Kathryn Bardot

And that is exactly the problem. A mandatory minimum is not a choice. Nor is it accessible for everyone.

Cat, you said: And then went on to say that the advocates speak from a level of priviledge and don't understand the hardships faced by those with less priviledge. However, with the minimum pricing you are suggesting, that in its very self doesn't take into consideration the less priviledged workers you claim to understand. Do you really think it fair to dictate a minimum price that *ALL* providers must adhere to? The street-based workers, the workers who would be excluded from working for a third-party due to past legal problems or addiction/mental health issues or immigrant status, the workers who only wish to work part-time, the workers who are on the "edge" of society's idea of what constitutes the norm for gender expression or body type or sexuality, the workers who want to "only" provide X and Y services, but not Z services? You are not advocating protection for those workers. You're advocating a tiered system that would only feed into the stigmatization and marginalization faced by workers. And yes, I do believe we should be advocating from the position of and consideration for the less priviledged because historically they have been the ones to bear the majority of the criminalization, stigmatization, and marginalization compared to other sectors within the sex trade. Additional Comments: Alright, I can make comparisons all night: If Sally wants to start babysitting and offers her services for $5/hr, and Jimmy, Sue, and Polly all have been babysitting for a number of years, is it then fair for the three of them to dictate Sally's prices? What if Sally has no experience, but the other three do? What if Sally comes from a single-family home and understands that not all families come from the same socio-economic backgrounds as the other three children? Your experience is different from mine. That doesn't make it any more or less valid, and doesn't mean you are a fountain of wisdom that trumps mine every time. We are coming at this from different angles, the only difference is that you are only considering the indoor workers, and yes, that would be *more* priviledged workers. Including other providers, who do so out of motivation for their own interests. Saying that we need to protect these poor, disadvantaged women who don't know what they are getting into is really invalidating and infantilizing. Provide guidance should people wish to access those support services, but don't presume to know what is best for everyone or what everyone "should" do. By dictating a mandatory minimum, which, let's face it, would come from the position of an indoor worker, you would be sentencing those who cannot command those prices to work illegally, unsafely, and in the darkness. That is not protecting those providers.

You can't look at this business as a by-the-hour salary. We don't work eight hours a day, five days a week. The time and money that goes into replying to message boards, replying to emails, posting ads, taking phone calls, self-care/hygiene, photo shoots, the cost of maintaining an incall or transportation to outcalls, website upkeep, travel costs for touring etc. eats into that "per hour" figure as well. This business also ebbs and flows, and there are downtimes that balance out busy periods. We don't have sick time or vacation pay. Yes, this can be a very touchy subject, especially when there are assumptions made. Additional Comments: 1. They're not "selling themselves". We sell a service, not our bodies. Let's not use the same language abolitionist groups use when creating moral panic and conflating human trafficking with sex work. 2. "Too cheap" -- according to whom? There are many reasons why someone chooses to set their rates at what they are, and quite honestly, it's not up to us to judge. There is no regulatory board that oversees our industry. To some people, my rates can be "too high" or "too low". To that, I say that is none of your business. It's MY business. My rates have increased since I started in this business, as I figured out what my expenses were and how often I wanted to work. They are at a price-point which allows me to see the clients I want to see while maintaining a modest lifestyle and going to school. It has afforded me some opportunities I wouldn't ordinarily have, like buying my first car, but at the same time, I don't feel I am living an extravagant lifestyle (it was a great deal on a used car). There is always going to be someone with lower rates or higher rates than you. That is how this business, and all businesses work. Stop looking at other providers and comparing yourself to them; concentrate on your own self. It's not a matter of "s/he's stealing clients from me", IMHO, but rather "what am *I* doing to attract and retain clients?" 3. Let's not make assumptions about what a "lower" price-point implies, especially when it's making potentially stigmatizing and dangerous statements about having a pimp or drug addiction. We don't know their situation. I'm honestly quite surprised that this thread is still going on, just as I was surprised to see in another thread a provider pose the question of someone she had never met being underage. Statements like the ones in this thread have the possibility of impacting someone else's business and well-being, and not in a good way.

With respect, I really don't understand what the first part of your post has to do with this thread. Yes, sadly, there exists exploitation and harms within the industry; however, there exists the same within any other industry. I don't see why this was brought into the conversation.

It really is as simple as "be prepared"... Or would you rather ask for change, and watch ten minutes of your session together be devoted to the provider having to get out her purse/wallet, hoping that she has the change? The awkward conversation if she doesn't? Congratulations, you just cock-blocked yourself ;)

Cleo Catra also offers this service. :)

I have food sensitivities, so I'm very mindful of how what I eat can have an effect on how I feel, both mentally and physically. I altered my diet a while back and mainly stick to protein, vegetables, and some fruit, and gluten-free carbs.

I couldn't agree more ;) Chemistry is very important to me, which is why I will only offer duos with ladies I have met before; that way, we know that we are compatible so that everyone gets to have a fun time!

I think you mean transgender, rather than transsexual. It's a little more inclusive, and less medicalized. https://www.glaad.org/reference/transgender Additional Comments: Well, firstly, let's not make assumptions about what the "majority" wants. What you find completely normal may seem strange to someone else, so let's not be judgypants about sexual partners or activities. Secondly, the gender of the person is being revealed; they identify as a woman, and their gender identity is female. Gender and sex are two different things. Someone's sex is their classification at birth, generally based on their genetic makeup and internal/external reproductive organs. And thirdly... what is a "real" woman? What is a "real" man? Is it our sexual organs? Our genetic makeup? Whether we act in a way that conforms to society's ideas about what is feminine and what is masculine? I'll stop with the rambling, here's some fun pictures :)

The cake is a lie ;) Sleeping naked or in pjs?

I use gmail. Are you still not getting PM notifications?

I didn't get a few notifications yesterday morning, but it seems to have resolved itself for me now.

I am also sorry I missed the social, I had a little snugglebeast of a dog who was not feeling well after routine vaccinations. I hope everyone had a great time!

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I use professional photographers, because my photos don't show my face or most of my tattoos, and it can also be a really fun experience! All of my shoots have been with other ladies, and we make a day out of it.

I have a small army of suds in my bathroom -- I try to keep a stock of well-known brands as well as unscented body washes, and am happy to hang on to a guest's preferred brand :)

From my understanding, the ruling was based on the fact that the woman consented to protected sex. Poking a hole in the condom means that the woman was then exposed to bodily fluids, hence the charge of exposure to bodily harm. A different scenario from the one you proposed, which would be handled differently.

My home has a no-pants rule. However, I also don't wear pants when company is over, so my classiness knows no bounds... I drink from the bottle. I often eat with my hands, and it is particularly pleasing to lick my fingers. Lately, I am often covered in dog fur, dog kisses, and dog farts. He snores in bed, too. It's a good thing he's adorable and likes to snuggle under the blankets.

I suppose it depends on what you mean by domination, but here are some suggestions for you: Nathalie Lefebvre offers sensual domination with strap-on. Cleo Catra offers GFE strap-on, but no domination. I also play with a strap-on. Good luck in your search!

I can definitely relate... Do what is best for you & your health. Big hugs, and yoga soon ;)

I personally don't like the term "john" because it implies that all clients are male.

I can't stand this video, and it seems to be making its way around the internet again. It's incredibly problematic, and conflates trafficking with sex work. This article does a really good job at explaining it: http://eithnecrow.wordpress.com/2013/09/01/why-this-video-needs-to-fuck-off/