backrubman

I'd have to say that I would be leery of a single residence like a house at a particular address or anywhere is it difficult to come and go without looking like you really belong there, so a busy hotel or even apartment building with lots of parking but apartment buildings are troublesome in that you have to get buzzed in so anything that can be done to make that as quick and easy is appreciated. Once there (incall) fresh towels and shower facilities are a must, optional but nice is anything that lets me know you did anything to prepare (i.e. some soft music, perhaps a scented candle). Of course even more important, it's not the where but who. I don't have a lot of recent experience. Probably twenty years since it wasn't a hotel, but I remember the lady met me at a near by restaurant, took me to her apartment which was nicely set up, all the closet doors were open and during a tour of the entire apartment she closed them and she did everything to make me feel as safe and secure she could. I think this one is pretty easily figured out if you turn it inside out, upside down and backwards. Imagine if you will that you are the client going to see you, you'd recognize right away what might be deficient in your location or ambiance.

Welcome! I really like to see someone new introduce them self and hope you will find CERB as useful, helpful and wonderful as I have. I can relate to not living in a hot spot; while I do get to travel a lot sometimes, when I am not travelling my home town doesn't have a single lady, but like you we do get a few visitors from time to time. Actually you are more fortunate in this regard than me as Ottawa is within reach for you and is certainly one of the most hottest of spots there are - something for everyone to be found there and some of the finest ladies to be found anywhere. Pleased to make your acquaintance.

Or when you buy something and they can't desensitize the EAS tag after numerous attempts, so they just tell me to go through anyways and set the darn thing off for a 4th or 5th time. I always very politely but firmly refuse and insist that I must leave the store without setting the alarm off, and suggest they then follow and hand me my merchandise outside the store. If they won't comply with this simple request then I ask where the returns counter is and return the item(s) I just purchased for a refund - errr! Oddly happened just the other day and I returned the item - no sale.

Couldn't agree more with what you say, I was an RMT and I know how picky (not the right word for sure but it will do) they are. That said, even if (heaven forbid) her registration is revoked by some so called do good-ers, she can still keep the diploma (they can't take that away from her) and she'll still get lots of extra business (not covered by insurance) as the sexy version will sell better than the insurance covered RMT version. In fact she'll take away lots of business from RMTs that are bound by the canons of ethics and this is why they will do their best to take her down if they find out. I checked her web site and reviews and to say I am impressed is an understatement. Yes, until now every time some asks about an RMT that offers something more the answer is always no; she has been cautioned as to the hazards, appears to understand and accept them and wants to break new ground and I say it's about time and can only admire her for this. The world needs it change it's attitude here and I can only hope the time is right.

It's going to depend on your particular brand of broadband router and if your desired FTP client is using PASV mode if you can do this. FTP has some special considerations because of the nature of the old Internet FTP protocols. The bottom line is that you might well be better off using a DMZ to facilitate access to an FTP server rather than attempting to open specific ports. The rest of this message gets very geeky. FTP modes FTP typically has two modes of operation: The original mode, sometimes called "active" these days, looks like this: the client computer opens a connection, called the "Control connection", to the server on port 21. In order to receive data from the server, the client sends a command to the server on this control connection and specifies the data it wants and the port to which should be delivered. Then the server actually initiates a connection back to the client at the ports specified (the server uses port 20 on its own system for this connection, but the port on the destination system is determined by the client. that can be any port in the range of 1024 to 65,535.) When the client uses this mode, the server only needs to receive connections on port 21, so forwarding only port 21 is sufficient for that. The typical problem that resulted from this mode of operation was that a client would be operating behind a router or a firewall, and so would not be able to receive a return connection properly. "Passive" (PASV) mode solves this problem for the client: When passive mode is used, the client sends the command on the control connection that was established in port 21 as before; but, now the server sends back the port number (again, anywhere in the range of 1024 to 65,535) on which it will receive a data connection from the client. In this mode, it is the client that opens the data connection, and the server that is responsible for selecting the port to use and making sure that port is open on its local network. So, for a server to work with a client running passive mode, you would need to forward ports 20-21 and 1024-65535. Some routers, such as the LinkSys, allow you to set up a range of ports to be forwarded; on those is fairly easy to forward all those ports. (In addition the LinkSys offers a very sophisticated feature called "Port triggering" which lets you open selected ports to a specific server based on which server opened a connection on another port, which can be useful if you are trying to run more than one FTP server behind the same LinkSys router.) However, on some routers (including the Airport Base Station) it is not that easy. Since so many clients use PASV mode FTP these days, the result is if you are running an FTP server for others to use, either forward ports 20-21 and 1024-65535, or use the DMZ facility of the router to forward everything to the server.

