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Hmmm, this is such an interesting question! But, you know, I often think a better questions would be "why do we consider some things fetishes (or obsessions, fixations, whatever), and not other things?" By which I mean, if I was really into bubble baths, rose petals and lighting candles as foreplay and felt they were really integral to my sexuality, that wouldn't get questioned or thought of as weird because the 'mainstream' thinks of those as typical and normal things for women to associate with sexuality. But, if I was in to whips, masks and gang-bangs, I would probably spend a lot of time feeling shame about that, trying to figure out how to get away from those or hide them, because the of how the 'mainstream' sees them. Really, I don't think rose petals are more or less inherently sexual than whips, I just think that most of us have internalized cultural ideas about sexuality and what is "normal". To me personally, I try not to worry as much about where my/our desires come from or how long we've had them. I think I'm more interested in pushing for space for everyone's desires to be accepted and seen as natural, as long as they're consensual and not harming to other people.

I've heard great things about the fleshlight, and they can be really fun to use together! I especially like the variety of inserts, like this one, for the sci-fi fans: http://www.fleshlight.com/alien/

I mean, I think it comes down to different strokes for different folks, really (pun definitely intended). I also prefer a longer session, but lots of people are looking for a quick lunch break or some stress relief, and if everyone involved in that encounter is happy with it, then I don't see it as a problem at all. Plus, i definitely see the allure of a quickie sometimes, and the fantasy of meeting someone sneakily between meetings or appointments for a quick and intense session of great sex seems really hot...

I love all those foods, but asparagus and garlic change your taste and make it much... stronger, heh. I think I'll stick to the other ones. Especially oysters! Yum!

I'm not sure if it's my favourite theme song, but the one that always gets stuck in my head is the song for CSI. It's pretty cool to have The Who sing your theme song :) This is the full version: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdLIerfXuZ4 "Whooooo are you? Who who? Who who?"

In my perfect world for a service provider, sex work would be valued as a legitimate job that takes skill, intuition and all kinds of smarts in order to succeed. Everyone would be able to work safely wherever and however they wanted, as long as they weren't harming others. All reasons for deciding to enter the industry would be considered valid (as long as it's a fully consensual decision, obviously), and anyone who wanted to leave the industry, for whatever reason would be fully supported in doing so and moving on. Elementary school teachers wouldn't be fired because of one naked picture of them found on the internet from 20 years ago. No one would be considered a bad mother/lover/partner/friend/person because they are a sex worker. People wouldn't be labeled as sex offenders because they enjoy giving and receiving pleasure for money, and clients wouldn't be made to feel like bad people for valuing a service and the service providers so much that they believe they're worth paying for. I'm sure a giant canopy bed and a never-ending collection of red lace underwear would be nice too, but anything more than what's above just seems like icing on the cake to me...

An update on the legal battle around bawdy-house laws, which will be before the supreme court in June. http://m.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/in-ontario-sides-line-up-as-battle-over-bawdy-houses-set-to-resume/article7508125/?service=mobile

Whoa! This looks amazing!

Mine was to stop wasting so much food, and so far, I haven't thrown out any groceries that I've bought in January!Have come up with a lot of creative ways to use leftovers, too. Mostly they involves chilis with mishmashed ingredients...

Wow, congratulations! That's amazing!!

If you know this person, I'd also recommend trying to connect them with some resources in the city they're in. Perhaps there's a sex worker's rights organization in the city, or a youth service that's sex worker friendly? (I know Maggie's, POWER, and Stella would all fit under this description or have knowledge of other applicable resources). I've worked with a lot of youth, and while the cops or child welfare agencies are sometimes really great and helpful, sometimes they're not (especially depending on the city), and it's very possible that this person might need someone else around for support. Without that support, it's very possible that she might end up just turning to much less safe and less regulated ways of working if she feels like she's losing her only source of income, and end up feeling like she has to take much greater risks with her body and push her own boundaries a lot. On another note, I don't think it's very likely I'd ever be mistaken for under 18, but if asked I don't think I would be comfortable showing my ID because it has lots of personal information about me that I'm not generally comfortable sharing with clients. Does anyone know of another way for SPs to verify their age?

Rainbow trout with mango-pine nut-mushroom "salsa", steamed artichoke with a parmesan garlic dip, and a roasted potato. Yum!

