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Interesting that from an historical perspective Romance as a concept began with the chansons de geste of the 12th century - variants of heroic poems. It was all about the deeds and "courtoisie" to win the hand of the Fair Lady. Gifts and lady's favours. I would suppose the nearest now is simply the making of each other feel uniquely special when together. The tools may vary with our skills: some converse better than they can cook - I belong to the King Arthur school of baking for example, but can usually string a few sentences together. I am a traditional kind of person though, and like to hold the doors, be the best host I can, that sort of thing. In the end I do believe it comes down to the degree of "chemistry". Absent that "connection" or chemistry, any action or statement can be viewed with cynical eyes and thus look to be self serving. With a well suited coupe on the other hand, even the simplest of things - a shared cup of tea or coffee as above - can take on an aura of Romance and leave a deep and lasting impression. Now where is my White Charger and shining armour?..... CB

Which song was it that said: " Save a horse, ride a cowboy!" ? Sorry, it's Sunday and I haven't had enough coffee! CB

I believe from discussions with a reliable source, that seniors in residential homes in Germany get an financial allowance for sexual "services". Could anyone corroborate that?

"Freedom is a loose leash. Freedom is the license to be different.." Erica Jong 1994, Fear of Fifty. CB

Well deserved. Congratulations CB

Could you perhaps be an introspective extrovert? :icon_biggrin: CB

That you are!!! Slightly off thread - a book not an article, but try Honey Money: the Power of Erotic Capital, by Catherine Hakim from University of London (UK). She rather attacks the "classical" feminist world view as well as providing an interesting, well researched chapter on the topic from sex workers perspective. CB

Excellent site! The tempo for compressions - for those of us old enough - is the Bee Gee's "Stayin' Alive". :icon_rolleyes: On a sadder note, up to 27% of AEDs do not function when called upon! Still that's an 73% improvement over the alternative. It is well know that under conditions of uncertainty most people will look around hoping someone else will have a clue, so simply calling 911 is a huge leap. Great use for speakerphone technology. CB

The risks of BBBJ run both ways with this activity. There are cases in the medical literature of the recipients receiving a little more than they anticipated! Interestingly among young women, the risk of STI is lower with anal sex than with vaginal by a factor of two. However both are more risky by three and six times respectively if BB as compared with Covered. The only risk avoidance approach is abstinence :frown:: all else is risk management. The risks from safer practices are much lower. There are lots of other things we do that are way more lethal, say driving a car for example. CB

From Wrinkled.. "This was not a miscommunication thing - she stated that she intentionally phoned because I wasn't expecting it. In her mind, she firmly believed that she had proved something with this strategy." I suspect she may reduce her business somewhat unnecessarily by such an approach. Similarly, I am aware of a lady who, having been provided name and room number, called at a time when it was most unlikely the client would be there, simply to verify the hotel putting her through, and hence the client's existence. I am not sure either is foolproof or even useful, but in matters of comfort, it never ceases to surprise me the nature of some peoples' Reassurance Rituals. CB

There is one downtown hotel in our Nation's Capital which I cannot use anymore as I had an awful time with itching there. I did think it was the sheets at the time (Christmas past), but maybe now it was many-legged company!? :frown: CB

Wow! Well done Now I have other adequacy issues........:icon_rolleyes: CB

Honestly, I've stopped reading reviews. When I first came to the board I did, because I found them a way of sorting one SP's name from another in what felt, at the time, like a profusion of names. I use other criteria now to make an introduction and then decide how to proceed once a "channel" is open. I tend to agree with the posters who regard them in the same way as "locker conversations", although being the nerd at school, I tended to exclude myself from them for reasons of self-preservation! Despite the emphasis on Recommendations here - a feature I do find appealing - they can at best mislead and at worst still be hurtful. CB

There is now even a "school of thought" which would suggest formal education is simply societal conditioning as Einstein suggested. The subject makes for Very Heavy Reading though, full of big words and politics with a small "p". There are all kinds of intelligence, but the party-trick trivia (for the nervous teen like I was once) and the performing parrot style I see with some "graduates" are not demonstrations of it. Emotional intelligence, however, something rather neglected, may be of much more practical use. My Mum left school at 14, earned her living, raised a family and when she got old enough to have free time, went back to school and collected degrees for a hobby. She was studying law when she died! Maybe that's what did for her......? Don't ever confuse education with being smart. Belated Happy Easter to all, CB

Anxiety and "nerves" are signs of some emotional investment in the moment. In the absence of a little frisson from the adrenalin, we do not react or participate as fully as we would otherwise. For me, if there are no such physical signs of interest, the moment is passé and has become too mundane to extract the best of it. If that ever happens in this lifestyle I have more serious issues than the rendezvous at hand! On the other hand it is possible to go too far the other way and be paralysed or impaired by excessive anxiety. Fortunately for me, that has been something I have never had to manage. CB