Yes and I hope Katrine didn't get the wrong idea from my caution. In my time as an RMT the College of Registered Massage Therapists including most all of their members (i.e. other RMTs with the possible exception of me and a few others) were constantly scanning and looking everywhere for this because of their resentment towards, and issues with, anyone that would not be a "professional" like them. Having said that I know there is considerable interest in this! The question has often been asked by someone looking for an RMT that offers what an RMT can't. If she can find her way with this then she will have a most lucrative business with lots of interest and the world will beat a path to her door. And in my opinion as someone that did the full, hard, long and expensive course is that she deserves great praise and congratulations for becoming an RMT. In my "professional" opinion there is absolutely nothing wrong with this and everything right about it as long as the client is clear who they are seeing and what they are getting. Unfortunately, it does require being a secret double agent and this should not be the case. As for ideas (the real question) I guess I'd have lots; becoming an RMT quite literally changed my life in so many ways. While I was taught how not to get the client aroused, by extension I then knew just how to get the client aroused :) So many people need an RMT and also enjoy seeing an MA and combining the two, I say yes! I hope this is finally possible. I wish you nothing but success with this Katrine, you are to be congratulated for your achievement.

Yeah, never to the two shall meet (RMT and MA/MP). Once you are a member of the College of Registered Massage Therapist you are bound by their ethics. If you took courses anything like I did, a considerable amount of time and material was with regard to draping and how not to arouse the client and how to quickly handle this if this does occur. CMTO does have a strict code of ethics and if they became aware of anything outside them you could be subject to discipline and have your RMT status revoked. I know this as I was a member but never did practice, I took the course and on completion became an RMT, well kind of by "accident" many years ago. Yes, it was a LOT of work and a LOT of time, money and effort but to me it was fun and something totally unrelated to my line of work at the time. It seemed that every year the annual fee went up and as had no intention of ever earning a living as an RMT I eventually didn't renew. I know how much work it is to become an RMT having done it and I'd hate to see that wasted so please be ever so careful there. There is (or was in my day, some years ago now) even a lot of resentment within the RMTs towards anyone that would offer a massage and not be an RMT, and as you must know a massage provider that does not know what they are doing can do a lot of harm (a lot more harm than good) and make an old injury much worse.

I'm going to accept that you say I am "nuts" as a supreme compliment! There are good nuts and bad nuts. As I was careful to point out, I don't think 100% compensation for less than 72 hours notice is either "appropriate" or even "affordable" for everybody but that's MY PERSONAL POLICY AND I'M STICKING TO IT: I have to know in my heart that my cancellation absolutely in no way had any financial impact on or affected in any negative way those supreme, gracious, generous, kind, understanding and wonderful lady's that would choose to take up this most honorable (and often challenging) profession. As as I'm not the one hour or less type, my block booking that has to be cancelled could do considerable damage but never will do any damage at all given that this is my policy. Saying that "no one needs that much notice, not even doctors or dentists." implies that you elevate these doctors and dentist as more professional and above your opinion of service providers and think they are more important people? I disagree. Service providers do what is unfortunately sometimes a very difficult job. But using this analogy, just try booking a Doctor or Dentist for 4 or 5 hours (if you even could) and then see how upset they get when you cancel. Please don't take this as any disrespect to you as truly none is intended, we're all friendly here, have a right to our own opinions (me included) and I'm just explaining why I am "nuts" :) People have every right to agree with me or not.

Couldn't agree more. The way I look at it is she may have turned down other clients because of my block booking (I'm not the one hour or less type) so if I don't give her full compensation or 3 days notice I can never be sure I didn't cause her a financial loss. But MAs are different than SPs and the OP was I think referring to a MA appointment.

Alright that did it -- I guess that's my new fantasy (no harm in that, right?) Pretend the lady forgot about our appointment and went shopping and that you are the cleaning lady but invite me in anyways :)

I always go with full reimbursement if I have to cancel anytime less than 72 hours before a scheduled appointment, but I'm by no means saying that is "appropriate" or even affordable. I think only you can decide this one. I suppose any amount is thoughtful and considerate. Maybe just ask her opinion, if she doesn't have one (or expect this) than any amount is going to be appreciated. Hope your knee is going to be okay.

