Julianna

I think when you truly fall in love with someone, you fall in love with THEM as they are. I don't see how certain behavior, especially something that is sexual in nature, should change my opinion of someone I am in love with. Society puts a lot of heaviness on sex, and in all honesty it is something fun and beautiful that is completely human nature. I'm not here to judge how anybody else thinks or believes, I just think people in general need to loosen up a little bit, and smell the roses. Men and women like variety, clearly or else why are we all here? If everyone would come together and be honest with each other, imagine all of the beautiful open sex we could all have, and how much happier and more connected we could all be... Joke. Maybe that's what happens in heaven and that's why we're all naked :icon_lol:

Best Sushi in town is Sun Sushi on Duckworth. They deliver to Delta too ;) Enjoy St. John's it's awesome! Eh Buy

Happy Birthday Porthos! A special day for a special man ;)

My Cerb Goddess of the Day (and year ;)) is Emily Rushton. She is a beautiful woman inside and out and carries herself with the utmost class. A true beauty!!

Knob and bollocks hahahaha hilarious. WHY would someone put it up their nose...YUCK Funny post though

Who knows right? Either way I'm living everyday like it's my last ;)

Yes. That is totally scary. Especially with a SO around. I'm sorry you had to go through that, that is unfortunate. I personally would do the acknowledging nod (that nobody would see) and maybe hop onto another machine for 5 minutes, and gracefully exit to return another time. I'm sure my client at this point would be having a slight heart attack, so I will save him the nerves and leave ASAP.

You're the one who said you "don't understand" how other SP's do certain things, I am merely explaining it to you from a different point of view, in hopes you might see everyone is in fact different. I didn't "condemn" you for anything, I don't know you. I merely see what and how you wrote things. I got "offended" (which was a bad choice of words on my part, my apologies, I think "in disagreement" would be more correct) because you blatantly said you can't understand how other SP's do it in such a condescending air that it really merited a response. As for twisting things....PLEASE...I used your own words I didn't twist anything...I merely made an observation from the things that you wrote. Call me a hypocritical bitch for all I care, I said what I needed to say because you "didn't understand"...I'm explaining it to you. My gosh...if this is what you call someone getting upset...you're putting emotions on me that I do not feel for you. You have never met me, and don't know what me upset looks like. It takes MUCH MUCH more then a cerb post. If I was so upset...I would most likely have PM'd you, but since I wasn't upset in the least I just explained some of the questions you seem to NOT UNDERSTAND. Also I never said being with another woman is wrong...WHATEVER makes people happy is great. Been there, done that got the T-shirt. Sex is a beautiful thing with one person, two people or more ;). I don't judge what other people do in their bedroom and I hope people don't judge me for mine. I never said anything about your kissing, or mine for that matter. I'm sure you're a wonderful provider and perform your services in whatever way you are comfortable. You definitely did NOT only talk about yourself...you CLEARLY spoke of other people's choices, and other people found the things you said quite condescending as well... You can keep your hug frankly...because I don't think I sounded upset in any way shape or form. Stop talking down to people like you know everything. Give me a hug? Come on... Like I always say: Don't DISH it if you can't TAKE it. You said right from the beginning of your post that people might get offended...you must of been expecting something. I think I rebutted your comments in a calm manner and NEVER spoke down about you or the choices you made. I merely had a problem with the way you spoke about OTHER people's choices.

