ascending to Goddess status... an honour you are very deserving of. My apologies for being the last one to notice ( at least at the time of this writing! ;) ), but I haven't been on much this week. All the best to you in your future endeavours. FR

Supertramp - Oh Darling http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oMBMuGZnH5M

Thank-you Julianna, and welcome to the board! I'll offer a big warm hug to anyone in need as well. I'd really appreciate one, also! (I haven't been feeling well with this cold I'm now getting over.) It's good that one can share a hug in a way that's giving and receiving, all at the same time. Hugs all around! :)

Sophia, I don't think you are alone in NB with this situation. I can sympathise with your lament, and you've made a valiant attempt at stirring up some interaction. ;) Let's hear it for more member participation ... at least where more is needed! I think once one becomes a member of this board (as opposed to a visiting guest), there are both benefits and responsibilities of being a part of the community. Now, I'm not arguing that it's not every person's personal choice to choose how much of themselves and their lives they wish to share publicly (and with Vic ;)), but it's truly those members who share their stories, ask interesting questions, post recos, or just have fun in one of those silly song threads (there are so many options!), that make the board fun to return to again and again. Share just a tiny slice of your day, make someone smile, it will make you feel good and you may even win new friends. :) Doing so won't make Vic know where you live...well, actually, maybe. #tongueseriouslyincheek

You da man! Glad to hear you had a good one, Cato! ;) Must be middle-age onset Alzheimers... I posted this too hastily, forgetting I'd already done it before!

Congratulations on your amazing 2,500-post milestone, Emily. Keep 'em coming, and we'll keep readin'em! Now gonna check out those jokes... :smile:

Happy Birthday to you, Cato. Your dedication and contributions to this site are legendary! Wishing you a day full of the things you love. All the best and here's to many more!

I'm not one to reduce the female body to parts, but if I had to name some that are attractive to me: face and eyes, boobs, legs, and da bootie! Smiles, especially with the eyes, are a turn-on! The size of the boobies doesn't matter as much as their shape, the more perfect the curves, the sexier. HUGE 3Ds are not necessarily better than their smaller perky cousins. If I'm just gawking, I can admire pretty much anything, but If I'm sizing up whether I like the lady or want to talk to her, a face matters a lot to me, above all else. Volumes have been written about what makes an attractive face. I guess it must reveal something about personality and character at a subliminal level, and each person is different in what they like - and that's a good thing! :) And there are numerous non-physical traits in a woman that are more important, but that'd be a hijack attempt, I guess. :) #wordy_mode OFF To be continued...

Excuse the overkill on the title, but I went for the alliteration. Supposedly this is Victoria Beckham, but I can't positively ID her here. Looks like an iron test #fail for me on the last post. ;) As always, great work!

Happy Belated Birthday, Emma. Hope your day was all you wished for ... and more! Best wishes, health and happiness for you in the coming year! Something cute for you P.S. Oh... and I do hope I get an invitation to your next Sparkle Party! ;)

Aya Kiguchi, way hotter than Pokémon's Pikachu

Alyson Hannigan

Mmmmmmmmm...

Love those specs ;)

This nice pair is for MuscleHead, welcome to the board!

I was looking through a list of popular boy names from 1924 and this one is so not me - but I could be him for a day ;) Hyman Buster This made me nearly crack up - must've been the moment! Hope you didn't miss it. ;)

Congratulations! Well done, RG. You are an inspiration to all. Keep up the great work!