Couldn't agree more mrgreen760. The less makeup the better, as little as she is comfortable with (including no make up at all is fine with me but might not be with her). Last time I used the "jeans and a T-Shirt" remark the lady was surprise, surprise dressed in jeans and a T-Shirt and after a while she said, "Would you mind if I change into something more comfortable, I hate wearing jeans", oops! What I really meant to tell her was please make no special preparations for me, just what she is more comfortable with. In fact, I'd have to say that if she wears whatever she would (including PJs if that's what she's comfortable in) just like she would if she wasn't going to see anyone today then that is just right (for me). I could care less about sexy attire and makeup but I do also respect that for some gentleman that's important to them, it's probably just as important to me that there not be sexy attire and too much makeup. But of course some ladies won't be seen in public without their makeup and feel much the same way when they are meeting someone so I can respect that also of course.

Nothing at all? It's hard to imagine a circumstance where this would be appropriate to me. But I'll try; perhaps if it was a regular client who previously expressed a desire (not a request for this particular visit -- I suppose that would take the fun out of it) to have this happen. Once I had to cancel at the very last minute (no choice, life does that to us sometimes) and I sent a delivery service with a sealed envelope. Guess the delivery guy (or gal) would be in for a shock :) Of course in this case I was able to contact the lady and give her the bad news and advise her to accept a delivery shortly. Interestingly, the response I got was "Yeah, sure, not likely, whatever, thanks for nothing you !$%!%!^$!$#!" But as impolite as this was, I was the one that had to cancel so I still sent the full amount (only fair) and on later reflection was glad life had intervened as she wasn't the girl for me (from her reaction, profanity and short fuse). Of course I got a profuse email apology after the package did arrive and many lucrative offers from her after that but if she has that short a fuse she wasn't for me so we never did meet.

Congratulations Katherine! CERB is made up of the most wonderful group of friendly, helpful, knowledgeable and compassionate people that I have ever discovered gathered together in one place and while I value each and every contribution from everyone, it is clear that there is a smaller, very elite group of special people that make this site as wonderful as it is. Katherine is clearly in this elite group.

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It's clearly dying (but not dead while I am still alive). Of course I still hold the door for people, that's just being courteous and not what I would call "chivalry". The only time I get to practice my brand of gentleman like chivalry is when I am accompanying my wife, girlfriend or female companion somewhere. If they are traveling with me I am their protector, bodyguard, porter, chauffeur and I like to take responsibility for their safety and comfort. One thing that at first amazes a girl that doesn't know me is that I open the car door (as well as every other type of door) both when she is getting in or out of my car. How often do we see that these days? I also see to her seating at a restaurant before I am seated, take her coat and return it when it's time to leave helping her put it on. Girls just aren't used to that anymore it is so rare but they still take to it well, almost always saying something like "Thanks, I could get used to this" and when I run around to the passenger side of the car, I am looking around to make sure it is safe for her to exit (no ice or large puddles) or any other hazards, I then like to take the lady by the hand or arm and walking along I am certain to point out anything along the way she may not have noticed like a curb or another other obstacle she could trip over. I do enjoy being a man and looking out for the comfort and safety of my female companion, but I only get to do this when it is my wife, girlfriend or CERB companion (e.g. to do this for a female co-worker could be misinterpreted). Wait a minute, he has a wife, a girlfriend and sometimes a CERB companion? Yes, my wife is disabled (but I still opened the car door for her before she became disabled) and often encourages me to "get a girlfriend" or "see someone". So I take it light on the girlfriends (she is married also so we don't spend as much time together as we'd like) and I also travel. Even though my wife often nags me to "get a girlfriend" or "see someone" and even being understanding enough to suggest a "professional" companion once or twice as a birthday present, she doesn't need to know about it as it would just make her feel more inadequate than she already does. That's chivalry also.

Yeah and I phrased that wrongly. I should have put more emphasis on the "if I didn't care but I do". I would never blame the lady even if she is less than perfect in her due diligence. I'm just looking for a foolproof way of preventing this where perhaps none exists.

Exactly, and I would do this and it proves it is me. But what if the guy impersonating me doesn't? (because he obviously can't) Then I'd take the stance that this is then the lady's fault for not PMing me to verify it is me (because I have no way of knowing this is going on) if I didn't actually care but I do care. Thanks again roamingguy!