I think that asking how one could allow their partner to "sleep around" and pretty much judging other ladies who do have partners is quite offensive. First of all nobody tells me what I am and am not allowed to do. You claim to say that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I don't see how providing an opinion about other SP's lives will get you anywhere. This thread is discussing YOUR opinion of personal relationships and working as an SP. Giving an opinion about YOUR life is great but beware of blatantly disagreeing and putting down other who live differently. This would be why you might feel the need to get defensive. "I simply don't understand a "man" wanting his partner to be with orther men,but to each their own." So not only are you putting "man" in quotations (I don't understand what you are saying, and to not assume the worst that you are saying that a man who does is less of a man) but stating you don't understand. I don't know who asked you, frankly. If you can't do it fine, but as being an SP in a relationship, and a very comfortable one at that, I find it quite offensive, and I rarely get offended. So now not only are you trying to "understand" how other SP's do it, but you are judging the men they are with?!?!?! How can you even come close to understanding, especially in that mindset. "I don't know how someone can do this and maintain a personal relationship,since this business involves sex,how can one person become that aroused?" Me personally I find the more sex I have the hornier I get. Sure some days I am tired and I communicate so, but this is rare. Sex is sex. It is fun, and the more open of a mind you keep about it, the more you will enjoy it. That is my philosophy. I meet my clients with a positive attitude, and thus receive the same from them. Some days I have 4-5 orgasms in a day. That is the perks of my job. "I mean if you are intimate with your partner,then meet with another gentleman or two or three that day I don't understand how one can become genuinely aroused with each man.Perhaps my labido is lower than most(however I don't think so) or are some just great actresses?" How is this not judgmental in the least??? To explain to you HOW I will say that once I am in a state of arousal, an orgasm does not render me not wanting anymore. Once I am in a state of arousal it actually makes my time with clients better. I am "hornified" so to speak. Any orgasms after the first one come faster and easier. If you can't imagine this, maybe you do have a lower libido...Are you saying that your not acting? Yes I will admit I provide a fantasy, and I completely put myself in that role. It's not a big secret that you must "out" us "actresses" on. It doesn't mean I'm "faking" it as you're trying to say, but I put myself in the "Julianna" mindset. I think we are complex human beings, and being an SP lets me play out my "naughty" side. We have many different sides to us. We all have different roles that we play in life. When I'm doing my taxes I am in "accountant" mode. When I am practicing, I am in "fighter" mode. I don't bring my "fighter" self or my "accountant" self to my sessions. I bring my sensual side. I have wonderful clients who make me feel attractive and beautiful, and I feed off that energy. I wear different hats in my life and love my life this way. All in all your initial post didn't really state what YOU think about YOUR OWN life, but rather how much you don't understand how others live differently. If you can't, you can't, its your life and your the only one who lives with the consequences. No need to put the rest of us down. Lots of SP's have relationships outside this line of work, and they make it work for them their own way. As per not being able to turn on or off your emotions and feelings, that is your opinion. Other women such as myself believe in the strength of my brain over my body, and I know that if I go in with a certain "attitude" I will get turned on. Is it a sin to enjoy my clients? I am not acting, I am putting myself in a certain "mindset". I'm not being "fake". I don't consider it "cheating" either. It is always me. It would be quite awkward if I brought "Julianna" home with me while I was cleaning my house, I would turn into some sort of sexy maid ;). I don't do that, I wear my sweats and get down and dirty. When I finish that I have a bath with bubbles and put on some sexy lingerie and perfume and make-up, and then I feel "sexy" and revved up. I love it when I open the door to my client, and they look at me like a Christmas gift ready to be un-wrapped. Selfish? Crazy? Weird? Yes...but it turns me on so sue me... I could go on but I think I covered most points I wanted to cover. Yes this is MY opinion, and I'm giving it. I love my job, my life, my family. All of it comes together is such a beautiful harmonious way. It works for ME. I don't judge others who live differently then I do, nor do I try to "understand" it. I am happy, and wish everyone the same thing. Lots of people wouldn't "understand" how we could be SP's in the first place, because they are close-minded. People like that don't need to know. I wouldn't bring my "SP" self when I go meet clients for my other "regular" business, especially since it is a male-dominated business, and actually need to "downplay" my sexuality, or else they wouldn't take me seriously. I am a professional and give my ALL to everything that I do in my life. I want to be the best and strive for this. Knowing I did a good job, in any part of my life, makes me happy. I definitely do not let my "emotions" rule my life. I am a rational thinker, and always use common sense. I truly believe if you strive to find happiness in anything you do, you will find it, and will in turn be a happier person.I feel so blessed in my life I really couldn't ask for anymore. I get to have my cake and eat it to!!!

Congratulations Porthos! Well deserved!

I find opening up all the blinds/curtains and windows inspires me to do the spring cleaning. The sunshine just brings up all the unnoticeable stains on the wall, or the dusty mouldings. I am so glad for the wonderful weather, I spent 6 hours straight spring cleaning yesterday, and the feeling I felt this morning getting out of bed was priceless. Cleaning supplies: $20 Cleaning: 6 hours Feeling the next day? PRICELESS LOL

I must say I LOVE stockings. Bravo to all you girls who can wear stay-ups, but I have some pretty thick thighs, and they look best in stockings being held-up with a garter-belt, and some sexy heels of course. Now if you can find your way up to my crotchless panties...;)

My remedy for a good nights sleep is avoiding caffeine after 3pm, and getting in a good workout. Sweet Dreams!

Big Hug to everyone!

Happy Birthday beautiful.