I really love orchids and sunflowers. They brighten up a room so well!

Yes, totally. The clitoris is actually way bigger than what most people know as the clitoris and the nerves go pretty deep for some people. So for some women, they actually technically get "clitoral" stimulation through anal sex (or vaginal sex). Definitely not everyone though! Also, the g-spot is on the front wall of a vagina, and the wall that separates your vagina from your anal canal is pretty thin (i really wish there was a sexier word for anal canal, but anyways...). So for women who have particularly big or sensitive g-spots, they sometimes get g-spot stimulation from anal sex and can orgasm that way. On a side note, the human body is pretty incredible and the more I read about ways people have orgasms, the more mystified I am! Like, some people who have spinal cord injuries and have lost all feeling below the waist develop the ability to have orgasms from other erogenous zones being stimulated, like nipples or neck or behind the ear. I think that's amazing!

Well, I can say for sure that it definitely exists in at least one woman on the board :p I do think that most people with vaginas probably have g-spots, but like everything, it feels good for some people and not for others. I definitely don't think it's the magic button that Cosmo makes it out to be, where you finally find it and push once and then you're guaranteed a lifetime of orgasms like you've never had before! Heh, if only...

I am a huge weekend brunch fan, and love to get fancy! Today, I cooked with a friend and made a spicy garlic potato hash with mushrooms and onions, topped with grated aged cheddar, sun-dried tomato chutney, and two poached eggs. Coffee on the side :). Mmmmm!

The we-vibe salsa is my favourite! It's super powerful and small and rechargeable, and comes in red, my favourite colour :). I also love anything made by Lelo, they're all really amazing well-made toys that last for a long time and have a ton of functions.

My first jobs was as a camp counsellor at 16, which I actually really liked, aside from the fact that it was a camp with no money and pretty hard to figure out how to entertain 60 kids for 40 hours a week on literally no budget! One of my funniest jobs was working at an office that ran a bunch of vintage stores, where I somehow ended up with the job of finding and ordering mass amounts of russian communist pins and old issues of playboy. I'm sure my name is still flagged at the border for being a porn-loving commie. Heh.

Wow! That's fascinating!

Heh I think an active imagination is an excellent quality in a man! But unfortunately I don't offer free training sessions, and if I did I think that someone's tongue would remain only in their cheek ;). I think it'd be much more pleasant to upgrade and pay for the full workout session with a lovely "fitness" guru.

You know, often when I tell people what I do for a living, I get asked questions like these. I'm not sure why, but many people seem to think this job is scandalous and fascinating :p, and want to know all the details. Like many others have said, I find these questions uncomfortable and a little too personal, so I often point them towards the countless articles, books and memoirs that have been written by people in the industry who are happy to talk about all these sorts of things publicly, and reveal the incredible variety of experiences that people have. Many will probably answer a lot of your questions, too!

Ha, of all the problems to have, this is not a bad one! If you're really concerned, this book gives you a tongue workout regime designed for going down! http://www.amazon.ca/The-Low-Down-Going-Mind-Blowing/dp/0767916573 Or you could just keep "exercising" the fun way... I'm sure you'll find no shortage of workout buddies ;)

Wow, this is a hard decision! I am not a parent, but I do have a few gay and lesbian friends who have had to be creative in the ways they conceive children, and therefore a lot of their kids have ended up with birth-moms and spuncles who aren't regularly in their lives in the way a parent would be. I've seen a lot of beautiful and loving relationships develop between these people and the children they helped bring in to the world, so I definitely think it's possible to have this sort of arrangement and make it work! I would say the key for people I know seems to be that going in, they don't have an expectation of ever being a father or mother, per se, but more look forward to being an uncle, close friend, godafther-type person and think they can be happy playing that role. I think if you can know that you might not be that involved in this child's life, but still be happy, then it might be a good idea, but if there's some part of you that's really hoping you'll get to be a really present father-figure, it might be really hard when you can't be. I actually had a friend ask if I would be a surrogate for them and their partner in a few years (I'm still not sure!), but for me, the questions that I always come back to are "Do I think they'll love their kid and be a good parent?", "Will I be okay if I never develop a strong relationship with the kid?", and "Do I trust myself to be able to stick to some strong boundaries?". Hope this helps! xo Audrey

I love Scrabble and Scattergories!

Thanks everyone for being the sweetest! xo