Yes, to their credit I've also seen a few sites that say something to the effect "If my rates change you WILL get this rate shown "here" as it is shown at the time of booking". I think this good practice also. But you are very right, this is very "disconcerting" for the client if there is any significant difference and they could feel cheated or it could lead to some other unpleasant misunderstanding. If the lady is technically able to publish a rate then she should update it immediately if it needs to change. There are a lot of expenses to running such a business (or any business) that many clients don't even think or know about. But make no mistake this is a business and I can't think of any business that wouldn't be held to respect their published rates. Similarly, quotes should be valid for 30 days :)

- and - Of course you are both very right. That's why I referred to SPs as "professional friends", but of course a far better distraction than your regular friends :) and a much better (and healthier) distraction than turning to alcohol, drugs or any other self destructive behaviors. Only time can heal the wounds from a breakup and then I'm not sure ever completely. I know when I am having a particularly bad day I often think of my next visit with a nice SP and it helps to get through the day with no intention of dumping my problems on her when I do see her, I look at it as more a time to relax and forget my troubles and the world outside that room completely. I remember once when someone was red faced mad, yelling, trying to pick a fight with me -- I knew they were in the wrong and could have easily got my back up and was just in the mood for a good punch up but then I thought of my appointment a few hours away and just smiled at them. I guess part of the point I was trying to make earlier is that I see SPs no different than Doctors, Dentist or Lawyers -- They are very necessary professionals (and most very professional indeed) who we may need to see from time to time. Which leads to one final point: I really think it is neat that they are discreet by definition and don't cross over into our personal lives. Once I was sitting in a restaurant with some regular friends and my Doctor walked over and started discussing my health and how I was doing, similarly on another occasion an SP I knew walked by and smiled at me knowingly (just ever so slightly) but didn't invade my real world life, so she was more discreet and professional than the Doctor and I do expect and appreciate this from an SP. They are true professionals in every sense. But I agree, anyone that thinks this can cross over from being a "professional friend" to being a regular friend will "run into problems" as roamingguy said. I didn't meant to imply otherwise.

I don't think so. It was an interesting topic very worthy of opinions and discussion. Thanks for bringing it up! Hopefully someone in a similar circumstance to yours (or hers) will come across this thread someday and and benefit from the content.

That's an excellent question and I think the answer has to be YES! When someone is going though a difficult time (for whatever reason) they might rely on their friends or perhaps they go see a psychologist for advice. The SPs I've met are complete professionals and probably understand more about the real world than many psychologists do. They are non judgmental, comforting and wonderful companions. After a relationship ends they can help someone restore their sexual confidence also. I guess what I am trying to say is it is probably as good or better therapy than any other kind of professional can provide, at perhaps a similar price and a lot more fun. I consider them to be professional friends but there is much more of a dynamic going on here that is difficult to describe, perhaps someone else feels the same and is better at articulating their thoughts. I find the ones I've met to be really neat, cool, wonderful people in every way. Spending some time with such a wonderful person when you are down for whatever reason has to be helpful.

LOL. Even the most top shelf SPs are less expensive than getting married :) Trust me on this one: I was a divorce lawyer in a former life. Seriously though, this is his first post, Welcome! There are lots of beautiful, kind, wonderful ladies who do offer these kinds of services and will be more than willing to bust your balls if that is what you are into and you ask them nicely. Shouldn't be hard to find and nothing to be embarrassed about. I would caution that wanting is often better than having, but oddly that rule doesn't always apply to these kicky (word used in the most respectful way) activities -- strange but true.

Well said Lee. The only thing I forgot to add is that a true gentleman would not discuss what he knows about this with ANYONE (e.g. coworkers, buddies, wife, girlfriend). It may be (as unfortunate as it would be) that someone else will come upon this knowledge someday and not be so discreet (which the OP has no control over except though total silence and that's not much but it is the very best he can do) but the best thing I can think of is taking this secret to my grave and being as far away from playing any part in her eventual outing if that were to occur. And if it does someday occur, I'd even avoid the "I already knew" kind of comment and in fact have no comment at all other than "So what? Not our business".

I agree with everyone else: tempting (to you), but I'd say nothing and do nothing because I'd think about her feelings first and how she might be embarrassed to have her side line business discovered within the work place. I'd just let it go and keep her secret a secret. Someone else might discover it someday but to me being discreet and truly keeping a secret for a lady is part of being a real gentleman.